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Mom's funeral was this morning :( I attended my mother's funeral this morning. I have to say that I have never been this sad in my entire life. I made it through and am home now. It was the most beautiful funeral I've ever attended. My two brothers and a cousin spoke about her with the most beautiful words I have ever heard. The flowers were absolutely stunning! She had more visitors than we could ever have expected. She was well-liked by her community. Also, I had so many friends that came, too. It does a heart good!:) I'm wondering what I will do tomorrow. Since 1997, I've been taking care of parents. What will tomorrow bring????? I don't know what to do with myself when I get out of bed in the morning. No phone calls from a caregiver, no ordering medicine, no making phone calls to Hospice, no more lifting.......and so on. I can't just sit around the house or clean the house everyday. I don't want to end up being a Stepford Wife. Maybe I should give myself a little time to just sit back and rest, but I've forgotten how to do that. Again, thanks to everyone who kept me and my family in their thoughts and prayers. |
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I'm glad you had your family and such a wonderful turnout for your mom. I know what you mean about taking care of parents -- it becomes your identity and suddenly it's over. I cleaned house -- my house was cleaner than it ever was before and hasn't ever been since. Why not go on a trip? Pack yourself and Betty Boop into your car and go visiting? When you get to Southern California, come and see me! |
I know it is hard :( I second the vacation idea! It's the cure for the blues... |
My heart goes out to you. ((((hugs)))) I think a little time to recoup is a good idea. You never know what window God may be getting ready to open for you. |
It sounds like you had a beautiful celebration of her life. She sounds like she was a wonderful woman, and how lucky you were to have had her in your life. My thoughts and prayers are with you. |
Time is theb est healer. Again, so sorry for your loss. Just make sure you take care of yourself. |
I am so sorry it is a rough road but you can make it and you have lots of friends here to help anytime you need us :hug: |
I am glad your mother had a beautiful funeral a fitting tribute to the most special woman in your life. Take time to relax and nurture yourself. If you need someone to care for there is always another Yorkie. All my best to you during this time of loss and rebuilding. |
:hug:Do something for yourself. You have our thoughts and prayers for healing. |
I know how you feel. For the longest time, you will find yourself still starting to reach out your hand to rub her hair again and you catch yourself......reality returns. It is so hard when it really is finally over and tomorrow looms without Mom. But, with the grace God gives us, somehow we do go on and quietly, so that you don't notice, life has this way of keeping us going moment by moment until we come through the worst of these days of loss. Just go ahead and grieve and rest, and you will know when it is time again to take a step onward. You and your family are in my prayers. |
I understand your deep sadness when it involves the loss of someone as sacred as a mom and when part of your identity involves caring for someone so dear. You will always be her daughter, someone who was loved deeply by her. I lost my mom 35 years ago and we were extremely close. After all of these years I still dream about and think of her a great deal, so I know how powerful a mother's love remains. It will sustain you, even in this time of grief. I know you are lost, and I certainly understand why. Please allow us to help you with the pain you feel. You are not alone. |
My deepest sympathies are with you and your family. Take some time for yourself. Healing takes time and only you can decide whats the next step for you. |
Oh I got chills and tears reading your post. Funerals are very hard, going from happy memories of the past to the pain and sadness of a beloved's departure. Your Mother sounds like she was a wonderful person and will be missed by many. I've kept you and your family in my prayers since I read your first post about your Dear Mother, and I will continue to pray for you as you begin to heal from your loss. Try to think of things you've wanted to do but couldn't, due to your commitments. Spend a day relaxing (or two). Breathe deeply, and smile, knowing now that you have a very Special Angel watching over you... and that she will always be with you... Hugs and love to you, Kathy |
First I would like to say how very sorry I am at the passing of your mother....my deepest sympathies. You have a special gift that will always make you smile when you think of your mom..... memories. You also have the satisfaction of knowing how much you gave of yourself, taking such good care of her. I would also suggest that you do something special for yourself, even if it as simple as getting a manicure or reading that book. Do take care of yourself...sending hugs. |
i am glad it was a beautiful rememberance of her life. Who knows what is in store for you in the next stage of your life but take some time for you now! all i can say for certain is that there will be a piggie in your near future :D love to you and your family at this difficult time! |
My heart just breaks for you. It seems it's after the funeral when it really sets in that they are gone. When I lost my Mom, all I did was sleep and eat. It's been 4 years and I still miss her so much. Life is never the same. I'm praying for God to comfort you and I'm thinking of you! *HUG* |
This is such a difficult thing to go thru. You have to take care of yourself. My Dad came to live with us while in hospice care. After he passed away the house seemed so quiet and empty. I missed taking care of him. Take time to grieve, to heal. Remember all of your cherished memories of your Mom. Sending prayers and hugs to you. |
My deepest Sympathies to you and your family. It is always very hard to lose someone you love, and even harder when you were their caregiver for so long... My mother and I were both caregivers to both of my grandparents the same as you...Take one day at a time it is hard to adjust, but in time the pain you feel today will slowly go away... My grandparents have now been gone 11 and 13 years and I still find myself picking up the phone to talk to them and realize they are not with us. Just know that each day it gets a little bit better:) Always Remember the love and good times that you shared with them, and they will live on in you!! |
Im glad to hear it was a beautiful ceremony. It gives some sort of closure. Now just take care of you. :) |
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Your mother sounds like she was a wonderful and very beloved woman. We all knew that, because you are her daughter. You will be very lost for a long time, but you will evaluate the priorities in your life and eventually decide which things appeal to you to fill your time. That little one will keep you pretty busy anyway. Grief is a long process. Be kind to yourself. I think it helps that the weather is nice so you can get out for walks with your little one. I think it's even harder in the winter. |
Lila, the way you described your Mom's funeral is very touching. I'm really glad for you that her funeral and eulogies were so meaningful. I'm so sorry for all that you're going through, and all that you've been through. Like you said - give yourself time to rest, and to grieve. |
Very sorry for you loss, find comfort in all of the special moments you shared... |
Lila, I am so happy that the funeral was a nice tribute to your mom. Being surrounded by friends and family at such a time does lift you up. Nothing in life prepares us for grieving, and I hope you will seek a grief counseling group, or counseling from a pastor if you have one (hospice can refer you to one). They can help you thru this very hard time, as you get ready to discover your own life. Start a journal where you can "talk" to your mom, and know that she will hear you. Hugs to you. |
You are in my thoughts and prayers:) I lost my mom 30 yrs ago and still miss her dearly. Time will help heal the pain. |
I'm so sorry for the loss of your Mom:love: Please accept my condolences. I liked the suggestion of a little trip, that might help to re-center yourself, and hopefully help your heart to heal some. Maybe after a little while, you could volunteer somewhere, working with children, animals, or the elderly. Whatever you decide to do, know that your Mom is always with you in your heart! |
Just seeing this thread. Lila, I am sorry...I did not realize your mom had passed. Sounds like her funeral was touching....I am glad you have good memories of it. I believe that funerals are for the living... a way for us to begin the grieving process. Take care of yourself. Listen to the quiet voices ... you will be led to something that will fulfill you. *hugs* |
I am so sorry for your loss. This is more than the loss of a parent, this may seem like a loss of identity. I'm sure this will be temporary though. You sound like such a strong person and I'm sure after a time of rest and grieving you will find all kinds of things to fill your time. My thoughts and prayers are with you. |
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