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03-17-2010, 03:49 AM | #1 |
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| sister giving up her pup My sister is my best friend and we are very close. She has an adorable and loving 11 month old King Charles Cavalier puppy that she and her kids love. She is divorced and her kids just lost their elderly Greyhound dog who lives with the dad to cancer. My sister and her boyfriend have decided to buy a house together. He told her he won't live with a dog. She was devastated, but wants this guy so much that she is now giving away her dog for him. The kids are beyond upset and I want nothing to do with her. I am not the judgmental type and I know this is her decision, but I can't seem to forgive either her or her boyfriend. We used to all be very close. Any suggestions? Am I crazy? I would never put a guy before my beloved Yorkies.
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03-17-2010, 04:07 AM | #2 |
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| I love animals so much, so it's impossible to think I would be that attracted to anyone who didn't share my passion! It's a trait I would look for in a person. Also, giving away dogs when you have children is making a choice to put your boyfriend over your children, IMO. That is just so sad to me! I would be asking myself if my boyfriend loved me and my kids, how in the world would he be asking me to hurt my children like that? I wouldn't put up with an ultimatum like that!
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03-17-2010, 05:21 AM | #3 |
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| This is only her boyfriend. If he starts dictating at this stage of the game I feel for her down the road. Her children are attached to their pet. Who is he to say it has to go! I would show him the door with no problem. My kids would always come first as well as my pet. Sorry you have to witness this Donna. It must hurt big time. Your sister needs a wake-up call before she walks into a big time mess regarding her future and that of her children. He sounds like a selfish person. |
03-17-2010, 05:40 AM | #5 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member | Yes, I hope she realizes that this is a big red flag. Seems to me, if he really cared about her and the children, he would see and know who important the dog is to them!
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03-17-2010, 06:21 AM | #6 |
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| So are you going to take the dog? My advice, if it is possible, that you "foster" the dog.... because eventually she will get sick of giving up things for him and will dump him.
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03-17-2010, 07:04 AM | #7 |
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| Agree with everyone above! I would never give away my pup for a man, esp. if it was harming my children.
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03-17-2010, 07:16 AM | #8 |
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| I hope he doesn't want the kids to go next.
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03-17-2010, 08:29 AM | #9 |
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| Definitely a RED flag! He's already trying to control her. What is she going to do when they have the financial commitment together and something goes wrong...she really needs to think this out before taking this step. Good luck. I totally understand that you are not wanting to have anything to do with her, but she really needs you now.
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03-17-2010, 09:33 AM | #10 |
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| I agree with all the others here....big RED flag. A guy that doesn't have room in his heart and life for a dog, likely is very self centered and controlling, and won't give much of his heart to your sis or the kids. If she gives up the dog, how much else will she have to give up in years to come? Why on earth would she invest in a house with this person?
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03-17-2010, 01:05 PM | #11 | |
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03-17-2010, 01:33 PM | #12 | |
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03-17-2010, 01:39 PM | #13 |
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| I'm so sorry for these children
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03-17-2010, 02:07 PM | #14 |
Missing Yoshi Everyday! Donating Member | what in the world is your sister thinking...the keyword here is BOYFRIEND....not to be mean or anything...but she was married and got a divorce.....so that means there is any guarantee that any relationship will last forever especially if he is just a BOYFRIEND....buying a house is a bigger commitment than getting married...she needs a wake up call here...if he is forcing her to get rid of family member now...then he is capable of other things....this would so be a breaking point for me! before i get serious in any relationship i tell them...i come with baggage (all my yorkies) and if they can't except it and love them as much as i do...then it is best we stay friends...no buts about it...i mean i understand compromising here and there...but not when it comes to family!!!!
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03-17-2010, 02:37 PM | #15 |
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| I will never let my yorkies go for a woman . |
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