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cheryl19 · 08-03-2009, 03:03 AM

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Originally Posted by PANAMA69

Just be careful with her, make it all business and if she come talking about someone etc, just change the subject and/or walk away, or even better, tell her that you don't feel comfortable talking about that

sandyapk · 08-03-2009, 06:08 AM

OMG I love that!

I am gonna use that. Talk about me, good that means your leaving other people alone!

Life changing attitude! I love it!!

celstu1 · 08-03-2009, 06:09 AM

I work with this guy who is a total JERK. I mean a real sour, dumb person. He is pathetic too... no ambition in life, 43 lives at home with mom still, his mom paid off his vehicle and he has 2 associates degrees which he says equals a BA degree (uuumm NOT!) he has worked here for like 25 years or something and you can tell that this place is his social life, he would be too afraid to leave here and he puts up with so much crap from our boss because he is afraid to get laid off or fired. He has a problem with me because Ive only been here 5 years, I tell him to cut the crap when he gets started on whatever small stupid thing he goes on and I call him out on his attitude. I had no time for his crap. I sit beside him and I can't stand him! Makes for a LONG day.

One day I called my mom to vent to her because he was soo bad that day and I realized that his name is the same name as my Dad (my moms EX husband) and the same as my EX fiance!!! How ironic!!!! LOL

Hang in there!!! I don't know how you are handling it or planning to handle it, but I am looking for a new job. I have other issues with this place and it's a long commute from my house, so a new job is definately the way for me to go but maybe not for you. How are you handling it?

veguroev · 08-03-2009, 08:02 PM

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Originally Posted by celstu1

I work with this guy who is a total JERK. I mean a real sour, dumb person. He is pathetic too... no ambition in life, 43 lives at home with mom still, his mom paid off his vehicle and he has 2 associates degrees which he says equals a BA degree (uuumm NOT!) he has worked here for like 25 years or something and you can tell that this place is his social life, he would be too afraid to leave here and he puts up with so much crap from our boss because he is afraid to get laid off or fired. He has a problem with me because Ive only been here 5 years, I tell him to cut the crap when he gets started on whatever small stupid thing he goes on and I call him out on his attitude. I had no time for his crap. I sit beside him and I can't stand him! Makes for a LONG day.

One day I called my mom to vent to her because he was soo bad that day and I realized that his name is the same name as my Dad (my moms EX husband) and the same as my EX fiance!!! How ironic!!!! LOL

Hang in there!!! I don't know how you are handling it or planning to handle it, but I am looking for a new job. I have other issues with this place and it's a long commute from my house, so a new job is definately the way for me to go but maybe not for you. How are you handling it?

It's hard for me to be nice to her after all that crap she gave me, but I'm handling it. She is the one looking for a new job 'cause this one is far from her house. I just live a round the corner from work.
I'm showing her that her attitude and behavior aren't going to bring me down. Her bitterness is not contagious.
It is ironic that your co worker and your ex and you dad have the same name!! is that a sign?

veguroev · 08-03-2009, 08:04 PM

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Originally Posted by coolbar

A few years ago, I was manager of a dept in our local authority, a young lad came up to me one day and said so and so is saying this and that about you, obviously trying to stir up some trouble.

I replied to him, " that's great"
He asked why
I replied " well if he is talking about me he is leaving other people alone"

I took great pleasure in carrying on normally, knowing that my comment would have got up the skin of the offender.

I love your replied!! that was awesome!!!

kjcmsw · 08-04-2009, 07:30 AM

As a counselor with many clients that struggle with the concept of "forgive and forget" I have found having them rephrase that to "remember and reconcile" makes it easier to examine why that person/situation bothers them so. We remember that someone has "burned" us to prevent it from happening again -- survival/defense system at work. Of course there's more to all that thought change process, but rephrasing is a start.

08-03-2009, 06:09 AM	#18
celstu1 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Hampshire Posts: 10,534	I work with this guy who is a total JERK. I mean a real sour, dumb person. He is pathetic too... no ambition in life, 43 lives at home with mom still, his mom paid off his vehicle and he has 2 associates degrees which he says equals a BA degree (uuumm NOT!) he has worked here for like 25 years or something and you can tell that this place is his social life, he would be too afraid to leave here and he puts up with so much crap from our boss because he is afraid to get laid off or fired. He has a problem with me because Ive only been here 5 years, I tell him to cut the crap when he gets started on whatever small stupid thing he goes on and I call him out on his attitude. I had no time for his crap. I sit beside him and I can't stand him! Makes for a LONG day. One day I called my mom to vent to her because he was soo bad that day and I realized that his name is the same name as my Dad (my moms EX husband) and the same as my EX fiance!!! How ironic!!!! LOL Hang in there!!! I don't know how you are handling it or planning to handle it, but I am looking for a new job. I have other issues with this place and it's a long commute from my house, so a new job is definately the way for me to go but maybe not for you. How are you handling it? __________________ “Petting, scratching, and cuddling a dog could be as soothing to the mind and heart as deep meditation and almost as good for the soul as prayer.” ― Dean Koontz

08-03-2009, 06:08 AM	#17
sandyapk Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: at home Posts: 515	OMG I love that! I am gonna use that. Talk about me, good that means your leaving other people alone! Life changing attitude! I love it!!

08-04-2009, 07:30 AM	#21
kjcmsw YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Washington Posts: 837	As a counselor with many clients that struggle with the concept of "forgive and forget" I have found having them rephrase that to "remember and reconcile" makes it easier to examine why that person/situation bothers them so. We remember that someone has "burned" us to prevent it from happening again -- survival/defense system at work. Of course there's more to all that thought change process, but rephrasing is a start.