|
Welcome to the YorkieTalk.com Forums Community - the community for Yorkshire Terriers. You are currently viewing our boards as a guest which gives you limited access to view most discussions and access our other features. By joining our free community you will have access to post topics, communicate privately with other members (PM), respond to polls, upload content and access many other special features. You will be able to chat with over 35,000 YorkieTalk members, read over 2,000,000 posted discussions, and view more than 15,000 Yorkie photos in the YorkieTalk Photo Gallery after you register. We would love to have you as a member! Registration is fast, simple and absolutely free so please, join our community today! If you have any problems with the registration process or your account login, please click here to contact us. |
|
| LinkBack | Thread Tools |
04-02-2009, 07:44 AM | #1 |
No Longer A Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: NEW YORK
Posts: 16,218
| I have a heavy heart today Do we really know who our true friends are? My youngest grandson is an awsome athelte as well as a high honor student. He has many friends, some of his parent's friends were my kids friends. Small town, everyone knows each other. He made varsity baseball last week, first freshman to do so in years and now parents are calling the school in protest because their's did not or afraid that their's will sit on the bench I guess. Instead of being happy for a young man who is doing so well they would rather cause trouble. Our family is well known in town and this really hurts me and my daughter, the mom. We are all hoping he get's a scholarship to an ivy league school. He also made the varsity football team last year. One of three freshman ever, over the school's history. We carried the #1 state record for six years for small schools. Lost it last year in the playoffs. Point is, why do people have to be so selfish and jealous. It's one of their own here, I would think they would be happy and as proud as we are. He has worked so hard for this and it's his wish to be able to play college ball. I am sure he feels really hurt and now is under more stress because of it. It's just upsetting and I'm really angered over it! Needed to let it out. |
Welcome Guest! | |
04-02-2009, 08:00 AM | #2 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Hampshire
Posts: 10,534
| Carol, I am so sad for you and your grandson. I see this happen ALL THE TIME. I grew up in a small town surrounded by small towns I hear this all too often, how it seems noone lets kids make the team or not. Its like they all have to make it or none of them do. It just unfair, people are not created equally, some work harder than others, some are naturally blessed with more talent in certain areas than others... whatever the case, life is full of disappointments. Teaching kids that at a HS level will help them adjust to LIFE better as they grow up. You won't always make the team, get the job, get the girl/boy... each thing you do in life you need to earn it. You grandson earned this and I pray that the school sees that and lets him stay on the team. To those parents who kids did not make the team this year, they just need to practice more OR look for their area that they are strong in. Everyone has one!
__________________ “Petting, scratching, and cuddling a dog could be as soothing to the mind and heart as deep meditation and almost as good for the soul as prayer.” ― Dean Koontz |
04-02-2009, 08:05 AM | #3 |
No Longer A Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: NEW YORK
Posts: 16,218
| There has already been a meeting with the athetic director and the school principal. He is considered an asset to the team and will remain there. It's just the thought that this could happen has caused stessed. |
04-02-2009, 08:11 AM | #4 |
~I ♥ My Chloe Bella~ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Mississippi
Posts: 1,531
| I'm sorry to hear about this situation! I wish I had some helpful advice, but I don't know personally what you are going through. I hope that everything will work out, and I hope that he will not only get to play without all of the drama the town is causing, but receive the scholarship that you guys are hoping for. I will keep you guys in my prayers, and hope that everything calms down! |
04-02-2009, 08:12 AM | #5 |
YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Long Island, NY USA
Posts: 3,498
| Bless your grandson. i wish him well. I have one word for you JEALOUSY!! It is the root of all of this. They wish your grandson was their kid. Believe me I know. We are a soccer family. Although my son was not the greatest player he was pretty good. My husband was is coach since he was 5 yearsd old. He made the varsity team in high school only to sit the bench the entire season. He played a total of 16 minutes all season. After his senior year he went on the try out for the national championship team in college. Guess what? He made it and played there for a year. Obviously he wasn't that bad, ya know. They made it to the final game again in the nationals that year too but unfortunatly lost that game. He now plays in another college and loves it. People can be so jealous. Tell your grandson to be proud of his accomplishments and not to worry about all the backround chatter. It is only distracting him from his dream. To look ahead and never look back. He will be a great college player. Any college would be happy to have him play on their team. Good luck to him. These people mean nothing in his life. Ignore them and just keep doing his thing. I know it's very frustrating when people kind of take the great feeling out of you. Don't allow them to do it to you. You keep being proud. He knows who's opinion means something in his life. Everyone was right there to say, behind our backs, that my son was not such a great player and should not have made the team. After he made the National Champions team on his own merrit no one had anything to say. That was our sweet little private revenge. Ignore them they are ignorant.
__________________ Coco, Pebbles, Trixie, and Wally LOVE MY BABIES!! |
04-02-2009, 08:17 AM | #6 |
Donating YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: NY
Posts: 1,752
| Good for him and let him know from this mom: Never let others take away your accomplishments. You've worked hard and earned them. The qualities that make you a special young man will also make you an extremely valued and strong adult. Know that you are making so many people proud! Shame on those other parents and pity their children and the example being set by their small minded parents. |
04-02-2009, 08:19 AM | #7 |
YT Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: TX, USA
Posts: 314
| I am so sorry your family is having to deal with people like this during what should be a joyous time. The same thing happened to my nephew when he was a Freshman... Please tell him to hold his head up high...he has done nothing wrong. If his "friends" and other parents can't be happy for him and proud to have such a successful player on the team than that is not his problem. If things continue to get worse, I would have a meeting with the school... The green eyed monster is an ugly beast. ETA: I should have read all the posts...1st one had me fuming so I had to respond ASAP.
__________________ ~Tonya~Proud mama to Lulu Belle ; Foxy Roxy ; Mazey Last edited by tsurc; 04-02-2009 at 08:20 AM. |
04-02-2009, 08:53 AM | #8 |
Gina, (Lexi's Mommy) Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: LONG ISLAND,NY
Posts: 10,455
| carol, im so sorry this is happening.. i feel terrible.. im sending you hugs today.. i hope it all works out... people can be so rude
__________________ Gina & Lexi CLICK HERE for our Photo Album ... |
04-02-2009, 08:55 AM | #9 |
Luv my Angel, too! Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: USA
Posts: 9,333
| Carol - we'll certainly be cheering for your grandson and know that he will do great things!!!! There are always small, petty people everywhere. And, regardless of ability, those who feel he should "wait his turn" or "pay his dues". Hopefully the AD and coach will stand up for his talent and not be swayed by ridiculous people who should want what is best for the team/school.
__________________ Sissy & Angel |
04-02-2009, 09:00 AM | #10 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Williamsburg,virginia,york
Posts: 98
| Been there done that got the t-shirt three times, and good for your grandson tell him what I told all three of my kids. Play the best that you can and when everyone see's nothing else will be said. Same people that did this with my kids .After awhile, if one of my kids were hurt and had to set out a game they would go up to the coaches and ask why aren't they playing and shouldn't they be playing. Sometimes parents also try and live the sport through there kids. Good luck to your grandson this season you have a lot to be proud of.
__________________ Mike and Pocket |
04-02-2009, 09:07 AM | #11 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker | Carol, Rise above all the petty people out there. Stand by your family,and let the rest go. They don't deserve the attention. You grandson knows that his family loves and supports him,that all he needs. Good for you,and We all wish him the best!!!
__________________ N.Y. 'S FINESTPONGO,AIDEN,HARLEY, KI-KI ,GARFIELD ,MINI-ME |
04-02-2009, 09:12 AM | #12 |
I ♥ Joey & Ralphie! Donating Member | People would be a lot happier if they could be happy for others, and not just themselves. Most people never learn this, and they are not only, not happy for others, but unhappy when something good happens even to friends. I'm really serious; a large part of our society is secretly happy when bad things happen to others including their friends. This is from professional studies, not experience, because I would not have believed it otherwise. I've found that it's not how many friends you have but the character of those friends that's important, I wouldn't want a friend who was jealous at all, so in a way, it's nice to find out some of these qualities, and weed out people. Many people "seem" nice, but the events in life often show their true side. The bad news is that your grandson will also have many pretend friends who only like him because he's a good athlete, and they want to live in his glory. Learning real friends from pretend friends is one of the most difficult things we do in life. By the way, congratulations for your grandson, I hope he can take this in stride, and not feel too much pressure to perform, just because the coach had confidence and picked him at a younger age.
__________________ NancyJoey Proud members of the CrAzYcLuB and YAP! ** Just Say No to Puppymills – Join YAP! Yorkshire Terrier Club of America – Breeder Referrals |
04-02-2009, 09:19 AM | #13 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Connecticut
Posts: 759
| Your grandson has the talent to be on the varsity team so that is where he should be. It is wrong that some people think just because you're a senior and you have the right to be on varsity. The most talented should hold those spots and it shouldn't matter if you're a freshman, sophmore, junior or senior. The same thing happened to my daughter when she made the gymnastic varsity team as a freshman. There were a lot of angry people. They changed their minds when she became All Around State Champion as a freshman. Congratulations, your daughter and yourself must be very proud of him.
__________________ Mom to Piper & Chipper |
04-02-2009, 09:24 AM | #14 |
No Longer A Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: NEW YORK
Posts: 16,218
| Thank you all so much for your kind words. The sad thing also is my late husband, his grandfather, coached many of these parent's(dad's) in football in year's past. This town even paid tribute to him after his death by naming the school football/baseball field in his name. It carries the exact name as my grandson. How sad it that. I am glad he is not here to witness this nonsence. However, he would be busting at the seams with pride, as I am. Thank you for understanding. I had a feeling some of you went threw the samething at some point. I guess envy is everywhere. Sad. |
04-02-2009, 09:58 AM | #15 |
"Owned" by Miss Tricksie Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Riverview, FL
Posts: 3,737
| You have a lot to be proud of and a lot to be thankful for. It is difficult, but try to ignore ignorance. They are probably very selfish and unhappy people.
__________________ Donna, Tricksie and Peanut |
Bookmarks |
|
|
| |
|
|
SHOP NOW: Amazon :: eBay :: Buy.com :: Newegg :: PetStore :: Petco :: PetSmart