People would be a lot happier if they could be happy for others, and not just themselves. Most people never learn this, and they are not only, not happy for others, but unhappy when something good happens even to friends. I'm really serious; a large part of our society is secretly happy when bad things happen to others including their friends. This is from professional studies, not experience, because I would not have believed it otherwise.
I've found that it's not how many friends you have but the character of those friends that's important, I wouldn't want a friend who was jealous at all, so in a way, it's nice to find out some of these qualities, and weed out people. Many people "seem" nice, but the events in life often show their true side. The bad news is that your grandson will also have many pretend friends who only like him because he's a good athlete, and they want to live in his glory. Learning real friends from pretend friends is one of the most difficult things we do in life. By the way, congratulations for your grandson, I hope he can take this in stride, and not feel too much pressure to perform, just because the coach had confidence and picked him at a younger age. |