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fasteddie · 08-24-2005, 05:13 PM

Just let things happen. Don't worry about what others think or if they stare, as long as you are happy and content, that's all that matters. They don't live your life and pay your bills, so they sure shouldn't put a cramp on your happiness.

Passionfruition · 08-24-2005, 05:19 PM

I definitely think it's OK girl! But make sure you consider everything, like Nobella said, you also have to consider the long-term. But one of my best friends from high school is 23 and married a 35 year old last year and they LOVE their life together!

And it could be worse! My grandmother was 19 when she married my grandfather and he was 44! (She's in her late 60s now, and he died of old age back in the early 90s.)

chewysmom · 08-24-2005, 08:57 PM

Brooke:
Just have fun with it. See how you get along. When I first moved to NYC, I was really young (23) and had always dated guys my age or younger. When I was 25 I met this guy through friends in finance and he was 42 and recently divorced. he was really cute and I though why not? I went out with him for about 6 months and it was really great. He really spoiled me and surprisingly we had a lot in common and since my dad was a commodities trader, I knew a lot about his business. Long story short, I knew I wasn't going to marry him and he did not want anything serious but I just went with it until it ended and boy was it fun while it lasted!

bkessler · 08-25-2005, 04:37 PM

Things are going so well with me and this new guy.. We hung out last night and again today... I think I am starting to really like him but we're taking things so slowly so its great!! Thank you for all of your thoughts and support.. You all are truely great friends

SoCalyorkiLvr · 08-25-2005, 04:47 PM

I think you are doing the right thing...taking it slow and just being friends first. The age difference is not a real problem in my opinion. Does he have baggage...kids, ex wife?

bkessler · 08-25-2005, 07:30 PM

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Originally Posted by SoCalyorkiLvr

I think you are doing the right thing...taking it slow and just being friends first. The age difference is not a real problem in my opinion. Does he have baggage...kids, ex wife?

Yea he said he likes that we're becoming friends... Nope, no ex wife, no kids, just a niece and a nephew that he LOVES like crazy

wendybee · 08-25-2005, 11:35 PM

age is just a number and if you like him and he likes you thats all that matters id say go for it and see how it goes, it doesnt matter how long you have been on your own be it 3 weeks or 3 years if its ment to be its ment to be,

wendy and rosie

iheartyorkies · 08-26-2005, 12:45 AM

Brooke, sounds like you're taking it slow. You're a smart girl. I also dated an older guy when I was about your age. They do know how to spoil a girl don't they?? Just to play devil's advocate for a moment...Things to ask yourself:
Yes, it's good that he's not got an ex, kids, etc., but why has he never married? That's an important thing to know and can tell you a lot about him. Is he commitment phobic? Is he being honest with you?
Do you know any of his friends or family? This older guy I dated lied to me about his past relationships. I knew he'd been married before. No children. But, come to find out, he had not one, not two, but THREE ex's!! We didn't last long after that. If there's anything I will not tolerate, it's someone lying to me!
Now, I'm not saying these things apply to him at all. Like I said, devil's advocate. Some food for thought. It is really soon after Justin. Go slow. Let us know how things progress.

red98vett · 08-26-2005, 05:01 AM

hmmmm...good question - MY husband is 11 years older than me - I never really felt the age difference till this last year - and most people have baggage after their 30's...it's just part of life.....but I wish you luck and if you're happy - GO FOR IT !

Brutus'mama · 08-26-2005, 05:09 AM

My husband is 8 years older than me and I think it's great. When I met him he was soooo much more mature and stable than the losers I was going out with. It had a few drawbacks since he coached high school hockey I wasn't that much older than the kids and they always teased him that he was robbing the cradle! But I say don't worry about age. If it feels right go for it!!

ssguzzy828 · 08-26-2005, 06:40 AM

I am 36 and my husband is going to be 44 this year. I dont think age matters if you share the same interests and are comfortable with each other as well as enjoy each other. just take it slow and your heart will let you know the rest. Have fun with it and see where it goes!!

08-24-2005, 05:13 PM	#16
fasteddie *YT 6000 Club Member* Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Seattle, WA Posts: 6,238	Just let things happen. Don't worry about what others think or if they stare, as long as you are happy and content, that's all that matters. They don't live your life and pay your bills, so they sure shouldn't put a cramp on your happiness. __________________ YODA & WINKY R ::: RIP Winky ::: RIP Yoda!

08-24-2005, 05:19 PM	#17
Passionfruition Proud of my Sully! Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: beautiful CHARLESTON, S.C. Posts: 5,454	I definitely think it's OK girl! But make sure you consider everything, like Nobella said, you also have to consider the long-term. But one of my best friends from high school is 23 and married a 35 year old last year and they LOVE their life together! And it could be worse! My grandmother was 19 when she married my grandfather and he was 44! (She's in her late 60s now, and he died of old age back in the early 90s.) __________________ - - - - - - - - - - - - I love my Sully (the Wonderdog!)

08-25-2005, 04:37 PM	#19
bkessler Mommy's Little Angel Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Northern New Jersey Posts: 1,496	Things are going so well with me and this new guy.. We hung out last night and again today... I think I am starting to really like him but we're taking things so slowly so its great!! Thank you for all of your thoughts and support.. You all are truely great friends __________________ Brooke & Lily Mae (Maltipoo) Mocha (12/23/04-6/25/05)

08-26-2005, 12:45 AM	#23
iheartyorkies Boppin' Bo! Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Indiana Posts: 2,719	Brooke, sounds like you're taking it slow. You're a smart girl. I also dated an older guy when I was about your age. They do know how to spoil a girl don't they?? Just to play devil's advocate for a moment...Things to ask yourself: Yes, it's good that he's not got an ex, kids, etc., but why has he never married? That's an important thing to know and can tell you a lot about him. Is he commitment phobic? Is he being honest with you? Do you know any of his friends or family? This older guy I dated lied to me about his past relationships. I knew he'd been married before. No children. But, come to find out, he had not one, not two, but THREE ex's!! We didn't last long after that. If there's anything I will not tolerate, it's someone lying to me! Now, I'm not saying these things apply to him at all. Like I said, devil's advocate. Some food for thought. It is really soon after Justin. Go slow. Let us know how things progress. __________________ ~~~ i yorkies ~~~ Cynthia Turbo and Suri!

08-26-2005, 05:01 AM	#24
red98vett Yorkie Kisses are the Best! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Houston TX Posts: 33,590 Blog Entries: 1	hmmmm...good question - MY husband is 11 years older than me - I never really felt the age difference till this last year - and most people have baggage after their 30's...it's just part of life.....but I wish you luck and if you're happy - GO FOR IT ! __________________ Villette, Chanel & Cheri www.DesignsByVillette.net Custom Address Labels and Note Cards using YOUR Photos! Just Click HERE!

08-24-2005, 08:57 PM	#18
chewysmom My Precious Pup Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: New York City Posts: 2,092	Brooke: Just have fun with it. See how you get along. When I first moved to NYC, I was really young (23) and had always dated guys my age or younger. When I was 25 I met this guy through friends in finance and he was 42 and recently divorced. he was really cute and I though why not? I went out with him for about 6 months and it was really great. He really spoiled me and surprisingly we had a lot in common and since my dad was a commodities trader, I knew a lot about his business. Long story short, I knew I wasn't going to marry him and he did not want anything serious but I just went with it until it ended and boy was it fun while it lasted!

08-25-2005, 04:47 PM	#20
SoCalyorkiLvr BANNED! Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 8,246	I think you are doing the right thing...taking it slow and just being friends first. The age difference is not a real problem in my opinion. Does he have baggage...kids, ex wife?

08-25-2005, 11:35 PM	#22
wendybee BANNED! Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 966	age is just a number and if you like him and he likes you thats all that matters id say go for it and see how it goes, it doesnt matter how long you have been on your own be it 3 weeks or 3 years if its ment to be its ment to be, wendy and rosie

08-26-2005, 05:09 AM	#25
Brutus'mama YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: NJ Posts: 1,767	My husband is 8 years older than me and I think it's great. When I met him he was soooo much more mature and stable than the losers I was going out with. It had a few drawbacks since he coached high school hockey I wasn't that much older than the kids and they always teased him that he was robbing the cradle! But I say don't worry about age. If it feels right go for it!! __________________ ~Carolyn~ Brutus' Video Montage

08-26-2005, 06:40 AM	#26
ssguzzy828 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: south suburbs of illinois Posts: 734	I am 36 and my husband is going to be 44 this year. I dont think age matters if you share the same interests and are comfortable with each other as well as enjoy each other. just take it slow and your heart will let you know the rest. Have fun with it and see where it goes!!