Uh I know how you feel! The same thing is happening with me and my friend from home. It really sucks, especially after being friends for soo long. Don't worry tho, I'm sure it'll all work out. She'll soon realize that her new friends can't replace the friendship you guys had. And, you always have YT to vent to. If you wanna vent some more you can always pm me. Hope you feel better!

Thank you everybody for all the encouraging words! YT has such awesome members, and I do feel better just venting here..... :)

That really hurts when friends do things like that. Unfortunately, people change as we grow, and it's not always for the best. My best friend completely changed on me around the time I was getting married, and it got so bad I ended up having to ask her to step down as my maid of honor in my wedding :( It was one of the hardest things I've had to do, but it was the best decision I've made-so much more came out of the woodwork after I asked her to step out. It was painful, but I realized there was much more to her anger and bitterness, and it was just a matter of time before that ugly side came out to get me.

Hang in there, and surround yourself with people who care for you, and try meeting new friends who have common interests. You may just meet some interesting people!

my friend was like that too....and what kicked our "talk" into full swing was an email that I sent to her that laid it out...I told her I figured she would probably not want to talk about the email...and that she would probably get all defensive and act like my email was never sent...but that I HAD to get it off my chest and let her know that if our friendship was going to continue...it was going to be because she put forth an effort because I was tired of giving 100% to the friendship all the time and not getting so much as a random phone call asking how I was doing or to tell me to go to H%##. well....she took all day to think about my email and then SHE made the initiative to talk to me. SHE has made a full turn around and has been putting forth total effort to make sure our friendship is strong. So even if you have to send her a myspace message letting all of your feelings out...I think you should do it. and if she chooses not to respond or to avoid it all together...then that is her loss and you will have your answers. on the flip side....she may surprise you...she may have a "wake up call" and realize that she is letting her best friend get hurt and "fix" it.

either way, I think it is a "win" situation.

Ya know what? This is something like what Im going through with my best friend of FOREVER recently. She is VERY self-absorbed and is treating me horribly. Ive called her out on it, but she says we are fine, nothing is wrong. Noone knows her like I do, so I KNOW something is wrong, but I won't push the issue. yesterday it all came to a head for me, for 3 months shes done or said nothing NICE or considerate to or for me. So I decided that Id rather just stay away and let her get her head straight.

She could be jealous bc of some aspect of your life that she wishes she had. Maybe she feels that now that you are married you dont need her as much, so maybe shes put out by it.

In thinking about MY friendship I thought I have tried to talk to her, Ive yelled at her a couple times when she was being rude, Ive tried to pretend I didnt care and Ive kissed her butt for months now.
So I figure, Ive got 2 choices really at this point. 1 - try to get her to talk about whats wrong again or 2 - remove myself from the situation until she comes around on her own.

Ive decided to do #2. I almost sent her an email today saying something like "the way I see it is you have 3 choices 1 - talk to me and tell me why you have been the way you are being so we can get over it and be fine again or 2 - don't talk to me, but cut out the attitude and rudeness towards me or 3 - keep going the way you are going and you are going to put a huge rift in our friendship that you may not be able to fix when you ARE over whatever it is you are pissy about.

I would think that temporary jealousy is a strong motivator and that takes time for a person to get over.

Im sorry your friend is hurting you. You should tell her what she did wrong and how you feel about it. Find out the reason for her behavior if you can, before the hurt goes too far and deep in you.

I don't post often, but I do want to speak up about this issue.

I too have been through this problem. I got married young (last november) and I'm 23. My best friend from 2nd grade was not my maid of honor (I had my wedding in Hawai'i). She didn't come because of financial reasons.
We've always been there for each other. We were super close in high school and then came college. I went to a university near the area where I grew up and she started working full time. She also had a child while I was in school. I try to be involved and attentive in her life and somehow our relationship took a backseat while other priorities took the front. We just send emails once in awhile and it never grew into anything.
She called me one day and we started talking and such. She mentioned that I don't ever call and we started a full heart to heart discussion about our friendship. We cleared the air and everything was fine. After the talk, we both agreed that our lives have changed and we're not on the same path, however, we can still share stories about it and such. We're not in contact as often as before, but when we do meet up and talk on the phone, it's like not a day went by since our last conversation.

I also had another friend that "dropped me like it's hott" when I said that she was acting depressed and she almost had a 180 about life. One week she says she cant wait to get married and have kids and then all of a sudden, she's like, "I don't care if I get married. Who needs that baggage anyways? Kids are a PIA anyways." I was completely shocked (not to mention - I was getting married at the time).
Nonetheless, she "broke up with me" through an email. I haven't talked to her for almost a year now. It's really different for me b/c she lives near me and we used to always hang out (she was basically my other best friend).

It's amazing how difficult relationships are in general. You never know what will happen. I hope that you talk to you friend soon to clear the air b/c honestly, friends are "it" besides family. It's easy to make acquaintances, but friends - real friends - take time to make and to build the relationship. Don't ever give up on them. At the end of the day, know that in your heart that it's not your fault b/c friendships are two-way streets. Traffic's gotta be coming and going....

Alright...I think I rambled on too much. Sorry. :p

Most of us women go thru similar situations as we mature... Sometimes the person that you so call your best friend, betrays your friendship, intentionaly or unintentionaly.... As we mature, get married, have children and so forth, we distant ourselves from our friends... Life goes by so fast, that before you realized it your children have grown and friends that didn't care about your friendship don't matter anymore!! I for example, have suffered alot by my so called b/f, I've been betrayed like you wouldn't imagine... Now a days I rather not have b/f, I have lots of acquaintances, from work and gym, and I maintain our friendship away from my personal life at hm... Besides, with my 3 :aimeeyorkfurbabies, my 2 children:girl::boy:, my hubby:dog:, and YT friends :ghug:who has time for best friends...
I know every situation is different, but don't feel so down, one day she'll realize what a wonderful friend she's lost... :cry:
Now you can make new friends at YT...
Andrea