:( I am so sorry to read all this! As hard as it sounds (and I even feel dumb for saying it because I couldn't imagine what you are feeling like right now), but just try and remember to keep your head up high...YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS!!

I like the blonde, I'd try a med/ dk blonde w/ highlights!

I think you posted in the wrong thread:) thanks though you made me smile

I was right where you are 9 years ago. I had been with him 17 years & married for 14.

I was 38.

I know the emptiness and devastation you are feeling. As if the world has slipped away and your feet have no where to take hold. Nothing at all feels safe or secure any more.

I lost 30 pounds in as many days.

I couldn't sleep more than 4 hours a night.

About month three, I turned a corner. I decided I needed to start moving forward in my new and very different reality or I risked being a bitter, lonely woman.

I never looked back and could not believe the strength that became mine again.

I have been married to a wonderful man now for 6 years.

Someday you will be able to write the next chapters of what comes after today.

Keep looking forward.

I'm so so sorry. My ex liked to look at pictures on the computer also, I also found porn videos in the gun safe one time when he left it open. I was devastated. (none were of him though pics or video, just porn). I always feared that my kids would find the computer stuff.

It's hard because it made me feel so bad about myself. That I wasn't enough and he needed to turn that kind of a thing.

Big hugs. You will be okay.

I really don't think it means he doesn't love you..this is a skickness and it happens to more men than you could/would imagine..he needs some help..

yes, I did- i do not know why keeps jumping back it seems??Maybe one more bad thing, to go wrong!! The dishwasher leaked all over the floor last nite!!!! It is about 1 yr old- sure th warrenty just went out last week!! LOL
Glad I made you smile, though!!

Believe me, I have been right where you are! I thought i'd die!! But when I was DONE, I WAS DONE!!! i MISSED MY HOME, BUT NEVER MISSED THAT LOW LIFE sob i LIVED WITH FOR 8+ YEARS not 1 min. And I thought I could not live with out him! No, I could not live with him.

Once you get all through this- AND IT IS VERY HARD- you will be much, much more at peace in your life!
I didn't believe this either- but i KNOW IT KNOW!
The peace, secureity, in life you will find- will be more than you could ever imagine!
And remember- our happiness comes from somewhat at being at peace with yourself!!
The very best of wishes for you! You are going to be just fine!!!

married at 15????
 

You have married since you were 15?
Maybe you both were too young for such a long commitment?
Is he 25 also?

You are still young enough to start a whole new life and forget what this creep did to you.

Bless your heart!

i haven't been in your situation, but you are in my prayers, i hope you find the strength you need, and you know you can always come to us here at YT... hope everything works out for the best, and do what is best for You... be strong...

It was very brave and nobel of you to forgive him the first time..you are a strong person and he should have been grateful just to have you...unfortunately some don't see the "second chance" and make the necessary changes in their lives.

I pray you have a good support system around you (of course you have us;) ). My girlfriend went thru similar heartache and battled depression. We were with her all the way through it all and today, she and her kids are happier than ever! It's understandable to feel hurt, depressed & lonely during this time. Let out your feelings and with the support & time, the healing will begin.

Big hugs to you!

check your cookies... this has always worked for me.. been there done that.. even the most savy pc users always forget this part....

You've been on my mind so much and my heart just aches for you. What a terrible blow for you...I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this and I'll be praying for you. *HUG*

yea i was 15! crazy huh? at the time it didnt seem that way i was 5 months preg when we got married and he was 18 and I was so proud of the fact that we came so far..

how do you do that? so not a techie.. Obviously

Go to contro panel,internet options,under browsing click view files

I'm so sorry that this happened to you :( I will pray that you will have the strength to overcome this. You don't deserve that at all. Cheating is one thing I will never understand, can't people just be mature enough to end a relationship (or marriage) if they want someone else?

OMG that's terrible! I will keep your niece in my prayers also. I'm glad that she's getting treatment now and didn't succeed with her attempt.

Thank you so very much... dont mean to hijack the thread here,, just had to say something here

I am so sorry your family is going through this and I'm so glad she is ok ~hugs~

I am just so sorry he did this to you!!! You deserve so much better!!! I will continue to remember you in my prayers!!!!!!!

Glad to hear you are going to get some help in dealing with this. There is nothing wrong with having medication to help in a time like this. I also am VERY glad you are having "other" testing done. VERY smart woman.
I wish you peace so you can rest and enoght strenght to hold your head up high. YOU WILL SURVIVE!!!

I'm thankful that you feel that you can confide in YT members.:love-hug3 Many men are addicted to porn. It used to be that it was only through magazines but now it has become so easily accessible.:eek: Our daughter, when in HS, discovered that my husband had been watching X-rated movies on satellite.:thumbdown She went to all the TVs and put a ratings-code in. I cried for days, but I never told my dh what I knew. We're still married and will stay that way, but there is a little place in my heart that died with that knowledge.:unlove: And a part of me doesn't trust him. Always wonder what he's been up too. If men only knew the damage they create by allowing themselves to become involved with porn.:eek: Once is all it takes---just like drugs.:eek:

((((hugs))))

I'm so sorry :( I can't imagine what you are going through. Please talk to someone and take care of yourself.

I am so very sorry for your heartache. Please take care of yourself and go slow.... the decisions ou make today will affect you the rest of your life. Talk to a good attorney, you need to be sure that you are taken care of.

Sending hugs to you.... I know you are heartbroken.... but there IS a light at the end of the tunnel..... and a new life for you waiting there.

You are sill in my thoughts and prayers. I wish I could hold you and tell you it will be alright. When things get tough, please, please come on here, someone is here 24/7. Sending hugs for now.

Sheilagh

you poor dear!
 

wow. 15 IS so young to take on the responsibility of a family. JMHO!
Maybe you and your hubby can have a really serious talk?

Since you have a 10 year old, you have reason to believe he should behave is a "fatherly" matter.

And "NO!" Clinton did not legalize this behaviour"..
It's a shame he brought it to the front pages of the newspapers.

Sending hugs until you resolve this in your head and heart!

You deserve better!
Clearing the cookies on your PC will take away the immediate visual,
but in your heart you will know it was there. You need to deal with it head on.

Good Luck. My heart feels your pain.
Did you finish high school and are you able to get a job and be on your own?

Agreed :thumbup: And a lot of men will try to tell you that "all men look at it" and that its "normal". Its not normal, and its not ok ever, for anyone. Its a horrible thing that breaks up a ton of marriages every year, even if both parties "consented" to viewing it. This country/world needs to get a grip on the porn industry AND Hollywood since they are becoming one in the same anymore. Its become a very sick and perverse world.
I am so sorry that you have become the latest victim of this evil monster. I am not going to say that it was all porns fault, because we all have free will, but once it gets in someones head, its hard to get out. Its very hard to recover from that.
Last year a church near us had a big conference called "Porn and Pancakes". It was helping men overcome addictions to it over breakfast I think. IF you want to work on your marraige, your church, or if you dont attend one, find a church, and they should be able to offer a lot of help. If you dont know of any, you can pm me where you live, and I can talk to my church and have them locate a good one for you in your area.
Even if you dont want to work on your marraige, you still need to work on you. You are damaged by this, and you are going to need some counsilling too.
Hugs to you, and try to stay strong.

yea i grad on time plus went to college, I am a paralegal now plus I have decent credit so that helps in the long run