i need your help, opinions, etc....
 

Lexi my 3 yr old is in dance and last night they got fitted for there costume, for the dance recital this summer. The girls were all so excited over the costumes and Lexi was just thrilled. They started learning there dance and Lexi was doing so good. We were all so excited about her very first recital.......Well then I got to thinking? I wonder what date it's one. Because Lauryn, (my 14) leaves June 28th with her grandpa to go to there house in Maine for 2 weeks and I was hoping it wouldnt be then cause Lauryn would be so bummed.


Well I ask the girl and guess what date she said.....JUNE 20TH I almost bursted out in tears. (please don't think I'm being a baby) That is the date of the meet-up. I've already registered, made plans with Missy and her daughter, and I am soooooo excited and thrilled to go and meet everyone and just to get away (since I've never been away from the family in 15 yrs+)

Now I'm stuck.....How can I miss her first recital? I would probably just sit and cry knowing I was missing it. I've very involved in my kids life and I'm just not that type of parent...I would feel like I'm picking my dog over my child.

My hubby said I should just go that he would handle all of it and send me a video the next day at the hotel. My mom said I should go, everyone is telling me to go, but I just wouldnt feel right and would be missing out on her first little recital that she is soooo excited about. She is my last baby and i'm really having trouble dealing with that fact. lol

Please give me your opinions, advice, etc.

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Aww man! That stinks! Maybe you can leave after her recital is over? Is that an option? If not, I would so just toss a coin! haha

My daughters dad had to miss our daughters first gymanstics competition because his wife was graduating college. I took video, lots of pictures, and let her know that her daddy wishes he could be there, but he just couldn't. she was VERY understanding...

your daughter is very young...i promise that she probably won't even remember this :) so on one hand, I think you should go to the meetup...on another hand, as a mother, i know how torn you are. I will say, I was a little upset that her dad couldn't be there...i felt like he was putting his wife before his daughter. but everyone reminded me that she will have many many more competitions and he will be at the others..or else I can have him beheaded LOL

really...she is so young. 3 years old is very very young, she will have many other recitals...and she probably will be so enthralled by the atmosphere and she knows her daddy will be there...and her big sister. I think it will be perfectly fine if you dont go. and the 2 of you can watch the video together too :)

i'm just as torn as you are. i'm no help...sorry :(

Hmm, tough predicament. However you didn't know of the performance date when you made plans for the Yorkie meetup. There will be other recitals, performances, etc. while it would tear me apart as well, you didn't mean any harm and you didn't know. She will have a lot of family members there, .... yes, I know, nobody is as special as mom, but then you remind yourself, there will be other performances. Perhaps you can set up your home, so that she can perform just for you, give her lots of attention, cheer and it will be special to the both of you. Just trying to help. :thumbup:

great advice :D

It would be gone and her big sister gone???:(

I know she is so young and probably won't remember, but I sure would. I can't go out after the recital because its friday night., thurs night i guess is rehersel, and wed. is pictures, etc. We were leaving Thurs morning to drive to Kansas. I already made plans with Missy (which she knows about this) I know she was going even before I was, but still that would be letting her down too. Either way I go, I'm gonna be letting someone down.

I'm one of those people who are hard ever away from there kids. Lexi acutally goes to work with me each and everyday. I'm with her 24 / 7 and she is such a mommy's girl. I work for a heating and cooling company and she's been here since 1 month old.

I want to go to the meetup so bad, but I don't think I'd ever forgive myself.
Gosh.....i just don't know???????????

Plus...you know how men are.. They don't pay attention to the detail....I mean how would her hair look....I'd be scared to see that.

My hubby thinks I'm crazy for making such a big deal about it, but I ask him if there was a nascar raced scheduled on the same day wouldnt you been upset. and he said yeah your right.

your kids know this...and they know that you will always do your best to be there for them like that. but honestly....and my in-laws told me this....there WILL be times that you can't be at a recital, game, competition. it's nearly impossible to NEVER miss anything. and like i said earlier...she is so young. you will have SO many things to watch her do...and there will be several other "firsts" for her.

but I totally know how you feel. :(

Denise, I was thinking the same thing and even told Missy.. that maybe your DH can record the recital for you?? Also, he can take pictures of the recital from his phone.. that way you would get them right away..

I know you said Lexi is young.. but maybe you can ask HER:confused:

men and their nascar:eek: ..lol.. but Im a HUGE fan too so... :eek: .. back on subject.. .wellllllllll can you fly to the meet or are you already doing that?

I agree with this too. see...I am really torn. :( sorry, i'm really no help. none at all. because I would have a hard time as well. but another thought (contrary to what I posted previously) is...you mentioned letting people down....

you should talk to your daughter. if she seems like she would be disappointed if you dont' go, then you have to consider who you would rather disappoint...some of your YT friends,..or your daughter. you really don't want to disappoint her. I would suggest talking to her to see how she would feel about it. and add your feelings into that...and I am willing to be that you go to her recital :) you won't want to miss it.

This is how i really feel too. I guess maybe I just don't want to dissapoint everyone here and wanted to see how everyone else felt. I hate letting people down.:( Lauryn my other daughter was going to kc with me too, but she said she is sad, but didnt want to miss Lexi dance either.

sounds to me like you girls need to go to that recital :) there will be other meetups :D

I wouldn't miss her recital. Yeah, she may have more recitals but one day she will be all grown up and I think I would kick myself in the butt for missing out. Also, I wouldn't trust my hubby to get my daughter ready for a recital. He sure would try but you know how guys get. I'm sure there will be another meet-up. I wish you the best with your decision. :)

I would never miss my babies "first" anything... you should go to the recital, IMHO..... She may not remember, but there will always be photos and momento's that you will have missed....
Good Luck!
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I know you are in a tough spot but I would go to see my daughters recital. You will never forgive yourself, and she might not remember in the years to come but she will be sad the day of the recital when her mommy isn't there. Im sure everyone on YT will understand:)

I'm going to the recital. Its what i want to do and know I'd never forgive myself for not going. Family comes FIRST. My kids are my world.:)

good choice:)

aww that's a tough spot, but I would go to your baby's first recital. I danced for years and the little ones in their first recitals were always so precious - they watch each other and copy the other's movements and always dance to a song like "you are my sunshine" - too sweet! I would hate to miss that

good :D

Good decision Denise.. although we will really miss you.. We'll all have other chances to meetup.. Lexi only gets one first recital

I cannot give you advise as I think you already know deep down what you feel is the right thing . . . .she only gets to be 3 once and the first recital will always stick to her mind. . . so, although I will miss you AGAIN, I am sure this will turn out into a yearly event for YT members (as I cannot see it being other than a huge success) . . .:) and so lots of opportunities for you to come :thumbup:

Darn it, I was soo excited give Maddie a really hard squeeze :rolleyes:

As disapointed as I am, I understand where you are coming from. I'm a mother as well and my kids are my everything.

I don't know what I'm going to do now, cause I can't go by myself (drive) I would be a mess and would get lost lol and I can't fly, I'm not paying $160 to bring 1 baby on plane, that is nuts! So now I don't know if I will be going, it just depends on if I can find a driving buddy.

I think Jodie was trying to get people in Michigan and Indiana together...ck with her they are driving and renting a van. How were you going before I was going? I'm extremely sorry.

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I was going to fly, but when i found out that they were going to charge me $80 one way, then I was like NO WAY! Then you said something about driving and that all sounded good lol

I'm sure i will be able to find someone, if not, then hubby will just have to go lol

I'm sorry you had to make such a hard decision.:(

Are you sure you can't beg the instructor to change the date?;)