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cariblonde · 02-06-2008, 06:27 PM

Urghhhhh!!!!! I just need to vent..... My husband went to Oaxaca mexico last week and is supposed to come home saturday and he just called me and said he spent all his money drinking and partying and doesnt have any money for his hotel or to take the bus back to the airport and can I send him some money......

What irritates me even more, I collect wine and I am a wine lover, not to the extreme I may have 5-7 glasses a WEEK which is supposed to be very healthy, i never drink more than one or two drinks at a time unless its new years or a b-day or something like that, well i finally just stopped b/c he would get mad if i had ONE glass of wine,

I'm so pi$$ed off right now I have tears in mhy eyes

I dont have any money to send him, I had to put gas in my car and buy groceries and live while he is off partying away all his money

Brookef18 · 02-06-2008, 06:33 PM

I am so sorry you are going through this. I understand and will be praying for you and your hubby. Relationships are really hard sometimes. I am married 26 years now and we have had our ups and downs. GOd Bless ya hon...

MissPinkBarbie · 02-06-2008, 06:36 PM

I'm sorry to hear this! Sometimes, we have to wonder if they have brains at all..

Has he done stuff like this before? Have you addressed this to him? Maybe he needs to know how you feel and obviously needs a little more respect for you, his loving wife.

I hope everything works out. ((Hugs))

cariblonde · 02-06-2008, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by MissPinkBarbie

I'm sorry to hear this! Sometimes, we have to wonder if they have brains at all..

Has he done stuff like this before? Have you addressed this to him? Maybe he needs to know how you feel and obviously needs a little more respect for you, his loving wife.

I hope everything works out. ((Hugs))

No this is the first time he has ever done anything like this, its like he cant even have a glass of vino with me on my birthday or our anniversary but he can go and part for a whole week and spend everything he has as well as my last paycheck I gave him to go down there with, makes me wonder what else he spent all that money on, anyone who has ever been to mexico knows, the beer is very cheap

patty58 · 02-06-2008, 06:44 PM

Oh honey, I am so sorry this is going on in your life right now. I would sit down with him when he gets back and have a "talk". I have been married almost 40 years and I can tell you there were lots of times when I wanted to knock him up side the head with a ball bat!!!! Maybe he needs to WALK to the airport

Prayers coming your way.

MissPinkBarbie · 02-06-2008, 06:46 PM

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Originally Posted by cariblonde

No this is the first time he has ever done anything like this, its like he cant even have a glass of vino with me on my birthday or our anniversary but he can go and part for a whole week and spend everything he has as well as my last paycheck I gave him to go down there with, makes me wonder what else he spent all that money on, anyone who has ever been to mexico knows, the beer is very cheap

Oh, I'm so sorry..I can imagine how yuo must feel but please dont jump to conclusions!

Did he go by himself? What was the occasion? I dont want to seem nosey...just trying to get a better understanding of this whole thing--and maybe give you some freindly advice.

MissPinkBarbie · 02-06-2008, 06:46 PM

You can PM me if you rather..

hha · 02-06-2008, 06:48 PM

Being married for 31 years, my response would be too bad too sad..you were stupid, you figure out how to get out of the mess...Guess this is why we've been married so long..it's called being responsible for our own actions..

cariblonde · 02-06-2008, 06:53 PM

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Originally Posted by MissPinkBarbie

Oh, I'm so sorry..I can imagine how yuo must feel but please dont jump to conclusions!

Did he go by himself? What was the occasion? I dont want to seem nosey...just trying to get a better understanding of this whole thing--and maybe give you some freindly advice.

thanks girl, he went alone his grandmother lives there and she died so he thought he should go (he seems to really be mourning huh)
i know i shouldnt jump to conclusions and i know he loves me but i am just sooo mad and hurt

cariblonde · 02-06-2008, 06:55 PM

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Originally Posted by patty58

Oh honey, I am so sorry this is going on in your life right now. I would sit down with him when he gets back and have a "talk". I have been married almost 40 years and I can tell you there were lots of times when I wanted to knock him up side the head with a ball bat!!!! Maybe he needs to WALK to the airport

Prayers coming your way.

yea i think he should walk too

I'm not sending him any money (i dont have any to send even if I wanted too)

flgurl69 · 02-06-2008, 06:56 PM

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Originally Posted by cariblonde

Urghhhhh!!!!! I just need to vent..... My husband went to Oaxaca mexico last week and is supposed to come home saturday and he just called me and said he spent all his money drinking and partying and doesnt have any money for his hotel or to take the bus back to the airport and can I send him some money......

What irritates me even more, I collect wine and I am a wine lover, not to the extreme I may have 5-7 glasses a WEEK which is supposed to be very healthy, i never drink more than one or two drinks at a time unless its new years or a b-day or something like that, well i finally just stopped b/c he would get mad if i had ONE glass of wine,

I'm so pi$ off right now I have tears in mhy eyes

I dont have any money to send him, I had to put gas in my car and buy groceries and live while he is off partying away all his money

I'm sorry to hear this. Hope you can work everything out.

Men!

patty58 · 02-06-2008, 06:57 PM

If he has relatives there then they could help him or at least take him to the airport. He's a big boy.

labrown · 02-06-2008, 06:58 PM

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Originally Posted by cariblonde

thanks girl, he went alone his grandmother lives there and she died so he thought he should go (he seems to really be mourning huh)
i know i shouldnt jump to conclusions and i know he loves me but i am just sooo mad and hurt

I would be mad and hurt too. Money (rather what to do with it) is the hardest thing for couples to agree on, I swear. I feel for you hun! I wish I had more to say than just this: HUGS!!!

cariblonde · 02-06-2008, 07:01 PM

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Originally Posted by patty58

If he has relatives there then they could help him or at least take him to the airport. He's a big boy.

he is in a different town now ( he doesnt like to stay with them because they live in a very rural area and they dont even have indoor plumbing

so I guess he went to the funeral and then went into the city and got a hotel so he's hours away and its only his grandfather who has one foot in the grave at this point anyway)

cariblonde · 02-06-2008, 07:02 PM

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Originally Posted by labrown

I would be mad and hurt too. Money (rather what to do with it) is the hardest thing for couples to agree on, I swear. I feel for you hun! I wish I had more to say than just this: HUGS!!!

thanks, I really needed that hug

you guys are awesome

02-06-2008, 06:27 PM	#1
cariblonde Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: wilmington nc Posts: 1,585	Husbands Urghhhhh!!!!! I just need to vent..... My husband went to Oaxaca mexico last week and is supposed to come home saturday and he just called me and said he spent all his money drinking and partying and doesnt have any money for his hotel or to take the bus back to the airport and can I send him some money...... What irritates me even more, I collect wine and I am a wine lover, not to the extreme I may have 5-7 glasses a WEEK which is supposed to be very healthy, i never drink more than one or two drinks at a time unless its new years or a b-day or something like that, well i finally just stopped b/c he would get mad if i had ONE glass of wine, I'm so pi$$ed off right now I have tears in mhy eyes I dont have any money to send him, I had to put gas in my car and buy groceries and live while he is off partying away all his money __________________ Proud Member of the Spoiled Rotten Club and in the end, its not the years in your life that count but the life in your years.... Abraham Lincoln

02-06-2008, 06:33 PM	#2
Brookef18 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Cape Cod Ma Posts: 1,855	I am so sorry you are going through this. I understand and will be praying for you and your hubby. Relationships are really hard sometimes. I am married 26 years now and we have had our ups and downs. GOd Bless ya hon... __________________ Brooke (Chewy's and Sadie's Mom) visit us on dogster dogster.com/dogs/700047

02-06-2008, 06:36 PM	#3
MissPinkBarbie ~Glamorous Daisy~ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: NJ // NYC Posts: 4,010	I'm sorry to hear this! Sometimes, we have to wonder if they have brains at all.. Has he done stuff like this before? Have you addressed this to him? Maybe he needs to know how you feel and obviously needs a little more respect for you, his loving wife. I hope everything works out. ((Hugs)) __________________ *MissPinkBarbie* *The PiNK Club Founder*

02-06-2008, 06:44 PM	#5
patty58 Donating YT 5000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: texas Posts: 5,272	Oh honey, I am so sorry this is going on in your life right now. I would sit down with him when he gets back and have a "talk". I have been married almost 40 years and I can tell you there were lots of times when I wanted to knock him up side the head with a ball bat!!!! Maybe he needs to WALK to the airport Prayers coming your way. __________________ Decide To Make It A Good Day

02-06-2008, 06:46 PM	#7
MissPinkBarbie ~Glamorous Daisy~ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: NJ // NYC Posts: 4,010	You can PM me if you rather.. __________________ *MissPinkBarbie* *The PiNK Club Founder*

02-06-2008, 06:48 PM	#8
hha No Longer a Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Seneca, SC Posts: 2,837	Being married for 31 years, my response would be too bad too sad..you were stupid, you figure out how to get out of the mess...Guess this is why we've been married so long..it's called being responsible for our own actions..

02-06-2008, 06:57 PM	#12
patty58 Donating YT 5000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: texas Posts: 5,272	If he has relatives there then they could help him or at least take him to the airport. He's a big boy. __________________ Decide To Make It A Good Day