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Fight with hubby *sigh* All because I said I thought he'd look good in a jacket. Go figure that one. The thing is though, that once we started fighting about that one little thing, then ALL the frustration came out about 100001 other little things, which made the little fight turn into one big full fledged, mud slinging, WAR. So then he threw out an ultimatum at me and I slung one right back at him. It was, "You have until the first of the year to do ______________ and if not, then I want a divorce." :( Now neither one of us wants a divorce and we both know that. I am just still angry, hurt, and frustrated about some things that got said to me. Why does marriage have to be so HARD sometimes? Why do husbands have to so difficult at times? |
Im sorry Aerrica:(. Im sure everything will work out! PS: How have you been, long time no talk! |
I'm doing OK. I got super busy for a couple of weeks. Olivia had surgery and then I had company, plus all the holiday stuff going on. I think I volunteered to help everywhere and spread myself a little too thin. Its Ok though. It all got done and everything worked out. :) |
I'm doing OK. I got super busy for a couple of weeks. Olivia had surgery and then I had company, plus all the holiday stuff going on. I think I volunteered to help everywhere and spread myself a little too thin. Its Ok though. It all got done and everything worked out. :) How are things with YOU???? |
Sometimes marriage is really hard.....sometimes it takes more work to focus on the positives....:( I hope you guys make up really soon. |
Thanks. I hope so too. Right now things just stink. :( |
I agree ... marriage is really hard... hubby is being a ass thiss morning... too.. men! |
i'm sorry you are having trouble :( no fun. men are so hard to live with LOL i can relate tho...you fight about something small, then alllllllll frustrations surface and a lot of crap gets said that really needs to be let go. i'm very familiar with that :( thankfully, the last fight dh and i had, was a good one for us. we have been a LOT better since then, we both learned a lot, and we both realized how much we want to work it out. so it was good. I hope things get better for you too!! how long have you been married? |
we fight like that daily its a nightmare! |
Marriage is wonderful but hard work. I have been where you are right now, I think we all have at one point so I can relate. I have been with my hubby for 9 years and I can tell you what has helped us...when an issue arises, talk about it right then and there. Dont let things go unsaid because it will come up in the next argument. I'm not sure how you tackle a problem but me, I was quick to get angry and talking was not how I got through it, I was hurtful and mean with my words, which of course lead to saying things that we didn't mean. Now I have learned to TALK not scream, and oh what a difference that has made. Its been so long since our last fight that I dont even remember it. Its all how we approach the problem. I'm in no way saying its your fault, just what helped me :-) |
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Pretty good, busy.. My lifes pulling me in all different directions. I FINALLY broke up with Josh, and its lonely sometimes, but for the most part I like it! Being able to talk to a million and one guys is great! |
Try this....don't say a word, just walk up behind him and give him a good, long hug. Don't say a word, just smile. |
We've been together 8 years and married 7 yrs. I'm pretty quick tempered too and I have a bad habit of using my words to hit below the belt. There is still a lot of hurt, anger, and frustration on both sides, but I did send him a text and tell him I said a lot of things I didn't mean because I was hurt and mad and that I was sorry for that. |
I'm sorry you're going through this. Sometimes I think we get so exhausted with the holidays that one little thing can stress you out. I'll be saying prayers for you. |
Oh Aerrica, I am so sorry. Believe me in 39 years of marriage I have been right where you are. I am sure you are exhausted with all the stuff you have been going thru and that may have something to do with how you are feeling. And something else...........no one can tell me that men don't have PMS too:D With us it always seems to come in cycles:confused: Anyway, I agree with Judy, just suck it up and give him a hug and tell him you love him. Good luck |
Oh hon that has happened to all of us. Doubt a married person on here has not been in the same boat. Just let things calm down. I know he doesn't think that you want a divorce. I try to remember when we fight to watch what I say...very hard because I am a hot headed leo. Somethings once they come out can't be taken back but we can get over them. Trust in what you have built and know that you will both chalk it up afterwards to frustration. I totally agree just give him a cuddle and that will melt a lot of the ice wall that has gone up. Hugs. |
I understand. I am a hot headed aries with a temper and half. I do try and watch what I say and keep my temper in check, this time though everything just hit me and I came at him full force with both barrels blazing. :( I guess everything, all the stress, of the past few weeks finally caught up with me and I found an outlet and took full advantage of it. I'm just scared and worried because even though I apologized, and I don't want a separation/divorce, he hasn't and I don't know what he is thinking or what he wants. I don't THINK he really wants that, but he's at work right now so I can't really talk to him and get a good feeling about where he's at. Right now the agreement is to just make it through the holidays and let everything (and everyone) calm down before making any decisions. |
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He is kicking himself right now for a lot of stupid things said so believe me he is feeling remorseful as well...it's not only you. It sucks because if your anything like me when it's like that I literally feel sick to my stomach. Things will be ok. Sending you a xmas wish and I know it will work. You just need a bit of cooling off. Hugs |
Yeah my tummy is not very happy at all today. :( That's definitely not helping me feel better that's for sure. Maybe I'll feel better when he gets home tonight. He did ask if I wanted to leave our youngest with his mom tonight so he could come home and we could just relax. |
Im an aries too and I already explained how I use to deal with the issues lol, I understand you are worried because he hasnt apologized yet, but Im sure he will. Some people need longer to cool off. Try not to worry, I know easier said than done. Im sure you guys will be ok. |
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Ok he is extending the olive branch. Get rid of the kids and maybe have a nice grown up night. It's funny but I have come to realize that we do need date night at least once a month. It's nice to just be able to be an adult and enjoy each other's company. I think my xmas wish for you is in the making. :hug: |
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Sometimes you wont' get that sorry depending on how stubborn or how hurtful the situation was but the other party will make way on trying to rectify things. |
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I'm sorry you are fighting Aerrica,:( I hope it gets better. |
Thanks. I hope they do too. I hate fighting with him. It just rips my heart out. :( |
I just sent you a pm. Patti and Jack |
Hang in there and it sounds like he wants to make up. I agree with Patti...Men do have PMS! The worst fight my hubby and I ever had was when all the flies somehow got in the house. He accused me of leaving the back door open and I told him he was a no good nit picking &*%$!.. well you know...lol :D |
I got it. Thank you. Hugs! |
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Then the next thing I knew I was crying and screaming at him that he was a cold hearted bunch of words I can't repeat here, and he was calling me a preppy spoiled bunch of words I can't repeat. Then I got MAD and I let him have it and ripped him to shreds. Then, to my surprise, he let me have it all right back. (which is really unlike him) We insulted everything from each other's parenting, to each other's relationship skills, to each other's bedroom abilities. It was just awful. :( What really sucks is that he is very stubborn and hard headed and as much as I want everything to be over with and all better when he comes on tonight, I really don\'t think it will be. |
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