Yep, sounds familiar. Sometimes men just store those frustrations up(and not necessarily anything to do with you). Then one little comment and it all comes rolling out and they want to take it out on somebody. Women usually want to talk about problems as they happen...much healthier that way, IMHO.:p Let him make up with you first...he's probably feeling guilty anyway.

I'm so sorry honey :( I will say a prayer for you guys and I do hope that things get better for the two of you. Fighting with your hubby is never fun :( I am so ticked off at my husband right now too, we are not even talking :mad: He is the type that if he knows I am mad, he won't even talk to me (probably because he doesn't want to "hear it" :rolleyes:) - and I think NOT talking is even WORSE than fighting.

I don't bring alot of my personal issues to the board (actually, I don't know that I have ever posted about any of them now that I think of it) BUT - sometimes it sure would be nice to just get some advice on things :(

Anyway, once again, I am saying a little prayer for you guys and please do the same for me - if my hubby doesn't open that mouth of his soon and say something, I am about to GO OFF ON HIM....I can't STAND this "silent treatment" crap :mad:

Oh I HATE the silent treatment. When Mike is really mad he wants to be "alone" and that makes me crazy. I can't stand not talking either. If we have to fight I want to fight, calm down, talk about it, make up, and it all be over right then and there. This dragging it out stuff KILLS me.

If you ever want to talk feel free to PM me. I promise to keep it just between us.

Hugs and I hope ya'll work it out soon too. I will definitely say a prayer.

I will definitely be praying that God make everyone's husbands normal again.

not to preach cause I've been there - BUT - it's the holidays and seems to be a hard time for some marriages -

Remember the things you love about him and the little everyday things he does - then picture him not there ever again to do them & what your life would be without him :( ....AND GO MAKE UP !!!

it only takes ONE kiss and an apology to make things right no matter who makes the first move & you'll both be happier for it

ok - I forgot to say -

BACK to your corners and COME OUT KISSING !:D

Yep we threw the D word around too. He was still throwing it around this morning. Then he said separation, then he said wait until after the holidays.

What gets me is, is one minute he talks like everything is going to be OK and the next minute he's mad and being a butthead again. Like this morning, I was still mad so when he asked what I was doing I said, "I am cleaning your house." Then he replied that it was "our" house. Then, not even an hour later he was talking about divorce or at least separation again. I hate it when he does that. It makes me a nervous a wreck because one minute I can say something and its just fine, then the next I say something and he's mad again. Its like I can't do or say anything right so I'm scared to death to say anything at all. Then he gets mad because I'm not speaking to him.

Our fights are always over "your kids - my kids". I was married for 9 years, single for 17 years, and now married for 12. So, I grew very independent and set in my ways during that 20 or so years of the last of the first marriage and being on my own, raising two kiddos. Good luck - try hugs!

I think there must have been something in the air today...That affected men??

Mine was in a mood for most of the day....lol

But he is a keeper.....


I am sure things will be different tomorrow....

Joyce

An Aries male apologize.... never heard of it, I am married to an aries, never
my two sisters also married to aries. neither of them could neither.

My hubby just said tonight to my friend we are not buying gifts for each other this year, :mad: we have spent to much lately.:( well he wanted to trade the fifth wheel for a motor home, so we traded, :eek: he thought a newer golf cart was needed. :eek: He bought a 100.00 stereo for it, then bought two weather proof speakers, and an antenna, then he needed two more speakers. but he thinks we do not need anything for christmas. I guess he got what he wanted is what he is saying. :mad: :mad:
I found a set of sheets and a quilt and a perfect throw pillow at a cost of 200for the set. I guess I will not be getting that this year. grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr:mad: :mad:

So I know what it is like to be married to an aries man. pooh's mum

I agree with you!!!Try only think of the positive than negative....always imagine....if there is no tomorrow....cherish what you have at the moment....

Go make up!! It is holiday season...It is all about looooove!

Welcome to my world! My husband was recently diagnosed bi-polar and.....he drinks too much. He isn't a very easy person to live with...unless you agree with everything he says and don't stir the waters. I can't tell you how many times he has told me he wants a divorce...Finally I called his bluff and told him...if you want to leave then leave......he's still here. I don't want him to go,...He is getting proffessional help and on meds. I just pray, everyday, for God to give me the strength to get through this.

How long have you been married

You have my prayers Brenda - I'm sorry but hopefully the medication will even out the ups and downs - You're a strong woman to be able to understand why this happens and cope. Hugs to you girlfriend -

and where have you been ??? :p

and Patti - I really REALLY relate to you and I hope each day with Jack is better than the last.....I think of you both often !!!

Merry Christmas...I hope ALL the men in your lives realize the grass is NOT greener and you all have a great holiday

I have bi polar disorder and even though I knew it, I refused to call the doctor because I didn't want to admit that I have to live on meds for the rest of my life. I wanted to be "normal". Adam and I would fight all the time and some were really bad. Our last big fight he told me that it was obvious that I didn't love him at all or else I would have gone to the doctor a long time ago. I calmed down when he said that then I called the doctor. I got meds and was doing really well but then I quit for about a month or so and the fighting started again. Finally I started back up again after about a week of constant irritation between the two of us. Now I'm back to being "me" again and everything is better. I know it's tough living with somebody bipolar. My dad was bipolar so I know what it's like. I also know what it's like to be bipolar and believe me, it's harder than anyone can imagine. I have no problem talking about the disorder or what I've been through and I'm certainly not ashamed. It's a disease like everything else.

Anyways, back to the OP (sorry), I'm sorry your husband and you had a fight. I'm sure everything will be fine soon! When he comes home from work, meet him at the door with a hot outfit on and open arms... he'll melt!

We are much better now. :D He came home and apologized, said he absolutely no way now how wanted a divorce or even a separation. HE actually did most of the talking and he said that maybe this would even make us stronger and bring us closer together. Then he talked about how maybe there was some truth to some of the things I said and that he really wants to be a better husband and father and that maybe its time for him to grow up and lose his "lonesome cowboy persona" ('cause girls let me tell you, that lonesome cowboy standing in the corner with his hat pulled down over his eyes a little might be sexy as anything, but oh my lord they are a b*tch and a half to live with).

I am really glad we are Ok now. I just turn into a complete mess when we fight.

Thank you everyone for your prayers! YTers are the best! I hope everyone else gets things worked out too! Ya'll are still in my prayers!

Aerrica, I am so happy that things are better. Sometimes these little outbursts help open our eyes. Y'all have a Merry Christmas.

That is great. And ya know for a man to apoligize is a huge thing:exclaim: :exclaim: :exclaim:

I am happy for your news, have a great Christmas and New Year.:xmastree: :xmastree: :xmastree: :xmastree: