Have you tried marriage counseling?

I can't put it any better then this!

You deserve to be happy. Take a good look at your life and find what make YOU happy. Maybe you need to make some small steps to happiness...don't start with the giant ones.

You really should find a counceler that you can sit down with and talk through very thing. Someone you can confide in that has no personal agends. Someone who can see things from a outside point of view.

Prayers are send for you girl:hands: maybe you can tell your friend to pray with you about this, also I will look for a book regarding marriage, Joyce Meyers have great books and teaching cd,she have help every single person that I have got a book from her:thumbup:

Sounds like your best friend has picked a good time to tell you how she feels...she must know that you are sitting on the fence about your relationship with your husband... I have been in your friends shoes before... I told my dear friend how I felt about her husband when things were really, really bad.

She chose to stay with him, and now, years later she is still a dear friend, but I keep my mouth closed about her husband, because she made her choice and I have to support her. So until he becomes dangerous or abusive I will stay quiet..

I will hope for courage and peace for you and your daughter... :love-hug3

Mandee, I'm so sorry to hear this is happening :(

I don't have any relationship advice, but I do have to say this is exactly how I felt too. My parents divorced when I was 12, and of course, it was extremely traumatic at first for maybe even up to a year or so. But after that, I was like THANK GOODNESS that happened because I would rather have two separate happy parents than one parental unit ready to explode! I am now so thankful that my parents got divorced...I know that sounds ridiculous.

But they have both found GREAT significant others, and I could not be happier with their decision. I know it won't be easy for you or your daughter, but I think that's the best decision for you, and as others have said, it sort of sounds like you've already made up your mind...

***HUGS*** to you and your daughter

just checking in to see how things are going with you ....

have a good week ...

I was married at 19 and that sounds exactly like what I used to say/think before I decided to get a divorce. I don't know you and can't say what is best for you but hope that you can come to a decision and find happiness again. :bighug:

I am so sorry to hear you are going through tough times (I haven't read your other posts) And yes...it makes total sense. I was married to a man for 19 yrs (remarried now for 8 yrs to someone else) I was unhappy for a very long time. I had a beautiful home and 2 beautiful girls. I really wanted the marriage to work, in the beginning, and tried counseling several times. I think mostly for myself. I really new deep in my heart that I wanted out of the marriage but, didn't know how or when to do it. My X was an abusive alcoholic. I think what scared me the most was...what am I going to do, where am I going to go, am I going to be able to make it on my own. There is never a "right" time to do something like this....I know....But, believe me, your heart will tell you when it's time to walk away and not look back. The thing you need now IS your friends. I wish I were there to give you a hug! If you ever need anyone to vent to please pm me and I will send you my personal e-mail address.

My heart truly goes out to you

Hugs, Brenda

you are sweet...thanks for checking :) we have been very peaceful since our last argument a couple of weeks ago when I told him this was the last chance I am giving him...and our relationship. I am really fed up...so this is it. it either gets better, or we're done. so it has been fairly peaceful. but I am honestly waiting for the bomb to go off. I am taking one day at a time ;)

thanks so much for checking in on me :)

Such an excellent post. I'm sorry I didn't know you were having problems. I think all marriages have problems and nothing was just made in heaven without hard work. Think back to what you loved about him when you first married him and do you think you can bring that love back in your heart again. The above post does say it all though.....the stress in today's marriages with two working and sometimes both full time has to be difficult and 'happy' isn't always possible. I don't know you and you may have tried everything possible but if not don't give up until you give it to someone who can counsel you both. Prayers and Hugs, Joan btw don't let a well meaning friend make your decision, it has to be the two of you.

Maybe Im a bit late here girl, but you dont need to leave him to change. You need to find your old happy self and revert! Just be yourself.... then the decision will be easier for you both, and more clear I think. If you are naturally a more positive person than be more positive, dont let HIM effect your mood. If he is still always negative, and your postiveness has not worn off on him, then it will be clear to you what you need to do and easier for you to do it cuz you'll know and remember your true self! Just be true to yourself! :) (((HUGS))) Ive been there! I was not a happy person with my ex and I never left him either... but then I started standing up for myself and demanding for him to give some of himself to me for once instead of me always giving and HE walked! Oh well... honestly Im better off w/o him bc for 10 years I gave up my own life to live his! I mean it was to the point where I couldn't buy like adidas sneakers cuz he hated them! Ya know??? HAHA I realized that he was doing EVERYTHING he wanted, living the life HE wanted, never making room for me, or consideration for me and I was doing all the back burner living so I could keep him... UUGGHH!! I missed out on all the things I wanted in my 20s bc I did all the things HE wanted!
Oh yeah, so all in all... living HIS life was making me miserable and making me be a person I didnt like, never mind others! I was not a happy person bc I was confused on WHO I WAS! :)

I dont know what you all are fighting about but when you do fight do you all bring up the past ,just to hurt each other, and when the fights are over is he more caring than before ,if that is the case then things will not change ,you will keep going back to the beginig .you will never resolve what is the real problem .do you feel better about your self when hes not home .when he is home do you both comunicate with each other at all ,but I am sorry you and you husband are having problems .I will be praying that you find it in your heart and do what you think will make you happy.and your daughter happy because Im sure she dont like to see you un happy.

Hi Mandee,
I'm am sorry to hear of your situation:(
I can not offer relationship advice, as I am not married.
What I can say is that, my parents divorced when I was 2, my mother remaried when I was 6 sadly that did not last but a few years. I was extreamly close to my setp father, and thier divorce was pretty hard on me. Not as hard as for my mom though, seeing her sad was the worst part for me.
Now at 26 I have found that I have always been attracted to good fathers and great husbands! ( mind you, I have never been a homewrecker, just admired the husbands/fathers!) This has turned out to be a positive in my life, as it has kept me away from some totally bogus guys! Now that I have been in my relationship for 5 years I can think about marrige and take it seriously. I think I waited so long because I saw what my mother went through and I did not want to feel her pain.
My mother is my hero and my best friend.

It might be hard for your daughter, but you can make it a positive for her by being the best, happiest mom you know how to be! I know she loves you and would just want for you to be happy. So do what will make you satisfied and give you your worth as a woman, that is the most important thing you can do for yourself and to teach your daughter.

If I may be so bold as to quote a scripture that gets me through every day:
Joh 16:33
These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world