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Glad to see you girl. please dont torture yourself of what you could of ...should of... someone from above wanted him home. I watched my Mom go through that when my Stepdad died of Congestive Heartfailure and 911 talking her through the process of reveiving him, she felt she was doing something wrong and mabe if she tried harder... Mabe Leonard loved you so much he didn want you to see him go home ! Poor little Cheri, i am sorry, it must break your heart to walk out the door, i dont know what to tell you as you are talking to someone who has never left her Babies alone ! Realy hope everything gets easier for you, you know we are praying for you ! Hugs |
Hi V, glad to know you are back . . . . . I hope the days will get better for you. We are here always for YOU. |
SO great to see you here. I think of you every time I'm on YT (and even when I'm not!) - and I send good thoughts your way. All the best to you during this time of healing and re-birth. Much love, peace, and serenity. |
V - So glad to hear you're doing better. We've all missed you desperately. You know I'm not that far from you. If you need ANYTHING, please let me know. |
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Here are the lyrics: Get your hanky out! Softly, As I Leave You Softly, I will leave you softly For my heart would break if you should wake and see me go So I leave you softly, long before you miss me Long before your arms can beg me stay For one more hour or one more day After all the years, I can't bear the tears to fall So, softly as I leave you there (Softly, long before you kiss me) (Long before your arms can beg me stay) (For one more hour) or one more day After all the years, I can't bear the tears to fall So, softly as I leave you there As I leave I you there As I leave I you there Here's a link to a sample clip. http://www.amazon.com/gp/recsradio/r...gSuffix=dp_img |
I am so sorry to hear your news. (I just caught this thread) I wish I can do something to easie your pain and your girls' pain. I was unemployeed for a while and just got a new job about a month ago so I'm back on YT!! :D Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help for you. We are all here for you. |
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Oh, that is so good. I am so sorry that I joined YT after all this had happened. I partially know what you are going through having done Hospice for a couple years and my dad passing away when I was young. Time heals, but it will never let you forget the love that you have. It is always there with you. He loved you and I think that song said it all. You sound like a wonderful person and everyone on her loves you and is praying for you. Take everything day by day. Praying for you, Sharon |
Villette - I know we've talked about this, but you really have to give up the guilt. You couldn't do any more than you did and it isn't worth continuing to torture yourself cause you can't change things. I hope your son will be there with you soon. I think it will be good for both of you and the pups!!!! Cheri will begin to adjust. It will take her some time and Rescue Remedy may help that too. An employer will be lucky to have you. So when you're ready to dust off the work clothes, I think you'll find that will work itself out also. Big hugs to you. Be talking to you soon!!! |
Wow Vi I am so sorry I didn't know you had lost your husband, You have my most sincere Condelences. I am so sorry for your dogs loss as well. Your thread me cry........ I hope each day gets easier and the memories you have are always cherished, I can't imagine your pain but hope it is getting easier everyday. Good luck with your son moving back home mine just did as well. My yorkies send yorkies kisses to you and yours always. Linda |
V - love and peace to you and your babies...so glad to hear that your son will move in with you - good for both of you. I was out of work too for a while with a big gap but when you explain to employers why - they totally understand and you have great tech skills so play those up for sure. (I used to be a recruiter). The only thing that would hurt would be that you wouldn't make as much $$ as if you didn't have that gap but not always...depends on the employer. Sell yourself - be confident - that's what it takes - not how long you have been out of a job. You have the personality and drive - you will find something. ;) |
Thank you everyone - and OMG that made me cry Lil Bit - that was just beautiful.....I do think he tried to wake me and I was right at his side within minutes of it happening judging by how warm he was (hospice told me that) but it hurts so much that I wasn't sitting right next to him - not that it would have made it easier because we both really thought he had more time :( |
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Now you you've got me crying again! I am sure he knows how you feel and he understands. Everyone that I have heard of having a near death experience says they stayed near the body for awhile after and sought out loved ones and tried to comfort them. I have a friend who had one of these experiences in the hospital and he says he went to the waiting room to be with his wife (before having the "follow the light" type experience). He could see everyone and hear what they were saying. |
Hi Villette so good to see you on. I know we talked about the guilt and it is also part of the grieving process you have to go through and one day you will know that Leonard knew you were there as you were throughout his illness and it was his time. Call anytime |
Hi V so gald to see you posting. Im so sorry for your loss and all that your going through, all you can do is take one day at a time. As for the dogs, Mine are like that too, They are so use to me being there 24/7 they cant handle me leaving, Im sure in time they will do better . I have to use a gate at my hallway before the door, so scared they will run after me and me not know. The gate really helps and now they are so use to it that if I remove it they know not to go past it. It all takes time. |
Hey there V girl:) nice to see you post hun, You are in my prayers and thoughts every day:) Sorry your having such a hard time with cheri:( poor baby, remember one day at a time;) we love you:) |
Hi V, loosing someone close is very hard, I loss my grandmother and she was like a mom to me, only time will tell is been three years and I still miss her very much I feel guilty too because I was not there for her physical ( she was in another country) when she need me, and when she died either, my twin take care of her:( and my mom, everything was so fast for her, but praying to God and tell him how I feel, have help me a lot, I will be praying for you to, he is the only who can heal our soul, minds:rainbow: |
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Praying for peace & strength for you Villette. |
Awww V, I am so glad that you went to see a doctor and got meds to help you. It's good to hear that you are looking after yourself :) Keep it up! I know all this has been so hard on you, but as you said...it WILL get easier in time. My thoughts and prayers are still with you and I hope that you just try and take things slow. Don't over work yourself too much. I feel so bad for Tessa too - I know all this must really be so hard on her :cry: That poor baby. Please give them all a big squeeze for me...pets really do feel pain just like we do and it's so obvious that they know what is going on :( I wish I could just give them all a big kiss! :( |
I don't know what to say except I'm glad you're doing a tiny bit better. There is no magic answer and everyone is different. Breaking down at odd times, though, isn't unusual at all. I wish I knew what to do for your lil girl. I feel so sorry for her. That's got to be really heartbreaking to see. Take care and hugs to you... |
I am truely sorry for the pain you and your furbabies are going thru. I am sure the pain will ease as time passes and you will be able to remember the good times without the heartache. It will take time for your furbabies as well. They definately suffer with seprations and deaths, but she will adjust and heal. You and your babies will be in my thoughts and prayers. |
I was so pleased to see your thread V. It's good to have you back. We have missed you. Breaking down in odd places is normal, it will take time I'm afraid, but it will get better. Don't feel guilty, I'm sure you did all you could. One day all your memories will be happy ones. My thoughts are with you and the three girls. Sending lots of hugs and love your way, and a rose for you and the girls - :rose: :rose: :rose: :rose: |
V, I have missed you. As to Cheri, maybe you can put her in a room that she likes with a gate (they have the gates that attach to the doorway, and it swings open so that you can go through). It will probably help her in being secure. I know Conner likes to be secluded when we go out - he has his bed, favorite toys and I put one of my night shirts that I have worn in his bed. As to Tessa, maybe a piece of your husband's clothing in her bed will ease her pain. You do not have a gap in your resume. You were self-employed. That takes discipline and a lot of qualities that employers are looking for. Do not seek a job until you are ready. Get well, get strong. |
Hi Villette! My Otis is a "runner". What's helped me is to put a broom by the door. He hates the broom and will usually back off if I pick it up. I never have to raise my voice or touch him with it, he just backs off. Also, If I'm expecting company, I put 2 sections of an ex pen and block off the front door. I sure hope you continue to heal with each day. Just put one foot in front of the other girl. I'm sure having your son around will help. So many changes for you coming up. Be strong, and push forward. I've been thinking about you. Take care of yourself and your girls! |
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You might consider a job working for a photographer or a photo studio. You might really enjoy that too. :) Maybe a pet photographer? Please don't underestimate your abilities. You are a very talented lady. :) |
To Where you are If you ever heard Josh Groban sing this, :note: I know it will hit home, it was all I listened to for 5 years ... and only now can I understand what it really means ... I cried in supermarkets, doctor's offices, dentist's chairs and hair salons .... Bless your heart and please believe, time will be the only healer ... you will get through this but you never got over it. Not when such a sweet man was in your life .... see if this link works for you so you can hear this really touching song .... :note2: http://music.aol.com/video/to-where-...groban/1128405 hands on hearts through the miles that separate you from loved ones .... |
V I am so glad to hear you went to the doctor and you did get something to help. When my mother passed she knew time was near and sent me on the dumbest errand and when I returned my aunt told me she had passed and I was so upset and mad with her. I know time heals all and I am praying for you and your family. |
I forgot to include the words to the song ..."To Where You Are" "To Where You Are" Who can say for certain Maybe you're still here I feel you all around me Your memory's so clear Deep in the stillness I can hear you speak You're still an inspiration Can it be (?) That you are mine Forever love And you are watching over me from up above Fly me up to where you are Beyond the distant star I wish upon tonight To see you smile If only for awhile to know you're there A breath away's not far To where you are Are you gently sleeping Here inside my dream And isn't faith believing All power can't be seen As my heart holds you Just one beat away I cherish all you gave me everyday 'Cause you are my Forever love Watching me from up above And I believe That angels breathe And that love will live on and never leave Fly me up To where you are Beyond the distant star I wish upon tonight To see you smile If only for awhile To know you're there A breath away's not far To where you are I know you're there A breath away's not far To where you are if anyone can figure out how to get Villette to hear this, in case it can only be heard from AOL, please send it to her ... it is really worth listening to ... |
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V, we are all praying for you and the girls.... |
I couldn't get the link to work for me as I don't have an AOL account, but here are the lyrics. Who can say for certain Maybe you’re still here I feel you all around me Your memories so clear Deep in the stillness I can hear you speak You’re still an inspiration Can it be (? ) That you are mine Forever love And you are watching over me from up above Fly me up to where you are Beyond the distant star I wish upon tonight To see you smile If only for awhile to know you’re there A breath away’s not far To where you are Are you gently sleeping Here inside my dream And isn’t faith believing All power can’t be seen As my heart holds you Just one beat away I cherish all you gave me everyday ’cause you are mine Forever love Watching me from up above And I believe That angels breathe And that love will live on and never leave Fly me up To where you are Beyond the distant star I wish upon tonight To see you smile If only for awhile To know you’re there A breath away’s not far To where you are I know you’re there A breath away’s not far To where you are Here's another link to the video: http://music.clevver.com/video/25815...ersion-300.php |
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