I'm going to have to rehome my baby!
 

I haven't been on YT as much as I'd like. I graduated college, and I'm now preparing to take the LSAT which is what is going to get me into law school. And now I'm faced with the decision that I'm going to have to rehome my Theresa.

I love my Theresa. She is the most friendliest, happiest puppy in the entire world. She is like my alarm clock, she is ALWAYS up early. Everyone in my family loves her. This is why it is so hard for me to admit that I can't take on the responsibility of two dogs. I thought I could, but my grandmother and grandfather need my help, so I'm moving in with them while I figure out what law school I'm going to.

The reason I'm rehoming my little reese is that she is the one who doesn't listen to me. She is a very stubborn dog by nature, and although this is one of the traits that I admire about her, with everything going on, I feel I won't have the time and attention to properly and adequately train her to follow my commands. However, I truly do believe that with the right amount of attention in the right home, she could be the perfect dog for someone else. I know that if I didn't eventually rectify this situation with her disobedience, it would lead to frustration on my part, and that type of environment is not suitable for any dog.

That means Teddy will be all alone. And one of the main reasons I got Theresa was because of Teddy. Although, I can honestly say, that he will notice she's gone, but he STILL gets jealous, when she sits on my lap, or licks my hand for a little too long.

What you won't find on here, however, is a thread on here saying I'm selling her. I'm not going to charge an exoribant fee for my Theresa. There is no amount of money that could justify rehoming her. I spent well over 1000 for my two dogs, but there is no way I could ask someone to repay me for the good feelings and memories I had when I shelled out that money. I, instead, called a great yorkshire rescue group here in Northern California. They are a small organization and currently have 4 other yorkies they are fostering. She is coming to take my baby this morning.

Words can't even begin to describe the pain I am feeling right now. I feel like I have let her down. To make matters worse, my sister sent me a text message last night with the following: "you are very mean. You should have never have gotten her then. She has feelings too." (and, let me remind you, I am triplet, so she is the same age as me, 22.) That broke me down and I cried for the rest of the night. Am I a bad mommy for letting Theresa go? I just think I am only able to handle one dog. It hurts me so bad, and I know I will be a wreck when the lady comes to pick up my baby.

Ashley

How hard for you. You recognized a problem that you have to solve and you are doing it. You are not mean. Mean would be to keep Reese and not be able to take care of her properly and let her miss a chance to find a forever home. She will. You will have hard decisions all of your life, but you can learn each time.

I'm so sad just reading this, I can't even imagine the pain your feeling...your sister is just as pained as you are in this situation ...where there is anger there is pain, she is just releasing her pain in a different way...you cry:she's angry ....you both feel as if your losing a family member...try to not be angry back at her, just let it be for now...again this is just a sad situation for everyone involved, hang in there, the rescue place will find her a good & loving home...

I'm sorry you have to rehome your baby.

why can't your sister or someone in your family take her to keep her close to you?

:goodpost:

no you are not a bad mommy. i know what you are going thru. i have had to rehome one of my babies. it is a very hard decision to make but it is what is best for you and the puppy.
i wish you all the luck in the world.
there will be someone out there that will have the time to train and love this baby just as much as you.
you will hurt and miss her and feel terrible about it (i still do) but if it is for the best, then it is.
good luck

My sister doesn't even take the time to care for Theresa... or Teddy. She was annoyed when they were there, and didn't like the fact that they barked when I was home. My sister said that to make me mad, not because she cares about my dogs. I can honestly tell you that.

My mom has MS and is in a wheelchair, my sister likes to kiss my dogs but doesn't want to take on that responsibility of having a dog, and my grandmother is blind and on dialysis and my grandfather has an extreme case of diabetes, hence the reason why I am taking care of them. And my brother, doesn't even return my phone calls. Hate to air out my dirty laundry, but if I could depend on my siblings.. I would. I do everything for my family. And the people who would take Reese in (my mom, and my grandparents.. can't because of their own setbacks). It's really hard on all of us. But as far as my sister and my brother.. they don't care.

So, with all the responsibility of taking care of both my grandparents and my mom, I chose to keep Teddy because he doesn't monopolize so much of my time. I can tell him what to do and he will do it. Theresa needs more one on one time, and I believe I can't give that to her.. while I tend to everything else. But, please DO NOT THINK FOR ONE MINUTE.. that my sister cares about my dog. She doesn't.

you are making a wonderful decision. Most people couldnt admit what you have, and would continue trying to poorly care for two dogs they couldnt handle. you are very responsible. i also admire you for takingher to the rescue group. there are many people in this world who would love to have a little yorkie but might not be able to afford the $1-2000+ for one. They might have much more time and availability in their lives to offer her a wonderful home. You shuld not feel bad, this is a lot more than many other people could do.

i understand your pain at having to rehome her and I am sorry it hasn't worked out for you. what I don't understand ,tho, is why you turned her over to a rescue instead of giving some wonderful YT member a chance at owning her. I'm glad you have such a glowing opinion of the rescue. That would have been my very last resort. Not bashing rescue here because I know that some are wonderful and do great things. Not trying to be mean or anything just very puzzled. Oh, I know you stated why but somehow that doesn't clear it up for me. nevertheless, good luck in your endeavors. you sure have a load on you. i hope everything works out alright. i know you are heartbroken over having to do this and I am sorry for both you and little Reese.

Time for yourself
 

Being a student is a lot of work. Taking care of sick family members can be overwhelming. You should be proud of all you are doing. Your baby will find a good home. You are doing the right thing. Be sure to take time for yourself. When you care for others it is easy to forget to care for yourself. Sending good wishes your way!

I'm sorry you had to rehome her,:( but there were so many people here that want and need a yorkie that would've given her a wonderful home. I was wondering why you didn't put her on yorkietalk to someone here where you would still be able to see pictures of her and know about her well being?

I respect you for making the right decision....your thinking of the dog first and not being selfish. I seriously think that is a mature decision for a 22 year old. Not that age is an excuse but trust me we have all bit off more than we can chew at times. Sounds ot me that your sister is the immature one and maybe is a little jealous of your proper decisions in life and your being able to step up to the plate when your family needs you too. I commend you taking the right steps and letting a foster mom care. Most foster people have dedicated their lives to saving and caring for babies I am sure you made the the right decision for your baby. Doing the right thing does not always make things feel right. Quite honestly it can make you feel like crap, and your sisters lil texting game isnt helping. Hiding behind a text is a chicken SH** way of making a point. Either way dont comcern yourself with her. You have thought of your baby first and thats what matters. Now you did the right thing so pick your chin and be proud of yourself, your a bigger person than a lot people I know. Keep us posted and have a happy 4th of July

A few of you have asked why I didn't post her on YT. I had actually thought about putting her on YT, but I wasn't sure what to price her at. She's 9 months old, and I wasn't sure if anyone would want a pup who's about to turn a year old. Plus, I don't know much about shipping pups, and things of that nature.

Plus, I talked to the lady at the rescue group. She will foster Theresa for a month in her own home, and then once she gets a good idea of her personality, then she will screen potential people to adopt her with.

The only thing with putting her on YT, is that I've seen the threads where people come in with good intentions about wanting the dog, and for some reason or another, can't handle the dog, or needs the dog to be sent back. I didn't want to put Theresa through all of that. I rather have her go with someone who will put her needs first, and will get a good idea of her personality and her in a home with the right people. Plus, she says they screen rather intensely. I rather have someone scrutinze who is getting my dog. They will have the time to do that, whereas I will not.

I just didn't want to run into the possibility of having her returned. That would not be fair to her, to me, or to Teddy. And with giving her to a YT member, there is a slight chance that might happen, even though they might have the best intentions. Because I have seen it happen here on these threads once before. And I don't think I can handle that.

Thank you so much for that. I truly truly truly do appreciate it. I honestly don't know what to say about my sister. But thank you. I will keep you updated.

That is what I was wondering too...If I ever had to give up Wobie, I'd give him up to a YT member so I could check up on him, see pictures, talk to his new owner all the time, and hear every little detail of his new life.

Reece will be happy in her new forever home, I'm sure, but for you, I think YT would have been a better option.

I'll be praying for your emothional healing and your family's physical well-being.

I just wanted to let you know that I'm on the receiving end of a re-homing. I got my baby Sugar last Friday from a lady who could no longer give her the time & attention she needed. She's a single mom of a 4 yr old and she's been working longer hours. She felt badly that Sugar was in her crate alone all of the time. She listed her in the classified ads on petfinder.com. I saw her notice and emailed her. We emailed back and forth several times, she had good answers for all of my questions and we agreed to meet. I know she was a good mommy to Sugar because Sugar is such a sweet dog. We brought her home Friday evening and as soon as she stepped foot into our house it was like she'd lived here forever. She didn't have any adjusting time, she was just home. The prior owner lived in a townhouse w/out a yard, just a concrete patio, so Sugar didn't have anywhere to run & play. We have a house w/ a large fenced back yard and Sugar loves running & playing or just laying on the deck watching the birds fly by. She's wonderful w/ my children and she's very interested in becoming friends w/ my cat (my cat isn't too interested in that but he tolerates Sugar!). My husband, daughters, and I fell in love with her instantly. She's a wonderful addition to our home.

I'm sure your baby will be adopted by a wonderful person/family who loves Yorkies but possibly couldn't afford to spend the money to purchase one from a breeder. She will be their special baby and they'll spoil her rotten.

I feel for you also because I have had to rehome a dog once before. She was a beautiful American Bulldog (70+ lbs). She was wonderful w/ our family but she was extremely aggressive to others, mostly children. She bit one of my neighbor boys on the hand, luckily it wasn't a bad bite, but she had the jaws and the muscle to seriously damage a child or an adult. She tried to bite another boy on his head, luckily my dad had ahold of her leash and was able to keep her back far enough so she only got drool on the boy. She never gave any warning growl or action, she just lunged. I tried everything to find her a new home myself but couldn't find any takers. She is now at an American Bulldog Rescue and I tell myself every day that she's found a wonderful new home w/out children. If I could have thought of any way to keep her I would have because I loved her so much, but any time we had company I had to keep her in her crate. Since we live in a neighborhood and have children over all the time it wasn't fair to her to live most of her life in a crate. My worst nighmare was that she would injure a child and I would have to have her put to sleep.

You need to forgive yourself for giving up your baby and know that she will find a wonderful forever home. Good luck with all of your responsibilities. Take care of yourself as well as all of the others in your life.

I'm all for the work Rescues do - but she'll be changing hands from the foster mom to the Forever home....so basically - she's going to 2 places in her future... and that can be just as stressful as being returned if something didn't work out with as you were worried about. But you're very right - they (rescues) do screen pretty intensely and if you don't have the time then you did the right thing for your situation.

All the best to your little yorkie. I hope she has a long happy life with someone who loves her unconditionally

From northern california
 

WHERE DID YOU TAKE THIS BABY.
I AM IN SANTA ROSA. WOULD LIKE TO FIND UOT MORE ABOUT HER
SASSY & T:aimeeyork EDE -BARE

I am so sorry your going through so much, you have a lot to handle...it sounds like you are the only responsible car taker of everyone around you....that alone will wear on you....this situation has to be so over whelming mentally & emotionally for you... then add on the hurt feelings of not feeling appreciated for all the sacrifices your willing to go through for everyone else's sake ....at least you will look back on this phase of your life & you can feel proud that you where there for the people you loved & cared about when they needed you the most......right now just focus on what you honestly feel is the right & proper thing to do...you don't have to satisfy any one else w/ any justifications or explanations....

no matter what you do in life , there will ALWAYS be people around you who will not agree w/ your decisions...sadly, there is no life w/o some pain...you do the best you can w/ what you have, that's all you can do....keep working for that dream...when you have a goal to focus on it gives you a sense of self worth & hope for a better future for yourself....you sound like a very responsible & caring young woman, take some time for your self once in a while to re energize ... good luck w/ your studies & bless you.....

You are not a bad mommy at all. You have realized what your limits are, and you know that 2 dogs is past your limit with everything else on your plate. In the end, you are doing it with the best of intentions.....for Reese's happiness.

I recently had to rehome my precious cockatoo of 5 years because her needs changed and I couldn't meet them. There was tension in the house 24x7 and no peace. I tried everything, and eventually came to the conclusion that I couldn't fix it. Giving her up was so very painful, and still is. I miss her a great deal, but I know that I made the right decision and she is happy where she is.

So, know that you will be sad. But take comfort knowing that Reese will be in good hands and in a good home.

Iam sorry you have to rehome one of your babys, that has to be so hard, Praying things work out for you & your little guy.

I am sure you will miss your little Theresa. I am so sorry you are having to go through all of this. Please know the rescue group that are taking your baby is caring and will do what is right for her.

Sorry you have to rehome your baby but maybe any yt member who lives near the shelter can pm you for the info and maybe someone here can still adopt her and at least you will feel really good knowing your baby is really with someone who cares about her and you can keep in contact with them!! Just a suggestion but I wish you the best on your future and commend you for taking care of your grandparents!!!

i remember when this person was looking for a baby. I'm just so glad it isn't one of my babies. i wonder if the breeder that sold this puppy has it in her contract that the baby be returned to her before it is sold or re-homed? if so, she has legal grounds to take this baby out of rescue where in my opinion it should have never been placed to start with.

It makes me sad and angry to see someone rehoming a dog. I just wish more people would put more thought into getting a dog before they get it and think about the long-term consequences of having the dog. It's so hard on a dog to be rehomed and sad to have to put a dog through that. I just can't imagine rehoming mine EVER for any reason - I'm her whole world and I love her so much that there is no way I'd part with her. She's not just a dog to me - she's my child and a big responsiblity and pretty much #1 priority. I believe that when you get a pet, it should be for life. I guess if you just really couldn't handle it, I'm glad you are rehoming her...I just hope her next home is with someone who keeps her for life. I'm honestly not writing this to make you feel bad - I just hear of way too many people rehoming their dogs and it's gotten to a point to where I just can't stand to hear of someone rehoming their dog anymore

Life is full of surprises and instant changes....no one who makes a decesion to do something positive and something that they want ever expects that very thing they have so desired to be taken from them or that they are put in a situation that they have to make a major life change due to circumstances beyond their control that affects not only them but those around them..including the pets... I pray for him during this hard time in which he is doing what is right for his situation in this season of his life and I pray for you and everyone else who is a pet owner that a situation beyond their control does not come up where they have to make the same decesion this owner has had to do. While hearing this is frustrating I thank God Theresa will have a good home and not be one of the dogs that are just dropped off somewhere to fend for themselves...There will be a happy ending to this story

:thumbup: well said

As painful as it was to do, I agree that you did the right thing. You made a very mature and difficult decision and I applaud you. I am sure that Theresa will find a wonderful 4-ever home. Sometimes unexpected things just come our way and force us to make decisions that are so painful, but you are young and have a whole lot on your plate. You sound like a very responsible and caring person too. I too, have a Yorkie who was rehomed to me. She was in a home with a single mom and worked and went to school and although it was very hard for her to do, she knew that giving up Gia to someone old and boring like myself:rolleyes: was the best thing. And Gia had little or no stress with the whole situation. She adjusted quite quickly (as the bossy little Princess) and is a wonderful little girl that I just love with all my heart.
Good Luck to you with school too!

With all due respect ma'am I was never on here looking for a puppy. I had gotten Teddy and Theresa way before I joined here. Please, I'm hurt right now. and I'm truly truly upset.. if you could kindly refrain from saying negative things I'd appreciate it.

I made this thread looking for support and comfort, I certainly did not want this to be a negative experience. It hurts with my heart to know I had to give my baby up. It truly does. I have never given up on anything in my entire life. Not my family, my school, nothing. It hurts to know you have failed at something. And while life may be perfection for you.. knowing I failed Reese is something I'm going to have to live with for the rest of my life. She was spoiled rotten with me, I loved that dog with all my heart. She was everything. My dogs are my life. Anybody who knew me can say that. It hurts to make that kind of decision. More and more yorkietalk is becoming less than a place of refuge and more of a place of criticism. A simple, I'm sorry for your loss wil do. If you truly feel in your heart that you can't do that, then please just don't reply.

I don't come on here and post threads often, and so to get comments like this makes me shy away from ever posting again. To everyone with their nice words, thank you so much.

To the other two ladies, I'm so sorry you feel you have to say those things to someone who is obviously hurting. I'm crying right now. If you want my number to hear me sob on the phone I will give it to you. I'd like to see you then say something like that to me. I love my dogs. I would have died for my dogs. But I know I wasn't being fair to Theresa. I look out for the best interest of my babies, and Reese will always be my heart. It hurts me, kills, me, and pains me for you to ever think that she wouldn't be. I love that dog. And I cannot believe you would take the time to write that. If I had more time I would love to train her the right way. I didn't plan on my grandparents to get sick, I didn't ask for my mom to have MS. If either of those things didn't happen, I would have the time to take care of Reese. I feel as though you are making me out to be a bad person, when all I have is love for her. I would give my life to make sure that dog received the best care. I am going to make sure to find out who the owner is and ask if I can send them gifts and money for Theresa in case she ever needed anything. I put those dogs before myself, and it pains me to think you have the audacity to think I don't. Shame on you.

im sorry!!! this is a place of support and comfort! i dont know whats been goin on , on YT lately but i have been seeing it too. Im not saying anything about the two ladies that made those responses im talking about yt in general i think we are all PMSing or something i dont know.

but i do apologise and i am sorry you had to give her up. i hope everything perks up in your life and that you can be successful in law school. also that you will continue to stay on YT and keep us updated on your journeys in life! I also wish that you could have gave her to a YT member or let one of us foster her till you were able to take her back maybe someone close by! but i know you did what you thought was best and i know they will take care of her. just keep your chin up.

we all love each other here and im sure no one means to hurt anyone.