why would you not wanna be around a puppy this is why the dog doesnt like you and i see if you keep the dog its gonna get so close to her and hate you you wont be able to be near her it will bite you
dogs sense when there not liked

After reading more post, I'm not seeing that Nodak wants advice but somedoby that would tell him that, because of his circunstances, it is ok to get rid of the dog.
OK, nodoby is going to tell you that here, sorry.

you know what Chris...... I feel sorry for the pup and for Heidi.:(

Now you are just trying to get us fired up. Are you trying to convince us that you where the pants in your relationship, or trying to convince yourself. You are ridiculous. You are jealous of the attention your girlfriend gives someone/something else, lets ask ourselves WHY? Insecurity? control issues? Just thoughts to ponder.

I think thats what he need a good nip :cool:

you know what?,, this dog sees the other side of you... they are not stupid.

there is reason for this and only you know it..... and stop scolding!!!!!!!!
and stop calling the dog ( it).!!!!! you have come to the wrong place to
talk about your concern if your going to talk like that..... we are all in the same boat here and we all believe and treat our dogs with respect , care,
and kindness.. no other treatment is tolerated by us..

yes, I think that's what he wants. I wouldn't waste my time in this thread. There are people here waiting for advice. I haven't read a positive response to any suggestion given to him

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paula I almost posted exactly this! Insecurity, jealosy and EXTREMELY young mentally & emotionally! poor girl, poor pup!

Nodak, you sound very bitter about this whole situation...
Personally, I don't think you have given the dog enough time to bond with you at all. It sounds like you're jealous of him, and that's just silly!! It's a puppy :) They're cute and cuddly...If you just open your heart, you will fall in love with your new puppy. It should be both of you that love the dog, not just your fiance. For your fiance's sake, you should give him a REAL chance, and I guarantee you and the dog will bond.
As far as scolding him for going #2 on the carpet...Look up positive reinforcement training. It is soooo much more effective than negativity...
When my husband and I wanted to get a yorkie we researched positive reinforcement training. Our yorkie was about 97-99% potty trained within one month...Within one week, he already knew where to go. Maybe you should try that :) Look it up, and see what you think.
Don't get discouraged that the dog doesn't seem to like you. You need to just make him feel comfortable as far as all yorkies picking only one person, that's not always true. Our male yorkie loves BOTH my husband and I equally.
My maltese has a problem with barking at other people and not feeling comfortable around them. She'll take a treat from them, but run away. The way we have started fixing this is not by scolding her or anything like that....It's by having the guests ignore her, and then have treats in their hands, and she comes to them, and then they pet her and she has improved drastically.
If you don't want to give this puppy a chance, and give it a go, then you should really rehome him. It's not fair to the dog to not be loved by all members of the household. I think that you feel like you have to act a certain way and act uncaring about the dog, but seriously, open up your heart, and if you decide that you really just don't like him, then rehome him.

It sounds to me like you have control issues and you are jealous of the little dog. If I were Heidi I would keep the dog and rehome you.

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I am heartbroken for this poor innocent pup. Please rehome him. Let Hiedi read this thread so she can read and understand that, you do not like "the dog" and "the dog" doesn't like you. He deserves better than to be crated for 20 hours and to be punished for not being potty trained. I now see why our shelters are so overpopulated.
This entire thread is a D*mn Shame!

P.S. I really don't understand how someone can come to a dog lovers forum and be so inconsiderate towards dogs. Something is not right:confused:

Doodlebug, You took the words right off of my keyboard!!!!

my thoughts exactly, and I'll keep the rest of my thoughts to myself...:(

Well, then the rehoming is not an option, I take it? Then you might as well get used to the situation and try to be a good "daddie" to your little Yorkie pup...

As for the communication with a newborn child... it's kinda difficult too... you will experience that when you walk up and down all night and try to figure out why he/she is crying... and crying... and crying...... until you feel "rehoming" might be a good idea...:D

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You know, you sound an awful lot like my first husband. He got thrown out. My little dog stayed.

Heidi's family got jealous b/c she was with me all the time....she stayed with me, even though I even told her she needed to talk to her family more.

her friends got jealous she wasn't around anymore...even gave her an ultimatum...and I'm still here.

They were both "no-brainer" decisions....we're both humans, so our bond is the most important.

Oh, and telling me not to scold it for going on the carpet?? Don't get mad at ME for that, Heidi does a ton of that scolding too. She puts it in the crate for punishment more often than me.

Well then, I assume you'd have negative words for Heidi too, since the punishing for not being potty trained and keeping it in the crate 20 hours a day certainly isn't all my doing.

Are you saying you think she's a poor owner?

"Rehoming" won't happen anytime soon...even fi we did...the argument that we paid so much money for it would come up....and that it was money wasted...the only thing we could do is try to re-sell the dog, but by then he wouldn't be a puppy anymore and people dont' seem to pay much for adults...

I think the age is 13 weeks now...that or 12 weeks...I'd have to look at the papers to know for sure....sorry I can't help much on that...I DO know that he weighs almost 4 pounds, because I put him on the scale at Petco...haha.

Oh..name is Tanner.

Hmmmm. Her family.
Her friends.
Now a puppy.

Sorry, but there's a lot more going on here than frustration with a dog.

And with potty-training already an issue, it's only going to get worse.

Nodak, you should never put a dog in a crate for punishment. That is their den and a safe place. You wouldn't want him to stop liking his crate, would you?

As long as the dog (what is his name?) is not hurting you, why not just keep him for Heidi? He may or may not warm up to you but does that really matter? At the same time if you two can't find more time to spend with him maybe you should rehome him. Four to five hours a day with a puppy is not long enough. On top of that you have Chris and Heidi time which is fine (I'm all for strong relationships) but that takes more time away from him. I am gone for maybe 10 hours a week and when I leave my Yorkie is devastated. They need a lot of attention.

Crystal

I wonder how much they'll give for you ?

Now I see why the puppy isn't bonding with you.

You both are poor owners if this is how you both treat him.

Well then she is what she is.

Like Heidi says...

"Everybody's an expert"

It's not my fault her friends and family got jealous. They were used to having her around all the time..then she wasn't. But you'll have to note the part where I mentioned I told Heidi she shoudl spend more time around her family. Again, can't place that one on me. I'm like Teflon there.

So when will you be at my local comedy club?? You're an absolute riot. Do you write your own material?

You must have missed the part where I said Heidi felt the same way. She's SAID so. So then, how can the puppy bond with Heidi if she puts me first? Bad logic.