Quote from your other post: "I'm guessing the stimuli could be that last night I was too rough grabbing him when we were scolding it...it was running away and I nabbed him really fast, and he let out a high-pitched whimper when I did...leading me to believe I was too rough."

I think he is just scared of you because of the way you discipline him. Maybe if you lighten up a little with him he will like you more. JMO

:thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: Great post Gina:)

You and your children can bond with the dog, the dog will probably become attached to them as well. Of course though if you're in doubt then you already know what you should do..

Here is what I have gathered:

You didn't really want a dog: you said you ONLY got it because Heidi wanted it.

You absolutely do not want a dog that does not like you and you have already determined that this dog does not.

The dog seems "scared" of you. This really concerns me-

You feel that 3 animals is too many.

The puppy is left, by your own admission on it's own/in a crate 19 to 20 hours a day. You don't seem willing or able to make arrangments for someone to care for the puppy while you are gone.

You had a nine day vacation that could have been used to bond and housetrain a new puppy but you got the puppy after the "vacation".

Yes, this puppy should be rehomed. I rarely say that but it is painfully obvious here. And soon, while he is still young enough to bond with others.

I think you meant well-you were trying to be kind and considerate and allow your girlfriend to have want she wanted-all very sweet of you. BUT a puppy (or baby) is not the same as compromising on a car or where to go on vacation.

This just isn't the right puppy for you...and more importanly this is NOT the right time for you to have and raise a puppy...you are too busy, gone too much and not in a situation where you can have someone help out.


A reputable breeder would not want the pup to be in an unsuitable home-most breeders would take a puppy back if it were not a good fit.

Best wishes to you and that puppy...

please, if you dont think you could handle children and puppy, please find
a home that could... dogs need loads of attention , just like children and
i wouldnt want to see the anminal neglected, because in some instances,
they are............ i only have one animal and thats lexi. no human children and i tell you one thing,, my dog is a handful..... a bigggggggggg
handful... and the love of my life other than my boyfriend... we both love lexi
like a real human child and i wouldnt have it any other way.... he's the daddy
and im the mommy... even when he calls for her, he will say, lexi
come to daddy and thats the best feeling...and she goes to him...

LOTS of good points here. I agree - you need to seriously think about the pros and cons of having a yorkie & LONG TERM solutions that are best for your puppy....I said earlier they aren't for everyone....

you say this so well :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup:

Just curious... if you are only home for 5 hours or so a night you would need that time really to sleep... how do you expect to have time to even make 2 or 3 children? ;) ;) ;) Let alone to take care of them... I always think children need at least one parent to be there for them full time... And you are right, children are the biggest responsiblility there is and we call or dogs furbabies or furkids not just b/c we are nuts but b/c they are the same huge responsibility!

Besides, it sounds as if you are still very young and maybe you two should live and mature a little more and tend to your careers before you make such a big commitment... dog or children...

And one more thing... it's too bad but you just can't "testdrive" a dog (or a child) and if it's not what you expected just give it back or away and try out another one...

Here's a little tip from your Aunt Paula.....Children don't like you all the time either, if thats going to upset you, you may want to think about it. And just in case you haven't read any of the other post's on this forum, just about every single person on yorkietalk feels their dog is their baby. I think your trying to get us fired up on purpose. If your sincere, please re-home your dog. And, a Yorkie could not be farther from a cat. Especially a yorkie pup.

You are saying what I believe to be true...but there is no way on this green earth that Heidi would agree to rehome the dog. No way. You'll have to trust me and how well I know her.

And children will also choose one parent over the other! My oldest daughter loves my husband, my son is a mama's boy, my youngest daughter could care less about any of us and prefers my husband's mother. :rolleyes:

No, I'm not trying to rile people up...I have better things to do with my time than make up some ruse online....this is a serious concern...one I'm not happy with at all.

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Nodak,
I get the impression that you are pretty young. Also that you are jealous of your puppy & fiances bond because it does not involve you personally. If you & her had a child (a skin,human child) and that child wanted its mother over its father all the time (like young children typically do) would you feel that same jealousy? Ive known a lot of guys who had children young and were in a fairly short term relationship before getting married and they were jealous of their own child. They felt the child took away from mommy & daddy time too much.

I don't want to say anything negative bc I dont know you or your fiance, but I think YOU need to create a bond with the puppy. Puppies LOVE attention and affection. If you YELL at him or are rough with him then OF COURSE he will fear you! You created that fear, its not that he just naturally dislikes you! Maybe you should take him to a training class where you BOTH could be trained. (many people need this). Since this is your first puppy, you probaby need help on training him and how to approach it, and training help for the pup won't hurt the pup either! That might help you bond with him too. If you took him, just you, to a couple of classes. Then you'll have one on one time with him and he'll see you as a shelter for him, protector and friend when Heidi is not around. He'll be more likely to come to you more often even when she is around after that too.

Also, its ok to not think of your dog as one of your children, nothing wrong with that... but a dog is still a BIG responsibility, LIKE a child. You need to provide for something living. So whether you think of the dog as human like or non-human like... use his name and gender. You sound like YOU dont like dogs when you keep saying 'IT'. I think thats why people are saying you are not an animal person.

Good Luck!

But....will the child run and hide when I come near it?? Will it refuse to speak to me for a long time?? Unlikely.

With children, you can communicate very well...dogs, not being human, are not as easy to communicate with...obviously, without a common language, your'e in a hard place.

well then what you said earlier is not true you do not come before the dog....

Ha, Heidi was attached to the dog the minute we got it...from that moment on, there was no turning back...even if a "testdrive" was possible, she wouldn't have let go of it.

I know if I were a child and you grabed me and it hurt Just because I wouldn't come YES I would HIDE.

LOL....Heidi said that she'd get rid of the dog if I made her do it.

I was talking about if it was up to her.

I'm her relationship of 3 years...the dog has been with her for 1 week. Trust me. All I have to do is exert pressure, and the dog would be gone.

But I'm a bigger person than that....I'm not doing that.

oh yes it will lock itself in the room and say I HATE you and not talk to you for weeks !!

you can speak to a dog just like to speak to children i think there better behaved than most children jmo

I didn't grab it simply b/c it wouldn't come, I grabbed it because BOTH Heidi and I were running after it to catch it so we could scold it for crapping on the carpet.

oh your wrong,, my dog communicates with me... she knows exactly what
im saying... shes probaby smarter than any 2 year old human i know...

:thumbup:

Oh...and in case you want further proof the dog doesn't come before me, daisy-mae, all I have to do is tell Heidi I want "Chris and Heidi" time....

...and she puts away the dog immediately and comes upstairs with me. No asking twice. Seriously, putting a dog before your significant other is silly.

(Edit: And I do that sometimes just so I don't have to have the dog around me. Works like a charm.)

Oh and I don't know about everyone but my Dogs/cat and I sometimes comunicated better than my Kid. LOL

Never scold it for going in the house its your fault cause you werent watching
praise him for going in the right spots

GIve the puppy more time!! you got it recently and you are not at home that much; you cannot expect him to be attached to you that way, especially if there is someone else in the house who spends more time with him. Take him on walks, feed him, do stuff that an owner does, so he feels you are also the pack leader. And also, do not put the dog under pressure, he know if you are mad at him, and he''l be more scared of you.
Personally, I wouldn't rehome a dog unless he's putting the a member of the family in danger. But if I had a dog that just prefers to be with another member of the family, I would get a dog that would prefer me :)

so the dog is alone ALL day and gets put away Again when its getting alittle attention Poor puppy

Oh you are sooo very young & jealous! rehome the dog... you definately are not ready for dogs or children yet either.

A child can and will do all of those things! Communication with a young child is difficult as well.

I agree, if Heidi is not willing to rehome the dog at all, then the two of you are not on the same page about him after all (as you stated in one of your ealier posts).

How old is your Pup ? How long have you had HIM and Please what is his name??? Gess Dude You really are getting to me with the (IT'S) You can't train a dog in one day, and Positve training works better than being a bully and I think that is what you are doing!