Why does it seem like my yorkie doesnt like me? - YorkieTalk.com Forums

diamanto · 01-06-2007, 09:45 AM

Hey guys- I was given a yorkie as a gift a few months ago, when i got him he was 3 months old and very affectionate. He would always go to other people but knew that i was his mom and would come sit on my feet or would want to climb up into my arms. i go to school in queens ny and brought him upstate for the first time around thanksgiving to meet my family. Now im home for winter break...hes 5months now. He is very affectionate with my mother, sister and father... and will cry when they leave the house. But he isnt like that with me. does he not recognize me as his mother anymore? is it because i am the one who "disciplines" him when he does something wrong. is there anything i can do to change it?

Heather Taylor · 01-06-2007, 10:12 AM

What type of discipline are we talking about?

diamanto · 01-06-2007, 10:15 AM

...nothing physical... just a little tap on the nose (still working on potty training) or ill point my finger and say no in a stern voice... these are things that the people that sold us the dog said were ok ???

diamanto · 01-06-2007, 10:19 AM

...nothing physical... just a little tap on the nose (still working on potty training) or ill point my finger and say no in a stern voice... these are things that the people that sold us the dog said were ok ??? the thing is my family.. never yells at him ever. if he does something wrong... they think its cute and he gets away with everything

chachi · 01-06-2007, 10:20 AM

I would quit tapping the nose. Who feeds and gives the pup treats?

Heather Taylor · 01-06-2007, 10:20 AM

I'm certainly no expert, but I had another yorkie about 5 or 6 years ago. Chloe is only three months old now. Saying no and redirecting works with her...followed by lots of scratches and "good girls" when she redirects her behavior.

To bond with your puppy, I think it is important to play with her, praise her, and simply hang out with her. Chloe is a lap baby. Maybe you could observe what types of play your family does or other things that your pup responds well to with them and duplicate it a bit. JMO, again...no expert.

and yelling is scary...maybe that's causing problems. Just try NO in a firm voice, while redirecting the behavior.

sashajade · 01-06-2007, 10:21 AM

when you say you go to school do you mean you leave him with your mother and father so he is with them more than you?
cos if so that could be why he seems closer to them as he is with them more often.

diamanto · 01-06-2007, 10:23 AM

i feed him and give him his treats... my parents though when im not around give him table food. :-/ do you think he will become more affectionate after being neutered b/c he is quite hyper now....

diamanto · 01-06-2007, 10:25 AM

when im at school he is in queens with me... i usually leave him at my apt with his toys, food, and the tv on and go check up on him between classes. when we are upstate at my parents house... usually all of us are here.

rox626 · 01-06-2007, 10:33 AM

Dogs have their little personality quirks. He's getting older and maybe that's why he's more independent than he was when you first got him. When Debbie and I are home alone she is usually off by herself. Right now she's lying in my bedroom while I am out in the dining room.

She used to go to my parents when I was at work and when they'd pick me up in the car, many times she'd just continue to sit on my mom's lap like I wasn't even there. I was just glad that she was happy to be with other people when I wasn't around. I feel bad for dogs that are so attached to one person that they can't function when their owners aren't around.

Sometimes I think Debbie avoids me cause I'm the one who brushes her hair and all that unpleasant stuff. I'm sure your puppy still loves you but it's good that he loves your family too.

diamanto · 01-06-2007, 10:35 AM

im the one who bathes and brushes him as well. i just hope that when we go back down to queens he'll warm up to me again.

Thank you for all your help/advice. hope it works!

yorkiepip · 01-06-2007, 10:39 AM

I think you probably try to hard! he doesnt have to work at it to get your love, you prob constantly try and play,pet,kiss him etc, so he knows when he feels like it he can come back and you will be there, whereas with the others he is greeting them "ooooh like me ,look at me, give me some attention" because its not there all the time, a bit like humans really you dont crave what you already have! And he obviously knows he has your love already so why work at it!

ditsy · 01-06-2007, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by yorkiepip

I think you probably try to hard! he doesnt have to work at it to get your love, you prob constantly try and play,pet,kiss him etc, so he knows when he feels like it he can come back and you will be there, whereas with the others he is greeting them "ooooh like me ,look at me, give me some attention" because its not there all the time, a bit like humans really you dont crave what you already have! And he obviously knows he has your love already so why work at it!

I'd agree with this one .... try holding back a little (I know its hard).

When you come home, don't be all excited with him, but just say hello and do what you normally do.

Try not to "gush" when he does something good or cute ... but instead just a simple "good boy" and a light ear rub (or whatever you boy likes).

Try it for a couple of weeks and see if there is any change.

Each pup has its own personality, yours may just be very independent.

Try bonding with him by teaching him tricks and agility stuff ?

Emmsmom · 01-06-2007, 02:47 PM

I agree. It may just be his personality. Diesel got his but "popped" when a stern NO wouldn't work. Now he is my baby. He follows me from room to room. He gets very depressed when I leave also. So I don't think it is how you are disciplining him, I think it is just his personality. You can bet the first time he gets hurt or scared he will come running! LOL

diamanto · 01-06-2007, 06:14 PM

) thank you ill keep ya updated

01-06-2007, 09:45 AM	#1
diamanto YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Queens Posts: 7	Why does it seem like my yorkie doesnt like me? Hey guys- I was given a yorkie as a gift a few months ago, when i got him he was 3 months old and very affectionate. He would always go to other people but knew that i was his mom and would come sit on my feet or would want to climb up into my arms. i go to school in queens ny and brought him upstate for the first time around thanksgiving to meet my family. Now im home for winter break...hes 5months now. He is very affectionate with my mother, sister and father... and will cry when they leave the house. But he isnt like that with me. does he not recognize me as his mother anymore? is it because i am the one who "disciplines" him when he does something wrong. is there anything i can do to change it?

01-06-2007, 10:20 AM	#5
chachi I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana Posts: 37,147	I would quit tapping the nose. Who feeds and gives the pup treats? __________________ Chachi's & Jewels Mom Jewels http://www.dogster.com/?132431 Chachi http://www.dogster.com/?132427

01-06-2007, 10:21 AM	#7
sashajade YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: kent england Posts: 1,646	when you say you go to school do you mean you leave him with your mother and father so he is with them more than you? cos if so that could be why he seems closer to them as he is with them more often. __________________ Facebook group yorkies & small terriers worlwide needing fur-ever homes & deathrow Zac Brandi Suki

01-06-2007, 10:39 AM	#12
yorkiepip Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Brittany France Posts: 2,420	I think you probably try to hard! he doesnt have to work at it to get your love, you prob constantly try and play,pet,kiss him etc, so he knows when he feels like it he can come back and you will be there, whereas with the others he is greeting them "ooooh like me ,look at me, give me some attention" because its not there all the time, a bit like humans really you dont crave what you already have! And he obviously knows he has your love already so why work at it! __________________ Anne, Pippa, Jake Woody

01-06-2007, 02:47 PM	#14
Emmsmom YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Virginia Posts: 989	I agree. It may just be his personality. Diesel got his but "popped" when a stern NO wouldn't work. Now he is my baby. He follows me from room to room. He gets very depressed when I leave also. So I don't think it is how you are disciplining him, I think it is just his personality. You can bet the first time he gets hurt or scared he will come running! LOL __________________ MICHELLE DIESEL "The Weasel" and little brother TUCKER

01-06-2007, 10:12 AM	#2
Heather Taylor Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Mississippi Posts: 104	What type of discipline are we talking about?

01-06-2007, 10:15 AM	#3
diamanto YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Queens Posts: 7	...nothing physical... just a little tap on the nose (still working on potty training) or ill point my finger and say no in a stern voice... these are things that the people that sold us the dog said were ok ???

01-06-2007, 10:19 AM	#4
diamanto YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Queens Posts: 7	...nothing physical... just a little tap on the nose (still working on potty training) or ill point my finger and say no in a stern voice... these are things that the people that sold us the dog said were ok ??? the thing is my family.. never yells at him ever. if he does something wrong... they think its cute and he gets away with everything

01-06-2007, 10:23 AM	#8
diamanto YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Queens Posts: 7	i feed him and give him his treats... my parents though when im not around give him table food. :-/ do you think he will become more affectionate after being neutered b/c he is quite hyper now....

01-06-2007, 10:25 AM	#9
diamanto YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Queens Posts: 7	when im at school he is in queens with me... i usually leave him at my apt with his toys, food, and the tv on and go check up on him between classes. when we are upstate at my parents house... usually all of us are here.

01-06-2007, 10:33 AM	#10
rox626 YT Addict Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: New Jersey Posts: 328	Dogs have their little personality quirks. He's getting older and maybe that's why he's more independent than he was when you first got him. When Debbie and I are home alone she is usually off by herself. Right now she's lying in my bedroom while I am out in the dining room. She used to go to my parents when I was at work and when they'd pick me up in the car, many times she'd just continue to sit on my mom's lap like I wasn't even there. I was just glad that she was happy to be with other people when I wasn't around. I feel bad for dogs that are so attached to one person that they can't function when their owners aren't around. Sometimes I think Debbie avoids me cause I'm the one who brushes her hair and all that unpleasant stuff. I'm sure your puppy still loves you but it's good that he loves your family too.

01-06-2007, 10:35 AM	#11
diamanto YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Queens Posts: 7	im the one who bathes and brushes him as well. i just hope that when we go back down to queens he'll warm up to me again. Thank you for all your help/advice. hope it works!

01-06-2007, 06:14 PM	#15
diamanto YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Queens Posts: 7	) thank you ill keep ya updated