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12-26-2006, 08:06 AM | #1 |
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| How do you ask someone NOT to bring thier dog? I would really like to ask my granny to come to my house to visit and stay for a meal. We live about 3 hours away tho. Problem is that she feels that her dog is a child so to speak. She won't leave him home alone to go anywhere unless it is to church or somewhere she really can't take him. She will also only leave him at home if she is gone no more than an hour. Granny's dog is a Yorkie and he isn't fixed. When ANYONE goes to her house he starts marking her own house. When I go over Diesel is always with me and and he is just a perfect angel . He doesn't mark anything unless he goes outside to pee.He also will not pee in her house. I really DON"T want her dog here. He is agressive and I am terrified that once he gets here he will smell our dogs and then start marking things. I can NOT and will NOT deal with it. My dogs don't do it and neither will he. She won't buy him a belly band either. I have suggested it and she just balks at the idea. To be honest her dog has a LOT of unwanted behavioral issues. The top two problems are marking and not being housebroken yet. SOOOO.. How do you invite someone over and say don't bring your dog? Or do you just not invite them over to avoid problems?
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12-26-2006, 08:13 AM | #2 |
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| That's a tough one. My answer would be for YOU to put a belly band on him. Also, everyone thinks their own yorkie is the sweetest and best but if I were you, I would not be taking my dog to other peoples houses either unless he is specifically invited. They might feel the same way about not wanting your dog there but just don't say anything. |
12-26-2006, 08:16 AM | #3 |
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| I agree with Sugar's Mom - this is a tough one. I also would put a belly band on him as soon as he arrives and just explain to your granny that as he isn't housebroken you don't want him marking because of the smell of your pups. I would probably also contain my own pups for their safety or you can plan to do that if he acts aggressively. You never know though, they could play well together.
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12-26-2006, 08:17 AM | #4 |
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| If I were you, I would buy a belly band and once your grandma gets there, put the belly band on her dog. It doesn't sound likely that she would come without the dog, so with a belly band, at least you could protect your home. If she complains about the belly band, just say you are protecting your home. My daughter has a dog that marks and he isn't allowed here without a belly band. Good luck!
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12-26-2006, 08:19 AM | #5 |
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| Luv my sissy has a good point about the belly band. You could tell your granny that she can bring her dog if she puts a belly band on him (or allows you to). If she resists, be honest about the marking and peeing in a kind way. She would surely understand your worry about having your home marked. If not, she needs some granny lessons - send her up here, I'll teach her! |
12-26-2006, 08:21 AM | #6 |
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| I can see your point. However,I always ask Granny before going over if it is ok. She says sure come on and bring him with you. Yes, I guess we all think our dogs are good. Mine actually is. He isn't agressive, loves other dogs, is housebroken (even when we go to someones house),and he doesn't mark anyones house. I would put a belly band on him but there is no way she would allow it.
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12-26-2006, 08:22 AM | #7 |
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| Lie. Tell her that your dog is very sick with Coccidia or something and you don't want your pup to get her pup sick. This really happened to me on Xmas eve, and it wasn't a lie. But you could say it if you don't wanna hurt her feelings.
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12-26-2006, 08:25 AM | #8 |
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| I expect that I am going to have to insist. Either he wears a belly band or else. I just hate having to go that route. She is 78 and VERY set in her ways. Diesel and charlie will play for a while and then they start to get on each others nerves. LOL Tink's mom... I would love for you to teach her some granny manners. I love her to death but man she is very touchy!!
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12-26-2006, 08:37 AM | #9 |
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| Sounds like she will not go anywhere without her pup. I do understand that. I believe that it is your house and your rules. Let her know before she comes over the concerns you have and your solutions. "I will get the x-pen ready for him so he will be safe and not be tempted to mark." Or I will put this belly band on him so he will not have any accidents in a new environment, that way I will not have any extra work to do." Just be compassionate but firm. Good Luck.
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12-26-2006, 03:12 PM | #10 |
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| Respect is a two way street. Your grandma is not respecting you if she insists on letting her marking, peeing dog to run around your house without a belly band on. I don't think it is at all rude to request that he wears it and you are even willing to provide it. It's not as if you are putting a straight jacket on him. The belly band is not an instrument of torture. If you're really brave, you ought to print out this thread for your grandma to read. Maybe that will make her realize that she is being unreasonable. Then again, she just might write you out of the will. |
01-07-2007, 09:56 PM | #11 |
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| I don't have boys so it may be easy for me to say BUT I do work with Seniors in the age group you are talking about. IF it was me: I would by 2, one for my dog and one for hers. I would explain a little white lie that after she goes home, your's start marking as well, this way it won't embarrass her too much. I am assuming she sees him marking (since you didn't say) Explain to her how hard it "was" to clean up after both babies and how your's continues long after she is gone, tell her you did some reading and this was suggested for this sort of problem. It most probably will go well if both babies are treated the same. Make sure when you get them made up, they have a pretty print (especially on her babys) a print she would be most attracted too! White lies need to be used with Seniors to protect their feelings. You wouldn't believe how many think I wear pull ups just so I can suggest it to them and get them to go along with the idea without embarrassment, but once they "know" I wear them for protection they are more willing to give them a try. At 78, she may wear or need them as well
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01-07-2007, 09:59 PM | #12 |
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| An afterthought As i was leaving I thought, if you are really thinking belly band will make her angry, why not meet at a half way point in a restaurant to visit with your Grannie. Then both dogs are left out and no one is marking neither house Just a thought, so you wouldn;t have to give up a visit with Grannie
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