Staying home from Christmas Eve dinner to prove a point!
 

MERRY CHRISTMAS ALL!
I don't know if you remember my post a few weeks ago asking if I were overprotective or not. It seems the past couple days have been like "pass the puppy" and I feel horrible for my baby.

Anyway - last time my mothers side of the family was over, they were tormenting the puppy. One of my aunts let her lick cake off her plate and then theya ll laughed at me when I got angry about it. They wanted her to jump off places she shouldn't, etc.,etc.,etc.

SO TONIGHT is a dinner for that side of the family. My aunt actually called here saying two of my cousins hadn't seen the puppy yet and to make sure that I brought her. I was going to go to the dinner, leave my baby at home to make sure she would be okay. I knew they might bug me for not taking her - but after that phone call, I defnitely knew they would not drop it. My mom was on the phone with her and I said "NO I AM NOT BRINGING HER" and my mom would say to my aunt "OHHH OKAY I'LL TELL HER TO BRING HER" like she's not a TOY! If I brought her, she would want to sit with me - b/c she's never been to this house before, but then I woul dbe mean for not letting anyone hold her. I know that they would let her eat their food and maybe even step on her (there would probably be about 40 people there)

So I am not going. I think my mom understands, as after the last time I was so upset with the way they acted. My older sister has a rottie - when he was a puppy, did they get mad if she didn't bring him around? NO! My baby is not a toy and I am standing my ground tonight (even though it sucks I'm missing a family dinner)... but I gues sif that's what it takes, I have to.

I don't blame you at all they don't understand how fragile these babies can be! Good for you for sticking it out!

I'm sorry to hear that your family is still acting like she's a toy. I wouldn't want to bring my puppy if my family was like that either. How come you still won't go and leave the puppy at home for a couple hours though? That way if you go and they say "Where's the puppy" you can say exactly why you didn't bring her.

I don't really know how to describe the harassment if I don't take her. These people seem to be totally stupid when it comes to small dogs. When they were here last time I finally picked up Miss Kimber and went into the living room so they would leave her be. They then proceeded to tell me how I was too overprotective and I shouldn't be that way.

Last time two of my cousins (who are like 15 - not that young) wanted to dress her up. My mom actually brought her clothes to them and I had to freak out to get them to leave my pup alone and then all I heard about was how overprotective I was.

I don't want to deal with their harassment tonight I guess.

Good for you!! :thumbup: I would not take my baby either. I just got my first yorkie pup and have waited for many many years to get her. There is no way I would let people do that to her. I'm glad you are standing your ground and if they ask why you are not there, just tell them. I would make sure they understood how you felt about it because I am sure you don't want to avoid every dinner they have frome here on out.

Hope things get better ;)

Mandee

Then, don't. It is a shame to be pushed to making a choice between family time and the safety of a pet who depends on you for her safe-keeping. But, sometimes life just hands us situations that demand those decisions. If / when asked why you would miss a family function "over a dog", smile sweetly and say - "Welllll.....I don't have the $$$ for vet bills should she be stepped on, dropped, or be overly-stressed. Do you? When the family learns to treat her like the living creature she is, and will respect my judgments concerning her - then, maybe we all can enjoy her."

If you don't want to deal with their harrassment, don't go but you have every right to enjoy your evening and every right to leave your puppy at home in a safe place if you chose to do so. If some one wants to see your puppy you can invite them as a guest in your home if you chose. You have to stand up for and protect your puppy. If you don't, who will?

I think you should go and say just what Abbie's Mom suggested. So what if they think you're a kook and overprotective. They need to respect your wishes.

I don't blame you one bit. I am going to a friend's house tonight, she asked me to bring Gracie. Now granted, this is just a mother and twenty one year old daughter we are talking about. The last time I brought Gracie, they did not agree with me keeping her on a leash at all times (that is part of her training and still is). They wanted me to take her sweater off of her. It seemed nothing I did with Gracie was right in their eyes. They treated her gentle and let her get away with murder. I am now debating whether or not to take her. She just had surgery last Wednesday and is still on activity restrictions. I don't want to leave her and I don't want to take her either. I half wish I did not say I would go over there tonight. Would they treat our babies like that if they were skin kids?

You know what - it's all so funny. Nothing I do is right in anyone's eyes. They always seem to think there is something they know about yorkies (no one I know has a dog under 20 pounds!) that I don't.

I'm not bringing her or myself tonight because of the phone call from my aunt. I was totally planning to go until she called, and even when Isaid no she insisted I bring the puppy. I told my mom that my cousins could stop by and see her over the holidays.

I just want to say thank you to ALL Of you for your replies. I find that every time I havea problem I can come on Yorkie Talk and my friends here will help me with my decisions. I would keep posting all night - but I'm on dial-up and it takes like 10 minutes to load a window! haha

Merry Christmas to EVERYONE!
from Shannie & Miss Kimber

It stinks to have to choose like that..
I would go ahead an go to the dinner,
Leave your pup at home .
Just take a picture of your baby , print it off, for them to see.
And tell them that to much excitement is not good for her ,
so you left her at home.

Yorkiegirl's suggestion is great. Go and leave your puppy at home. I'm sure your aunt will have better things to do than harass you all evening over it. These people are supposed to be your family and if you need your puppy to gain admission to the dinner party, then screw them. People can only mistreat you if you allow them to do it. If you stand up for yourself and your puppy they may be a bit put off but they'll learn to respect you.

I'm sure we'll all be checking back to see what you ended up doing. Have a Merry Christmas.

I think you should just go - NOT going is silly and Christmas only comes once a year. For her sake, with that many people... I'd leave her where she's safe and just tell them it's not a good time to bring her. Have fun - I hope you change your mind.

either way dogs are not toys to pass around !!
i agree with V tho let them say what they want at least you baby is home safe :D

I am late chiming in here but I too hope you go to the dinner and leave your little one for a couple of hours. Family is important and they do not all act like we would like -- but they are still family. Just go -- If asked about why you did not bring you Yorkie, say it wasn't a good time, smile sweetly and move on to someone else.

You have to do what you are comfortable doing. Your baby is just that, a baby. Not a toy. I totally agree with you not taking her, and what you decide to do about yourself is totally up to you. Enjoy the holiday and give that baby lots of kisses.

I remember the last time you had a family get-together. It was very stressfull for both of you. Go/Don't Go it's up to you, but you are responsible for that puppy and you know what's in her best interest. Have a Blessed Holiday.

Bumpin up to see what you finally decided to do and how it went?

when its not someone else pup and they dont undrstand the love and things you feel for your pup they dont understand. i left my pup at home and not even 30 mins later i was worried about him and thanksed everyone and left, he was ok but i didnt like leaving him but i wanted him to be safe.

It's better if you stay home if they treat your puppy like that. Some people just don't know how gentle a small breed dog is and what they can and can't eat. Then some people are just foolish for not caring. I 'm srry this happened to you. Feel better :)

When I took Monday to a family dinner, she was only 5-6 months old ... my niece (who has a bearded collie) gave Monday Turkey skin ... the next day Monday was throwing up blood and had blood in her poopy ... that was the first time she was diagnosed with gastritis ... now she is on a special lo residue diet and I let NO one feed her anything but what I give her.

I was a new mommy then ... now I know better ... no one can hold her even.

and to top it off, my niece's daughter (8 years old) was trying to get Monday to sit like a child in a high chair . GRUNT!!!!

In my opinion you should do whatever YOU think is best. The reason I say this is because I KNOW where your coming from. When I bought my Mini Doxie almost 4 years ago, my family went NUTS. They all wanted to "see" her - but their "seeing" her was fighting over her, being too rough with her, holding her WAY up in the air to where she was SCARED TO DEATH - it was just all together BAD. Not to mention, my cousin with 4 LITTLE kids let them ALL hold her and pass her around like she was a RAG DOLL after I had SPECIFICALLY told everyone that I did NOT want the LITTLE kids holding her - that they could only pet her. I know it's hard for kids not to be able to hold a new little puppy - but that's just TOO BAD - she was TINY - I mean it was only 2 days after we brought her home and heck, even my husband and I were still "new" to her - she wasn't even adjusted to US yet - let alone 20 + other people, AND kids passing her around :rolleyes: Anyway - to make a long story short (whoops! I think it's a little too late for that :p) one of the kids ended up DROPPING her flat on her BACK - which, if you don't already know - you have to be EXTREMELY careful with Dachshund's and their backs - because they are so long, and they can break VERY easily. Well that DID IT for me - I was FUMMMMMMMING MAD!!!!! :mad: :mad: I didn't even know that their mom was letting them hold her - I had turned my back for ONE SPLIT SECOND - and she handed her over to one of her kids and BOOM! She dropped my puppy flat on her back and I almost BURST. I was (excused my french) PISSED beyond words! :mad: I could almost FEEL my face turning red I was so mad. My husband on the other hand, TOLD them OFF. I don't know who was more pissed, HIM, or ME. I had specifically TOLD EVERYONE THERE that the little kids were NOT to hold her. And sure enough - the second I turn my back one of them is holding her, and then DROPS her - not to mention, she was OF COURSE standing up when she was holding her - so she dropped her while STANDING - EVEN WORSE :mad:

Anyway, my point is that I know EXACTLY how you feel because my family is the SAME way. It really is too bad that you may be missing a Christmas dinner, and true it only DOES come once a year, but...if they won't just ZIP IT about you bringing your baby along, then I just say SKIP IT! :rolleyes: And maybe that's just because 95% of my family drives me INSANE, but it's not worth risking anything happening to your baby - because if your family is ANYTHING like mine - they don't listen anyway when you tell them what NOT to do! :thumbdown

P.S.- They all wanted to RUSH RIGHT OVER :rolleyes: when we got Stedman (our Yorkie) - but not answering the phone pretty much does the trick :p My husband said NOOOO WAY, not all those kids...not after what happened the last time! It was TOTALLY fine by me.

Christmas only comes once a year...I would NOT let someone keep me from my family...especially at Christmas time....I would have gone and left the furbaby home....I'm not saying all night but, you could have gone for a couple of hours and if anyone asked why you didn't bring the puppy I would have told them....I wouldnt have made anything up I would have told them the truth...I am going to a cousins house for lunch today...there are going to be 33 people there...I wouldn't even THINK about bringing the girls with me...for one they think they are bigger than they are and I'm afraid they would get stepped on and some of my family doesn't understand how I feel about my dogs and I don't want to deal with that on this day...HOWEVER! If somebody was doing something to one of the girls that I didn't like you can bet your sweet life I would tell them...
I really hope you went to see you family...family is very important and you really wouldn't want something like this to come between you and your family...you need to be honest with your Aunt and tell her why you don't bring the pup and if she doesn't understand....well....too bad!

Kno how you feel!
 

I know exactly how you feel! My baby is almost 7 months now, and my family STILL insist on me bringing him over ALL the time! That's not good for any pup...:thumbdown

You need my husband to go along. He has NO problem telling people in no uncertain terms that Cody is not a toy and he is fragile and to not treat him like a big dog. We won't even let kids hold him and very few adults because he is a jumper. Plus, everyone knows that if they were the ones to hurt Cody they would have to answer to me! And that would not be pretty.

Oh, and when my first Yorkie was alive my husband's sister's daughter started to give him a WHOLE hot dog at the table and my husband said nicely to her "don't give him food from the table" and she started bawling and my husband's other sister said "Oh, honey, uncle John didn't mean it" and he said "Don't tell her that. I did too mean it!" His sister to this day says she is not welcome in our home. Come on.........what a whiner!

You know....it's really hard not to let other people enjoy them, when we remember how irresistible they are! I know how badly I wanted a Yorkie, and when I saw one on the street, I just had to ask if I could pet him/her. But, I DID always ASK! I don't want people to be afraid of Abigail, or not enjoy her...but the fact remains: IF she's injured, it will be her dealing with the pain, and me dealing with the bills, and the pain of seeing her suffer. This is one of the 'pro's (if you will), I suppose, of having a teaPOT ;) - they seem more sturdy, and less likely to be accidentally injured.

OMG how terrible! I'm glad your hubby told them off! Was the doxie O.K???

Oh girl...I know - I was BEYOND PO'd! :mad: :mad: :mad: And I just KNEW that my hubby was going to BLOW when he saw our little girl lying on the ground :cry8:

Yes, she was ok....just VERY, VERY scared - shaking, and whimpering :cry8: We picked her up and left :mad:

something like that can tramatize a puppy for life !
esp when they just came to a new home
no one holds my dogs but me

Amen! I lost a tiny Japanese Chin when a family member dropped her on her head. It will never happen again to one of my dogs.