This is not what I wanted
 

I don't know what to do. I'm not so sure if I'm getting London anymore. I would be paying for her with my money if I did get her but my mom keeps bugging me about how much I have spent on Teddy. She says I shouldn't have gone to such an expensive vet and buy him clothes and all that. I already paid the deposit for Tabitha but it will be another 4 months or so before I move out. My mom doesn't know I am getting her. I think she'll kill me if she finds out. But I want her soo bad. I feel so depressed. Everything is going wrong.

do you still live at home? Why does she care if you get another puppy???:confused:

If you are still living at home, then I guess your mother has the right to question how you spend your money. If you are on your own and totally self supporting then what you do with your moiney is your business. Perhaps you should wait till you get a place of your own before getting another dog.

if you are moving out and is financially capable of getting another pup then go for it. But if finance is the issue, that can be a problem.

Zoe has costed me a whole lot more than expected. With his sensitive stomach and luxating patella, I'm in alot of debt. Living in NY doesn't help either.

OUr babies are totally worth it but if I feel that I cannot provide a good home for a furbaby, I probably wouldn't get another one.

This may not be the issue but it sounds like it to me.

Oh hon I'm so sorry. I know you have your heart set on this little girl.

Would you lose a deposit if you backed out? I know it's hard to even contemplate, but you need to be sure that this pup will not put you into financial trouble if you do get her. Especially if you plan on moving out on your own soon.

I really really hope things work out for you. Gosh, I don't know what I'd do if I suddenly found out I couldn't get my little guy. *hugs* :cry:

Thank you...well I would be put into a little financial trouble...but not that much. The thing is though I'm going to start working asap and I know I can pay it off. It's more because of my mom. I will be fine when I move out because my mom said she'll help me pay for my apt., which won't be that much money because it's not here in the city. It really sucks. What bothers me is that A) I won't get the deposit back but it's not even that it's more B) If I don't get her I'm worried she won't get a good home. She will def. get a good home with me. I already have her bed, clothing, nutrical, I know what vet I would be taking her to. She's very cute but I don't know I feel like I'm already set on her and was sooo ready for her to come home to me. :(

You are right. I paid more for Teddy than I intented but I care about him soo much that that doesn't matter to me. I'm sorry that Zoe got luxating patella. :(

Yea I live at home. She just thinks I spent too much on Teddy and that he poops a lot and pees ont he floor, but he stays in my room and so far he hasn't had any pee accidents so he is doing soo good right now. I told her it takes time to paper train them so I don't know whats up with her.

Sounds like you are already 'too deep'. Go ahead and get her. Hopefully your mom won't be too mad or it will pass fast. By then you should be moved out?

Good luck

I kno...I just really want Teddy to have a friend. I don't want him to be a lone when I'm at school.

Oh, I'm sorry you are in a touch position!

I know that living w/ your mother, you still have to "kind of" listen to what she says..........

BUT if you are moving out soon and you are able to move out on your own and make it, then you should go for it.

I know once you pick out a furbaby, it seems like no going back! I know I would have a hard time too, but you need to do what is best for you and your furbabies! --no matter what that is.

If you feel you shouldn't get her now, do you think the breeder would be nice enough to hold your deposit for another girl? I know, I know.....I see things through rose colored glasses.

If you can't get Tabitha right now, I am sure she will go into a loving/caring home. If you trusted the breeder enough to buy from her, then you must know that she will find good homes for her babies!

Good luck and do not worry too much! Please keep us all posted.

In that case...GOOD LUCK!! and be excited about your new baby!!!

I would have a couple questions.

You're going to move out --- when??

You don't have a job right now??

Your mother is going to help you with your apartment??

She is concerned about your one dog peeing and pooping in the house
(Two will do more!)

Another thing - if you do get an apartment - will it allow you to have two dogs... can you afford a damage deposit for two little dogs - and what if they do damage - carpets, furniture, etc....

I am not trying to critize you at all - I'm probably just a little like your mother. If you are planning to move out - she's probably thinking that you should be getting a job - and saving your money. Buying dog clothes and another little Yorkie (as loveable as all this is) is really a luxury that she probably feels you just can't afford right now.

Plus - if you stay in her house with "two" dogs - she may really start complaining about peeing and pooping... rightfully so.

And - if you move out with two little Yorkies - and then have to leave them at home while you work - training and keeping them from having accidents is even more difficult to do - and - you especially don't want this if you're in an apartment. (What if you get a little barker - another thing to consider!)

** As a mother - (not really know your situation) -- I would want my daugher to save some money, find a job, find a nice place to live --- and start out with only one little dog - and see how things work out. I think you would really find this a better and easier way to start out on your own.

Nevertheless - lots of luck and I hope everything works out well for everyone.


Carol Jean

yeah i can only wish you the same good luck and hope all goes well

I agree, take it from me, getting out on your own is harder then you'd think. I totally understand where you are coming from but I see your mothers point of view as well. Living on your own is tough, things happen that you'd never expect to happen, all the sudden you have to deal with all of these things that you never had to deal with before and money seems to literally evaporate into thin air.

I'm lucky enough that I am able to work from home the majority of the day most of the time and I attend college online. The longest I'm ever gone for work is about 2-3 hours and when I am gone Jaden is a total mess! He's completely changed my entire life (not that I'm complaining) but its a big responsability when you are on your own. Its not like living at home and even if you think you have an "idea" of what it will be like, once your there its completely different, at least it was for me.

I'm not trying to be a downer here, I know how much you want her and I'm really rooting for you, just trying to let you know how tough it is, especially if you have to find a job and its your first time away from home.

Also, something to consider is your Mother might not help you get your appartment if you have another yorkie. If she already doesn't like/want the one you have she'll probably think if you can afford to get another yorkie, why can't you afford to pay for your own appartment? You might be better off waiting a few months until you're settled and have found a job and have been on your own for a little while and then consider getting another yorkie. In the mean time you could consider putting Teddy in some type of Doggy daycare if you didn't want him to be by himself or recording your voice on a tape or maybe you could drop him off at a friend or relatives house while you work.

Really hope things work out for you hun!
Big Hugs!!

Living on your own is tough, things happen that you'd never expect to happen, all the sudden you have to deal with all of these things that you never had to deal with before and money seems to literally evaporate into thin air.

why can't you afford to pay for your own appartment?
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This is what I was thinking. If you have enough to pay for your necessities, have extra on hand for emergencies, and are able to fully support this puppy, then I say go for it. It's a serious decision, though, taking another life in your hands and you don't want to get another baby just because your other puppy is lonely. Make sure you do it for the right reasons.

If all that works out, then I say heck! Go for it! What's your mom going to do if you get her before you move out? Kick you out? You're moving out soon anyway!

Good luck with your decisions and I hope everything works out for you!

Well, I don't want to be the big meanie :D, but...

You don't ALREADY have a job, but you're buying another dog? You can't support YOURSELF (ie: mom is having to help you pay the rent) but you're buying another dog?!

Speaking as a mom, it would tick me off to be paying your rent while you felt you could "afford" an expensive pet! :D My mother-in-law used to do this with my brother-in-law....she paid half of his bills because he was always short on cash.... meanwhile, he could somehow afford to go to "concerts", etc.

Hon, I really don't mean to sound condescending, and I know I do :D, but....many of us have lived many years before we could afford our dream dogs. I've wanted a yorkie all my life, and finally got one when I was nearly 40.

You're very young, and just getting out on your own, and learning to support yourself? Is this correct? In that case, I think you should feel lucky to have the dog you have, and focus on taking the best care of him that you can, and just hope that nothing goes wrong with HIM.

Then after you've reached a point of financial stability and are able to pay all your own bills on your own....THEN think about adding another pet to your budget.

Again....sorry to be the voice of practicality :D, but I think you have to look at this logically (as it sounds like your mom is!)

I just saw this....any updates? Are you going to be getting London?

I hope everything works out for you; this must be a really tough time for you:( , keep your head up though, things always work out in the end:)

Well I'm taking this next semester off to work and going to Albany for Fall '07 and I'll be getting an apt. off campus. My dad and mom pay for my school so since it's cheaper than dorming my mom said she will help pay for my apt. You're right, I don't have a job yet...so I don't think I'm going to be getting her, Idk. I'm going to try to speak to my mom because right now we're not on speaking terms

I'm sorry to hear about it, I can emagine how bummed you must feel right now. But try to remember, things happen for a reason and you still have your little boy to take care of. Once you're situated with your job/school then everything should be easier.

Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry. I know how you had your heart set on little London. I wish you all the best of luck and I'm sure when the time if right, you will get the perfect little girl.

I don't want you to be offended at all; but I am a mom and I have a college aged son who is planning on moving out on his own next month.
We have been having these conversations quite alot about the way he spends his money. (He has made alot in the last year & just blows it)
He has been wanting to get his own dog, but he is going to be renting an apartment, and there are deposits for pets. He will be working and going to school, the poor dog will be at home by himself. Then there are vet bills, food, toys, etc. Not to mention just day to day bills for himself with utilities, food, gas and car maintnance.
I told my son if he waits until he is out of school I will help him get the dog he wants but right now if my husband and I are helping him out financially
he needs to wait.
I feel that(my opinion) it would be in the best interest of the puppy to wait until you are more financially secure and can pay your own way. You have a yorkie now, enjoy her and see how college life on your own is with one dog and see if you really have the time and money for another one.

Good luck & Best Wishes,
Michele

You know you are making the right decision. First, you need to take care of yourself and your current furbaby. Then second baby. Things happen for a reason. Believe me, you will find a perfect baby in the future when you are ready. Mean time please try to work out with your mother. You only have ONE mother and you can't replace your mother with a dog..... (Even the cutest dog can't replace your mother!! :) )
I was very anxious about telling my parents about my furbaby. (I'm in mid 30's) I'm not the most responsible person in the world so I knew my parents may against the decision. But it turn out that they are very very happy and they can't wait to come visit me and Momiji near future!!!
Mean time, take care of your current furbaby and good luck with your school!!

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It's really hard to find a place to rent that allows pets, even harder if you have two :) so it's best to wait.

Yes Yes Yes.

And if your mother is already helping to pay your rent, who is going to pay the vet bill when one of your babies gets sick. That would probalby be your mother.

She has every right to be upset about you spending your money on expensive dogs, while she is helping you out. What it boils down to is, your mother is paying for your dogs.

My kids had a rough time underdstanding that concept too untill they finally got out on their own.

Yea there are alot of other expenses to worry about. I really want to work as a bartender because they get a lot of money off tips or at a hospital doing paperwork.

Well I was checking places out online and I found a lot of places that allow pets and that are pretty cheap too. I 'm going to go see them in person.

I know :/ I'm trying to work things out with my mom. I am glad your parents were happy for you.