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Old 08-24-2006, 06:10 PM   #1
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Long story, but my 25 yr old son and his gf bought a Yorkie puppy together about 2 yrs ago. Unfortunately because they were in college and also various other problems the dog has spent most of her life with me. She is the sweetest dog in the world and I am head over heels in love with her...and she also seems to adore me. Even though my son has been back with us for the last year and she does like him...it is me who takes care of her, feeds her, walks her, buys her treats, rushed her to the vet in the middle of the night, who she sleeps with. His girlfriend has been living back with her parents, 4 hrs away and has not seen her. She is now moving to our city and they are going to live together and are taking the dog. My heart is breaking but I expected it. After all they love her too and have been paying for her for the last two years (stupid kids bought her from a pet store and paid a fortune which they didnt have). I have offered to buy her from them..my husband would kill me, we have two dogs already, but I feel like she belongs with me, so I would do it. Anyways, they are taking her. I think my son might have been persuaded but his gf said no. As I said I am so sad but will be okay, but am worried about her. Tell me she will be okay and that dogs dont know the difference so I can feel at peace. I feel like I am abandoning my child in a way(I figure only a dog lover could understand this) and am worried they wont take care of her. Thanks for reading this lengthy post. I just have to tell someone.
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Laura, my heart breaks for you! I wish that I could say that dogs are stupid and don't have feelings, but that would be lying to you. They do have feelings and unfortunately, sadness is one of them. Sure, this little girl is going to miss you terribly. You've been the one to take care of her and have given her the love she's needed all this time. While the seperation will be somewhat easier since she knows your son, she still sees you as mom.

Maybe you can have visitation rights. Or, you could take them to court and gain custody of this little girl. I have a feeling you wouldn't do that, however.

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you could always go out and buy them their own yorkie...would that work?
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Old 08-24-2006, 06:19 PM   #4
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Oh my this is a tough one. If I were your son I would leave her with you. They can always come visit her. Try to convince them some more because I am sure she is going to miss you. They are animals but they know their comfort zone. Maybe when they take her and see that she misses you they will bring her back to you.

I really hope things work out for you because in her eyes you are her mommy.

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I'm don't know if dogs get broken hearted, I sure hope they don't a lady down the road from me took Bear my little male I have cryed for days thinking about him the lady has a little girl and Bear loves the child BUT my heart is breaking I hope he not broken hearted to much pain to have to give up one of your furbabies.
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Hi, how far away will they be? Are they going to work/school during the day ? maybe you can make arrangements to watch her during the day. It is heartbreaking to have to give her up after 2 years. Keep us posted on the outcome. I hope you can work things out and still be able to spend time with the little furbaby..
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I was going to suggest the same as the previous poster. Maybe you could babysit while they're at work/school so that the dog doesn't have to be left alone.

This must be so hard for you, I'm sorry and hope that you can all work it out so that you can spend lots of time with her.
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Oh my... that's a tough situation you are in. Too bad you potty trained her! If she wasn't potty trained I'm sure she wouldn't be gone with your son for too long and would be back where she belongs.

Is there someone who can drop hints to your son about how much you love her and will miss her?

Dogs do have feelings and I've heard stories where they get really naughty when they are away from home. Devious little buggers!
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you could always go out and buy them their own yorkie...would that work?
This EXACT same thing happened to me!!!!! When I was a freshman in college, my then bf bought me a yorkie. I had her for several months in college, but then my bf and I broke up and I could not take care of her by myself...I just didn't have the time. My mom said that she would take her and take care of her and potty train her and leash train her and give her back when I had more time. Well, I graduated college and got married (to a new person, not the original bf) a year ago and my hubby and I really wanted a dog. I was like, hey! I have a dog! I'll just get her back. Well I had her for a week. She was MISERABLE! She was SO sad and she missed my mom so much. I felt SO bad for her So, my mom told me to bring "her" dog home and she would buy my hubby and I a new dog for Christmas. My hubby was excited bc he wasn't particulary thrilled about the dog that my "ex" had bought for me. So, my parents bought us Hobbs for Christmas last year. My mom still has Sophie. Everyone is HAPPY!

I would suggest taking the money you would have spent to buy their yorkie form them and just get them another dog.
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aww I'm so sorry! My heart is breaking for you!

I wish I could tell you that dogs don't have the feeling of sadness, but that just isnt' true. she probably will miss you and will feel sad. but only for a little while. eventually, she'll be attatched to your son and his girlfriend. I think the hardest part for them is that they don't understand why they're being taken away....they don't know what's going on. but we do.

when we brought Maddie home last week, the look in her eyes was so heart breaking. it was litteraly like, "where are you taking me?" but now, just a few days later, she's happy as a clam!

so, the point of this rambling, is that I do think their hearts can be broken, but I think they're also very adaptable and she'll get used to the change and grow to love your son and his gf just as much as she loves you!
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I don't know if your furbaby will miss you. A dog even a Yorkie is a dog and as long as they get feed, get some affection and attention they are ok.

But I know that you will miss her and that I am sorry for you. I know how it hurts. I will pray and hoping that they will understand that it is too heartbreaking taking her away from you.
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I do feel for you. Maybe you could have a heart to heart with your son. And suggest that you buy them a new yorkie. This way they start fresh too!
I think it is worth a try???

P.S. My Mom went through the same thing. My sister and her boyfreind moved to Hawaii. They only had the puppy for a couple of months and then my Mom babysat (approx. 7 months) until all her records and shots, etc were in order so that LuLu would be granted Direct Release at the airport in Honolulu. My Mom was very sad, but all in all, it all worked out. LuLu is still in the family, she is now a Hawaiian Blonde Babe (She is a 6lbs. Silky Terrier). My sister and her boyfirend take GREAT care of her.
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goodluck and I think if they havent spent a lot of time with her, maybe you could persuade them to choose another dog, you pay for it and then you get to keep this one. That way they would be able to teach a new one their ways and habits because I do believe dogs do take up some of their owners ways as far as know what they can and cant do and doing things like you trained it to do. But if the dog is potty trained and if you paid for the vet bills plus taking it to the vet, buy toys, food and etc. to me your still gonna be losing money most likely after this long of a time. I mean really I think the first year is the costliest of their lives if they dont just up and get sick or something. Maybe you could talk them into picking out a new one and you keeping this one and nobody would have to be so sad. goodluck in what ever yall decide to do and let us know how it ends up.
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I don't know if your furbaby will miss you. A dog even a Yorkie is a dog and as long as they get feed, get some affection and attention they are ok.
Watched my mom's maltese when they were on vacation last year. I babied Lily and loved on her just like my own. She was miserable. Then, she refused to eat and got sick and I had to take her to the vet.

Even dogs have feelings and it would take them a long time to get over their "loss".

This summer, I had a friend keep my 3 while we were on a week's vacation. My male stopped eating and my friend had to force feed him. He was 4 lbs when I picked them up. They were so excited to see me.
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Well, I feel sorry for her AND you. The poor little thing will grieve for mommy. She's used to a routine that will totally change. Her whole world will literally be turned upside down. I'd sit down with the two of them and try to explain this and ask them if you could get them another doggie so she won't be put through this unnecessarily. She probably won't get the attention or walks and the other things that she has been used to having from you and she won't understand why. She'll probably basically feel like she's been thrown away.
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