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Iluvalldogs · 04-20-2016, 07:13 PM

Hi everyone! Ok, so for the last several days I've been so very worried about our baby, Oli. There is absolutely nothing wrong with her, and she's not sick. But for some reason I'm wrought with worry. I worry every time she goes potty, I worry she will fall off the bed and get hurt, I worry she may develop a sickness, I worry someone will steal her, etc, etc, etc.

I have NO clue what's brought this on. Granted, I'm a semi-worrier anyway, but never like this. I've even contemplated getting another Yorkie in case something were to happen to her which is CRAZY and even makes me sad just thinking about it.

Anyone else experienced feelings of unease like this? And, does anyone have suggestions on overcoming them?

Thanks in advance!

Magnus · 04-20-2016, 07:40 PM

It's b/c you love her SO MUCH! I'm a bit of a worrier as well... For a while, I couldn't even stand the thought of leaving them alone to go to the store which would only be 30 min or so...

I know it'll be hard but you'll have to "convince" yourself that everything's going to be okay. That you're taking all precautions possible. One of the reason I visit this site is b/c it keeps me informed. And there are so many great members that's always here for moral support!

Just take it one day at a time. Keep telling yourself that your Oli is safe and happy.

Another way to look at is that it's better you enjoy your time with her giving her happy memories instead of wasting that precious time worrying away.

Iluvalldogs · 04-20-2016, 08:22 PM

You're so right! I do love her so much, I just don't know what I'd do without her. I lost my first Yorkie due to a very sudden death - which may be where some of this comes from, unconsciously in a way.
You're right, I just need to tell myself it will be ok and spend every moment I can with her. I know my worry won't help things and only distracts from the present. It's just been so difficult lately. Thank you for your words of wisdom!

Yorkiemom1 · 04-20-2016, 08:38 PM

The worry about falling off the bed is a legitimate worry....dont leave her on your bed unattended....she will walk right off the side of the bed and hurt herself! That stealing thing is also a legit worry! That will happen if anyone is given half a chance....dont let strangers hold her, dont let her sit in a shopping cart unattended/unsecured.....dont leave her unattended in your back yard, even if it is fenced in.....you have very valid concerns and I am thrilled you have thought of them....be prepared for how you will handle/correct/prevent/address each of your concerns! Just remember....if YOU thought of it, your Yorkie will also think of it!

Iluvalldogs · 04-20-2016, 08:50 PM

Oh she is never, ever unattended on our bed or anywhere else dangerous. Whether that be on the bed or elsewhere. She is literally everywhere I am at all times. When she goes potty she's secured on her harness and leash. When she's in the car she's secured in her car seat. When we shop, she's securely hooked in her stroller. It's so funny you mention not letting strangers hold her because I have had to tell people no before. And I'm sure I've told some nice folks no, but I can't risk it. It's weird though, I've never asked a stranger to hold their fur baby. So maybe there's something to it!

I'd never dream of leaving her outside alone. Oh goodness that makes me panic just thinking about it. I can't imagine anyone leaving their little one outside alone. That's a good way to get lost, stolen, very badly hurt, or mauled by another animal (even if fenced).

And when I'm away from her (which is not often at all) I have a doggie cam so I can see her on my phone

& she is in a crate during those instances for her safety. I'm sure there's things I've not thought of, and those worry me too.

Magnus · 04-21-2016, 07:26 AM

Do you have steps/ramp for her to get on the couch (if she's allowed)? That was one of my concerns for little Zoey. I'm bit worried she'll wear out her joints as she ages with all the jumping on/off the couch/bed. I ended up lowering my bed and also keeping the ramp. The couch has a low part where I don't think it'd be a problem but I might add a small ramp there as well.

Jkpal · 04-21-2016, 09:13 AM

There's something about these little loves that just seem to ratchet everything up times about 100. I worry, too; and the least little change in Piper causes me huge anxiety, but I agree with Magnus to try to keep things in perspective and enjoy every minute with Oli!

Happiness is, when you look at your dog and forget all your problems.

joyce evans · 04-21-2016, 01:33 PM

You're not alone! I even panic when my vet tech holds my newest pup, Dominique Faith. The tech is in love with her! I'm glad but I'm like give me my baby back. For 2 or 3 days after her vet visit I can smell the
techs perfume on her. That's how much she loves on her. Smells good! I'll have to ask her what she uses. I get laughed at I'm sure but I take potty pads with me on vet visits so my baby doesn't touch anything. I pulled away from a lady who wanted to pet her on her last visit without even thinking. I must of looked like a snob but I don't care. I even stand over her with my arms out when my husband holds her. I could go on and on...It's crazy what love can do but in my mind it's all legit!

Jellymint · 04-21-2016, 04:26 PM

There have been a few recent tragedies that have sensitized my emotions and yeah, I have been feeling a similar anxiety with my Monty. Sometimes it will zing through me - fear of something happening to him - and I simply acknowledge it as a phenomenon that is supposed to happen when I love something so very much.

I noticed that you posted your anxiety very shortly after Kerryn915 shared her news about her little one's tragic passing. Perhaps that has tweaked your fears too?

Having an anxiety disorder myself (PTSD), I am familiar with these seemingly absurd or "wrong sized" fears zipping through my life and when they do I utilize the energy to do a quick scan through my world and see what safety improvements I can make.

It will settle ... nod nod. Thinking of you because it certainly is not fun. Yep.

Iluvalldogs · 04-21-2016, 07:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Jellymint

There have been a few recent tragedies that have sensitized my emotions and yeah, I have been feeling a similar anxiety with my Monty. Sometimes it will zing through me - fear of something happening to him - and I simply acknowledge it as a phenomenon that is supposed to happen when I love something so very much.

I noticed that you posted your anxiety very shortly after Kerryn915 shared her news about her little one's tragic passing. Perhaps that has tweaked your fears too?

Having an anxiety disorder myself (PTSD), I am familiar with these seemingly absurd or "wrong sized" fears zipping through my life and when they do I utilize the energy to do a quick scan through my world and see what safety improvements I can make.

It will settle ... nod nod. Thinking of you because it certainly is not fun. Yep.

Thank you so much! I do agree that hearing of tragedies and accidents does heighten my fears. I often find myself running through various possibilities of injury or accident. I wish I didn't have them so often, so I need to work on this and determine some things I can do to focus my thoughts. Thank you for sharing your feelings as well 💜

Iluvalldogs · 04-21-2016, 07:53 PM

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Originally Posted by joyce evans

You're not alone! I even panic when my vet tech holds my newest pup, Dominique Faith. The tech is in love with her! I'm glad but I'm like give me my baby back. For 2 or 3 days after her vet visit I can smell the
techs perfume on her. That's how much she loves on her. Smells good! I'll have to ask her what she uses. I get laughed at I'm sure but I take potty pads with me on vet visits so my baby doesn't touch anything. I pulled away from a lady who wanted to pet her on her last visit without even thinking. I must of looked like a snob but I don't care. I even stand over her with my arms out when my husband holds her. I could go on and on...It's crazy what love can do but in my mind it's all legit!

LOL that's too funny! I don't blame you though, I don't let mine walk in certain areas either. So much can get into them through their pads (or so I think). Oh I'm the same way! I get major anxiety when it's time for a checkup or vaccines. I always worry the vet will discover some illness or sickness. So I have to mentally prepare myself before we go. It's nuts! I'm glad I'm not the only one who has similar feelings

Iluvalldogs · 04-21-2016, 07:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Magnus

Do you have steps/ramp for her to get on the couch (if she's allowed)? That was one of my concerns for little Zoey. I'm bit worried she'll wear out her joints as she ages with all the jumping on/off the couch/bed. I ended up lowering my bed and also keeping the ramp. The couch has a low part where I don't think it'd be a problem but I might add a small ramp there as well.

She is allowed, but I don't have a ramp or stairs. Only because she cannot jump and I have to lift her onto the higher places like the sofa. It's not very tall, but I think it may be a good idea to get a ramp just to give her that option should she all of a sudden decide one day she wants to try something different. I really need to anyway, our little senior Chihuahua girl would also appreciate it. I've always wanted one, I guess I just put it on my to-do list which never got done.

Iluvalldogs · 04-21-2016, 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Jkpal

There's something about these little loves that just seem to ratchet everything up times about 100. I worry, too; and the least little change in Piper causes me huge anxiety, but I agree with Magnus to try to keep things in perspective and enjoy every minute with Oli!

Happiness is, when you look at your dog and forget all your problems.

It's so nice to hear from those who have similar thoughts and feelings! And having moral support is unbelievably helpful, which is one reason I love YT. I'm going to work on trying not to worry so much and put that energy into Oli, and loving her. Which is very easy to do

I just have to find that medium where I'm aware and alert, but not let it take over in my daily life. Thank you!

Wylie's Mom · 04-22-2016, 02:57 AM

You're not alone in your worry...I do worry a lot about mine too, and sometimes it's not totally rational, ya know? But I worry nonetheless. They're just SO precious to me, and I couldn't bear it if something happened. It's like they're walking around w/ my heart

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Jkpal · 04-22-2016, 09:19 AM

It's like they're walking around w/ my heart .
Beautifully said and oh-so-true!

04-20-2016, 07:13 PM	#1
Iluvalldogs Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: North Carolina Posts: 207	Worried something could happen Hi everyone! Ok, so for the last several days I've been so very worried about our baby, Oli. There is absolutely nothing wrong with her, and she's not sick. But for some reason I'm wrought with worry. I worry every time she goes potty, I worry she will fall off the bed and get hurt, I worry she may develop a sickness, I worry someone will steal her, etc, etc, etc. I have NO clue what's brought this on. Granted, I'm a semi-worrier anyway, but never like this. I've even contemplated getting another Yorkie in case something were to happen to her which is CRAZY and even makes me sad just thinking about it. Anyone else experienced feelings of unease like this? And, does anyone have suggestions on overcoming them? Thanks in advance! __________________ Oli Cocoa Graycie Pinky "...love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation." October Peanut Last edited by Iluvalldogs; 04-20-2016 at 07:14 PM.

04-20-2016, 08:22 PM	#3
Iluvalldogs Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: North Carolina Posts: 207	You're so right! I do love her so much, I just don't know what I'd do without her. I lost my first Yorkie due to a very sudden death - which may be where some of this comes from, unconsciously in a way. You're right, I just need to tell myself it will be ok and spend every moment I can with her. I know my worry won't help things and only distracts from the present. It's just been so difficult lately. Thank you for your words of wisdom! __________________ Oli Cocoa Graycie Pinky "...love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation." October Peanut

04-20-2016, 08:50 PM	#5
Iluvalldogs Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: North Carolina Posts: 207	Oh she is never, ever unattended on our bed or anywhere else dangerous. Whether that be on the bed or elsewhere. She is literally everywhere I am at all times. When she goes potty she's secured on her harness and leash. When she's in the car she's secured in her car seat. When we shop, she's securely hooked in her stroller. It's so funny you mention not letting strangers hold her because I have had to tell people no before. And I'm sure I've told some nice folks no, but I can't risk it. It's weird though, I've never asked a stranger to hold their fur baby. So maybe there's something to it! I'd never dream of leaving her outside alone. Oh goodness that makes me panic just thinking about it. I can't imagine anyone leaving their little one outside alone. That's a good way to get lost, stolen, very badly hurt, or mauled by another animal (even if fenced). And when I'm away from her (which is not often at all) I have a doggie cam so I can see her on my phone & she is in a crate during those instances for her safety. I'm sure there's things I've not thought of, and those worry me too. __________________ Oli Cocoa Graycie Pinky "...love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation." October Peanut Last edited by Iluvalldogs; 04-20-2016 at 08:54 PM.

04-21-2016, 01:33 PM	#8
joyce evans YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: houston Posts: 1,519	You're not alone! I even panic when my vet tech holds my newest pup, Dominique Faith. The tech is in love with her! I'm glad but I'm like give me my baby back. For 2 or 3 days after her vet visit I can smell the techs perfume on her. That's how much she loves on her. Smells good! I'll have to ask her what she uses. I get laughed at I'm sure but I take potty pads with me on vet visits so my baby doesn't touch anything. I pulled away from a lady who wanted to pet her on her last visit without even thinking. I must of looked like a snob but I don't care. I even stand over her with my arms out when my husband holds her. I could go on and on...It's crazy what love can do but in my mind it's all legit! __________________ Hannah's Mom

04-22-2016, 02:57 AM	#14
Wylie's Mom Furbutts = LOVE Donating Member Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Phoenix, AZ Posts: 35,889 Blog Entries: 2	You're not alone in your worry...I do worry a lot about mine too, and sometimes it's not totally rational, ya know? But I worry nonetheless. They're just SO precious to me, and I couldn't bear it if something happened. It's like they're walking around w/ my heart . __________________ ~ A friend told me I was delusional. I nearly fell off my unicorn. ~ °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨° Ann \| Pfeiffer \| Marcel Verdel Purcell \| Wylie \| Artie °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨°

04-20-2016, 07:40 PM	#2
Magnus Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Northern VA Posts: 3,192	It's b/c you love her SO MUCH! I'm a bit of a worrier as well... For a while, I couldn't even stand the thought of leaving them alone to go to the store which would only be 30 min or so... I know it'll be hard but you'll have to "convince" yourself that everything's going to be okay. That you're taking all precautions possible. One of the reason I visit this site is b/c it keeps me informed. And there are so many great members that's always here for moral support! Just take it one day at a time. Keep telling yourself that your Oli is safe and happy. Another way to look at is that it's better you enjoy your time with her giving her happy memories instead of wasting that precious time worrying away.

04-20-2016, 08:38 PM	#4
Yorkiemom1 Rosehill Yorkies Donating YT Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Houston Texas Posts: 9,462	The worry about falling off the bed is a legitimate worry....dont leave her on your bed unattended....she will walk right off the side of the bed and hurt herself! That stealing thing is also a legit worry! That will happen if anyone is given half a chance....dont let strangers hold her, dont let her sit in a shopping cart unattended/unsecured.....dont leave her unattended in your back yard, even if it is fenced in.....you have very valid concerns and I am thrilled you have thought of them....be prepared for how you will handle/correct/prevent/address each of your concerns! Just remember....if YOU thought of it, your Yorkie will also think of it!

04-21-2016, 07:26 AM	#6
Magnus Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Northern VA Posts: 3,192	Do you have steps/ramp for her to get on the couch (if she's allowed)? That was one of my concerns for little Zoey. I'm bit worried she'll wear out her joints as she ages with all the jumping on/off the couch/bed. I ended up lowering my bed and also keeping the ramp. The couch has a low part where I don't think it'd be a problem but I might add a small ramp there as well.

04-21-2016, 09:13 AM	#7
Jkpal YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2014 Location: Lake Geneva, WI Posts: 2,776	There's something about these little loves that just seem to ratchet everything up times about 100. I worry, too; and the least little change in Piper causes me huge anxiety, but I agree with Magnus to try to keep things in perspective and enjoy every minute with Oli! Happiness is, when you look at your dog and forget all your problems.

04-21-2016, 04:26 PM	#9
Jellymint Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2016 Location: surrey, bc, canada Posts: 117	There have been a few recent tragedies that have sensitized my emotions and yeah, I have been feeling a similar anxiety with my Monty. Sometimes it will zing through me - fear of something happening to him - and I simply acknowledge it as a phenomenon that is supposed to happen when I love something so very much. I noticed that you posted your anxiety very shortly after Kerryn915 shared her news about her little one's tragic passing. Perhaps that has tweaked your fears too? Having an anxiety disorder myself (PTSD), I am familiar with these seemingly absurd or "wrong sized" fears zipping through my life and when they do I utilize the energy to do a quick scan through my world and see what safety improvements I can make. It will settle ... nod nod. Thinking of you because it certainly is not fun. Yep.

04-22-2016, 09:19 AM	#15
Jkpal YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2014 Location: Lake Geneva, WI Posts: 2,776	It's like they're walking around w/ my heart . Beautifully said and oh-so-true!