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Nana nap · 11-28-2015, 01:31 AM

We bought our two male Yorkies a week ago. Thought they would be the perfect companion dogs for my partner I. But instead the last week has been the worst I can't stop crying and now not sure I can keep them. They are so scared of everything and shake, cower or hide from us. I knew the moment we got home and tried to put a leash on them they started doing back flips. Everyone kept telling me oh they just aren't use you to but I knew something was seriously wrong. I had a behaviour specialist come out and she said they probably have never been socialised. Told me to feed them treats to get any type of contact but that has caused a awful tummy upset and now they both have the runs which gets stuck all over their behind because they aren't groomed and I can't even dream of grooming them. So I have to end up bathing them up to three times a day. And it's a huge setback forcing them like that. I feel so sorry for them and it's no fault of their own but it's so much work I don't know if I can continue. If I'd known what I was getting into it would be different. I've lost hope :-(

Wylie's Mom · 11-28-2015, 05:46 AM

First, welcome to YT

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Second...it's okay if you've made a mistake - it really, truly is. It could be either there is most definitely something not right with these pups' past socialization...and/or you may just not be quite ready to handle a puppy...which is a TON of work, dedication, time, effort, learning, and patience.

Who is the breeder, where did you get these pups? Was there something off about the breeder / puppy situation w/ these 2..?

Do you want to give them up to a yorkie rescue or something...or what feels right at this time?

nenamos · 11-28-2015, 06:21 AM

Try to hang in there.... I know it's hard. Last February I did the same thing. I already had a one year old male and went to buy a playmate and came home with two females. I too thought a I made a terrible mistake......three yorkies under 2. They were very skittish the first week and boy was it a lot work. Patience and lots of love will help u get through this and finding a Daily routine that works. Remember they need time to adjust to their new surrounding. Best of luck

DvlshAngel985 · 11-28-2015, 07:49 AM

Sounds like my Kaji when I first got him. I let him be for the most part and let him cone to me when he was ready. Eventually he started showing signs that he couldn't live without me. He always needed me to be where he could see me. ALWAYS. He wouldn't let me touch him, and hold him, but he needed to be able to see me. Eventually, with time, he started leaving our room to see what I was doing. I distinctly remember the first day he came down from our room and sat on a step to see me in the kitchen. I turned around and started talking to him. He ran back upstairs to our room as fast as his little legs would take him. After 6 months, he was mine. All mine. Cuddles, play, walks (not beautifully walking next to me, but we were getting somewhere) baths, car rides, it was all getting more bearable for him. He still had his fears, and reacted to a lot of things, but I was no longer one of the scary things. Fast forward 6 years later, Kaji loves my whole family, plays like a little puppy, hikes like a pro, and loves meeting new dogs at the pet supply stores. He still is apprehensive with people he doesn't know, especially children, but he takes trips to the mall in stride, just being happy to be with me. In fact, he's currently in bed with me, curled up next to my thigh, under the blankets, as close as he could possibly be. I feel him kicking and hear him sleep barking. He's just so relaxed and dreaming away.

Bottom line, for pups that have that kind of reaction at first will just need more time adjusting. And since there 2 scared pups, they may cling to each other more at first. They'll come around. You just have to be really patient.

Harrysmum · 11-28-2015, 09:40 AM

I always equate new puppy = newborn baby...and you've got twins!

It's such a huge upheaval in your life, I know I've felt exactly the way you're feeling - not actually with Harry

but with a very 'thick' Schnauzer that we had...

I can only suggest that you hang in there - it will get better - and yes they will turn to one another for comfort, they're brothers in arms against the world (at the moment!!!).

Oh, and try different treats - maybe some little pieces of boiled chicken breast? That should control the pooping, and cut down on your workload!! I truly wish you luck

Sally + Harry xx

Maximo · 11-28-2015, 09:46 AM

Sorry you are having a rough time. How old are the boys? Puppies can be really overwhelming. The first year is the hardest. For me, having Max was like having a highly mobile newborn human baby. Having 2 at one time is twice the challenge.

I shed a few tears that first year.

Having a schedule of daily activities, a routine, is reassuring and calming for dogs. Try to serve meals, have short play sessions, and do things at about the same time each day.

I limited roaming room in my house with baby gates and xpens. This helps with potty training and general training.

Maybe try separating the boys a little when trying to train and groom?

Stick to a limited diet. If you feed kibble, use the kibble for rewards. This will help prevent tummy problems. I also use tiny bits of steamed plain chicken breast.

Grooming and walking on leash are all things that take time and loads of patience to train for with a Yorkie. Maintaining a calm demeanor even when it seems hopeless is important. These dogs can read out anxiousness and they tend to react negatively to it.

ladyjane · 11-28-2015, 10:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Maximo

Sorry you are having a rough time. How old are the boys? Puppies can be really overwhelming. The first year is the hardest. For me, having Max was like having a highly mobile newborn human baby. Having 2 at one time is twice the challenge.

I shed a few tears that first year.

Having a schedule of daily activities, a routine, is reassuring and calming for dogs. Try to serve meals, have short play sessions, and do things at about the same time each day.

I limited roaming room in my house with baby gates and xpens. This helps with potty training and general training.

Maybe try separating the boys a little when trying to train and groom?

Stick to a limited diet. If you feed kibble, use the kibble for rewards. This will help prevent tummy problems. I also use tiny bits of steamed plain chicken breast.

Grooming and walking on leash are all things that take time and loads of patience to train for with a Yorkie. Maintaining a calm demeanor even when it seems hopeless is important. These dogs can read out anxiousness and they tend to react negatively to it.

I agree with the above....BUT if you are not able to keep them and work with them, please don't beat yourself up. It is not for everyone and breeders usually fail at educating people about what they may face.

If you need help turning these pups over to a rescue, feel free to send me a message. OR you can email yorkiehavenrescue06@yahoo.com and someone will try to help you find a reputable rescue.

ladyjane · 11-28-2015, 10:04 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom

First, welcome to YT

.

Second...it's okay if you've made a mistake - it really, truly is. It could be either there is most definitely something not right with these pups' past socialization...and/or you may just not be quite ready to handle a puppy...which is a TON of work, dedication, time, effort, learning, and patience.

Who is the breeder, where did you get these pups? Was there something off about the breeder / puppy situation w/ these 2..?

Do you want to give them up to a yorkie rescue or something...or what feels right at this time?

Yorkiemom1 · 11-28-2015, 10:19 AM

While I seriously doubt any positive response from the "breeder" these babies were purchased from, I have to say, PLEASE be sure to contact the breeder BEFORE you off load these babies....I make it VERY clear that if ANY of MY babies do not work out and have to be relinquished by the owner, those pups MUST be returned to me...that is in the contract they sign and it is explained in detail to the buyers when we go over the entire contract, sentence by sentence.....opportunity for comment or questions are given all during the review of the contract and at any time afterwards....This person should contact the breeder before the pup is relinquished, in the (unlikely) event it is in her purchase agreement....

Nana nap · 11-28-2015, 10:57 AM

thanks everyone so much for replying I felt so completely alone when I posted that. Forgot to add that the lads are 22months and 7 months. I got them from a lady who was selling them on behalf of a couple who moved overseas. I think I am the 4th person to have them. I had everything setup for them thank goodness, they have the entire backyard to run around (after covering all small holes) and live and sleep in our laundry. I had only intended they be in there for toilet training but they spray everywhere esp on their bed. I have a safety gate so they can watch what's going on in the home. And have attempted to bring them into the lounge but they just tremor. I've had dogs all my life and recently lost our beautiful Sydney silky who was 15. I'm not trying to replace her but we just wanted another little buddie(s). I am taking them to the vet today who is going to try shave hair around their rear. Also the puppies has only had one shot. This is going to be another traumatic day for both but I don't have a choice right now. I've been trying to keep to the same routine everyday. Am trying different treats but had the same thing happen this morning. I have pen outside and separate them when giving them treats. I know I shouldn't make any rash decisions yet, and will see what the vets says today esp because I called up crying yesterday!!

Nana nap · 11-28-2015, 11:19 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom

First, welcome to YT

.

Second...it's okay if you've made a mistake - it really, truly is. It could be either there is most definitely something not right with these pups' past socialization...and/or you may just not be quite ready to handle a puppy...which is a TON of work, dedication, time, effort, learning, and patience.

Who is the breeder, where did you get these pups? Was there something off about the breeder / puppy situation w/ these 2..?

Do you want to give them up to a yorkie rescue or something...or what feels right at this time?

The lady we got them from was a farmer and selling on behalf of someone who had moved overseas. The 7 month old licked us when we held him but the older one was scared. We meet half way between where we live so I never got to see their environment. Now I just believe they where like any other farm animal feed and water and move onto the next :-( She had been feeding them chicken mince raw and dried bread, probably to fill up there tummies.

I'm not sure where I would rehome them as there are not that many Yorkies where I come from and no specific yorkie rescue.i would hate for them to be past around and around

ladyjane · 11-28-2015, 11:27 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Yorkiemom1

While I seriously doubt any positive response from the "breeder" these babies were purchased from, I have to say, PLEASE be sure to contact the breeder BEFORE you off load these babies....I make it VERY clear that if ANY of MY babies do not work out and have to be relinquished by the owner, those pups MUST be returned to me...that is in the contract they sign and it is explained in detail to the buyers when we go over the entire contract, sentence by sentence.....opportunity for comment or questions are given all during the review of the contract and at any time afterwards....This person should contact the breeder before the pup is relinquished, in the (unlikely) event it is in her purchase agreement....

We always contact the breeders...but I have to say that I seriously doubt these pups came from one who cares.

kaywolf · 11-28-2015, 11:33 AM

hi
i read your post
sorry hear haveing puppy issues boys
i learn lot haveing yorkie relize i'll never be ready new puppies gotta be strong as firm for them to relize rules -foods they eat -yorkies are are very hard train them best your new members family cause once they get it know how far to push can do as not then bonding start
hope something didnt happen where they were from cause scarred skidish i hope new home new ways as voices
i have 11 yr old yorkie she was so scarred at shelter she freak out no1 no trust 2 months for us reading up on yorkies sentive they were foods as potty as how they they push needs are help!!!
i use time outs baby gate to huge room hers her music she bonded with me to point i got to put lady in there' lil me time' she dislike any1 near her she gets so sick goin to day care 2 hrs hissy fit to her it pay back why little up i learn gotta set rules be firm as loveing
try some pumpkin help yuk poo for both of them
dont lose hope soon they relize best home great parents little new yorkies test you past you except
stay here posting lot help
learn from groomer once month bath oils dry out cause itichin
i have i got shaver i use on butts clean
use wet warm washcloth wipe lady down eyes to back to tummy to potty to feet she love it
teeth start now pup tooth brush get pups use to that save teeth wont fight it

Nana nap · 11-28-2015, 11:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ladyjane

We always contact the breeders...but I have to say that I seriously doubt these pups came from one who cares.

I even tried to look up the breeder from their vet records and the address doesn't even exist, and their name Miss Smith!

Jkpal · 11-28-2015, 01:55 PM

Second...it's okay if you've made a mistake - it really, truly is.
If the pups are too much and if you're unhappy and they seem to be unhappy and you don't want to keep them, it's ok. You're not a bad person, they are not bad dogs, it just isn't the right situation. You sound very nice and I'm sure you'll take the necessary steps to find the little ones a happy, loving home--if that's what you decide. Again, as Wylie's Mom said, it's okay and you're okay...Okay?!

11-28-2015, 01:31 AM	#1
Nana nap YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Nov 2015 Location: AK, akl, NZ Posts: 5	Feeling like I've made a horrible mistake... We bought our two male Yorkies a week ago. Thought they would be the perfect companion dogs for my partner I. But instead the last week has been the worst I can't stop crying and now not sure I can keep them. They are so scared of everything and shake, cower or hide from us. I knew the moment we got home and tried to put a leash on them they started doing back flips. Everyone kept telling me oh they just aren't use you to but I knew something was seriously wrong. I had a behaviour specialist come out and she said they probably have never been socialised. Told me to feed them treats to get any type of contact but that has caused a awful tummy upset and now they both have the runs which gets stuck all over their behind because they aren't groomed and I can't even dream of grooming them. So I have to end up bathing them up to three times a day. And it's a huge setback forcing them like that. I feel so sorry for them and it's no fault of their own but it's so much work I don't know if I can continue. If I'd known what I was getting into it would be different. I've lost hope :-(

11-28-2015, 05:46 AM	#2
Wylie's Mom Furbutts = LOVE Donating Member Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Phoenix, AZ Posts: 35,889 Blog Entries: 2	First, welcome to YT . Second...it's okay if you've made a mistake - it really, truly is. It could be either there is most definitely something not right with these pups' past socialization...and/or you may just not be quite ready to handle a puppy...which is a TON of work, dedication, time, effort, learning, and patience. Who is the breeder, where did you get these pups? Was there something off about the breeder / puppy situation w/ these 2..? Do you want to give them up to a yorkie rescue or something...or what feels right at this time? __________________ ~ A friend told me I was delusional. I nearly fell off my unicorn. ~ °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨° Ann \| Pfeiffer \| Marcel Verdel Purcell \| Wylie \| Artie °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨°

11-28-2015, 07:49 AM	#4
DvlshAngel985 Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Los Angeles, California, USA Posts: 12,693	Sounds like my Kaji when I first got him. I let him be for the most part and let him cone to me when he was ready. Eventually he started showing signs that he couldn't live without me. He always needed me to be where he could see me. ALWAYS. He wouldn't let me touch him, and hold him, but he needed to be able to see me. Eventually, with time, he started leaving our room to see what I was doing. I distinctly remember the first day he came down from our room and sat on a step to see me in the kitchen. I turned around and started talking to him. He ran back upstairs to our room as fast as his little legs would take him. After 6 months, he was mine. All mine. Cuddles, play, walks (not beautifully walking next to me, but we were getting somewhere) baths, car rides, it was all getting more bearable for him. He still had his fears, and reacted to a lot of things, but I was no longer one of the scary things. Fast forward 6 years later, Kaji loves my whole family, plays like a little puppy, hikes like a pro, and loves meeting new dogs at the pet supply stores. He still is apprehensive with people he doesn't know, especially children, but he takes trips to the mall in stride, just being happy to be with me. In fact, he's currently in bed with me, curled up next to my thigh, under the blankets, as close as he could possibly be. I feel him kicking and hear him sleep barking. He's just so relaxed and dreaming away. Bottom line, for pups that have that kind of reaction at first will just need more time adjusting. And since there 2 scared pups, they may cling to each other more at first. They'll come around. You just have to be really patient. __________________ Littlest JakJak We miss you Kaji

11-28-2015, 09:40 AM	#5
Harrysmum Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Chessington, Surrey, UK Posts: 5,062	I always equate new puppy = newborn baby...and you've got twins! It's such a huge upheaval in your life, I know I've felt exactly the way you're feeling - not actually with Harry but with a very 'thick' Schnauzer that we had... I can only suggest that you hang in there - it will get better - and yes they will turn to one another for comfort, they're brothers in arms against the world (at the moment!!!). Oh, and try different treats - maybe some little pieces of boiled chicken breast? That should control the pooping, and cut down on your workload!! I truly wish you luck Sally + Harry xx __________________ Sally x

11-28-2015, 09:46 AM	#6
Maximo ♥ Maximo and Teddy Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Northern Virginia Posts: 25,041	Sorry you are having a rough time. How old are the boys? Puppies can be really overwhelming. The first year is the hardest. For me, having Max was like having a highly mobile newborn human baby. Having 2 at one time is twice the challenge. I shed a few tears that first year. Having a schedule of daily activities, a routine, is reassuring and calming for dogs. Try to serve meals, have short play sessions, and do things at about the same time each day. I limited roaming room in my house with baby gates and xpens. This helps with potty training and general training. Maybe try separating the boys a little when trying to train and groom? Stick to a limited diet. If you feed kibble, use the kibble for rewards. This will help prevent tummy problems. I also use tiny bits of steamed plain chicken breast. Grooming and walking on leash are all things that take time and loads of patience to train for with a Yorkie. Maintaining a calm demeanor even when it seems hopeless is important. These dogs can read out anxiousness and they tend to react negatively to it. __________________ Kristin, Max and Teddy

11-28-2015, 06:21 AM	#3
nenamos Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: El Cajon, CA USA Posts: 23	Try to hang in there.... I know it's hard. Last February I did the same thing. I already had a one year old male and went to buy a playmate and came home with two females. I too thought a I made a terrible mistake......three yorkies under 2. They were very skittish the first week and boy was it a lot work. Patience and lots of love will help u get through this and finding a Daily routine that works. Remember they need time to adjust to their new surrounding. Best of luck

11-28-2015, 10:19 AM	#9
Yorkiemom1 Rosehill Yorkies Donating YT Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Houston Texas Posts: 9,462	While I seriously doubt any positive response from the "breeder" these babies were purchased from, I have to say, PLEASE be sure to contact the breeder BEFORE you off load these babies....I make it VERY clear that if ANY of MY babies do not work out and have to be relinquished by the owner, those pups MUST be returned to me...that is in the contract they sign and it is explained in detail to the buyers when we go over the entire contract, sentence by sentence.....opportunity for comment or questions are given all during the review of the contract and at any time afterwards....This person should contact the breeder before the pup is relinquished, in the (unlikely) event it is in her purchase agreement....

11-28-2015, 10:57 AM	#10
Nana nap YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Nov 2015 Location: AK, akl, NZ Posts: 5	thanks everyone so much for replying I felt so completely alone when I posted that. Forgot to add that the lads are 22months and 7 months. I got them from a lady who was selling them on behalf of a couple who moved overseas. I think I am the 4th person to have them. I had everything setup for them thank goodness, they have the entire backyard to run around (after covering all small holes) and live and sleep in our laundry. I had only intended they be in there for toilet training but they spray everywhere esp on their bed. I have a safety gate so they can watch what's going on in the home. And have attempted to bring them into the lounge but they just tremor. I've had dogs all my life and recently lost our beautiful Sydney silky who was 15. I'm not trying to replace her but we just wanted another little buddie(s). I am taking them to the vet today who is going to try shave hair around their rear. Also the puppies has only had one shot. This is going to be another traumatic day for both but I don't have a choice right now. I've been trying to keep to the same routine everyday. Am trying different treats but had the same thing happen this morning. I have pen outside and separate them when giving them treats. I know I shouldn't make any rash decisions yet, and will see what the vets says today esp because I called up crying yesterday!!

11-28-2015, 11:33 AM	#13
kaywolf YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Oct 2015 Location: lead south dakota Posts: 7	hi i read your post sorry hear haveing puppy issues boys i learn lot haveing yorkie relize i'll never be ready new puppies gotta be strong as firm for them to relize rules -foods they eat -yorkies are are very hard train them best your new members family cause once they get it know how far to push can do as not then bonding start hope something didnt happen where they were from cause scarred skidish i hope new home new ways as voices i have 11 yr old yorkie she was so scarred at shelter she freak out no1 no trust 2 months for us reading up on yorkies sentive they were foods as potty as how they they push needs are help!!! i use time outs baby gate to huge room hers her music she bonded with me to point i got to put lady in there' lil me time' she dislike any1 near her she gets so sick goin to day care 2 hrs hissy fit to her it pay back why little up i learn gotta set rules be firm as loveing try some pumpkin help yuk poo for both of them dont lose hope soon they relize best home great parents little new yorkies test you past you except stay here posting lot help learn from groomer once month bath oils dry out cause itichin i have i got shaver i use on butts clean use wet warm washcloth wipe lady down eyes to back to tummy to potty to feet she love it teeth start now pup tooth brush get pups use to that save teeth wont fight it Attached Thumbnails

11-28-2015, 01:55 PM	#15
Jkpal YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2014 Location: Lake Geneva, WI Posts: 2,776	Second...it's okay if you've made a mistake - it really, truly is. If the pups are too much and if you're unhappy and they seem to be unhappy and you don't want to keep them, it's ok. You're not a bad person, they are not bad dogs, it just isn't the right situation. You sound very nice and I'm sure you'll take the necessary steps to find the little ones a happy, loving home--if that's what you decide. Again, as Wylie's Mom said, it's okay and you're okay...Okay?!