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Jkpal 09-19-2015 10:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Harrysmum (Post 4592549)
:eek: I thought it was a car....;) :D

Me, too!!

matese 09-19-2015 10:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Harrysmum (Post 4592549)
:eek: I thought it was a car....;) :D

lol we all know a Fiatis a car lol, so I thought so too, but when capt_noonie asked what it was I knew I was not the only "confused" person lol, see all that we learn here on YT, what an educational forum lol :)

capt_noonie 09-19-2015 06:19 PM

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Originally Posted by matese (Post 4592547)
I googled it was curious myself lol

The Latin phrase
fiat lux
, from the Latin Vulgate Bible, is typically translated as "let there be light" when relating to Genesis 1:3 (Hebrew: "יְהִי אוֹר").

Fits this OP

Still don't get it. LOL

wigglewomyn 09-19-2015 06:33 PM

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Originally Posted by ladyjane (Post 4592369)
Yes, yes, and yes! All so very true and your last line sums it all up.

I started rescuing in 2005 .. it was after that, maybe 2006 or 2007 when yorkies hit that AKC popularity list that I have grown to despise. I remember at the time that a friend of mine predicted just what has happened....of course there were problems then, but OMG they have multiplied AND the numbers of yorkies being dumped and/or surrendered now are unbelievable. Unless you live it, you simply could not comprehend....it is out of control.

I don't know how someone can dump or surrender one of these beautiful, loving puppies, health problems or not. After having them for a few months, how can they stand to give them up? My babies are my heart and soul. I would be totally lost without them. I never knew how lonely and lost i was before they came into my life. They have brought me so much love, joy and laughter. I bought health insurance as soon as i got them so if there were any problems, i would be able to take care of them and get reimbursed for most of the medical bills.

Reality 101 09-20-2015 09:38 PM

Sad when a dog is put in front of a human. How lonely are you, seriously?

SirTeddykins 09-21-2015 12:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Reality 101 (Post 4592879)
Sad when a dog is put in front of a human. How lonely are you, seriously?

Define 'human'. The term is subjective. A 'human' in my book doesn't get rid of a dog cuz they are too ignorant to take care of it or train the dog and themselves to appropriately care for the life they vowed to protect by taking ownership of the dog in the first place. A 'human' doesn't give ultimatums to another 'human' regarding their dog. A 'human' discusses issues and works them out to a mutually satisfactory conclusion. This skill is apparent by the age of 3 in most 'humans'.

I find it sad that someone visits a dog forum and the best contribution they deem fit to offer is sarcasm. Grow up.

Oddsock 09-21-2015 02:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Reality 101 (Post 4592879)
Sad when a dog is put in front of a human. How lonely are you, seriously?

Oh the boyfriend has turned up.

ladyjane 09-21-2015 07:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Oddsock (Post 4592894)
Oh the boyfriend has turned up.

LOL Now I do wonder if this is a game.

ladyjane 09-21-2015 07:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Oddsock (Post 4592894)
Oh the boyfriend has turned up.

on second thought....OP is in NY and the new person is in Las Vegas ...or at least that is what the profile says

ladyjane 09-21-2015 07:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Reality 101 (Post 4592879)
Sad when a dog is put in front of a human. How lonely are you, seriously?

I don't think anyone is putting a dog before a human. What I feel is that a dog should be treated as a living being and not tossed aside just to please a human.

As for the lonely remark, many people are more lonely living with humans than those who live with dogs.

maxdog 09-21-2015 07:35 AM

I think this all just a waste of time because the OP is never coming back.

:(

ladyjane 09-21-2015 07:40 AM

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Originally Posted by maxdog (Post 4592931)
I think this all just a waste of time because the OP is never coming back.

:(

Yeah, basically it is an exercise in futility.

capt_noonie 09-21-2015 08:14 AM

I never thought the OP was a troll, but this new one? Seriously, you chose a screen name Reality 101? Or maybe you choose that living in North Las Vegas.

Join yesterday, and two generally negative unhelpful posts. Why would anyone want to just "get used to your dog peeing and crapping" in the house? That's just gross. I would not want to know what your house smells like.

Piddle Place 09-22-2015 09:15 AM

puppy training or boyfriend leaving?
 
Wow, quite a difficult situation you have there. I am sorry your boyfriend is being difficult, I love my dog, and if given the choice, boyfriend out the door. But that being said, an ill behaved dog really creates a difficult situation. Even are your dogs age, training is rather easy. Your dog, like a child, just needs to be given boundries, and a patient trainer. If your pup has been ruling the home for the last year, he will be reluctant to work with your new rules, so you will have to be patient, show what is expected and reward all efforts. Maybe your boyfriend can help with the training, that might be a good bonding experience between everyone. If housebreaking is the main issue, in order to save your relationship, I will send you a free Piddle Place if you promise to follow training instructions. (I assume you live in the US) I would hate for your to take your baby to a shelter for lack of training. I volunteer here at a shelter, and this is the main reason people drop off their dogs. These dogs have often learned bad habits, and this decreases their chance of adoption.


One thing about Yorkie-Talk, we are all here to help you my friend

gemy 09-22-2015 10:00 AM

We are very experienced dog owners and breeders - but we never had a toy dog and used pee pads at all.


I have told this story before; somewhere here, but when we got Razzman Dec 30th during a very very cold winter here - and he froze trying to go outside we attempted to use the peepads. I was unsuccessfull with the training as I was not determined enough. About 3months later with pee going everywhere and poo too, my husband got very sick of it. Luckily we were coming into the spring. But I took my husbands concerns very seriously and instituted a strict outdoor regime - I essentially gave up on pee pads. He how-ever never said get rid of this dog or else ------! For sure Razzman was my idea that hubby acceded to. Of course now and for a long time he loves our Yorkie just like our big dogs..


As a dog lover and trainer - I know who is to blame at least 95% of the time for behavioural or pottying issues - and that is the owner!


A dog never takes the place of your husband or wife. A dog needs to fit into your household. You do your very outmost to make this happen - doing what it takes - outside training - a behaviourist - commitment of time, energy and $$$ - but if all else fails - then you are responsible for re-homing this dog. And if a re-home is not possible (as can be the case with a very large and aggressive dog - who resists all the training etc etc) it is your responsibility to PTS your dog.


My dogs are an incredibly important part of my life - I would not want to live a life without my dogs - but they are not human children - or my sister or my husband. In our breed for example if a dog bites a human that resides in the home - that is a very very huge RED Flag. I remember with a large BRT I fostered for a time - he shortly after being in our home - for no reason that I could fathom - saw my sis go to the washroom - then when she came out he went for her - that is charged her aggressively . I was out of my chair so fast my head spun. But he backed off when I interposed my body between him and my sis. Sis did everything right - halted said nothing - crossed her arms over her chest - and waited for me to control the situation. He backed off and never did it again - but you can be sure I watched him very very closely - and his obedience training went up to 3x per wk.


This dog was not house trained - and for the first month or so - peed a lake in my home. Many folks would not have accepted the damage to their home - and been confident enough and patient enough to help train this young soul. When he was placed - he was placed with full disclosure about his house training.


I think many folks with small dogs let them get away with things that large dog owners would never ever accept. And while misbehaving medium to large breed dogs are not un-common, many many small breeds are!


For example would this owner - if that Yorkie weighed a 110lbs and peed a lake in her living room accept this behaviour? I really think not! She would be forced to do something about it!

dottiesyrky 09-22-2015 10:44 AM

Piddle Place
 
Very nice offer Kathleen…hope she takes you up on it. :) Thank you.

dinkster 09-22-2015 05:05 PM

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Originally Posted by gemy (Post 4592297)
I think it is reasonable to ask and also to be Part of the solution of training this puppy. That is reasonable for the man to ask this to be done. Not reasonable if the first goto was actually to get rid of the dog!


The OP made the decision to purchase this puppy and is ultimately and predominately responsible for correcting the problems her lack of training of this dog created.


I would not rush to presume or assume that the facts are as stated - what has been omitted? this is only one persons side of the storyline. But for sure she is doing this dog no favours in the way she has raised it. Behavioural issues are one of the prime reasons dogs are surrendered and quite frankly new homes can be hard to find for these dogs.


I totally agree.

Deadbug 09-23-2015 07:28 AM

Ugh. It's cases and stories like this that make me think there should be a rule that you have to take a class before adopting a puppy AND be held financially responsible for the dog for the rest of it's life. It would seriously eliminate a lot of the neglect and impulse buying.

Neither of these people are right. The boyfriend for demanding the dog go without even trying to correct the behaviors and the owner for allowing the behaviors to begin in the first place. A puppy only knows what it's been taught. You wouldn't have a child and not teach it right from wrong. Why do people think it's ok to neglect a dog that way?

An untrained pet is a liability. A well behaved pet is an asset.

Reality 101 10-21-2015 10:09 PM

I think many folks with small dogs let them get away with things that large dog owners would never ever accept. And while misbehaving medium to large breed dogs are not un-common, many many small breeds are!


For example would this owner - if that Yorkie weighed a 110lbs and peed a lake in her living room accept this behaviour? I really think not! She would be forced to do something about it!

chestermama 10-26-2015 01:27 AM

I would never give up my dog for a boyfriend, work with the dog on training, good luck

Potter 10-30-2015 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by chestermama (Post 4599772)
I would never give up my dog for a boyfriend, work with the dog on training, good luck


Ya me neither. I would not even give my dog up for my husband.

Mike-S 11-01-2015 12:40 PM

Hey emma, first of all I hope you haven't made the decision to give up on your dog because of your boyfriend situation. In my honest opinion you should't even be in this situation, you two should sit down and agree to find a solution to the issues, but that's just my opinion.

I understand what you mean by the annoying continuous barking, because my newly adopted puppy used to do the same (if not more, trust me), so I'm going to refer you to some tips that did wonders for me.

You might have guessed it by now that there's no shortcut to solving these behavioral issues, you have to train your dog the right way.

And before we speak about the right ways, let's get the wrong ways out of sight. Here are the things you NEVER want to do when trying to stop dog barking:

Screaming: NEVER start screaming at your dog or show your dog that you’re heated and angry thinking you’re going to get them to stop barking that way. You’re not. You’ll just make it worse because they might sense that you’re joining them in barking (let’s face it, human screaming is the equivalent to dog barking) or worse off, they will sense that you’re frustrated and might try to imitate you, and that’s a whole other dangerous story because that’s when them attacking you becomes a real possibility. If you’re going to make your dog stop barking the right way, you have to learn how to keep your cool. Speak and act in a calm yet firm way.

Being too nice: Don’t be too sweet and wishy-washy with your dog when you want them to stop barking. You must be firm and assertive (but refer to #1 and don’t yell!) so they don’t mistake your affection with your approval of their barking.

Inconsistency: Not being consistent. I see this happen a lot of times so I had to include it here. When you’re training your dog when to bark and when not to bark, the last thing you want to do is confuse them. All your household members and everyone who interacts with your dog must follow the same methods you follow when your dog barks inappropriately. If you let your dog get away with inappropriate barking one time and punish them for it the other, you’re sending them mixed signals.

Giving them food: Never EVER try to make your dog quiet by giving them a treat to make their mouth full and stop them from barking. This way, you’ll teach them that when they bark, they get a treat from you.

I can't post everything here, but there's much more golden nuggets for you to pick up on in this article about how exactly you can stop your dog from barking so annoyingly.

Good luck with the whole boyfriend situation!


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