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I hope this post does bring change to YT. I was dumped on my first week of becoming a member of YT. I will do my part and continue to be welcoming Thx |
I agree with all of the above . I have been attacked here so read instead of posting..It can get wicked. Hoping it gets better |
Well said Ann. |
I very much agree. I have had a few is it worth posting here anymore moments the last month and I try to remember the people and dogs I have helped and the private messages I have gotten before just to say thanks and I try to remember I have meet some great friends here. I know sometimes we all have grumpy or bad days so when I have one of those I either try to stay off yt or only open certain happy posts so I'm not tempted to post ing my grumpy mood. I also have started making sure to read over what I have typed and try to make sure there isn't something that could hurt someone's feelings or be taken the wrong way. I will admit though sometimes there is only stuff I tell a close friend about Callie instead of posting for fear of being beat up about it. Sometimes I also have certain questions I'm afraid to ask for fear of it starting drama or a fight when they are real questions about yorkies that I would like to know about. |
Thank you Ann for your post. I was going to leave here but after some private messages I am staying. I enjoy reading posts but not the ones attacking someone. I hope everyone can remember other people have feelings and I will do that also. Dawn. |
Well said indeed 'Wylies Mom' I suffered a recent and really spiteful affront, which upset me at a time when I was vulnerable. I think there exist 'idealogues' abroad everywhere, who proffer opinion regardless to individual circumstances, just to ram their point home. Their dogma however can be very hurtful and most times bitterly presented. Other forums have an 'ignore' option, so you can prevent reading what this specific member is saying? It's a shame this function has to exist, but very often these people do not possess either the humility or intelligence of consideration to refrain. Unfortunately having to reprehend them therefore, rarely seems to remedy a basic flaw in their psyche. Providentially, the many and wonderful friends I now have here on this essentially passive and loving forum, more than compensate:) |
I haven't been on much either because of this....This is supposed to be a "discussion" forum yet people are complaining they don't feel comfortable in expressing their opinions here. If the admin./ moderators are receiving a "huge" number of complaints then this is a serious issue for the forum. Everything posted on here affects how we are perceived as a group, and frankly, it's not altogether flattering. Personally, I don't mind a difference of opinion, it's the constant badgering to prove the person wrong that creates this confrontational atmosphere. Why can't a person state their opinion without snarky comments directed at the opposing view? It's really not that hard... I really wish these reminders were enough to solve this issue, but if the few who are creating this hostile environment don't realize it's their behavior contributing to this then we can't expect change. Sometimes it's just their personality and they have no clue how they appear to others. Maybe they don’t realize how rude and unpleasant their behavior is – it’s their blind spot. |
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Being new here, I am fortunate to not have experienced anything that I might take personally offensive (and usually try to keep an open mind or a more objective point of view), but it's good to be given reminders to "mind" ourselves at times. There's a big difference in expressing an opinion as opposed to trying to enforce an opinion, but at the same time the lines can get easily blurred when things get misinterpreted and emotions are very easy to rile up, especially if it's a subject one is passionate about ^_^ |
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:thumbup::thumbup::thumbup: Well said and thank you so much for posting this. It needed to be said. I'm fairly new here, and for the most part, I love this group. I know there have been several threads lately that I would've like to have posted in but didn't feel comfortable doing so because of all the bickering so just avoided them. I hope we all take this to heart. :) |
I am a bit shocked. This is by FAR the nicest forum I have ever been apart of. After a very mild debate I got myself into, I had many private messages reassuring me that this was a nice place, as if I thought any differently just because of a very small debate. I'm use to a MUCH different hostile atmosphere, which I've grown to quite enjoy. Because of my strong personality and lack of filter, I would probably be better of not posting often. But I appreciate you trying to create a friendlier atmosphere for others! Xo |
Thank you Ann for posting this much needed reminder. What irks me no end is when and this often happens with a new member, a simple question asked is not answered particularly when it is a simple factual answer, it does not require interpretation or knowing more about the background history, but by the time the answer is given the OP has to wade through posts that contain questions and assumptions that carry at the very least a negative undertone that is quite easily picked up by the OP. We need to remember while this is a dog forum, and for dogs and the joy we can share in our dogs, the health issues we face, it is THEIR HUMANS who are speaking here. It is their human hands that will turn from this board and pick up the phone to call the vet, it is their human hands that can caress an ill dog more lovingly because they received understanding and support here. It is our voices that can help calm the fears of the OP's, that can help assuage guilt for doing what needs to be done despite the sheer pain it will cause the human care-giver. I do hope your missive will help to make a difference. |
Great reminder. I just wasn't to add for us all to remember that we were once first time dog owners. We all had to ask questions that probably sounded dumb and we all made mistakes that I'm sure we would not want to be punished for over and over again. It's easy to forget we were all newbies at one time, let's treat each other like we would want to be treated. |
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