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Hopesmom · 12-03-2013, 10:04 AM

I would bring the crate inside. Would be afraid to leave them in the car due to cold & risk of being stolen. If the children get too scared & loud maybe you could put the crate in a closed bedroom that you could check on & off during the day. Good luck!

DBlain · 12-03-2013, 11:08 AM

I say that it should be up to the person that is hosting the get together and what they say, not everyone wants someone to bring a dog and crate and so forth into their house, also how is your dog when left in a crate, I know Lola would not be still if she was in a room with others and had to be crated away, so barking could be disruptive. On the other hand perhaps the mom of the little girl might see this as a way of helping the girl overcome a fear that IMHO is not healthy. While it is wise for children to know that all dogs are not friendly and they should always be cautious it's not healthy to go through life extremely fearful of dogs, especially small ones. This means if she has a playmate that has a dog, or visits a relative that has a dog the owners will always be trying to accommodate her need to keep the dog out of site, that is not always practical. Perhaps if you spoke to the mom and asked her what she thought of letting her daughter have limited contact through the cage with you pup. The mom could also build up excitement by getting her a stuffed toy that looks like a yorkie and talk about how if she liked she could pet it through the cage and maybe even give it a treat. W

I was at my aunts house and one of our elderly cousins was so afraid of my sisters yorkie that she actually kicked it when it ran under the table near her, the dog was not even trying to get near the lady just passing by. Maybe it is just me but I think to grow up that fearful of a dog is not good, you don't have to love them, but to kick a 5lb dog out of fear is ridiculous.

kimp5 · 12-03-2013, 11:12 AM

is there a friend or vet you could leave your pup with for the day? When we go somewhere our groomer takes Jess. She actually stays in the house with their own dogs like one of the family. She loves the interaction with the other dogs. You may want to look into something like that. I found him through neighbor referrals..

DBlain · 12-03-2013, 11:28 AM

another option is to put the crate in the garage if they have one or backyard. But the question is how is your dog in a crate and is it ok with the homeowner

Also IMHO every pet owner needs to have a plan for when they can not be home all day with their dog, I think missing a family gathering because you have to stay home with a healthy pet is kind of sad. Think how you would feel if someone refused to visit you because they had to stay home to babysit their dog. I have several neighbors that I trust to let Lola out if I need to be out for a full day. I have a fabulous pet sitter that takes care of yorkies in her home for when I go on vacation. Try to find someone that you trust to pinch hit for you on occasion.

I just cohosted a surprise birthday party at a friends house. A gal that most of us did not know showed up carrying her 3lb yorkie. She never asked if this was OK but to her it was OK because she carried it the whole time. She said the dog had separation anxiety. So LOL here I am a yorkie lover, but I was still pissed because I thought she had a lot of nerve, plus in my heart I know to be joined at the hip 24/7 is just not normal or healthy for pet and owner. OP LOL I am not saying your are not normal, but try not to miss important family events because you have to stay home with your pup.

Singingtiger · 12-03-2013, 11:29 AM

I have family in town that could come look in if abosoulutely needed. I really have NO idea whatsoever of how the little girl will act. Before we even found out this cousin was going to be there, my uncle had told my dad that it would be fine if we brought the dog for Thanksgiving. However, plans changed and I wound up staying home with our pets. Cricket actually does really good when left in a crate. She doesn't really make a sound, with the exception if we've been gone and we come home, she just gets excited someone's finally home. I'm still giving this some thought and I have really appreciated everyone's advice.

thanks a lot.

DBlain · 12-03-2013, 11:51 AM

sounds like Cricket is a pretty calm dog, she just might be the type of pup that the little girl would like, would you ever consider asking her mom if she wants her child to get over being so afraid.

Singingtiger · 12-03-2013, 12:16 PM

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Originally Posted by DBlain

sounds like Cricket is a pretty calm dog, she just might be the type of pup that the little girl would like, would you ever consider asking her mom if she wants her child to get over being so afraid.

I would, except for the fact that this is family that we haven't seen in a while. I've thought about sending my cousin a Facebook message, just asking her how her daughter reacts, but I don't know if I will do that or not. As far as treats go, I can't give Cricket regular dog treats because she had a liver shunt, she had surgery and is doing great! She does have MVD though,and eats hills l/d dry food. She now weighs 7 lbs. I give her dry regular Cheerios, (not a whole bunch, but I hate that she can't have anything). Idk, maybe the little kids could eat Cheerios with her ! LOL!

I know it's not a good idea to always be home with a pet, and usually on weekends I'm not. I go to the mall, go to church on Sunday, so she can be left by herself and I don't usually worry about her.

DBlain · 12-03-2013, 12:24 PM

I think the face book message is a good idea, and cheerios would be the perfect treat for a child to give, sorry to hear about the liver shunt issue but glad she is doing well, that has to be so scary.

cherry14 · 12-03-2013, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Singingtiger

I would, except for the fact that this is family that we haven't seen in a while. I've thought about sending my cousin a Facebook message, just asking her how her daughter reacts, but I don't know if I will do that or not. As far as treats go, I can't give Cricket regular dog treats because she had a liver shunt, she had surgery and is doing great! She does have MVD though,and eats hills l/d dry food. She now weighs 7 lbs. I give her dry regular Cheerios, (not a whole bunch, but I hate that she can't have anything). Idk, maybe the little kids could eat Cheerios with her ! LOL!

I know it's not a good idea to always be home with a pet, and usually on weekends I'm not. I go to the mall, go to church on Sunday, so she can be left by herself and I don't usually worry about her.

I would send her a message and make sure she knows you're OK with her saying no. I can't really see why it would be a huge deal, though. If she does say no, I'd have her stay home in a confined area (play pen or small room with safe toys, food, water, and a pee pad).

Lovetodream88 · 12-03-2013, 01:41 PM

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Originally Posted by DBlain

another option is to put the crate in the garage if they have one or backyard. But the question is how is your dog in a crate and is it ok with the homeowner

Also IMHO every pet owner needs to have a plan for when they can not be home all day with their dog, I think missing a family gathering because you have to stay home with a healthy pet is kind of sad. Think how you would feel if someone refused to visit you because they had to stay home to babysit their dog. I have several neighbors that I trust to let Lola out if I need to be out for a full day. I have a fabulous pet sitter that takes care of yorkies in her home for when I go on vacation. Try to find someone that you trust to pinch hit for you on occasion.

I just cohosted a surprise birthday party at a friends house. A gal that most of us did not know showed up carrying her 3lb yorkie. She never asked if this was OK but to her it was OK because she carried it the whole time. She said the dog had separation anxiety. So LOL here I am a yorkie lover, but I was still pissed because I thought she had a lot of nerve, plus in my heart I know to be joined at the hip 24/7 is just not normal or healthy for pet and owner. OP LOL I am not saying your are not normal, but try not to miss important family events because you have to stay home with your pup.

A dog in a crate out side is a sitting duck for humans and other animals. Callie is 6 and a half and has never ever been alone. When I go some where my Grandpa watches her when he needs to go some where I am with her. We have taken her with us to family events in other states and me and one of my parents always stayed with her during the actual graduation which are always to crowded for me any way because of my anxiety. Most of my family has pets and is fine with Callie coming over and the one who does not absolutely loves Callie and has no problem with it. Maybe when she was younger I could have left her alone but my anxiety is far to bad for that now and even if it wasn't it would be unfair for her to all of a sudden after 6 years be left alone and she does have separation anxiety. Callie is also extremely well behaved rarely ever barks, never bites and knows her manors. Maybe in your opinion it's unhealthy but there are reasons, stories and exceptions to everything.

DBlain · 12-03-2013, 05:38 PM

most dogs are products of their environment and pick up signals from their owners, so if you have a dog since they are small and never leave them alone if you start doing it when they are over a few years of age they will probably have separation problems. Your right not every situation is the same, but the majority of pet owners don't live with parents or grandparents, plus they have to go out of the house to work, shop or to visit friends and unless they are physically handicapped can not always bring their dog along. So it would be wise to get them used to it at an early age. Maybe it's just me but even though I love Lola there is no way that I could work it or want to work it that someone was home with her 24/7 in most situations this is just not emotionally healthy.

Kaylee32 · 12-03-2013, 07:06 PM

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Originally Posted by DBlain

most dogs are products of their environment and pick up signals from their owners, so if you have a dog since they are small and never leave them alone if you start doing it when they are over a few years of age they will probably have separation problems. Your right not every situation is the same, but the majority of pet owners don't live with parents or grandparents, plus they have to go out of the house to work, shop or to visit friends and unless they are physically handicapped can not always bring their dog along. So it would be wise to get them used to it at an early age. Maybe it's just me but even though I love Lola there is no way that I could work it or want to work it that someone was home with her 24/7 in most situations this is just not emotionally healthy.

I agree!!

Lovetodream88 · 12-03-2013, 08:24 PM

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Originally Posted by DBlain

most dogs are products of their environment and pick up signals from their owners, so if you have a dog since they are small and never leave them alone if you start doing it when they are over a few years of age they will probably have separation problems. Your right not every situation is the same, but the majority of pet owners don't live with parents or grandparents, plus they have to go out of the house to work, shop or to visit friends and unless they are physically handicapped can not always bring their dog along. So it would be wise to get them used to it at an early age. Maybe it's just me but even though I love Lola there is no way that I could work it or want to work it that someone was home with her 24/7 in most situations this is just not emotionally healthy.

I am disabled not physically but still considered disabled. But to each there own I am sure there are things you and others do with there dogs I would think are unhealthy too

dawn27 · 12-03-2013, 08:28 PM

I think you should go but I wouldn't suggest taking her and leaving her in the car...no no so not a good idea. Plus unless you have permission from the home owners you wouldn't be able to take her either. Maybe a pup sitter someone trust worthy to take her for the day.

If you do take her I agree that a crate (not her portable carrier) would be the best thing for her. Take plenty of toy to occupy her time. She probably will not tolerate being left alone in another room by herself so it wont be an easy situation for anyone including you.

Normally when we leave I have a neighbor come let our dogs out and feed them while we are gone.

12-03-2013, 11:08 AM	#17
DBlain Donating YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Oakland County MI Posts: 6,190	I say that it should be up to the person that is hosting the get together and what they say, not everyone wants someone to bring a dog and crate and so forth into their house, also how is your dog when left in a crate, I know Lola would not be still if she was in a room with others and had to be crated away, so barking could be disruptive. On the other hand perhaps the mom of the little girl might see this as a way of helping the girl overcome a fear that IMHO is not healthy. While it is wise for children to know that all dogs are not friendly and they should always be cautious it's not healthy to go through life extremely fearful of dogs, especially small ones. This means if she has a playmate that has a dog, or visits a relative that has a dog the owners will always be trying to accommodate her need to keep the dog out of site, that is not always practical. Perhaps if you spoke to the mom and asked her what she thought of letting her daughter have limited contact through the cage with you pup. The mom could also build up excitement by getting her a stuffed toy that looks like a yorkie and talk about how if she liked she could pet it through the cage and maybe even give it a treat. W I was at my aunts house and one of our elderly cousins was so afraid of my sisters yorkie that she actually kicked it when it ran under the table near her, the dog was not even trying to get near the lady just passing by. Maybe it is just me but I think to grow up that fearful of a dog is not good, you don't have to love them, but to kick a 5lb dog out of fear is ridiculous. __________________ Lola my amazing little yorkie-pom Donna

12-03-2013, 11:28 AM	#19
DBlain Donating YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Oakland County MI Posts: 6,190	another option is to put the crate in the garage if they have one or backyard. But the question is how is your dog in a crate and is it ok with the homeowner Also IMHO every pet owner needs to have a plan for when they can not be home all day with their dog, I think missing a family gathering because you have to stay home with a healthy pet is kind of sad. Think how you would feel if someone refused to visit you because they had to stay home to babysit their dog. I have several neighbors that I trust to let Lola out if I need to be out for a full day. I have a fabulous pet sitter that takes care of yorkies in her home for when I go on vacation. Try to find someone that you trust to pinch hit for you on occasion. I just cohosted a surprise birthday party at a friends house. A gal that most of us did not know showed up carrying her 3lb yorkie. She never asked if this was OK but to her it was OK because she carried it the whole time. She said the dog had separation anxiety. So LOL here I am a yorkie lover, but I was still pissed because I thought she had a lot of nerve, plus in my heart I know to be joined at the hip 24/7 is just not normal or healthy for pet and owner. OP LOL I am not saying your are not normal, but try not to miss important family events because you have to stay home with your pup. __________________ Lola my amazing little yorkie-pom Donna

12-03-2013, 11:29 AM	#20
Singingtiger Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Texas Posts: 170	I have family in town that could come look in if abosoulutely needed. I really have NO idea whatsoever of how the little girl will act. Before we even found out this cousin was going to be there, my uncle had told my dad that it would be fine if we brought the dog for Thanksgiving. However, plans changed and I wound up staying home with our pets. Cricket actually does really good when left in a crate. She doesn't really make a sound, with the exception if we've been gone and we come home, she just gets excited someone's finally home. I'm still giving this some thought and I have really appreciated everyone's advice. thanks a lot. __________________ Megan, mommy to Cricket

12-03-2013, 11:51 AM	#21
DBlain Donating YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Oakland County MI Posts: 6,190	sounds like Cricket is a pretty calm dog, she just might be the type of pup that the little girl would like, would you ever consider asking her mom if she wants her child to get over being so afraid. __________________ Lola my amazing little yorkie-pom Donna

12-03-2013, 12:24 PM	#23
DBlain Donating YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Oakland County MI Posts: 6,190	I think the face book message is a good idea, and cheerios would be the perfect treat for a child to give, sorry to hear about the liver shunt issue but glad she is doing well, that has to be so scary. __________________ Lola my amazing little yorkie-pom Donna

12-03-2013, 10:04 AM	#16
Hopesmom Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2012 Location: NY Posts: 247	I would bring the crate inside. Would be afraid to leave them in the car due to cold & risk of being stolen. If the children get too scared & loud maybe you could put the crate in a closed bedroom that you could check on & off during the day. Good luck!

12-03-2013, 11:12 AM	#18
kimp5 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: Boston MA Posts: 890	is there a friend or vet you could leave your pup with for the day? When we go somewhere our groomer takes Jess. She actually stays in the house with their own dogs like one of the family. She loves the interaction with the other dogs. You may want to look into something like that. I found him through neighbor referrals..

12-03-2013, 05:38 PM	#26
DBlain Donating YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Oakland County MI Posts: 6,190	most dogs are products of their environment and pick up signals from their owners, so if you have a dog since they are small and never leave them alone if you start doing it when they are over a few years of age they will probably have separation problems. Your right not every situation is the same, but the majority of pet owners don't live with parents or grandparents, plus they have to go out of the house to work, shop or to visit friends and unless they are physically handicapped can not always bring their dog along. So it would be wise to get them used to it at an early age. Maybe it's just me but even though I love Lola there is no way that I could work it or want to work it that someone was home with her 24/7 in most situations this is just not emotionally healthy. __________________ Lola my amazing little yorkie-pom Donna Last edited by DBlain; 12-03-2013 at 05:41 PM.

12-03-2013, 08:28 PM	#29
dawn27 2+2=4 X the Love ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Bean Town Ohio Posts: 9,456 Blog Entries: 1	I think you should go but I wouldn't suggest taking her and leaving her in the car...no no so not a good idea. Plus unless you have permission from the home owners you wouldn't be able to take her either. Maybe a pup sitter someone trust worthy to take her for the day. If you do take her I agree that a crate (not her portable carrier) would be the best thing for her. Take plenty of toy to occupy her time. She probably will not tolerate being left alone in another room by herself so it wont be an easy situation for anyone including you. Normally when we leave I have a neighbor come let our dogs out and feed them while we are gone. __________________ Mommy to: Quincy, & Ruby Bella / Miah & Brandi Gone but Never Forgotten Visit: Bella Dawns for all of your Custom Pet Wear needs.