Should I interfere?

[katy-yorkie]

I agree it takes time. Buster was our first baby but Maggie turned out to be the dominant one. It has taken a lot of time but things have worked out. Maggie still picks on Buster but it's not hurtful to him. He has learned to step up and get what he wants. I never allowed her to hurt him if I was able to stop it. He has given her a few paybacks of the things she used to do to him. It's funny as she will use her butt to move him out of the way for attention or treats, he has now learned to do the same thing....only thing is, his is a lot smaller. She is still the dominant dog but does not take it to the extreme as she used to. It took a lot of time and patience and working with both of them but I did not ever consider rehoming her.

[Khoojy]

Originally Posted by MandiesMom

Hang in there. He will come around. It's only been a few days. Just think how hard it is for us humans to deal with change and we understand what's going on. He's just coping with it the best he can and he will come around in his own time. Just keep loving them both

Thanks Terri. Yea, somehow I feel for him. Guess he have to deal with this himself. I do notice that he does not drool that much as compare to the first day. I think he is getting less anxious and starting to take some baby steps to adapt, tho he does not like the whole change....

[Khoojy]

Originally Posted by dawn27

Awe poor baby, that is so sad, and I agree with Terri, he just doesn't understand what is happening. It takes time but it will happen. Try not to force it on him. Let him deal with it in him own time frame. Give equal amount of love to both. Its still a bit soon but believe me when I say, one day you'll walk in the room and find them playing.

I'm hoping for that day to come soon. I'm starting to lose patience... Lol
I'm juggling between potty train her and dealing with this problem. But thanks for the words of encouragement...

[Khoojy]

Originally Posted by katy-yorkie

I agree it takes time. Buster was our first baby but Maggie turned out to be the dominant one. It has taken a lot of time but things have worked out. Maggie still picks on Buster but it's not hurtful to him. He has learned to step up and get what he wants. I never allowed her to hurt him if I was able to stop it. He has given her a few paybacks of the things she used to do to him. It's funny as she will use her butt to move him out of the way for attention or treats, he has now learned to do the same thing....only thing is, his is a lot smaller. She is still the dominant dog but does not take it to the extreme as she used to. It took a lot of time and patience and working with both of them but I did not ever consider rehoming her.

I have a feeling that my girl will be the dominant one when she grew up. Tezel has always been a gentle and passive boy, even when he is the only pet at home. To be honest, 2 days after I brought the girl home, I did thought of giving her back to the breeder coz I couldn't cope. I'm glad I didn't coz personally I think situation is getting better, tho it's not that great at the moment...

[gracielove]

While your first dog certainly should get priority you don't want the new one to be afraid in the new surroundings. You are going to have to go with your instincts for a while. If he barks at her or bullies her then you have to interfere. Bad behavior has to be addressed whenever it happens but you don't want to punish him. Just intervene on behalf of the new one. Tell him "no" so he knows that is not acceptable behavior. You can't just leave a newbie to fend for herself.

[Jacksmom052709]

Hang in there and I would only interfere if Tezel seems to be aggressive toward her. My Jack sounds a lot like your Tezel. My girl thinks she is the boss, but when it comes down to it, Jack lets her know he was here first and puts her in her place (except for when it comes time to play with toys - she will take the toy right out of his mouth and he will look up at me like he is thinking "why did she do that?") Hang in there, things will get better.