As just an additional story, for anyone ready Marley's story...Getting Ellington.

When I got him, not as a puppy, but as a rescue, I also quickly felt pretty overwhelmed. He was poorly, and he wasn't sleeping through. i was tired, stressed and running out of money for the vet.

I panicked that I had done the wrong thing. I am a similar age to Marley's owner, and also an only child. I'm not used to putting anyone's needs above my own.

I also contemplated finding a new home for Elli. I waited for him to get better first, before I made any rash decisions.

We found our feet together, and I definitely don't see him as a child. I didn't ever want to. He is my buddy, and we hang out. I wouldn't say I love him yet, but I like being with him, and he's fitted into my life very well.

I do have to think about him when arranging to go to the pub (he often comes with me), and he is restricting. But he also brings stuff to my life I hadn't realised. I love how many people talk to me now, and he's a funny little man really.

So I came through my doubts, and we're now happy hanging out together. he definitely has become attached to me, and is always happy hanging out near me (or on me!).

Ill always be a cat person at heart, but for now I own a dog, and we're enjoying hanging out.

Thank you! And it truly can take some period of time to adjust to big life changes or a dog that's a bit different. I'm so glad to see when problem relationships or rocky starts can work out as in your & many of our situations - but it's a fact that they don't always.

This whole situation with Marley has been a whirlwind. YT went through some serious debating, a loss of a member and when most everyone decided to try and be encouraging (rather than critical), she gives Marley back. I will say that I truly enjoyed getting to know some of the details for your lives through all of this and I have a greater respect for all of you. :p

Thanks for the update. I was wondering what happened.

YT is the best:love:

Wow. I hope Marley finds a good home and is loved to the moon and back! He deserves nothing less!

I'm sad for the OP - she doesn't know what she will be missing.

Glad I missed this one, I was too busy taking care of my dogs.

Yes, on the growing up part. Marley will find a good home for sure.

I know we would have loved a happy ever after story of the OP realizing how in love she was with the puppy but I had a feeling this gal was just not ready, just glad she did the right thing and returned him quickly, now he has a little more time to be with his mom and litter mates and find that special someone that has been searching for the perfect yorkie to shower with love and attention. And a big thumbs up to you that poured your heart out trying to get her to understand the joy a dog can add to your life. I venture to say that the gal who I don't know has some issues that need to be worked through before bringing another pet into her home. I hope she finds the help that I believe she needs.

And all our posts here, of course, are posted with the intention of addressing the OP's posts, but also anyone who is reading now or in the future who is feeling a bit overwhelmed & wondering what in the world they have just done & is it ever normal or okay to feel post-puppy depression or anxiety as they face the reality of their new dog. As with anything in life, people all don't react the same or maintain that immediate rush of wonderful feelings one has when you first get your dog. Once you're home & dealing with the hard realities of that new dog, it can stagger you a bit that you have just taken a huge step in life & now comes the actual living with it & all that that implies.

I'm not nearly so concerned about a new owner feeling overwhelmed & anxious or having second thoughts as I am those who have had their dog for over 5 or 6 mos. & had time to grow to love the dog deeply, work through all the initial issues & are on YT wondering, sometimes not in so many words, but wondering if they should keep their dog or why it doesn't fit into their lives better or complaining about its bad habits, sometimes never expressing their love for the dog or rather weakly, if they do mention it. There can be a tone to some posts like that that just seems incompatible with love for the dog.

By that time, an owner has had ample time to fall completely in love with that dog & work through life-adjustments, as well as address any behavior problems. Usually after a few months, even with the rockiest of starts, owners are by then Bonkers-with-a-capital-B over their dog, it's become a true member of the family & no one can imagine life without it. (Not to mention that by then the little dog has usually settled into his home & loves that owner/family.) But those are the situations that trouble me & I wonder if the dog will ever truly be happy in that home. Thankfully, those posts are few & far between.

With new dog owners vs. those complaining about dogs they've had a while, I'm sometimes reminded of my friend from work who had a 4 week old new daughter, born with bad colic. The baby screamed & cried much of the time it was awake, slept little & my friend also had had virtually no sleep since delivery. Nothing they had tried for colic worked. She dropped by the office after the most recent pediatrician appointment, thinner than I'd ever seen her, no make-up, hair askew, big blue bags under her tired eyes & new lines in her face, looked me straight in the face and said "Is there a way to give her back.....now!?!?" and burst into tears. Well, that baby is now 14, a happy, healthy, beautiful girl, a gifted A-student who loves acrobatics & dance, has a sparkling personality, the wisdom & judgment of a 25 year old, & is the apple of both her parents' eyes. It didn't shock me when the baby was new with new-baby problems for her to express the desire to "give her back" but if she said that now, I would worry.

While I admit a puppy can be a challenge something just sounded a bit too over the top about this OP. I could understand it from someone who was several years younger but honestly a grown woman at that age should be able to handle it. I think there were some other issues at play there, especially since this is a repeat occurrence. I guess some people deal with stress differently than others.

I am glad she took the puppy back before there was any real bond made by the puppy.

Oh gosh! I went through colic with 4 out of my 5 kids! No wonder a puppy is not something to stress over for me! Cleaning up a few pee spots is nothing compared to a baby that can cry for hours at a time and wakes up every time you try to put them to bed!

What you said was brave and has the ring of truth to it.
Good for you for being a stand up human being taking responsibility.

Thank you. It was a tough first week with him! i didn't want to be someone who gave back a dog, but I would have, if both of us had remained stressed out, but I knew I had to give it a chance to settle down. And it did!

Ellington is a little gentleman, and the sacrifices he causes me to make it, are worth it. I like the extra exercise, I like the social interactions, I like being needed. He doesn't bark, bite, he rides the train to work, he hangs out at cafes. He's pretty much a perfect little buddy!

Would have I have another dog, when Ellington is no longer with us? Probably not. There's honesty for you!! He he. He's fab, but once will be enough for me!

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This is the best outcome for the baby. I really felt, from the tone of the post, she was not ready for a puppy, for whatever reason. Like someone on here had said earlier, when you first get a puppy, you are USUALLY so thrilled and excited, you eat, sleep, and breathe that puppy....it isnt until several months later, that you calm down and while you have adapted to having a baby around, you may then include OTHER activities in your day, separate from the puppy. The OP was coming out of the gate, resentful of the intrusion this baby was imposing on her lifestyle. She CLEARLY was not ready, emotionally or mentally, to accept a puppy into her "space". I am thankful she returned the baby....that would have been another puppy in a rescue or the pound if the breeder had not taken that baby back. I can only hope this young lady carefully considers her decision to get "puppy #3" in the future, to be sure she is getting it for the right reasons. GOD BLESS LITTLE MARLEY....

I'm glad OP made a decision the was best for her and her pup. I sincerely hope that she works on her self confidence and seeks a counselor or life coach to deal with the issues that make her so afraid to commit. Surely this mindset won't do her well in "life." She really needs to become independent and confident in who she is....my dad always said, no one will know how special you are until you believe how special you are...it is so true.

As for Marley, he will be fine and I'm sure he will go to a loving home and end up right where he belongs. My only concern is that I heard mention that this may have been a byb? If so, I would have hoped that you would have made the sacrifice and instead of getting a "puppy promise" for the future that you would have given Marley a better chance by going to a rescue or rehomed to a good family that you chose. If you knowingly gave him back to someone that is questionable than I'm sorry but thats just another time that YOU are perpetuating your own inability to put the needs of others before yours.

I wish OP much luck and sincerely hope that she does work on "herself."

Excellent point & with a Yorkie puppy, they aren't going to languish in rescue for years due to lack of public inteterest. So many people want Yorkies. And reputable rescues do interrogate & check out the owner'- to-be thoroughly. My son is responsible at one or two of his rescue groups for this & the time & thought & psychology plus hard fact checking plus 2 home visits is astounding. Other "rescues" just sell to the person paying the price so those kind wouldn't be any better so it would depend on what rescue she placed little Marley with.

Omg my babys name is MARLEY TOO!! i got him when he was 2 months and he wasnt pee pad trained :( i thoug ok it wont be hard i can handle this :) but after the 3rd day i got a lil frustated because he started peein all over my carpet :( my husband told me no to give up on him, and i understood the he was just a baby that didnt know better.. It took a wile for me to train him but NOW HE EVEN KNOW TRICKS I THOUG HIM :) hes almost 8 months old and i love him to death!! hes so smart and i know he loves me :) hes my only companion because my husband works shifts of 16hrs a day comes home eat and goes to sleep :( but MARLEY is always there for me i feel like the only thing hes missing is TALKING! If i didnt had him i would have to sleep alone but im so glad i have him, even tho hes so
Lil hes so brave, he protects me to death :) when we go to the beach we take em, even tho we have to hide them in "non pet friendly hotels" haha dont give up on ur marley, i can tell ur a loving person and u guys will make a Cute match, theres so many dogs out there that need a loving home!! He has one dont take it away from him!!

I brough a female yorkie from a lady, is so sad to see that she was bein abused :( how can some one do that to this lil babys, shes about 6lbs and was so scare of everything that she pees on her self:( it feels good now to see that
She
Is better she feels better i can see
The happy dog started to come out again she a awesome dog i dont know why they can treat her like that so sad :(

I am just seeing this post now. I am shocked. I was supposed to meet the OP and Marley for a play date as we live in the same state... which may sound weird but it's DE, so it's small. I wish I would have seen this and maybe met in person to help. My yorkie, Brisket is only 8 months, my husband works out of state, so I basically live alone 75% of the time, I'm 30, I'm an only child and boy have a had a few breakdowns at being overwhelmed (potty training has been a challenge), but that being said, I LOVE my Brisket. He's my buddy, he goes with me whenever I can take him, even been to two bars for when I was meeting friends out. I hope the puppy went to a good home, shoot I probably would have offered my home. Was looking forward to a playmate for Brisket.

I have no words to discribe my feeling. I don't know why people go out and get dogs when they're not ready to have them. I'm also an only child and I used to travel all over on my vacations and go away for long weekends. Now that we have our fur babies we are a bit tied down but I wouldn't give them up for anything in the world. Sure I miss going away every year and having long weekends but I love my babies so much that it's worth it.
I'm glad she gave Marley back and I hope she doen't get another dog to break it's heart because she doen't like making sacrifices.
She should go out and get a goldfish.

Impulse buy.
This is why responsible breeders and not greeders, pup mills are the only option other than rescue.

Thankfully, the puppy was young enough to go back without too much of an attachment for the puppy to have to deal with. I'm glad she didn't wait until the pup was 5 or 6 months old and then re home it. I really think she had a lot of issues and it was best for the puppy to go back although who knows what kind of home it went to next.:confused::(:( This type of person probably would seem like a responsible person to take care of a dog to any breeder. She was a mature adult with a good job, no kids, etc. I don't know that anyone has worked up a psychological profile for selling puppies or a 5 page test to give them to make sure they are of sound mind. (It might be something to consider though):rolleyes:

Nothing is fool proof wish I could think of a better term.
Many people with psychological issues are great pet owners.
I would never violate trust but one of the ladies here is known for her equisit care of her dogs and ahe got her dirst yorkie while transitioning through a rough patch with being bipolar, both her and her dogs have grately bennefitted from eachother.
Mant people without a slight psychological characteristic to anything in the dmp are the reasons we have pounds and rescues, pup mills oh it goes on...a breeder can screen not guarentee its best intentions on both ends and hope between in most adoptions.

Oh, I have no doubt that people with all types of problems are great with animals. It depends. This woman just was not able to deal with the responsibility for whatever reasons. As I said I'm glad she faced up to it before the puppy was any older. I have worked in the medical profession for many years and have known many "professionals" that I would not leave my pet with overnight.:rolleyes:

Me too, even some vets and the their staff.

I think this is a very interesting post as I am thinking of getting a puppy real soon. I know how much time and attention they take.

I lost my best friend last week and I still cry every day. He was 14 yrs old. That 4 lbs of "trouble" brought the greatest joy to me. This past weekend a friend invited me to his cottage on the beach to take my mind off the loss. He keeps telling me I should enjoy my freedom. I should take a trip. I should find out who I am without my 4# companion. It makes me so sad that he doesnt understand the unconditional love we gave each other and all the life events we have shared. I dont want to be free. Coming home to the house today - empty -is just a dead feeling.

I think you havent had time to bond with him...and I dont think it willl take long. I would give it a few days. What I wouldnt give for one more silly lick. And you only have to please yourself dont worry about what other people think.

Good luck!

This thread is a little older...the op already gave the pup back.... and welcome to YT!

She took the puppy back. It was the second time she had gotten a puppy and took it back. I know many people will bond with a pup especially after getting them though all the trials of "puppydom." For whatever reasons the responsibility of a puppy was just something she couldn't deal with.

Some people just don't have what it takes to give part of themselves to an animal. They don't understand it and don't really want to. Many of us have been told more than once that "it's only an animal" by people. They just don't get it and it's just as well they don't have an animal because they don't have what it takes to put someone else ahead their own needs and desires. Maybe your friend has never bonded with an animal and has no way to understand the pain of your loss.

I should add in all fairness if pkay well ehen we add another I'm thinking dog not puppy. Eveetone wants a new fluffy puppy but really the early part isn't easy its not all rainbows.

When I told my grandpa we got a puppy from a breeder, I explaineshave how theyto were akcso they showed andseveral how reputableto the line their my pup was from-this was years back, he shocked me when he said take it back thay breeder isn't worth their salt.

He told me in "his day" a reptable breeder didnt sell puppies they sold dogs usually arounds 6 months old they came house broken and knowing how to shake...I think he just meant they came trained. He said if I wanted a puppy to go to the pound and pick an accident out...

Funny how it's reversed now.

I think breeding is done on a much larger scale now then back when your grampa is talking about. People who bred dogs back then were usually show people or people that had their special hunting/herding dog line. They knew that the true "pick of the litter" could not be determined until the puppies were much older. Now everybody thinks they can put any pure bred dogs together and get some puppies to sell.:( When I was a kid there was a wealthy couple who bred/showed Boxers. One of their litters produced a puppy with an over slung jaw. It wasn't too bad but of course it could not be bred. They gave her to my dad. My mom was pretty shocked when he brought her home. She was a great dog. I loved her. She was my first pure bred and I have loved them ever since. But there is a huge difference in breeding methods between now and back then.

Don't be too hard on yourself! I had to put down my wonderful dog (a mutt) 2 1/2 yrs. ago...said I'd never get another dog! Until 4 mos. ago I found Freddie....he stole my heart in a minute flat..there were other girls in the office that were interested in him (he came from the shelter) but Freddie picked me, followed me everywhere. Of course I took him home...At first I wondered what the heck I was doing.....that was for about an hour. I love my little guy with all my heart. I absolutely enjoy training him because he is so eager to please. This is my first yorkie, we do everything together. I like to have a drink after work and luckily the bar I like to stop at loves for Freddie to come in and he loves the attention! Give it some time, work with her, love her and remember you'll be getting the bestest friend in the world. I wish you luck girl!