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beachdog · 12-24-2011, 02:29 PM

Thank you, Carlea for sharing your sad story. I just am having a terrible time with this. He's my buddy and he's always been there for me. I know I will be there for him in the end.

Carlea · 12-24-2011, 02:42 PM

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Originally Posted by beachdog

Thank you, Carlea for sharing your sad story. I just am having a terrible time with this. He's my buddy and he's always been there for me. I know I will be there for him in the end.

I will keep you in my prayer..I am sure you will be there for him, it is not easy. My thoughts are with you.

yorkieusa · 12-24-2011, 03:17 PM

Paris has the best mommie in the world. You will know when the time comes. It's just something you know. My heart goes out to you and I'm sending you and Paris my prayers, too.

yorkiemini · 12-24-2011, 04:01 PM

In tears as I write this.......

You are in the midst of our worst nightmare. About 2 1/2 years ago I went through what you are experiencing now. My Yorkie, Pudding' was, and had been in renal failure for many years. She was also blind, but got around just fine in her safe environment.

She was 11 years old, hard started not eating well, slept most of the time,and became fairly lethargic. She would respond when I held her and talked to her and loved on her,but she no longer played or was able to overtly respond to here environment or me. The lab work started to indicate that things we really going down hill - next would be seizures, confusion and perhaps pain. Knowing she was at the end of the quality of her life and that there clearly was no light at the end of this very narrowing tunnel I made the decision. I am in the medical field and have been with Maya's they passed on, and frankly knowing that my Pudding' would never be in pain, never be unloved, or unhappy I gladly let her go with a smile. The smile was not for me -- it was all about her and where she was.

I think you will know when should need to do Paris that favor!

BTW I had also decided that it would be a long time before I would be able to give myself to another furbaby--- well 4 months later Cali came into my life Ina rather round about way and it was so right. I have always thought Pudding' sent Cali to me.

Oops this is too long.......but you know your fur baby better than anyone.

BellarousasMom · 12-24-2011, 05:05 PM

Unfortunately your heart will let you know. I had the very same decision to make this past June. My cattle dog was 13 1/2. She too was blind. But when the vet got to our house she seemed so peaceful and it was like she knew it was time. This is our first Christmas without her. Will be praying for you.

gracielove · 12-24-2011, 05:08 PM

Two years ago this month I had to have my 15 year old Shih Tzu put down. After living that many years with a loyal companion who had helped me through some very difficult times as my kids were growing up it was very difficult for me to make the decision about when it was time. I don't know, I guess I thought he was going to tell me himself somehow. But he would never have told me. It seemed he wanted to keep living and so it was difficult for me to end it. Now as I think back I know I should have done it sooner. He had lost his eyesight, he had arthritis. The main thing was his personality changed. He was more withdrawn and now I suppose it was because he was in pain. Animals don't show pain like people do many times.
If your little one is crying I would have to think something is causing pain. They can't and won't show us what hurts. It's up to you what and when you do it. I can tell you now that I wish I had put him out of his suffering sooner. Actually I did not do it. My son and my daughter took him to the vet. I could not do it. That is what a basket case I was about losing him. Humans sometimes suffer terribly before they die. At least with our animals we can spare them the horrors that the body can put them through as they approach their final days. I pray your baby will be at peace and not suffer and you as well.

TxVicki · 12-24-2011, 05:48 PM

I feel your pain so much. I just had to do this again a month ago for my Lizzie. I just knew it was her time. She was in much pain, and the pain med's weren't helping, she wasn't eating, she didn't want to be held any more and she couldn't sleep at night cause her breathing was becoming impaired. She was almost 15 yrs. old. I have lost 3 babies in the 13 months. It is never an easy discission to make to make but I can you, you will know. They let you know. Prayers going out to you during this difficult time.

kdlmon · 12-24-2011, 06:39 PM

You will KNOW when the time has come. I had to put down my JRT a few weeks ago. It was very difficult, yet I knew that it needed to be done. He was suffering and I wanted him to be at peace. This is an extremely hard decision but you will make the right choice. You are in my thoughts.

scrapindee · 12-24-2011, 07:05 PM

So sorry that you and your baby are experiencing this. Remember this is about Paris. Let him go as soon as you can.

My lil friend · 12-24-2011, 07:27 PM

As I read all of your posts I know that I am facing the same decision. Last March when my sweet Bunkey (My lil friend) was soooo sick and had seizures, I didnt have to choose. I simply chose sooner than in an hour or two,because he was in so much pain. Now I am having to choose the correct time for our "old man" 2-bits. He is a shepard/huskey and a bit over 15yrs. He hears,sees,eats if it tastes good,but his back hips are almost gone. He seemed to not hurt until yesterday,bless him, he cryed for almost 12hrs (here it is Christmas and the vet will be closed until Tuesday). He finally got comfortable late this morning. I know that I have to do this thing,but when I look in his eyes I see him asking me "what has happened to my legs? why can't I get up by myself sometimes?" He still even trys to play with the other dogs,if he is standing. Without 2bits I would not of been able to keep up with my daughter when she was trying to escape the house as a toddle. Without 2bits I would never of gotten the 3 male poodle puppys, that I brought home at the same time,trained. Without 2bits I would not of felt safe in my house at night when my husband was out of town. I am having such a tuff time knowing when it is time.
I so understand how you feel about your baby and hope that you will know in your heart the right moment. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Grendel · 12-24-2011, 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by jeane

when I had to put my 12yr old lab to sleep/ she just looked at me and i knew/ the same with my jrt that I had to put down in march// I also relied on my vets opinion// I asked if it was time to put them to sleep and she said yes// it came down to quality of life// it is not a easy decision to make

This is the answer. They will let you know. Sorry that you are going through this.

beachdog · 12-25-2011, 02:34 AM

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Originally Posted by yorkieusa

Paris has the best mommie in the world. You will know when the time comes. It's just something you know. My heart goes out to you and I'm sending you and Paris my prayers, too.

Thank you so much for your kind words. It is Christmas morning 5:30 am and I am already up with Paris. He had a bad episode already this morning.

novemberstorms · 12-25-2011, 02:37 AM

As long as Paris is not in pain and is comfortable, I say love him as long as you can. I believe you will know when it is the time. God bless you and comfort you!

beachdog · 12-25-2011, 02:40 AM

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Originally Posted by TxVicki

I feel your pain so much. I just had to do this again a month ago for my Lizzie. I just knew it was her time. She was in much pain, and the pain med's weren't helping, she wasn't eating, she didn't want to be held any more and she couldn't sleep at night cause her breathing was becoming impaired. She was almost 15 yrs. old. I have lost 3 babies in the 13 months. It is never an easy discission to make to make but I can you, you will know. They let you know. Prayers going out to you during this difficult time.

I am so sorry for your loss. The breathing issues are what concern me the most with Paris. He sleeps alot, and eats but hardly ever plays. When he has a breathing episode it breaks my heart to see him struggle for air.
Thank you all for your prayers and kind words.

beachdog · 12-25-2011, 02:45 AM

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Originally Posted by novemberstorms

As long as Paris is not in pain and is comfortable, I say love him as long as you can. I believe you will know when it is the time. God bless you and comfort you!

I don't think he is in pain and I think he is comfortable, except when he has a breathing or coughing episode. I hate it when I have to go to work and leave him alone for hours, and can't comfort him if he has an attack. Right now I am off until 1/3 so that is good.
I am taking him to the vet for a recheck on Monday.

12-24-2011, 02:29 PM	#16
beachdog Paris: Always in my ♥ Donating YT Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Neptune Beach, Fl USA Posts: 991 Blog Entries: 1	Thank you, Carlea for sharing your sad story. I just am having a terrible time with this. He's my buddy and he's always been there for me. I know I will be there for him in the end. __________________ Read all about Paris in his blog! www.paristheblindwonderdog.blogspot.com

12-24-2011, 03:17 PM	#18
yorkieusa Crazy about Kacee! Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 21,173	Paris has the best mommie in the world. You will know when the time comes. It's just something you know. My heart goes out to you and I'm sending you and Paris my prayers, too. __________________ Karen Kacee Muffin 1991-2005 Rest in Peace My Little Angel

12-24-2011, 04:01 PM	#19
yorkiemini Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: USA Posts: 4,285	In tears as I write this....... You are in the midst of our worst nightmare. About 2 1/2 years ago I went through what you are experiencing now. My Yorkie, Pudding' was, and had been in renal failure for many years. She was also blind, but got around just fine in her safe environment. She was 11 years old, hard started not eating well, slept most of the time,and became fairly lethargic. She would respond when I held her and talked to her and loved on her,but she no longer played or was able to overtly respond to here environment or me. The lab work started to indicate that things we really going down hill - next would be seizures, confusion and perhaps pain. Knowing she was at the end of the quality of her life and that there clearly was no light at the end of this very narrowing tunnel I made the decision. I am in the medical field and have been with Maya's they passed on, and frankly knowing that my Pudding' would never be in pain, never be unloved, or unhappy I gladly let her go with a smile. The smile was not for me -- it was all about her and where she was. I think you will know when should need to do Paris that favor! BTW I had also decided that it would be a long time before I would be able to give myself to another furbaby--- well 4 months later Cali came into my life Ina rather round about way and it was so right. I have always thought Pudding' sent Cali to me. Oops this is too long.......but you know your fur baby better than anyone. __________________ . Cali , and Cali's keeper and staff, Jay No, not a "mini" Yorkie - She loves to motor in her Mini Cooper car

12-24-2011, 05:48 PM	#22
TxVicki Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: At Home Posts: 8,386	I feel your pain so much. I just had to do this again a month ago for my Lizzie. I just knew it was her time. She was in much pain, and the pain med's weren't helping, she wasn't eating, she didn't want to be held any more and she couldn't sleep at night cause her breathing was becoming impaired. She was almost 15 yrs. old. I have lost 3 babies in the 13 months. It is never an easy discission to make to make but I can you, you will know. They let you know. Prayers going out to you during this difficult time. __________________ [SIZE="3"VICKI & ALLIE[/SIZE]

12-24-2011, 06:39 PM	#23
kdlmon ☺Cooper☺ Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Bay Area, California Posts: 775	You will KNOW when the time has come. I had to put down my JRT a few weeks ago. It was very difficult, yet I knew that it needed to be done. He was suffering and I wanted him to be at peace. This is an extremely hard decision but you will make the right choice. You are in my thoughts. __________________ Cooper RIP Austin 1999-2011 Member of the Yorkie Moms Who Love Baseball Club: Go Giants!

12-24-2011, 05:05 PM	#20
BellarousasMom YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Indiana Posts: 793	Unfortunately your heart will let you know. I had the very same decision to make this past June. My cattle dog was 13 1/2. She too was blind. But when the vet got to our house she seemed so peaceful and it was like she knew it was time. This is our first Christmas without her. Will be praying for you.

12-24-2011, 05:08 PM	#21
gracielove YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: NY Posts: 6,582	Two years ago this month I had to have my 15 year old Shih Tzu put down. After living that many years with a loyal companion who had helped me through some very difficult times as my kids were growing up it was very difficult for me to make the decision about when it was time. I don't know, I guess I thought he was going to tell me himself somehow. But he would never have told me. It seemed he wanted to keep living and so it was difficult for me to end it. Now as I think back I know I should have done it sooner. He had lost his eyesight, he had arthritis. The main thing was his personality changed. He was more withdrawn and now I suppose it was because he was in pain. Animals don't show pain like people do many times. If your little one is crying I would have to think something is causing pain. They can't and won't show us what hurts. It's up to you what and when you do it. I can tell you now that I wish I had put him out of his suffering sooner. Actually I did not do it. My son and my daughter took him to the vet. I could not do it. That is what a basket case I was about losing him. Humans sometimes suffer terribly before they die. At least with our animals we can spare them the horrors that the body can put them through as they approach their final days. I pray your baby will be at peace and not suffer and you as well.

12-24-2011, 07:05 PM	#24
scrapindee Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Redlands Posts: 4,842 Blog Entries: 2	So sorry that you and your baby are experiencing this. Remember this is about Paris. Let him go as soon as you can. __________________ Scrapindee--Team Furry & the Biewers www.houseofwags.com

12-24-2011, 07:27 PM	#25
My lil friend Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: FtWorth,TX,USA Posts: 3,269	As I read all of your posts I know that I am facing the same decision. Last March when my sweet Bunkey (My lil friend) was soooo sick and had seizures, I didnt have to choose. I simply chose sooner than in an hour or two,because he was in so much pain. Now I am having to choose the correct time for our "old man" 2-bits. He is a shepard/huskey and a bit over 15yrs. He hears,sees,eats if it tastes good,but his back hips are almost gone. He seemed to not hurt until yesterday,bless him, he cryed for almost 12hrs (here it is Christmas and the vet will be closed until Tuesday). He finally got comfortable late this morning. I know that I have to do this thing,but when I look in his eyes I see him asking me "what has happened to my legs? why can't I get up by myself sometimes?" He still even trys to play with the other dogs,if he is standing. Without 2bits I would not of been able to keep up with my daughter when she was trying to escape the house as a toddle. Without 2bits I would never of gotten the 3 male poodle puppys, that I brought home at the same time,trained. Without 2bits I would not of felt safe in my house at night when my husband was out of town. I am having such a tuff time knowing when it is time. I so understand how you feel about your baby and hope that you will know in your heart the right moment. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

12-25-2011, 02:37 AM	#28
novemberstorms Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Puyallup, WA Posts: 152	As long as Paris is not in pain and is comfortable, I say love him as long as you can. I believe you will know when it is the time. God bless you and comfort you! __________________ Janelle survivor, Rocco, Marlee Grace, and Thor Loves those puppy kisses!