How to tell my friend I don't want to breed my dog
 

My friend let me have one of her puppies. I babysat her dog and the puppies for over 9 weeks. I had to clean more poop than I ever had to. My house smelled like crap. I was fed up and told her to come get her dogs and she didn't show up until today. That's besides my point. I need to get it out because I'm frustrated with her.

When she came today to pick up her dogs she said that the one she let me have (named Eva) is a "typical" yorkie. WTH does that suppose to mean? :confused: she then tells me that Eva is adorable and I HAVE to breed her. I asked why and she said "you can't let her bloodlines die out". I ignored what she said and told her I had somewhere I needed to be.

I told my husband about it and he said that it was now our dog and she can't decide what we should or shouldn't do with our dog. I agree with him but I don't know how to tell her. I don't like confrontations. How can I tell her without offending her? I've thought of many things to tell her. One that crossed my mind many times was "I shouldn't be obligated to agree with breeding Eva because I'm getting her spayed soon." I don't want her to get upset and take Eva back.

Unfortunately, people like to meddle. I know your pup came from your friend's dog's litter, but that doesn't give her the right to anything. If you don't want to breed, just tell her that. You can say, "I've researched it, and discussed it with my vet. I don't feel breeding Eva is something I have to, or want to do. She's my little princess and I want to keep her that way." If she insists, "I have already made my decision, please respect it," and just leave it at that. :)

If Eva is that cutie in the picture, get ready for more requests! :D Kaji isn't standard, but I've gotten requests from friends, and random strangers we meet on the street. All I say is, "sorry, he's already neutered." No one can argue with that! ;)

Wasn't there a picture in your avatar?

Blame your husband. That is the easy way out. :D Lol. She is your dog and it is your decision. Your friend has no say in the matter. When she ask just say, I am sorry but my husband said no. And that is his final decision. No really, just explain to her that you do not want to breed your dog. The key word is YOUR dog. Good luck!

When she is old enough have her spayed. End of conversation ;)

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Agreed!!! Also take your friend and show her some of our horrible threads about poor abandoned pups "Summers story" is perfect thank god it is having a happy ending so far, or ones with lost of health issues. Maybe it will help convince her.

Why don't you tell her that helping her care for her dogs has made you realize that breeding is not for you. And if she doesn't want the bloodlines to "die out" then she can breed one of the other puppies but it's just too much work for you? I can't imagine how anyone could be upset with that....

Between the health benefits of having a pup spayed and the health risks associated with breeding, I think you know what is best for your new baby and you.

I have had Yorkies my entire life (except for a brief deviation with a English Sheepdog we rescued). We bred one of our Yorkies when I was in high school and it was the most wonderfully scary experience you could imagine. She had four puppies - unfortunately one was stillborn. We were not breeders (as you guessed). My parents let me keep one of the puppies - she lived to the ripe old age of 17.

It was a great experience, but not one I could repeat. I am so grateful for the wonderful breeder I got Max and Abby from this year. All of Max's litter mates were fine, but two of Abby's litter mates did not survive. It can just be too hard when there are issues.

I have sent her several photos of my babies since they came home. (They were her first two litters so she is happy to see they are doing well and thriving.) She told me if I was interested in breeding Max to let her know as she knew several friends who would love to breed their dogs with him. I told her I had no desire to breed either one of them and she was good with that. Sorry this took so long to get to the point - Max was the last of his line as his sire died after being bitten by a snake. He was owned by the breeders friend.

Last time I sent a few pics, she asked if I had reconsidered breeding Max. I told her no and that they had both been fixed. She was good with my decision and was happy to know they had a good home.

I hope your friend understands and respects your decision. Best wishes

Do your best to avoid the breeding conversation and when Eva is old enough have her spayed. End of discussion, but maybe end of friendship as well. Sometimes avoiding confrontation causes more problems than just being honest and upfront.

That is how I feel. She is your puppy and she cant take her back so you have to decided what is best for your puppy and her health. Not really sure how she can tell its the "typical" yorkie if its still a puppy and not a full grown adult but honestly your friend doesn't sound like a great breeder.

It is ok to say no. You say No, they say Oh but you have to, she is so cute. You say No, they say, But it would be great to have puppies by her, You say No. Just keep saying NO. LOL I guess it is also ok, to blame hubby, your vet said, and so on. But simply the truth NO, I am having her spayed, is quick and gets it over right now. I don't like to draw things out, so don't make excuses or defend why, don't argue, just say No. It is your baby and there is no reason you should not have her spayed if that is what you want to do.

I think everyone said what I was thinking. Spay her and then tell your friend.

I was told by the breeder that I could use Copper as a stud, but I didn't want to do that. I wanted him to be a pet and live a spoiled no stress life.:) I had him neutered. He is a happy, spoiled little boy. I feel blessed to have him.

Stick to your guns and just love your little girl!

my puppies (as with Many others) leave on a 'No Breeding' contract, so quite the opposite- and the endorsments are one of the 1st things i tell them. if this is the 1st time she has told you you 'have' to breed her, just point blank say no. but if she had already told you beforehand (as much as i 100% agree with You) it could get a little messy; she hasn't asked for one of Evas pups or anything has she?!
tell your friend that your vet checked her pelvis, and it's already proven to narrow for whelping, and on top of that the care of her pups was enough litters for one lifetime!

I agree just tell her no keep telling her no and dont give her any excuses your no is enough

Just say no.....sometimes you cannot avoid confrontation especially if it involves your children....fur or skin ;)

Hmmm, I say have her fixed, don't say a word. She says "you have to breed her". "Oh ok" you say..."hmmm, wonder why she won't get pregnant!" LOL ;)

I agree...have her spayed and just tell your friend straight out you do not wish to breed. It is your dog, not hers. I would tell her in a nice, but firm manner. Surely she will get the point. If not, you may just have to get really firm. It is your baby, not hers, and you decide what is best!! Good luck!

Thank you everyone. This helped me a lot. I called her talked to her about and she wasn't happy with me. She said Eva could throw small puppies (under 3 pounds) and "we" could make a fortune. I was so shocked at what she said. Eva is now 10 weeks old and she is only 13.9 oz. I'm thinking she is going to be extremely tiny, the more reason NOT to breed her. I was very firm with her on my decision not to breed because I know nothing about it. As someone stated, babysitting her dog and the puppies was way too much for. I can't handle it. She ended our conversation with "you'll change your mind. Just watch."

I highly doubt that I will change my mind because she WILL get spayed when she is old enough, which is in a few weeks.

Again, thank you everyone for your suggestions and help. I now realize that some people are not deserving of my kind gestures.

I did have a picture in my avatar but that is one of my previous babies that was stolen from me in 2008.

I'm so sorry! She was a gorgeous yorkie!

Good for you for standing your ground. Wow! You can make a fortune huh? That is amazing to see what her true motives were. Your baby is still a puppy, and already she sees dollar signs!

If she is truly a typical yorkie (whatever that means lol) and tiny then like someone else said, be prepared for random people to ask you if you want to breed her.

Sophie isn't even a typical yorkie - she is mix of a Biewer and a 'typical yorkie' (there is a teeny bit of poodle in her from many generations ago as well...but she looks and acts all yorkie lol) and since she is small and unique looking we get asked all of the time if we are interested in breeding her. Some guy even tried to tell us that we were horrible for not breeding her and letting her natural instincts kick in and imagine how much money we could make off of her. Yeah, no thanks...I didn't buy her to be a money maker, I bought her as my companion and I would never want to risk her life for a litter of puppies just for money. We even got told we were horrible for having her fixed and not letting any one else have a dog like her...people these days..

Your best bet is to just do what you are planning - have her fixed as soon as she is able to be fixed and it isn't something that can be undone...so it's not like your friend would want her back if she could produce litters for her. Besides, like you said, dogs as tiny as she may end up shouldn't be bred anyway as there are too many risks for her life.

Congrats on staying firm though, we all know what is best for our babies =)

Wait, why were you watching her dogs for over 9 weeks??

She has a full time job and goes to school full time. Both her yorkies (used for the puppies) and a pomeranian are "jailed" all day. They pee and poop on themselves all day, everyday. I felt bad for her, the dogs and the puppies so I offered to watch the dogs (just the mom and puppies) for a few weeks. A few weeks led to 9 weeks.

I attempted to potty train her dog but no matter how often I walk her or let her out, she comes right back in and poops all over inside. I got fed up with it. When she came to get her dogs back I refused to let Eva go with her because I know what environment she will be living in. I feel really bad for the dogs but there isn't much that I can do.

You can report her to the SPCA. Keeping the dogs in cages for extended periods of time, so long that they are covered in urine and feces, is against the LAW. She sounds like a user, both of her dogs, and YOU. She took complete advantage of your kindness and let her new Momma and puppies stay at your house for 9 weeks?!! That's insane, and how callous of her to not even miss them. Sad:(

that's exactly what I was thinking too! This is so sad! These are the exact reasons that there are far too many dogs, and millions are getting euthanized every year. People like the OP's friend who breed indiscriminantly and sell to whomever. Greeder in every sense of the word! :mad::thumbdown

Be careful getting her spayed to early. Its great of you to stand up for your puppy because she is not a money maker she is a living breathing thing.

I'm glad she was offended by you saying no. You do not want that type of greedy friend anyway. She's a typical greeder that gives bad reputations to breeders that try their best to protect their name and lines. This woman needs a reality check. You were too kind to watch over newborns and new doggy parents for 9 weeks. Granted, if I was put in that sitatuation, I'd probably do the same simply because the dogs would mean more to me then the petty friendship.

I think you need to contact authorities (SPCA) on this one. What happens next time she breeds and you say no? The newborn pups would be left for hours on end, I'd hate to think of the outcome. I'm happy you stood your ground, I'm a firm believer in if the Momma Yorkie is too small, then she shouldn't be bred. And your baby sounds like she's going to be on the smaller side. Enjoy your baby, do what's best for her and you, and that would be getting spayed, enjoying life, and kicking that money hungry, selfish, dog abusing, piecen of trash to the curb!

P.S. Please post some pictures of your baby, we'd love to see her!

This sounds very reasonable.
She cannt take the puppy back, it was payment for all of the work that you did for her. You earned the pup, but I would keep her away from my home for as long as possible until you can get your baby spayed.
If she has a "you owe me" attitude,she is incorrect. Add the boarding hours up that you put into her dogs. That is so much per day,per dog + anything that you purchased for her dogs. You will find that she probably owes you some $$$ and the cost of the pup is getting off litely. If it included cleaning carpets or replacing rugs that counts too.

I'm confused. I don't understand how a breeder could tell with a 10 week old puppy, if it is breeding worthy or not.

This type of breeder can. If it can make her money, she will. :thumbdown Perhaps it was the only female in the litter?