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MamaZiggy · 08-02-2011, 11:25 AM

imo.....

i dont think you are over reacting at all. I would feel the same way! Its so upsetting when children hurt our babies (intentionally or unintentionally). I think you should tell you cousin how you feel about the way she handled the situation and ask her to put herself in your shoes. But i also think 2 year olds are still growing, some still cant even talk, so i'm sure your cousin wasn't trying to make light of the situation, she probably just felt that shouting or "really" disciplining a 2 year old was not the best and just wanted to tell the baby to be nice to all living beings.

this is a tricking situation because this child is so very young, but liked i said, just talk to your cousin, share your feelings. im sure she didnt mean to upset you.

i hope princess will be ok and wont have permanent fear of children now.

hugs from Ziggy and Mommy

Sandysbabies · 08-02-2011, 11:30 AM

Overreacting???? Not at all. I would have been livid. I look at it like this. Your home is Princess's home too. If they cannot control their kids then they need to stay home.

Teresa Ford · 08-02-2011, 12:53 PM

I know how very hard it is when things are going on with a family member or close friend. I would calmly talk to my cousin about what can we do to protect Princess. It is very common for 2 year olds to bite, hit, kick and so on. He has to learn how to treat other living things. I would be careful how I phrase things, you don't want to hurt this special relationship, but your doggie has to be protected.

yorkiemini · 08-02-2011, 12:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Teresa Ford

I know how very hard it is when things are going on with a family member or close friend. I would calmly talk to my cousin about what can we do to protect Princess. It is very common for 2 year olds to bite, hit, kick and so on. He has to learn how to treat other living things. I would be careful how I phrase things, you don't want to hurt this special relationship, but your doggie has to be protected.

It may be common for them to do those things until they are taught otherwise. Most 2 year olds understand that they do not want to be kicked by someone bigger than they are and can relate to if they don't like that for them then it is probably wrong. Children learn only when they are taught -- just like dogs they become better citizens when they are taught how to act. Compassion however is harder to teach if it is not there!

Protect your dog at all cost and let others understand it is the Princesses house, not theirs!

miabellaamoure · 08-02-2011, 12:59 PM

Actually, I don't think you even began to react how I might have. First, your cousin and her child are guests in your & Princess' home so, you need to talk to her about the situation.

If Princess can not be trusted to be safe around a child than you need to either not have the child there or either hold Princess the entire time they are in your home or put her in a safe room. I do not think Princess would feel slighted to have to be safe from the child's roughness.

Princess10 · 08-02-2011, 01:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Teresa Ford

I know how very hard it is when things are going on with a family member or close friend. I would calmly talk to my cousin about what can we do to protect Princess. It is very common for 2 year olds to bite, hit, kick and so on. He has to learn how to treat other living things. I would be careful how I phrase things, you don't want to hurt this special relationship, but your doggie has to be protected.

I plan on being very gentle with her, that's mostly why I've been ignoring her calls. And maybe if I say that's why I didn't take the calls she'll see I wanted to wait to be pleasant about it. I grew up with her & we're very close, I would hate to see something happen to that. But I'd rather risk something happening now than waiting until something tragic happens. I know he's only two, I guess I just have unreal expectations I was brought up with in our house.

The only thing I can do now is enforce rules to protect her in my/her house. After her being sick recently it reallllly made me realize how precious she is & how devastating it would be for something tragic to happen to her.

Princess10 · 08-02-2011, 01:06 PM

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Originally Posted by miabellaamoure

Actually, I don't think you even began to react how I might have. First, your cousin and her child are guests in your & Princess' home so, you need to talk to her about the situation.

If Princess can not be trusted to be safe around a child than you need to either not have the child there or either hold Princess the entire time they are in your home or put her in a safe room. I do not think Princess would feel slighted to have to be safe from the child's roughness.

Yes, that's true. She would never hold it against me or be unforgiving if I put her somewhere & she could easily become unforgiving of a child hurting her. Since they are often here overnight at least once a week that would be too much time for Princess to be cut off & maybe we should save the "sleepovers" for when he's gone for the night as well.

DvlshAngel985 · 08-02-2011, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by miabellaamoure

Actually, I don't think you even began to react how I might have. First, your cousin and her child are guests in your & Princess' home so, you need to talk to her about the situation.

If Princess can not be trusted to be safe around a child than you need to either not have the child there or either hold Princess the entire time they are in your home or put her in a safe room. I do not think Princess would feel slighted to have to be safe from the child's roughness.

I'm with you. Then again, I am the girl that spent most of Thanksgiving weekend in a closet to keep 2 rowdy little girls from my pup.

concretegurl · 08-03-2011, 01:09 AM

Just a thought...doggy front pack carrier...I'm all about the Moby wrap right now but have been looking at others like the Ergo for my new skin kid, but I still take a peek at the furkid carrier from time to time.

Dolcesmama_xoxo · 08-03-2011, 08:38 PM

You were definitely NOT overreacting. I would have been just as mad, if not more upset. I'm not a very outspoken person so I probably would be like you and just let my fumes settle for a few days then maybe mention it later to her, but not trying to start a fight or anything, just bring it up casually and then ask her feelings on the situation but in a light tone so no hardcore fighting is started lol. Also, I would have your furbaby checked out by the vet. Even if there was no external damage done by the kick, you might want to make sure there was no internal damage. Is she eating ok? drinking water? going to the bathroom ok? I'm just imagining a kid kicking my baby and im cringing and got these gross feelings in the pit of my stomach righ t now. ugh...im so sorry that happened. i hope everything works out for you and ur baby is ok.

Princess10 · 08-03-2011, 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Dolcesmama_xoxo

You were definitely NOT overreacting. I would have been just as mad, if not more upset. I'm not a very outspoken person so I probably would be like you and just let my fumes settle for a few days then maybe mention it later to her, but not trying to start a fight or anything, just bring it up casually and then ask her feelings on the situation but in a light tone so no hardcore fighting is started lol. Also, I would have your furbaby checked out by the vet. Even if there was no external damage done by the kick, you might want to make sure there was no internal damage. Is she eating ok? drinking water? going to the bathroom ok? I'm just imagining a kid kicking my baby and im cringing and got these gross feelings in the pit of my stomach righ t now. ugh...im so sorry that happened. i hope everything works out for you and ur baby is ok.

Thanks, Princess seems fine. As feisty & bossy as ever and I love it. I did watch my bff's baby today (10mo.) & Princess kept her distance more than usual. She did sneak some kisses in but just kinda chilled a lot. That may be due to lack of trust or due to the fact that the 9 hours he was here we would've been sleeping for 8 of them, lol.

I'm planning to call my cousin tomorrow night, although I'm still upset about it I don't feel like I'm a raging lunatic anymore. I have an ex-pen & I think the solution is to have it fully extended like a fence to split the l.r. so they can both be out there with us, yet have no physical contact. If that doesn't work I'll brainstorm some more at that time.

HollyandMommy · 08-03-2011, 08:47 PM

You are not over-reacting.

08-02-2011, 11:25 AM	#31
MamaZiggy YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Johannesburg, South Africa Posts: 1,637	imo..... i dont think you are over reacting at all. I would feel the same way! Its so upsetting when children hurt our babies (intentionally or unintentionally). I think you should tell you cousin how you feel about the way she handled the situation and ask her to put herself in your shoes. But i also think 2 year olds are still growing, some still cant even talk, so i'm sure your cousin wasn't trying to make light of the situation, she probably just felt that shouting or "really" disciplining a 2 year old was not the best and just wanted to tell the baby to be nice to all living beings. this is a tricking situation because this child is so very young, but liked i said, just talk to your cousin, share your feelings. im sure she didnt mean to upset you. i hope princess will be ok and wont have permanent fear of children now. hugs from Ziggy and Mommy __________________ Xolani mommy to Ziggy and Toby The two loves of my life

08-02-2011, 12:59 PM	#35
miabellaamoure ♥YORKIERESCUE.com♥ Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Menifee, CA Posts: 8,708	Actually, I don't think you even began to react how I might have. First, your cousin and her child are guests in your & Princess' home so, you need to talk to her about the situation. If Princess can not be trusted to be safe around a child than you need to either not have the child there or either hold Princess the entire time they are in your home or put her in a safe room. I do not think Princess would feel slighted to have to be safe from the child's roughness. __________________ Jo Ann Abby, Bella , Phoebe & Violette....

08-03-2011, 01:09 AM	#39
concretegurl Between♥Suspensions Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Vaissades Posts: 7,979	Just a thought...doggy front pack carrier...I'm all about the Moby wrap right now but have been looking at others like the Ergo for my new skin kid, but I still take a peek at the furkid carrier from time to time. __________________ Shan & 8 kids now!

08-03-2011, 08:38 PM	#40
Dolcesmama_xoxo YT Addict Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Tucson, AZ, USA Posts: 474 Blog Entries: 1	You were definitely NOT overreacting. I would have been just as mad, if not more upset. I'm not a very outspoken person so I probably would be like you and just let my fumes settle for a few days then maybe mention it later to her, but not trying to start a fight or anything, just bring it up casually and then ask her feelings on the situation but in a light tone so no hardcore fighting is started lol. Also, I would have your furbaby checked out by the vet. Even if there was no external damage done by the kick, you might want to make sure there was no internal damage. Is she eating ok? drinking water? going to the bathroom ok? I'm just imagining a kid kicking my baby and im cringing and got these gross feelings in the pit of my stomach righ t now. ugh...im so sorry that happened. i hope everything works out for you and ur baby is ok. __________________ DOLCE & BENTLEY LOVE my little MUNCHKINS

08-03-2011, 08:47 PM	#42
HollyandMommy Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: El Paso, Texas Posts: 969	You are not over-reacting. __________________ Holly Jeanette s Yorkies!

08-02-2011, 11:30 AM	#32
Sandysbabies YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Dallas, Texas Posts: 2,234	Overreacting???? Not at all. I would have been livid. I look at it like this. Your home is Princess's home too. If they cannot control their kids then they need to stay home.

08-02-2011, 12:53 PM	#33
Teresa Ford Therapy Yorkies Work Donating Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: Central, Florida Posts: 3,863	I know how very hard it is when things are going on with a family member or close friend. I would calmly talk to my cousin about what can we do to protect Princess. It is very common for 2 year olds to bite, hit, kick and so on. He has to learn how to treat other living things. I would be careful how I phrase things, you don't want to hurt this special relationship, but your doggie has to be protected.