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143julz 05-03-2011 07:14 AM

The last part of your post explains every reason why you should keep the little girl:) What you feel about her now will only grow into a more deeper bond. You can always sell her on down the road if your feelings changed.
If you sell her now, you may regret it later:(

in no way would she replace Georgia...she will fill a void she left in your heart;)

lil louis 05-03-2011 07:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Lil Sis (Post 3521415)
I agree...

if your heart says keep her... keep her.

Also, many breeders think you should keep the puppies to at least 12 weeks, so that will give you some time.

I wish you luck

I agree. You should go with your heart.

I am sorry for your loss.

smepperson 05-03-2011 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by MauiGirl (Post 3521987)
If I were you, I'd definitely keep the little girl, especially because she represents a part of Georgia. She has an extra special bond to you because of losing her mom.

Chewy will love having a playmate too, since he's been used to that.

This was exactly my feeling. That little one is a part of your baby... you need each other. I would definitely keep her! ♥

ChewyGeorgia85 05-03-2011 11:20 AM

ugh, so I had this long post of more rambling, then the husband came home and we ended up talking again.

He hasn't said "no I don't want to keep one". He just wants to make sure that the decision to keep one is the right one. I am grieving and I understand his logic. I don't want to keep one and in the end realize it was for the wrong reason, because it wouldn't be right for her. I also don't want to let go because after I realize that I'm ready for another furbaby that I let her go when I shouldn't have. Ugh, sucks to be an adult. And as much as I would love it to be my decision, it is both my husband's and I's.

I've thought that since Chewy has always had a buddy his whole life that keeping one would also be beneficial. Husband thinks he would be okay. I don't know, he might.
I guess I need to figure out why I need to keep one. I know I want one so terribly much, but why do I need two dogs? I see the logic in why I don't absolutely need one, but I need to keep her as I hope to expand my love of these stinkers we call yorkies.

thanks for the support all. It helps me a lot thinking about what I want/need in my life right now.

ChewyGeorgia85 05-03-2011 12:35 PM

I will definitely keep you guys posted. I hope that whatever we do, it will be for the best.

yorkietalkjilly 05-03-2011 12:41 PM

All dog lovers understand your plight, believe me. We've all been there more than once.

MauiGirl 05-03-2011 09:49 PM

Think of what Georgia would want for you. I think she would want you to love, and be loved by her little girl, and be sharing a wonderful life together.

I don't think you have to justify "needing" another dog, but you have one, and your heart *wants* her..... so just go with it.

TatumsMom 05-04-2011 08:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Sandysbabies (Post 3521927)
I think its hard for men sometimes to understand us and our motherly feelings. I say keep her too. You will be so glad you did and I bet your dh will be glad too. Its hard for them too.

I agree.... I got Tatum about 2 or 3 weeks after losing our 16 year old toy poodle. He was my "first born"... before marriage, before the kids. It had nothing to do with replacing him. It was about the mothering instinct. At that time our daughters were pre-teen and didn't quite need as much mothering as when they were littler and I found myself with more time on my hands than I wanted. Even my family noticed the depression slipping in (and I am NOT the type to be depressed). Tatum put a new spark back into the family. ;)

Good luck with your decision!

sganow 05-04-2011 09:39 AM

I would say to keep her also. It's not a "replacement" but actually the start of a new life in your family. And being a part of Georgia... I think it's perfect (considering the situation).

A year ago we lost one of our dogs to cancer (actually we lost 2 of our dogs the same month). The following weekend we got Lilly (our little maltese) and she fit right into our family. She was not a replacement for Meadow, but she was a new life in our home and really made the transition much easier.

ChewyGeorgia85 05-05-2011 10:20 AM

we talked again last night. it started off good but then I got frustrated and started crying. my husband said that I need to decide to keep her or not bit that I have to deal with the consequences. I then couldn't decide what to do. I spent the rest of the night thinning and my husband then said that he just isn't feeling ready for another dog. he feels overwhelmed by this whole year with his grandma passing away, then our neighbor a month later, and then his dad getting mouth cancer ( they got it all out, no chemotherapy needed yay). So when Georgia passed he just doesn't want one. I know this yorkie is perfect but my husband's feelings matter too. he also said this was a chance for both of us to grow and I agree. plus when/if we get a bigger place (currently in a trailer) we can get another dog. he has grown up with yorkies all of his life and he'd like to try another breed someday, and so do I.

I think I am going to give my favorite little girl to good friend of ours. not only does she have a yorkie ( had 2 but one passed in Jan.) But I can see her on the occasion and I know she would be in the best hands I can put her in... I will miss her and hurt and work on dealing with my sweet Georgia's passing more and give Chewy and fred just a ton of love... I think I can move past this and it will be for the best.

I hope you all don't think bad of me to let her go :( I think after really thinking with my heart and by doing some soul searching this is the best for everyone. she will always be my little munchkin.

MauiGirl 05-05-2011 10:36 AM

No one can know but you, and at least you can see her when you want to.

I know this has been so hard on you, and wish you all the best in the healing and growth in the future.

ChewyGeorgia85 05-05-2011 03:30 PM

Thanks. It is taking so much energy to be strong during all of this. I appreciate the support.

Buster Brown 05-05-2011 03:43 PM

In life there are some decisions that will never be easy. I know you have put a lot of thought, heart and soul searching into this decision. I am glad your special little girl is going to a friend and will be close to you. You are a kind and loving wife and I think you are being understanding to your husbands feelings. I am sorry that this has been such a sad year for you both. Chewy and Fred will benefit from all your love. I wish you and your husband and your fur family all the best. RIP Sweet Georgia your mommy and daddy miss you very much and will love you always. Best Wishes

yorkieusa 05-05-2011 03:55 PM

Keep her. You won\'t live with regret and the what if\'s. She\'s a part of Georgia and you\'ve both already bonded. Georgia was very special and it sounds like this little girl is special, too.:love:

elemtchr99 05-05-2011 05:13 PM

Let me tell you....I had a Yorkie a few years ago. Sadie Mae is 2 now. I let my husband\'s constant complaining lead me to find someone to take her. I found a friend that wanted her for her daughter. I knew she\'d be taken care of. Sadie had just turned 1. That 1st night without her was pure torture. I stayed awake all night and cried and cried. It hurt so much not having her in the bed with me. My husband could not understand why I was sobbing so much over her. That was a Wednesday. I got up the courage to send and email to the lady who got her that weekend. It was very long and heartwrenching. I told her I knew that by now her daughter had probably gotten close to her, but I really, really wanted to get her back. I even offered her more than what she paid for all of her belongings. Of course, she sent back that she and her daughter had prayed about it and that there was just no way they could give her up. They had already fallen in love. It took me several months to stop crying at night. But not long after, I began the search for my forever Yorkie. I brought Sophie home last May, 2 months after Sadie left. She is such a blessing, so well behaved, has never been a chewer, has been sleeping with me since the 2nd night I had her, and was able to have total reign of the entire house very early. As of the last few weeks, she is totally pee pad trained!!! Yay, Sophie!

They always say everything happens for a reason, and I do believe that. If everything would not have happened like it did, I would not have the love of my life. Sophie is the perfect companion. BUT, it didn\'t make getting rid of Sadie any easier. I still see pictures of her and wish she was here with me too. I know there\'s no possible way for that...if she was here, my sweet Sophie wouldn\'t be since I would have had no reason to look for another at that time.

Believe me, Sophie is going NO WHERE!!! Hubby is so much better this time around. He\'s been told that she will not be leaving this house EVER, and he plays with her too. She also sleeps with him when Mama isn\'t available. It took a while, but he has finally come around.

Anyway, you may want to reconsider giving her up. I wouldn\'t want you to go through what I did.


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