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romeos mommy · 03-13-2011, 02:32 PM

Thanks for the advice. My baby is 4 months old now. Romeo just seems to be getting worse and not better. I am very good to him. He gets more treats and walks plus one on one time with me. I am getting ready to go back to work and I am afraid he will be completely crushed

It is difficult to see him so sad.

Maybe when the weather warms up he will feel better. This is my only hope.

kalina82 · 03-14-2011, 10:49 AM

Is there anyone in the family that could maybe take him for a week to see how he'd do away from you for a little while? This way you would be able to tell if he'd be happier with someone else or with you. It may make the decision easier for you.

dands · 03-14-2011, 02:13 PM

I don't know if this is a good suggestion or not but have you tried pretending that your baby is giving him a bunch of yummy treats? That way, maybe he'll be more happy that the baby is there as time goes on.

For example, while holding your baby, take a treat from his/her belly and give it to your dog. Make it a very yummy treat like chicken or something.

I don't have kids, but I'm thinking the one way we've gotten our yorkie to like people is by having them give him food. After a few days, he warms up to them.

Maybe that'll help your yorkie like your baby more and be more happy around him?

romeos mommy · 03-16-2011, 06:01 PM

Update .. he is still very depressed. I don't know anyone that can take him.

143julz · 03-16-2011, 06:03 PM

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Originally Posted by jennzy

please please please do not rehome your dog!!!! that will only make things worse! and will feel abandonned by the family he loves.

poor little guy!

RachelandSadie · 03-16-2011, 06:10 PM

i really don't think giving him a new home will help in depression. have you tried a private dog trainer to come and help you learn how to love him more and give him more attention. try something like that before you just give up on him. what you are dealing with is a GOOD situation. he's not aggressive so what's the problem? are you worried about his well-being or are you actually just done with your dog? because his happiness depends on staying with his family NOT being rehomed.

try the trainer thing and see if they can help give you more advice to break him out of his lonely shell. it takes a long long time. just don't give up.

if you decide that it's YOU that doesn't want HIM anymore then please find someone on YT or a YT rescue to take him to a forever home that will never give him up no matter what happens.

Nancy1999 · 03-16-2011, 07:07 PM

I'm sorry to hear this, has he had a checkup lately, could there be a medical reason for this? Pooping in the nursery isn't so bad; he's just claiming the space for himself. In fact, dogs often poop on things they like, like their masters slippers, it doesn't mean that they don't like you. I agree with Rachel, a dog trainer could help answer these questions, such as why he no longer wants to sleep with you. Best of luck, and let us know what you learn.

Nancy1999 · 03-17-2011, 06:26 PM

I was talking to someone about your problem and they said that you have to include the dog in everything you do with the baby. Just walking the dog alone won't be enough, you have to include the baby on the walk, so that you can walk as a pack. When you feed the baby, tell your dog you are going to feed the baby now, and let him smell the baby and give him a treat after you feed the baby. Just include him in everything you do with the baby changing diapers, everything.

spr377 · 03-17-2011, 06:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Nancy1999

I was talking to someone about your problem and they said that you have to include the dog in everything you do with the baby. Just walking the dog alone won't be enough, you have to include the baby on the walk, so that you can walk as a pack. When you feed the baby, tell your dog you are going to feed the baby now, and let him smell the baby and give him a treat after you feed the baby. Just include him in everything you do with the baby changing diapers, everything.

This sounds like great advice!

concretegurl · 03-17-2011, 10:10 PM

Pooping in baby's room is a serious sign of him saying I'm dominant over you in a passive way...he's just establishing pack order and responding to all these crazy new smells was he ever around a baby before he had one come into "his" home?

Are you expressing sadness over him being sad when you are with him...he'll pick right up on it...walking him with baby is great, maybe he needs more intellectual stimulation right now...4 months is certainly an adjustment period but it has to be handled in the right way... and who says when and how long an adjustment takes?

Then again I might be the one posting this in a month...dogs don't love the new baby...

Are you seriously thinking of re-homing a dog you have had for 8 years because you now have a baby and the adjustment period hasn't been going well? Or is there more going on? If you don't answer that's fine I'm just personally curious...

Lil Sis · 03-18-2011, 12:50 PM

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Originally Posted by jojomima

I think he is acting just as a young sibling would act. My daughter is pregnant with her second child and her 4yr old is not happy with the thought of "sharing".

I think he'll soon know that you still love him and eventually will have another that will love him too.

Congratulations on the baby!!

I was thinking the same thing. Just show him love like you would a first child when you bring a second child home. I bet it is hard because you are tired and have so much going on. I think if you rehome him you will feel guilty in a while and that would not be good.

Even when bringing puppies home the first dog has to adjust... Remy has been here a year and just now Sammy is playing with her and cuddling with her.. before he would mope and lay by himself..so there is hope if my grumppy ole man sammy can adjust

Congratulations and I wish you the best.. hang in there

romeos mommy · 03-22-2011, 08:05 PM

I include ROmeo in everything "baby". She goes on walks with us too. He just sits on the couch all day with a sad look. He went to the vet and she said he needs to adjust. I really don't know if I could turn down a good home for him. People on YT know I am an over the top good mommy to Romeo. I really feel bad for him and tried everything to cheer him up. It is like the baby ruined his life

smepperson · 03-22-2011, 08:23 PM

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Originally Posted by romeos mommy

I include ROmeo in everything "baby". She goes on walks with us too. He just sits on the couch all day with a sad look. He went to the vet and she said he needs to adjust. I really don't know if I could turn down a good home for him. People on YT know I am an over the top good mommy to Romeo. I really feel bad for him and tried everything to cheer him up. It is like the baby ruined his life

Romeo is so lovely! He is sulking that's for sure but you know in your heart that he loves you and is your heart as you are his. Perhaps some one on one time with Mommy as well as the pack stuff? I have seen you on here many times and I know how you feel about that little guy...He is working you. Teddi sulks too. Especially when I am on the computer doing programming. They get used to new routines...Yorkies are just more tenacious about trying to get their way! ♥ Sometimes...the harder we try the more they reflect our stress and worry. He would be lost without you...please reconsider and watch his diet and water intake.

Despite what the vet says on physical examination, there are a few medical conditions that will cause depression as well. Two that I know of first hand are - Pancreatitis and Kidney Disease. I am not telling you this to alarm you but so that you can watch his habits a bit closer. Drinking more often, peeing more often, not eating as much etc...all warrant a full panel workup.

concretegurl · 03-22-2011, 11:53 PM

Perhaps someone close to the OP could have the room for an edition, I'd not re-home a dog just because we had a baby and the adjustment wasn't going well but it seems the OP is really seeking to re-home IMHO and to be honest the best interest of Romeo is the matter I think someone associated with YT would be the place to find a new and forever home for Romeo can anyone help the OP in what needs to be asked, screened etc in finding a new home as the safety and well being of Romeo is my foremost concern here...I'm sure the OP loves him and wants to find him the best possible placement...maybe we can all assist in that, ensuring he doesn't go to someone who won't give him the best life possible.

03-13-2011, 02:32 PM	#16
romeos mommy YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Pennsauken , NJ Posts: 4,068	Thanks for the advice. My baby is 4 months old now. Romeo just seems to be getting worse and not better. I am very good to him. He gets more treats and walks plus one on one time with me. I am getting ready to go back to work and I am afraid he will be completely crushed It is difficult to see him so sad. Maybe when the weather warms up he will feel better. This is my only hope. __________________ Bernadette & Romeo

03-14-2011, 10:49 AM	#17
kalina82 Phantom Queen Morrigan Donating Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: with my yorkie baby Posts: 10,141 Blog Entries: 1	Is there anyone in the family that could maybe take him for a week to see how he'd do away from you for a little while? This way you would be able to tell if he'd be happier with someone else or with you. It may make the decision easier for you. __________________ Kellie and Morgan

03-16-2011, 06:01 PM	#19
romeos mommy YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Pennsauken , NJ Posts: 4,068	Update .. he is still very depressed. I don't know anyone that can take him. __________________ Bernadette & Romeo

03-16-2011, 07:07 PM	#22
Nancy1999 I ♥ Joey & Ralphie! Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Arizona Posts: 25,396 Blog Entries: 2	I'm sorry to hear this, has he had a checkup lately, could there be a medical reason for this? Pooping in the nursery isn't so bad; he's just claiming the space for himself. In fact, dogs often poop on things they like, like their masters slippers, it doesn't mean that they don't like you. I agree with Rachel, a dog trainer could help answer these questions, such as why he no longer wants to sleep with you. Best of luck, and let us know what you learn. __________________ NancyJoey Proud members of the CrAzYcLuB and YAP! ** Just Say No to Puppymills – Join YAP! Yorkshire Terrier Club of America – Breeder Referrals

03-17-2011, 06:26 PM	#23
Nancy1999 I ♥ Joey & Ralphie! Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Arizona Posts: 25,396 Blog Entries: 2	I was talking to someone about your problem and they said that you have to include the dog in everything you do with the baby. Just walking the dog alone won't be enough, you have to include the baby on the walk, so that you can walk as a pack. When you feed the baby, tell your dog you are going to feed the baby now, and let him smell the baby and give him a treat after you feed the baby. Just include him in everything you do with the baby changing diapers, everything. __________________ NancyJoey Proud members of the CrAzYcLuB and YAP! ** Just Say No to Puppymills – Join YAP! Yorkshire Terrier Club of America – Breeder Referrals

03-14-2011, 02:13 PM	#18
dands Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Temecula Posts: 181	I don't know if this is a good suggestion or not but have you tried pretending that your baby is giving him a bunch of yummy treats? That way, maybe he'll be more happy that the baby is there as time goes on. For example, while holding your baby, take a treat from his/her belly and give it to your dog. Make it a very yummy treat like chicken or something. I don't have kids, but I'm thinking the one way we've gotten our yorkie to like people is by having them give him food. After a few days, he warms up to them. Maybe that'll help your yorkie like your baby more and be more happy around him?

03-16-2011, 06:10 PM	#21
RachelandSadie No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Kansas City, MO Posts: 5,748	i really don't think giving him a new home will help in depression. have you tried a private dog trainer to come and help you learn how to love him more and give him more attention. try something like that before you just give up on him. what you are dealing with is a GOOD situation. he's not aggressive so what's the problem? are you worried about his well-being or are you actually just done with your dog? because his happiness depends on staying with his family NOT being rehomed. try the trainer thing and see if they can help give you more advice to break him out of his lonely shell. it takes a long long time. just don't give up. if you decide that it's YOU that doesn't want HIM anymore then please find someone on YT or a YT rescue to take him to a forever home that will never give him up no matter what happens.

03-17-2011, 10:10 PM	#25
concretegurl Between♥Suspensions Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Vaissades Posts: 7,979	Pooping in baby's room is a serious sign of him saying I'm dominant over you in a passive way...he's just establishing pack order and responding to all these crazy new smells was he ever around a baby before he had one come into "his" home? Are you expressing sadness over him being sad when you are with him...he'll pick right up on it...walking him with baby is great, maybe he needs more intellectual stimulation right now...4 months is certainly an adjustment period but it has to be handled in the right way... and who says when and how long an adjustment takes? Then again I might be the one posting this in a month...dogs don't love the new baby... Are you seriously thinking of re-homing a dog you have had for 8 years because you now have a baby and the adjustment period hasn't been going well? Or is there more going on? If you don't answer that's fine I'm just personally curious... __________________ Shan & 8 kids now!

03-22-2011, 08:05 PM	#27
romeos mommy YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Pennsauken , NJ Posts: 4,068	I include ROmeo in everything "baby". She goes on walks with us too. He just sits on the couch all day with a sad look. He went to the vet and she said he needs to adjust. I really don't know if I could turn down a good home for him. People on YT know I am an over the top good mommy to Romeo. I really feel bad for him and tried everything to cheer him up. It is like the baby ruined his life __________________ Bernadette & Romeo

03-22-2011, 11:53 PM	#29
concretegurl Between♥Suspensions Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Vaissades Posts: 7,979	Perhaps someone close to the OP could have the room for an edition, I'd not re-home a dog just because we had a baby and the adjustment wasn't going well but it seems the OP is really seeking to re-home IMHO and to be honest the best interest of Romeo is the matter I think someone associated with YT would be the place to find a new and forever home for Romeo can anyone help the OP in what needs to be asked, screened etc in finding a new home as the safety and well being of Romeo is my foremost concern here...I'm sure the OP loves him and wants to find him the best possible placement...maybe we can all assist in that, ensuring he doesn't go to someone who won't give him the best life possible. __________________ Shan & 8 kids now!