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Rach · 12-29-2010, 04:06 PM

I know none of you know me, obviously I'm new. I'm stuck in a rut, and saw this forum and I thought all of the knowledgeable people could help.

So long story short... My name is Rachael, and live in NY. I'm a huge animal lover, and go to college for Zoology. Here's where my story begins: In november I had a minpin, named Chloe, she was literally the love of my life. She went every where with me, and I ate, slept, and breathed for her. In november, A yellow lab got out, and before I could react, the lab got a hold of her and killed her, immediately. It still brings tears to my eyes thinking about it.

Later, I met up with a friend who I haven't seen in awhile. We went to her house, where I saw she bred Yorkies (registered). Of course, I fell in love and bought one. I still ache from my loss of Chloe, but this dog has helped alot with my anxiety and has kept me very busy. Immediately I was attached. Then a few days after buying her, my car was smashed into by a drunk driver and totaled.. this year has been a total mess.

Because of my car being totaled and other things, financially, I could not afford to live on my own anymore, and had to move back in with my father (whos girlfriend just moved in, and hates dogs). He told me that I couldn't move in if I had a dog. So even longer story short, we fought, bad. When I get a pet, I get one forever and it kills me to even think about giving her up. I don't want to ruin the relationship between my father and I, over a dog, but then again she's not just /a dog/.

Sooo I don't know what to do.

DONNADEE · 12-29-2010, 04:54 PM

Is your dad's house the only place you can go or do you know someone that will take her until you get back on your feet?

SoSoNYC1 · 12-29-2010, 04:56 PM

Stick with the dog. Austin helps me BIGTIME with my anxiety. He's my angel with paws..lol

That poor pup shouldn't be an option!

LisaD · 12-29-2010, 04:59 PM

I would stick with my puppy too. I got rid of a dog a long time ago...should of kept the dog.

yorkieusa · 12-29-2010, 05:00 PM

Are you working at all? I was wondering if there is someone you could room with and share expenses? I'm sorry you're in that situation. Wish you were here. I'd let you live here!

ArmaniMan · 12-29-2010, 05:01 PM

I honestly don't know what to tell you- I can't imagine giving up your baby will be easy. However- if you don't have anywhere else to go and your Dad won't budge- you may not have a choice. Is living with him a short term solution, or some where you may be long term? Because you may be able to find someone to foster your baby for a few months if you think it will be short term. I am sorry you are faced with this decision.

salazark · 12-29-2010, 05:02 PM

I'm sorry you are going through this. I hope you can find a solution. Is there any other family member or friend that you can stay with till you can get back on your feet? Hang in there! Maybe someone will have some ideas.

Rach · 12-29-2010, 05:02 PM

Well the thing is, my dad knows how much she means to me and how much Chloe meant to me. He would want me to keep the dog, it's mainly his girlfriend that is the anti-dog, she's starting to talk him against me. I own (now) two dogs, and a horse. I work for both of them and they have never had to pay a penny toward them.

My father or his GF don't understand how much she helps me, because they have never been attached to an animal like that. I can stay other places, but that side of the family is harassing me and saying "you picked a dog over you father, I hope you feel good" and all of these other things. But I'm not the one who is picking sides, if I could I would choose both. My father feels horrible and actually cried, but his gf keeps saying "don't back down, then she will think she can get her way every other time".

Which to me is amazing because I'm very independent and responsible, I've lived by myself for a few years now.. idk

edit- & I do have a job, that's the ONLY reason why I want to stay with my dad, because he has an extra car I can use, and I work at a horse barn that's not far from his house.

RachelandSadie · 12-29-2010, 05:15 PM

i would look into any other options you can find for living and if there is still nowhere to go i would suggest finding someone you can trust to care for your baby until you get a chance to get back on your feet. there are lots of nice souls that are willing to foster a puppy for you until you are able to regain your own place. you might have to offer to pay all the pups expenses but they will do all the care taking.

i wish you luck, that sure is a bind to be in and i totally understand not ever giving up on a dog. i'm scared my Sadie won't deal well with children but i just can't bring myself to think of ever giving her away. my husband and i have talked about it and we would pay whatever amounts of money it took to train her through it and if there was no hope we'd beg my auntie to take Sadie in with her yorkie until the baby grew up more.

yorkieusa · 12-29-2010, 05:16 PM

I wish there was an easy answer for you. If you want to stay with your dad, I don't know what answer you are looking for, especially, since he has said no dog. I hate overbearing girlfriends. You probably feel like a piece of bologna between two slices of bread. I can't imagine a father doing that.

RachelandSadie · 12-29-2010, 05:22 PM

not to be rude but daddie's little gf gots ta go!

i can't believe she is manipulating him into going against his own flesh and blood! that upsets me and i'm so sorry you have to put up with that. i wish i was close i'd take her right away.

yorkieusa · 12-29-2010, 05:23 PM

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Originally Posted by RachelandSadie

not to be rude but daddie's little gf gots ta go!

i can't believe she is manipulating him into going against his own flesh and blood! that upsets me and i'm so sorry you have to put up with that. i wish i was close i'd take her right away.

I agree. Like I said, I just cannot imagine a father doing that.

143julz · 12-29-2010, 05:24 PM

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Originally Posted by ArmaniMan

I honestly don't know what to tell you- I can't imagine giving up your baby will be easy. However- if you don't have anywhere else to go and your Dad won't budge- you may not have a choice. Is living with him a short term solution, or some where you may be long term? Because you may be able to find someone to foster your baby for a few months if you think it will be short term. I am sorry you are faced with this decision.

Great advice

gemy · 12-29-2010, 05:25 PM

Ok you work at a horse farm? Is it possible to foster your YOrkie there, until you get on your feet again?

Maybe also live there in exchange for horse duties? Is that possible?

Rach · 12-29-2010, 05:46 PM

Thanks everyone so much, for all of the replies. I'm very upset that he is on her side, you can clearly see that it kills him to do that. We were best friends, and did everything together, but once I went to college and got a job, he got a girlfriend, and she controls EVERYTHING. She even walked into my room when I stayed there (for only a night) and flipped out saying how gross it is that she was using a pee pad and told me that I was horrible for bringing the dog home because it was "too soon", and that she and "your father" decided that once their dog dies, that's it..

She wanted to not let me stay but dad offered to "let me stay in the basement, and he will convert it into an apt.."

are you flippen serious? I really don't want to choose sides, and it's stupid that they are trying to make me feel guilty.

She could stay with my grandmother for awhile, but even then Idk.

12-29-2010, 04:06 PM	#1
Rach Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: NY Posts: 11	I don't know what to do :x I know none of you know me, obviously I'm new. I'm stuck in a rut, and saw this forum and I thought all of the knowledgeable people could help. So long story short... My name is Rachael, and live in NY. I'm a huge animal lover, and go to college for Zoology. Here's where my story begins: In november I had a minpin, named Chloe, she was literally the love of my life. She went every where with me, and I ate, slept, and breathed for her. In november, A yellow lab got out, and before I could react, the lab got a hold of her and killed her, immediately. It still brings tears to my eyes thinking about it. Later, I met up with a friend who I haven't seen in awhile. We went to her house, where I saw she bred Yorkies (registered). Of course, I fell in love and bought one. I still ache from my loss of Chloe, but this dog has helped alot with my anxiety and has kept me very busy. Immediately I was attached. Then a few days after buying her, my car was smashed into by a drunk driver and totaled.. this year has been a total mess. Because of my car being totaled and other things, financially, I could not afford to live on my own anymore, and had to move back in with my father (whos girlfriend just moved in, and hates dogs). He told me that I couldn't move in if I had a dog. So even longer story short, we fought, bad. When I get a pet, I get one forever and it kills me to even think about giving her up. I don't want to ruin the relationship between my father and I, over a dog, but then again she's not just /a dog/. Sooo I don't know what to do.

12-29-2010, 04:56 PM	#3
SoSoNYC1 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Ozone Park, NY Posts: 548	Stick with the dog. Austin helps me BIGTIME with my anxiety. He's my angel with paws..lol That poor pup shouldn't be an option! __________________ Proud Momma to my furkids: Austin, Chelsea York & Lenox

12-29-2010, 05:00 PM	#5
yorkieusa Crazy about Kacee! Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 21,173	Are you working at all? I was wondering if there is someone you could room with and share expenses? I'm sorry you're in that situation. Wish you were here. I'd let you live here! __________________ Karen Kacee Muffin 1991-2005 Rest in Peace My Little Angel

12-29-2010, 05:01 PM	#6
ArmaniMan I ♥ Armani & Chloe Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 3,895	I honestly don't know what to tell you- I can't imagine giving up your baby will be easy. However- if you don't have anywhere else to go and your Dad won't budge- you may not have a choice. Is living with him a short term solution, or some where you may be long term? Because you may be able to find someone to foster your baby for a few months if you think it will be short term. I am sorry you are faced with this decision. __________________ Armani & Chloe

12-29-2010, 05:02 PM	#7
salazark Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Alabama Posts: 941	I'm sorry you are going through this. I hope you can find a solution. Is there any other family member or friend that you can stay with till you can get back on your feet? Hang in there! Maybe someone will have some ideas. __________________ *Karen and the Kids* Sadie and Beemer

12-29-2010, 04:54 PM	#2
DONNADEE YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: MARIETTA GEORGIA Posts: 689	Is your dad's house the only place you can go or do you know someone that will take her until you get back on your feet?

12-29-2010, 04:59 PM	#4
LisaD YT Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Georgia Posts: 250	I would stick with my puppy too. I got rid of a dog a long time ago...should of kept the dog.

12-29-2010, 05:15 PM	#9
RachelandSadie No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Kansas City, MO Posts: 5,748	i would look into any other options you can find for living and if there is still nowhere to go i would suggest finding someone you can trust to care for your baby until you get a chance to get back on your feet. there are lots of nice souls that are willing to foster a puppy for you until you are able to regain your own place. you might have to offer to pay all the pups expenses but they will do all the care taking. i wish you luck, that sure is a bind to be in and i totally understand not ever giving up on a dog. i'm scared my Sadie won't deal well with children but i just can't bring myself to think of ever giving her away. my husband and i have talked about it and we would pay whatever amounts of money it took to train her through it and if there was no hope we'd beg my auntie to take Sadie in with her yorkie until the baby grew up more.

12-29-2010, 05:16 PM	#10
yorkieusa Crazy about Kacee! Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 21,173	I wish there was an easy answer for you. If you want to stay with your dad, I don't know what answer you are looking for, especially, since he has said no dog. I hate overbearing girlfriends. You probably feel like a piece of bologna between two slices of bread. I can't imagine a father doing that. __________________ Karen Kacee Muffin 1991-2005 Rest in Peace My Little Angel

12-29-2010, 05:22 PM	#11
RachelandSadie No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Kansas City, MO Posts: 5,748	not to be rude but daddie's little gf gots ta go! i can't believe she is manipulating him into going against his own flesh and blood! that upsets me and i'm so sorry you have to put up with that. i wish i was close i'd take her right away.

12-29-2010, 05:25 PM	#14
gemy YT 2000 Club Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Huntsville,Ont,Canaada Posts: 12,340 Blog Entries: 2	Ok you work at a horse farm? Is it possible to foster your YOrkie there, until you get on your feet again? Maybe also live there in exchange for horse duties? Is that possible? __________________ Razzle and Dara. Our clan. RIP Karma Dec 24th 2004-July 14 2013 RIP Zoey Jun9 th 2008-May 12 2012. RIP Magic,Mar 26 2006July 1st 2018

12-29-2010, 05:46 PM	#15
Rach Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: NY Posts: 11	Thanks everyone so much, for all of the replies. I'm very upset that he is on her side, you can clearly see that it kills him to do that. We were best friends, and did everything together, but once I went to college and got a job, he got a girlfriend, and she controls EVERYTHING. She even walked into my room when I stayed there (for only a night) and flipped out saying how gross it is that she was using a pee pad and told me that I was horrible for bringing the dog home because it was "too soon", and that she and "your father" decided that once their dog dies, that's it.. She wanted to not let me stay but dad offered to "let me stay in the basement, and he will convert it into an apt.." are you flippen serious? I really don't want to choose sides, and it's stupid that they are trying to make me feel guilty. She could stay with my grandmother for awhile, but even then Idk.