I don't know what to do :x

[yorkieusa]

It's sad to be torn apart like that. None of us know your precise options or the ins and outs of your familial relationships. You said the only reason you were going to stay at dad's was the closeness to your job and he had a spare car. So, if you can find other living arrangements, where you can have access to a car, I would seek them out. Please let us know how things work out. I feel so sorry for you to be in that situation.

[caw]

I'm a horsewoman here in Texas. Hello, fellow horsewoman! If your choices right now are between giving your dog away, using your dad's spare car so you can get to work, letting Dad convert the basement into a temporary apartment until things get better, and yes, having to put up with his awful girlfriend for a while, or leaving your dog with Grandma for the short term. I would endure whatever unpleasantness I had to in order to keep my dog. Your father's "peevish" girlfriend would NOT have the power to decide whether I kept my dog or not. NO WAY. Your situation is temporary and I would hate it if you gave your little dog away over a situation that WILL get better. I think you ought to stay in the basement and use your dad's car. All the while looking for a better situation ASAP. If that situation expires for some reason before you can get on your feet, then leave the dog with your grandmother since she's seems willing to care for the dog awhile. Doing all this will give you some time to figure things out and get your life back on track. Life is rough sometimes, "real rough", and then the sun comes out again. Don't give your animal away. Your dog is your family and "needs" you to go out in the world and find some way for the two of you to stay together and survive whatever situations present themselves in your lives together. I really think you will suffer great regret if you give your dog away that you love so much. Good luck to you, and take care, o.k.

[Rach]

Thanks! It was a breath of fresh air coming here. Here I am thinking I'm a horrible person, I'm glad there is other people like me out there, who are as passonite about their babies as I am. I will post pictures tomorrow so everyone can see her! Caw, that's great! I have a QH and work 5 days a week at a riding stable.

[LDMomma]

Your Dad's GF sounds like a witch. Sounds like it's time for her to go!

Could you talk alone to your Dad and tell him how you feel? Tell him that your puppy is really helping you and how.

[DvlshAngel985]

Originally Posted by LDMomma

Your Dad's GF sounds like a witch. Sounds like it's time for her to go!

Could you talk alone to your Dad and tell him how you feel? Tell him that your puppy is really helping you and how.

I agree with this. I'm a daddy's girl too and I simply adore my dad. We have special Saturdays together where we just sit and chat, just the two of us. I was in a similar situation last year and it was a blessing in disguise. My landlord stopped making his payments for over a year and the bank foreclosed on my home. I moved back home much to my mom's protest (she hates/is afraid of dogs). I had no job, lost it the same time the bank took over my home. This year I found a job in Aug thanks to a guardian angel, and a few months after, my dad fell ill. I was able to help him out financially. Then my aunt passed away this month, and again I was here to hold down the fort.

Before moving in I had a one on one chat with my dad. We both knew my mom was 110% against me bringing a dog into our home. He helped me convince my mom, and I was able to be here for when they needed me the most. I hope you are able to work something out.

[caw]

RACH...I'm glad we could all help you out!! Stick to your guns....stay the course. Let your dad worry about the girlfriend thing. She's HIS problem in the end. It's a real possibility that she won't even be around a few years from now. Right now, it looks like he's sweating it out trying to keep the peace. Regardless, he has his own path to go down and you have yours. You worry about making YOUR life the way YOU want it.

[angeleyes]

I agree with most here when it comes to keeping your baby. You took her to be her forever home, she'll give you more comfort and joy than anyone else can. Girl friends aren't always forever, they tend to come and go. I wouldn't be letting her tell you what you can and can't do in your dad's house. If he's willing to make an apartment for you I would let him and talk to him alone so he understands that the girlfriend is not allowed in there.
Good luck with the future, hope a rainbow comes your way.

[DvlshAngel985]

Originally Posted by angeleyes

I agree with most here when it comes to keeping your baby. You took her to be her forever home, she'll give you more comfort and joy than anyone else can. Girl friends aren't always forever, they tend to come and go. I wouldn't be letting her tell you what you can and can't do in your dad's house. If he's willing to make an apartment for you I would let him and talk to him alone so he understands that the girlfriend is not allowed in there.
Good luck with the future, hope a rainbow comes your way.

AGREED! I think the OP's dad is wonderful for wanting to make everyone happy. Having your own apt means having your own space and frankly, she shouldn't be allowed in there. Granted, you might have to share things like the kitchen, but I bet your baby would be ok if you go upstairs, grab some grub and eat with her downstairs.

[caw]

RACH...Quarter horses are wonderful animals....great athletes!! Good Luck!!

[mscat]

I am going to tell it like it is ... the GF is a Bit** Obviously not an animal person. Some are not. However this ought to between you and your father. Even converting the basement into an apartment won't be acceptable to keep your dogs? That is IMO very controlling and strict. If you are able to live with animal friendly , people then try that instead of having to put up with this nonsense. you seem like a good person who really loves her dogs and horse. Be strong, and make the best decsisions for yourself and your pets. It is my opinion that the GF ought to go .

[Ivy1]

Can you afford to get astudio apt. for you and your yorkie? That is what I would do. I am so sorry about the trajic loss of yout minpin.

[Bennett5]

I feel like if you dad knew how much your baby means to you especially after what happened he wouldn't even think about making you get rid of your baby. Its a tough situation i'm very sorry you have to go through it, your dads gf sounds like she has nothing better to do wit herself than to make things harder for you. Good Luck with everything, it will all work out in the end.

[smepperson]

Originally Posted by caw

I'm a horsewoman here in Texas. Hello, fellow horsewoman! If your choices right now are between giving your dog away, using your dad's spare car so you can get to work, letting Dad convert the basement into a temporary apartment until things get better, and yes, having to put up with his awful girlfriend for a while, or leaving your dog with Grandma for the short term. I would endure whatever unpleasantness I had to in order to keep my dog. Your father's "peevish" girlfriend would NOT have the power to decide whether I kept my dog or not. NO WAY. Your situation is temporary and I would hate it if you gave your little dog away over a situation that WILL get better. I think you ought to stay in the basement and use your dad's car. All the while looking for a better situation ASAP. If that situation expires for some reason before you can get on your feet, then leave the dog with your grandmother since she's seems willing to care for the dog awhile. Doing all this will give you some time to figure things out and get your life back on track. Life is rough sometimes, "real rough", and then the sun comes out again. Don't give your animal away. Your dog is your family and "needs" you to go out in the world and find some way for the two of you to stay together and survive whatever situations present themselves in your lives together. I really think you will suffer great regret if you give your dog away that you love so much. Good luck to you, and take care, o.k.

[bailie]

SHOW HIM THE REPLYS ON YORKIETALK


THIS IS A MESSAGE TO YOU DAD; YOUR DAUGHTER NEEDS YOU RIGHT NOW. OK SHE HAS A DOG, BUT ITS NOT JUST A DOG ITS HER SOUL MATE, please be fair, she was there in your life first and will always be there for you, we all feel her pain x

[Lisa and Pic]

Wow, you are in a tough situation. I hope you will be able to work things out, so you can keep your pup with you. I also hope you can talk to your dad one-on-one to explain everything.

I hate to admit this, but one of the times my adult stepdaughter wanted to live with us (around 2000), she also wanted to bring her Yorkie. I was not happy about this at all because I had cats. But after much discussion, she came with her Yorkie Tinkerbell, and that was the beginning of my love affair with the Yorkie breed. So, you never know what can happen....