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11-10-2010, 10:15 AM | #1 |
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| What's a NICE way to tell someone..A PET IS NOT FOR YOU! This just recently crossed my mind. I have pics of Tommy uploaded on my FB. All of my friends and family have been commenting as I've gone through the process to get him. A few female friends I know all say they want a Yorkie. I explain to them to research, avoid puppy mills, etc, oh and more research. Then, they go and post about wanting a Yorkie (or some other dog) and folks start encouraging to look in the local paper, or they know someone who knows someone who can breed one for them My biggest hurdle is my older sis. She had a dog some years back. I dont recall what type of dog he was but he was a very playful active puppy. I remember he tore up the siding on her house, not to mention started eating away at her wooden deck. She didn't like the dog, so had DH "get rid of him" which basically he drove and dropped him off in hopes that someone else will take him (which indeed happened) But every since I found Molly (earlier this spring) she's been saying she wanted a dog, but something small. Now that I have Tommy now, she's even more adamant about a small dog. I joked with her the other night that maybe a dog isn't for her and that I'd hate for her to 'get rid' of another dog like before. She brushed it off saying simply, "he was just too big and was going to keep growing) I know i'm not the only one who has dealt with something/someone like this. How do you handle it? |
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11-10-2010, 10:21 AM | #2 |
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| I wouldnt tell her that a pet is not for her I just wouldnt feel that was my right to do. I would tell her downfalls of owning some small breeds and exaggerate it a bit
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11-10-2010, 10:24 AM | #3 |
Poppy's Mamma ♥ Donating Member | I put a photo of Poppy on Facebook and a girl I used to go to school with commented that she wanted one and asked if I would tell her when Poppy's breeder was due another litter. She has just had a baby a few months ago and is pregnant again so I dont think this is a good time to be raising a young puppy. I tried to tell her in the nicest way possible.. all I could say was that they are really hard work and its like having a human baby, it would be very stressful. But she brushed it off. With family I think it is easier. I think its horrible that your sister simply "got rid" of her other dog, what if nobody picked him up? he could have been run over by a car or anything. So sad. Your right there is no way she should get another dog, she dosnt sound responsible enough and its not fair on the dog. I would tell her straight that it was cruel what she did with her last dog and that I dont think she is responsible enough for another. But then again I know everyone has different relationships with their siblings and you may not feel as comfertable being so straight with your sister. I do think you should try and talk her out of the idea though. Tell her that size dosnt really matter and ALL dogs need training or they will drive you nuts. If she isnt prepared to train the first dog I doubt she will train a second. Good luck!
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11-10-2010, 10:33 AM | #4 |
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| Remind her of what happened last time. There's no real great way of telling her not to get a dog, but I'd just honest with her. Puppies are work, as are adult dogs as well. Dogs aren't fish that swim in their tanks all day and live on their own. Dogs require a lot of work. Make sure she is aware of the work she has to put into training, feeding, and working with a dog. If she's not into that, tell her to get a fish. I have to tell people this all the time at the pet store I work at. It sounds harsh, but some people aren't meant to have dogs whether it be from lazyness or lack of will to learn how to properly take care of their pet.
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11-10-2010, 10:36 AM | #5 |
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11-10-2010, 10:41 AM | #6 | |
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Thanks for the suggestion. I think I'm going to stress the potty training to her. She works 12hr shifts 3-4x a week (she works in a hospital). So, when she gets home at 7am, she's up for a couple hours then is sleep until it's time for work again. Don't even get me started on her DH. He barely does anything around the house..so umm yeah expecting him to take a puppy out to potty..yeah I dont see that happening either! | |
11-10-2010, 10:45 AM | #7 | |
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11-10-2010, 10:45 AM | #8 |
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| I'd tell her that even small dogs have a down side and aren't a piece of cake to raise. Like how it usually takes them longer to get housetrained than a large dog. That, like the large dog who chewed the siding off her house, a small dog can be pretty destructive too, except with other things, like the molding around the window by the front door or the corner of a coffee table (both of which Lizzy did). Be sure she knows she is kidding herself if she thinks she can just come home from work and relax. A puppy will need cleaning after, feeding, exercise and training and that she just doesn't see all the time you put into your puppy, nor do you complain about all the things that aren't "perfect" with Tommy. Maybe you can get her to think twice, at least.
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11-10-2010, 10:48 AM | #9 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker | I would appeal to their selfish side. I think it's a selfish impulse that leads irresponsible people to get pets in the first place. Arguing for the well being of the pet won't do any good. But explaining all the negative consequences for the person could make a difference. Last edited by boopster; 11-10-2010 at 10:49 AM. |
11-10-2010, 10:53 AM | #10 |
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| I agree with all your comments....I have many friends that want certain breeds, and from me working as a vet tech for 7 yrs, i know a bit about certain breeds and what to look for, and when I tell them that, they look at me like i have 4 eyes...some people are all about the status of what the breed will make them look like, or attention...its crazy!
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11-10-2010, 10:53 AM | #11 |
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| If she sleeps during the day, I'd warn her about barking too. Also, that small dogs aren't "backyard" dogs, although I don't think any dogs are.
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11-10-2010, 11:34 AM | #12 |
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| Tell her about the barking, peeing, chewing, bitting, cost, smell. If I come up with more I tell you But NO she should not get any kind of dog!
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11-11-2010, 09:10 AM | #13 |
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| Ok, we spoke again last night. I told her about the $125 I've already spent on Tommy just to cover his vet visit. And I told her about he was going to be more expensive than I thought in the long run..she said, "well I guess I'll have to put in more overtime" *bangs head on wall* She again ignored me when I reminded her that I take him out every 1-2hrs. I asked her how she would be able to take him out so often since she works 3rd shift, and sleeps during the day..no response on that. She said she wants "a doggy like yours" sometime next month or Jan. She's interested in going through the rescue I went through. I'm going to talk to that woman into not approving my sister. Is that terrible? I really dont think she'll have time for a doggy. I think she just wants something to be cozy sitting in her lap, but isn't factoring in food, walking, training, cuddling, vet bills/visits and etc. |
11-11-2010, 09:29 AM | #14 | |
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You didn't care for your first dog and when confronted with a problem, your option was "dumping" the poor dog to be left to his own devices. You are too immature to care properly for any pet. You work hours that would make it difficult for the pet to have a decent chance at being properly trained and cared for. A pet isn't for you. Period.
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11-12-2010, 05:09 AM | #15 | |
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