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shodanusmc · 11-03-2010, 09:43 PM

You just stay positive, and make sure you take care of yourself. Your health now is very important, to be there for them. I wish nothing but the best for all of you. Sometimes life throws a curve, but they are alive, and getting the proper care. I lost a 17 year old daughter over 14 years ago. Worst part is never getting to say goodbye. Still think of her every day. Just stay strong and positive. If you ever want to chat, just PM me.

Babbs3772 · 11-04-2010, 04:42 AM

Praying for your family Sharon, please keep us updated.

kjc · 11-05-2010, 09:22 PM

Sending out more prayers and positive healing energy....

shoefelmeyer · 11-10-2010, 03:15 PM

Just a little update on my daughter and grand daughter.

My Grand Daughter was released last week and then my Daughter was also released a few days later. They are both doing OK. My Grand Daughter surprisingly has bounced back really well. In fact she went back to Kindergarten yesterday for half day. My Daughter still has a very long road ahead. And if she is fortunate to recover without more complications, she could be doing better in 6 months or so.

Saturday I woke up and started to have severe pain that felt like kidney stones. Could barely walk or drive. Came home on Sunday. Went to my Urologist, Monday morning. Had scans and other tests. Today I also went to my Arthritis doctor and had 2 steroid injections into my right hip and right shoulder. I am not allowed to lift anything heavier than a gallon milk carton. And not allowed to do much walking or much of anything until this severe flare up settles down. Found out this flare up is involving my kidneys also. I just have to take care of myself, rest and pray these injections work. Otherwise after I have my infusion next week, I must see my RA doctor again that same day as infusion. Have been prescribed a more potent pain killer and must temporarily stop 2 of my other pain killers. Can't drive for a few days. So, I am now home for awhile. Not allowed to go be with my Daughter or Grand Daughter until I get this flare up settled down again.

I could not believe that woman that is caring for my Daughter, knowing there is no way I can lift Jennifer or do any of the care that involves physical strain on my body.... wants me to come back to care for my daughter for 1 1/2 weeks. After all my ex husband and I went thru to figure things out for my daughters care. Her Pastors wife which is also a very close friend, offered to bring her into their home for several months instead of having her placed into a rehab center. My ex told my daughter neither him or I could physically take care of her and the rehab center was the best option. I was floored when I received this phone call last night. And this stressed me even more with additional worries. This Pastors wife was actually upset with me, because I am NOT physically able to care for my Daughter. She knew this, my ex husband and I both told her neither of us could do this. My ex lives in Vermont, I live here in Ohio. He has a job as Postmaster so he could not stay any longer.
Right now, all I can do is continue to pray. I had a long talk with my daughter to fill her in on my own doctors orders. And to explain to her, why I am not permitted to take on what in my heart I want to do, but physically can't. It just breaks my heart as a Mother, that I am not able to do what I want to do to provide the care that my Daughter needs. And it hurts that I am 3 hours away, not able to go anywhere until this flare up settles back done. This could take a few weeks unfortunately.

Since I am stuck at home, I can now sew, do some machine embroidery, read and rest. Things I LOVE to do but never seem to have the time to do. I also can photograph and list the sweaters I bought from Target before all of this happened with my Daughter and Grand Daughter.

Thank you to everyone that has prayed and offered such kind words. It really means alot to us.

loveshay · 11-10-2010, 03:28 PM

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Originally Posted by shodanusmc

You just stay positive, and make sure you take care of yourself. Your health now is very important, to be there for them. I wish nothing but the best for all of you. Sometimes life throws a curve, but they are alive, and getting the proper care. I lost a 17 year old daughter over 14 years ago. Worst part is never getting to say goodbye. Still think of her every day. Just stay strong and positive. If you ever want to chat, just PM me.

I am so sorry for you loss, that has to be difficult to this day...my prayers are with you.....

shoefelmeyer....take care of yourself, I still have your daughter and grandchild in my prayers...glad they both came home, I am so sorry you are having the added stress, from the caretaker..I hope everything will work out..

yorkieusa · 11-10-2010, 04:46 PM

Sharon,
You can only do what you can do. You have to take care of yourself first or you won't be able to help them down the road. You just have to ignore all of those other voices and think only of getting well. Some roads have a lot of sharp curves in them and that makes navigating the road of life very difficult sometimes. Sending prayers for you, your daughter and grandaughter. I'm glad the little one is doing better. I'm sure you need the rest and diversions available at home right now. You have to be completely exhausted as well. Take care of yourself.

Patti · 11-10-2010, 04:51 PM

I am keeping you all in my prayers. As much as you want to help your daughter, you have to take care of yourself.

mugwee1 · 11-11-2010, 03:07 AM

Listen to your doctors , for they know best . Stress causes flares. Your daughter knows your with them in your heart and prayer. They say god will give you no more then you can handle. Some times it doesn't seem that way.Praying for you and your's. Try to take it easy.
Mugwee1

kjc · 11-11-2010, 03:23 AM

I just don't get some people! Like why would you have needed to get a caretaker in the first place if you could do it yourself? What is she thinking??? Then to add that stress to what you've gone through so far! Geez!

So glad to hear your Daughter and Granddaughter are improving... sad to hear about your flare-up. Hope you feel better soon... Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers...

ladyjane · 11-11-2010, 05:54 AM

I am so sorry, Sharon, that people are treating you that way.

This entire thing has been stressful enough on you and everyone else in your family. It is shameful that people look to add more stress.

You and your family remain in my thoughts and prayers.

shoefelmeyer · 11-11-2010, 06:34 AM

Thank you everyone for your kind words, support and prayers. This has been such a horrific experience to go thru. And then to have this Pastors wife call me from out of no where, "demanding" that I take care of my daughter for 1 1/2 weeks while they are on a cruise. I feel that since she knew they had this planned and paid for so long, taking on all of this right now was extremely nice but we did have other options that the social worker was working on for my Daughter. I could have taken in my youngest Grand Daughter for that time or even longer, just as my ex husband has done with my oldest Grand Daughter. The main concern right now, is my Daughter and her 24 hour care. This Pastors wife is even leaving my Daughter alone while teaching at the church preschool next door, church services and all the other things a Pastors wife must do. I feel the harsh reality has set in and they are realizing they took on more than they can handle. In a few months once my daughter right arm has recovered and out of the cast and the left leg is recovered and out of the immobilizer, her care will be ALOT easier since she will finally be mobile. That is when I can do more for her because I would not need to lift or put strain on my own body. Well, except for helping her in/out of her wheel chair. Eventually she will start to use a walker. Which I also use when I am flared up this badly.

I did have a very long conversation with my Daughter. My sister asked some questions since she works in the medical profession and found out if someone will readmit my daughter into the hospital the options open up again to place her somewhere that is "skilled" with this level of care. My Daughter really needs medically skilled people caring for her at this time and for several months.

I am so thankful this Pastors wife took care of my oldest Grand Daughter while my Daughter and yougest Grand Daughter were both in the hospital. And then brought my youngest Grand Daughter into her home, once released from the hospital. But taking on my Daughter with this level of care, is overwhelming I am sure and they are now realizing it is too much for them. My ex husband and I both recognized this since we were both there every day, all day/night. This is why we were working with social workers for options to place my Daughter into a rehab facility. We would never have agreed to this woman taking in my Daughter if we had known about this upcoming 1 1/2 week vacation. Now we are both worried. My ex husband arrived home to Vermont on Tuesday night. I called him yesterday morning to discuss all of this. Now we are both worried about our Daughters care.
I guess I have to ask for God to intervene and bring forth what ever the next step will be for my Daughters care. I know I can't sit here and worry about it 24/7. Easily said than done, to not worry.
I know I must now focus on getting my own health under control. I am resting and not going to do anything I am NOT supposed to do right now. I am thrilled that I can actually do some fun things I have put off for several months.
Thank you again for everyone's continued prayers.

joann1166 · 11-11-2010, 11:31 AM

You family will be in my prayers and please do what the doctors ordered for you. God will take care of the rest...just trust in him. I'm glad your daughter and grand daughter are doing better. Hopefully it will be more of a speedy recovery than the doctors thought.

Bentleys Momma · 11-11-2010, 01:11 PM

keeping you in our prayers. Take care of yourself!!!

Peggy, Monkey & Maddie

11-05-2010, 09:22 PM	#48
kjc I♥PeekTinkySaph&Finny Donating Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Baltimore, Maryland Posts: 18,872	Sending out more prayers and positive healing energy.... __________________ Kat Chloe Lizzy PeekABooTinkerbell SapphireInfinity

11-10-2010, 04:46 PM	#51
yorkieusa Crazy about Kacee! Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 21,173	Sharon, You can only do what you can do. You have to take care of yourself first or you won't be able to help them down the road. You just have to ignore all of those other voices and think only of getting well. Some roads have a lot of sharp curves in them and that makes navigating the road of life very difficult sometimes. Sending prayers for you, your daughter and grandaughter. I'm glad the little one is doing better. I'm sure you need the rest and diversions available at home right now. You have to be completely exhausted as well. Take care of yourself. __________________ Karen Kacee Muffin 1991-2005 Rest in Peace My Little Angel

11-10-2010, 04:51 PM	#52
Patti Donating YT 30K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 35,509 Blog Entries: 6	I am keeping you all in my prayers. As much as you want to help your daughter, you have to take care of yourself. __________________ Cali Pixie Roxie : RIP Nikki; RIP Maya;RIP my sweet Dixie girl 1/17/08 http://callipuppyscastle.bravehost.com/index.html

11-11-2010, 03:23 AM	#54
kjc I♥PeekTinkySaph&Finny Donating Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Baltimore, Maryland Posts: 18,872	I just don't get some people! Like why would you have needed to get a caretaker in the first place if you could do it yourself? What is she thinking??? Then to add that stress to what you've gone through so far! Geez! So glad to hear your Daughter and Granddaughter are improving... sad to hear about your flare-up. Hope you feel better soon... Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers... __________________ Kat Chloe Lizzy PeekABooTinkerbell SapphireInfinity

11-11-2010, 05:54 AM	#55
ladyjane Resident Yorkie Nut Donating YT 20K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Texas Posts: 27,490	I am so sorry, Sharon, that people are treating you that way. This entire thing has been stressful enough on you and everyone else in your family. It is shameful that people look to add more stress. You and your family remain in my thoughts and prayers. __________________ CLOUD NINE BEDS--YORKIE HAVEN RESCUE MY ETSY SHOP

11-03-2010, 09:43 PM	#46
shodanusmc BANNED! Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Illinois Posts: 4,603	You just stay positive, and make sure you take care of yourself. Your health now is very important, to be there for them. I wish nothing but the best for all of you. Sometimes life throws a curve, but they are alive, and getting the proper care. I lost a 17 year old daughter over 14 years ago. Worst part is never getting to say goodbye. Still think of her every day. Just stay strong and positive. If you ever want to chat, just PM me.

11-04-2010, 04:42 AM	#47
Babbs3772 Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: USA Posts: 82	Praying for your family Sharon, please keep us updated.

11-10-2010, 03:15 PM	#49
shoefelmeyer Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: USA Posts: 839	Just a little update on my daughter and grand daughter. My Grand Daughter was released last week and then my Daughter was also released a few days later. They are both doing OK. My Grand Daughter surprisingly has bounced back really well. In fact she went back to Kindergarten yesterday for half day. My Daughter still has a very long road ahead. And if she is fortunate to recover without more complications, she could be doing better in 6 months or so. Saturday I woke up and started to have severe pain that felt like kidney stones. Could barely walk or drive. Came home on Sunday. Went to my Urologist, Monday morning. Had scans and other tests. Today I also went to my Arthritis doctor and had 2 steroid injections into my right hip and right shoulder. I am not allowed to lift anything heavier than a gallon milk carton. And not allowed to do much walking or much of anything until this severe flare up settles down. Found out this flare up is involving my kidneys also. I just have to take care of myself, rest and pray these injections work. Otherwise after I have my infusion next week, I must see my RA doctor again that same day as infusion. Have been prescribed a more potent pain killer and must temporarily stop 2 of my other pain killers. Can't drive for a few days. So, I am now home for awhile. Not allowed to go be with my Daughter or Grand Daughter until I get this flare up settled down again. I could not believe that woman that is caring for my Daughter, knowing there is no way I can lift Jennifer or do any of the care that involves physical strain on my body.... wants me to come back to care for my daughter for 1 1/2 weeks. After all my ex husband and I went thru to figure things out for my daughters care. Her Pastors wife which is also a very close friend, offered to bring her into their home for several months instead of having her placed into a rehab center. My ex told my daughter neither him or I could physically take care of her and the rehab center was the best option. I was floored when I received this phone call last night. And this stressed me even more with additional worries. This Pastors wife was actually upset with me, because I am NOT physically able to care for my Daughter. She knew this, my ex husband and I both told her neither of us could do this. My ex lives in Vermont, I live here in Ohio. He has a job as Postmaster so he could not stay any longer. Right now, all I can do is continue to pray. I had a long talk with my daughter to fill her in on my own doctors orders. And to explain to her, why I am not permitted to take on what in my heart I want to do, but physically can't. It just breaks my heart as a Mother, that I am not able to do what I want to do to provide the care that my Daughter needs. And it hurts that I am 3 hours away, not able to go anywhere until this flare up settles back done. This could take a few weeks unfortunately. Since I am stuck at home, I can now sew, do some machine embroidery, read and rest. Things I LOVE to do but never seem to have the time to do. I also can photograph and list the sweaters I bought from Target before all of this happened with my Daughter and Grand Daughter. Thank you to everyone that has prayed and offered such kind words. It really means alot to us.

11-11-2010, 03:07 AM	#53
mugwee1 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: pa. Posts: 861	Listen to your doctors , for they know best . Stress causes flares. Your daughter knows your with them in your heart and prayer. They say god will give you no more then you can handle. Some times it doesn't seem that way.Praying for you and your's. Try to take it easy. Mugwee1

11-11-2010, 06:34 AM	#56
shoefelmeyer Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: USA Posts: 839	Thank you everyone for your kind words, support and prayers. This has been such a horrific experience to go thru. And then to have this Pastors wife call me from out of no where, "demanding" that I take care of my daughter for 1 1/2 weeks while they are on a cruise. I feel that since she knew they had this planned and paid for so long, taking on all of this right now was extremely nice but we did have other options that the social worker was working on for my Daughter. I could have taken in my youngest Grand Daughter for that time or even longer, just as my ex husband has done with my oldest Grand Daughter. The main concern right now, is my Daughter and her 24 hour care. This Pastors wife is even leaving my Daughter alone while teaching at the church preschool next door, church services and all the other things a Pastors wife must do. I feel the harsh reality has set in and they are realizing they took on more than they can handle. In a few months once my daughter right arm has recovered and out of the cast and the left leg is recovered and out of the immobilizer, her care will be ALOT easier since she will finally be mobile. That is when I can do more for her because I would not need to lift or put strain on my own body. Well, except for helping her in/out of her wheel chair. Eventually she will start to use a walker. Which I also use when I am flared up this badly. I did have a very long conversation with my Daughter. My sister asked some questions since she works in the medical profession and found out if someone will readmit my daughter into the hospital the options open up again to place her somewhere that is "skilled" with this level of care. My Daughter really needs medically skilled people caring for her at this time and for several months. I am so thankful this Pastors wife took care of my oldest Grand Daughter while my Daughter and yougest Grand Daughter were both in the hospital. And then brought my youngest Grand Daughter into her home, once released from the hospital. But taking on my Daughter with this level of care, is overwhelming I am sure and they are now realizing it is too much for them. My ex husband and I both recognized this since we were both there every day, all day/night. This is why we were working with social workers for options to place my Daughter into a rehab facility. We would never have agreed to this woman taking in my Daughter if we had known about this upcoming 1 1/2 week vacation. Now we are both worried. My ex husband arrived home to Vermont on Tuesday night. I called him yesterday morning to discuss all of this. Now we are both worried about our Daughters care. I guess I have to ask for God to intervene and bring forth what ever the next step will be for my Daughters care. I know I can't sit here and worry about it 24/7. Easily said than done, to not worry. I know I must now focus on getting my own health under control. I am resting and not going to do anything I am NOT supposed to do right now. I am thrilled that I can actually do some fun things I have put off for several months. Thank you again for everyone's continued prayers.

11-11-2010, 11:31 AM	#57
joann1166 YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Arab, AL, USA Posts: 1,117 Blog Entries: 1	You family will be in my prayers and please do what the doctors ordered for you. God will take care of the rest...just trust in him. I'm glad your daughter and grand daughter are doing better. Hopefully it will be more of a speedy recovery than the doctors thought. __________________ Charlie & Natalie & Ollie

11-11-2010, 01:11 PM	#58
Bentleys Momma YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 793	keeping you in our prayers. Take care of yourself!!! Peggy, Monkey & Maddie __________________ "If there are no dogs in Heaven, then when I die I want to go where they went." — Will Rogers