I REALLY dont know what to do!!!
 

As most of you know when i got Poppy i thought she was alot older than what the breeder had told me. When i got Poppy home i found out she was only 5weeks old and when i phoned the breeder he just brushed it off as nothing and that he had already told me she was 5 weeks old AND if i wasnt happy i could just ''take her back'' and he was pretty rude. Anyway before this happened i thought the two male breeders where such lovely people, we used to txt alot about Poppy and i went up there about 3 times before Poppy came home. I was really upset when this happened with Poppys age as i thought they where friends as well as breeders and they knew i had spend ALOT on Poppy and then ALOT more on buying her new stuff so sending her home at 5 weeks was just terrible for me.

So tonight i get a phone call off the breeder (i could not put the phone down on him as i am not that kind of person) he asks how Poppy is doing and says he is sorry the way things went off when we last spoke and we both must have got our wires crossed. He asked could we start a fresh because he would love to keep in contact with Poppy, me and my OH. He says Poppys mum would love to see her and he has asked us to come over on Sunday for an hour so they can meet Poppy and Poppy can see her Mummy. He also said that they would not be breeding again as it was so stressful for them last time and they didnt really know what they where doing and he said he was sorry.

I want to forgive him and be able to stay in contact with them and for Poppy to see her mummy but i dont know what to do? What do you lot think?

I'm such a softy that I'd probably give in, too.:rolleyes:

Just my opinion but I would not continue to have interactions with them. Poppy will not know the difference from his mum or another dog. I tend to avoid anything that I feel may cause me more pain and it seems to me that you may be setting yourself up if you continue to correspond.

Good luck to you when trying to make this decision!

Peggy, Monkey & Maddie :daisy:

I know me too. I know Poppy would love to see her mummy and her mummy to see her too. xxxx

Would she really not know the difference? Will she not know its her mummy? Thats such a shame to hear that :( xxx

I doubt "Poppy's mum would love to see her" - did Poppy's mum tell him that;)

I wouldn't stay in contact with him.

No, she won't know it is her mommy. They don't remember.

That's a hard one. Since he apologized and admitting they didn't know what they were doing and best yet they stopped breeding, I may be open to a visit. Poppy would probably be happy to see her Mum.

That is the way I looked at it.:)

That has seriously just upset me i am nearly in tears, i cant believe that she wont remember her mum. Thats so upseting for me. Stupid i know but ugh i could cry xxx

It's the same with all of them. I'm sorry it upset you. I didn't intend to do that. I can remember many years ago when I learned that, too, that I felt sad that they don't remember.:(

Its true, she wont remember who her biological mom is.
But you are her mom now and she will always remember you :)
Maybe they made a mistake and took on more then they could handle when they bred their dog, they should have done research on breeding and yorkies first but sadly alot of people dont do this.
I always believe that everyone deserves a second chance, if they say they wont breed again then maybe they have learnt their lesson.
If it were me I probably would stay in contact but I wouldnt become 'good friends' with them, the way I see it is that if you stay in contact you can educate them on yorkies.

Natasha I don't think you should go. After all you reported this "breeder" to your local authorities for letting a puppy go too young.

Where is that at? This person lied to you, and was in so many ways such a poor example of a breeder.

You can still forgive this person in your heart of hearts. But I would keep my distance from this person.

Maybe you need to stay in touch so that you'll know she WILL know and remember her mum. I know it would be a very difficult decision for me to have to make. I don't think I would take her. But, before you take her anywhere or to meet other dogs - has she finished all her vaccinations yet?

Oh you didnt upset me. Just the fact that they dont remember there mums is so sad. I dunno if i should go or not now, is there any point, i was kinda doing it for Poppy but if she wont remember then i dunno. I guess i would like to see Poppys mum and the breeders where so nice before this all happened but i dont wanna get hurt again because i trusted them and then they wherent there while Poppy was just 5weeks old for help and advice and when i stayed up all night looking after her. It was people on this forum who helped me more than anything. Its like i have to sides and i am being pulled each way :( xxxxx

That is true i am her new mummy now :D Thank you hehe! xxx

Only you can make this decision, and you have to do what's right for you. Whatever you decide, YT will be here for you and Poppy.

Did you feel the man was sincere? If you're really torn, how about making a quick visit without Poppy to see if things really have changed? Sorry, I really wish I could be more help.

Your so right they where VERY poor examples of breeders. The authorities never called me back and i have not bothered to call them again which i know i should have. Thank you for the advice Gemy xxx

LOL i guess not LOL. you made me giggle with that one. xxxx

I say follow your heart :love:

I'm a little uncomfortable with this. Letting a pup go at 5 weeks is hardly forgivable regardless of it being a mistake. Everyone involved is so lucky Poppy is doing well. However, I do understand you wanting Poppy to see her mum and I'm sure it really would be interesting for you to see Poppy's family. But, if it was me, I wouldn't go.

I know what you mean. It was such a hard time when i got her and found out she was 5 weeks old and it was only thanks to people here that i managed to take care of her. I am finding it hard to forgive that but i thought oh well Poppy would get to see her mum which would be nice but hearing she wont even know who her mum is then i dont think i am going to go. xxxx

I would not continue to socialize with them. You said he was rude to you, misled you on the age of the puppy and just selling a 5 week old puppy is really cruel. Not a person I would want to continue any relationship with. I agree the dogs will not know each other if any time at all has passed. Not clear how long you have had Poppy. Once momma is done, she is done. I know that sounds sad but they are different than we are. If you want to socialize Poppy with other Yorkies, I would try to find a play group. I would even be leery about the guy's motives. Is he just trying to smooth things over so you don't sue him? Does he somehow want to reclaim Poppy? I would worry about everything with a man that has not shown me any integrity. This is just my own opinion tho, what you do is up to you.

glad I made you giggle.:)
Sorry it upsets you that Poppy wouldn't remember her mum, but it is a fact of life.
You are Poppy's mum now, the one who is seeing to her well being and training her - and doing it marvelously I might add:)

Good point!

Debra, this thread will give you more insight into Poppy's story.

http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/gen...oppy-home.html

Only you can judge whether or not you think he was sincere in his apology. Follow your heart. What ever you do, no one here is going to judge you one way or the other. I agree that Poppy probably won't remember that his dog is her mother, but she will know it's another dog to play with.

Has Poppy finished all of her immunizations yet? I might be leary about taking her around if she hasn't.

Holy Cow! I just read through that whole thread. First off, kudos to you, Furbutt for raising Poppy. Secondly, after reading that there is no way you should be going back to see the "breeder".

There. See? You made the decision! Good for you!:)

Wow!
 

I had no idea! So, let\'s say you have all doggies at home living together, mom, dad and baby. Do they know they are related?


Also, isn\'t there something about a dog never forgetting the scent of someone or other dog they meet? So maybe she wouldn\'t know it\'s her mom, but she would know she met this dog before?

Anyways, I don\'t think you should go, it will do more harm than good. This guy doesn\'t seem to be someone you should trust.

It sound very leary to me...I don\'t think I would carry her back to see them especially if she don\'t have all her shots yet. You can keep in touch thru over the phone to be nice.