Designer Mutts

[TwoforFun]

And I'm very sorry to hear about Toto.

[Chloes dad]

Well if it were me, I would simply tell her if she couldn't afford the puppy, she shouldn't get one. What does she plan on doing when the vet bills come around? I understand you said she was in a better financial situation than you, And your having financial issues yourself. But she must have a reason for not wanting to pay the full amount..maybe she shouldn't be considering a pup at this time.

[charmed239]

It sounds like she may have not thought this thing through all the way. If your friend cannot afford the 200$ How is she going to afford to have the baby spayed or neutered, as well as all of the shots it will need.!

[Fantastic49]

it doesn't sound like her being able afford the puppy is the issue here. you said that she makes more money than you do and has a husband to help her, so it sounds like you think she can afford the puppy for $200 plus any vet bills that may come up.

my suggestion is that you consider how you will FEEL if she doesn't pay the additional $75. would you pay it without a thought if you could afford it?? of course ... but you've indicated to us that you cannot afford it ... so, i like one of the first poster's way of putting it, which was something about you taking a look at your budget/finances and you realized you were not able to afford the extra $75 for her share, so it would really help you out if she could pay it....

now, i will also say that this is dependent on you never actually agreeing to pay the $275 while she paid $125. if you already agreed, then you need to take another route that indicates you know you told her you would pay it, but circumstances have changed and you need her help. putting it in a way that she is helping you out will probably be taken better than a "gimme my dayum money" stance lol....

but before doing any of that, you may want to consider how this friend has handled you in the past regarding money and other things. has she generally been selfish with you? generous? there for you in a pinch? loyal? kind? the answers to these types of questions may determine a lot about the quality of the friendship and how far you want to go to not lose the friendship. because if she IS a good friend, both of you will realize that it's not worth losing or damaging over $75.

sorry for the long post. best of luck to you.

[tkking17]

I'm very sorry to hear about Toto. I know that your heart will lead you to the right decision about what to do.

As far as your friend goes, I would feel the same way. It's not fair to you to pay for more than your fair share. It sounds like she may be hestitant about getting this dog...so I hope that if she does take it, she is ready for the responsiblity.

I would just suggest being honest with her. Just tell her that if she is committed to getting one of the dogs, that you are not comfortable paying for more than half and that you hope she understands. Hopefully, she will.

Also, do you know why she only wants to pay $125? If its not financial, I wonder if she has another reason. If that is the case, maybe you can talk it over and address her underlying concern.

Good luck!

[joeyandtanksmom]

I agree with everyone here - she needs to pay the full $200, or she shouldn't get a puppy. Honestly, if she's a true friend, with your explanation she shouldn't have an issue at all. She has a double income household, whereas you are alone. It sounds like she's not hurting for cash, and if she is, she shouldn't be buying a puppy anyways. I wish you the best of luck with everything, I hope it turns out well, and I hope to see some pictures up here soon after you get them!

[clueless]

I left her a vmail a day or two ago and she has not returned my calls, nor has she picked up the phone. She has done this previously, actually. Because I gave My Word to the guy I'd take two puppies, I have to get them both on May 3rd.

Callie

[joeyandtanksmom]

Originally Posted by clueless

I left her a vmail a day or two ago and she has not returned my calls, nor has she picked up the phone. She has done this previously, actually. Because I gave My Word to the guy I'd take two puppies, I have to get them both on May 3rd.

Callie

your word? or written word? if it was just verbal, there's no binding contract, no proof that you said you would. If you do want 2, on the other hand...then enjoy your two puppies!