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yorkieangel · 10-19-2005, 01:00 PM

[QUOTE=dl0v3sj]well first off to answer yorkieangel......im not hear to only hear to only hear what i want to hear, i just dont appreciate getting compared to a child or your children for that matter....

Then don't ask opinions and then stomp your feet when you don't like what you hear

Once again .. I will say our opinions are based on the first post! Why don't you re-read it!!!!!!!

Once again I will say.. Best of luck to you ALL!

dl0v3sj · 10-19-2005, 01:35 PM

honestly its not about being sensitive, the dog is going to be at my house a majority of the time and my gf was not sure if he would be able to be cared for all the time, and i am letting everyone know that it would be. But it is hard to sit here and read these posts, when you are thinking we are going to be irresponsible and to top it off, anyways in conclusion i have taken your opinions into consideration and put an end to talking to the both of you(yorkieangel and ytsirk27) about it. We are both of different pages and i think we should just put an end to it... and all go on our ways with rasing our puppies... good luck to the both of you

ytsirk27 · 10-19-2005, 01:48 PM

Good luck too you too!

dl0v3sj · 10-19-2005, 01:49 PM

thank you no hard feelings....

_jenn · 10-19-2005, 01:55 PM

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Originally Posted by yorkieangel

I'm sorry but I'm totally confused by this whole thing

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I think that you want a pup but only will see it part time is somewhat jumping the gun and the responsible thing would be to wait. It might all sound hunky dory now but I'm guessing it won't be so great after the pup barks all night or pees all over and someone else has to take care of it because you had to have a pup RIGHT NOW! I'm sorry but I see something like this breaking up a relationship or at the least making things strained between either you and the boyfriend or you and the BF's parents who's home it is.
You also said something about vet visits were covered for 4 months. Well I'm thinking the man's intentions with agreeing to this meant sick visits but I am reading from your post that you are thinking ALL visits. The vet will need follow up well visits and shots during the next 4 months and $18 a shot is only for the shot and an exam fee is usually customary unless somebody knows something I don't know!!!!

I'm sorry but it reminds me of when my kids see someting on TV and just HAVE to have it. They go nuts for the commercials and nuts in the stores but EVERYTIME I go ahead and get it, it wears off and then the toy is forgoton or disgarded.

Yorkieangel, I know this a public forum and you can state your opinion. But there is a line between CONSTRUCTIVE criticism and CRUELTY. You do not know how much thought I put into everything ... so don't say that I jumped the gun. I have been wanting a puppy for a LONG time now (and not because I saw one on TV mind you) and YES, my apartment situation isn't ideal ... but if you were soooo confused with my post, you should have asked me to clarify before jumping the gun on your reply.

First of all, for anyone who wants to assume anything about my current living situation, yes ... I do live in apartment that doesn't allow pets. It sucks, but to me ... it isn't stupid and we have made comparable arrangements. If you don't like it, then that's fine and state your opinion but you aren't going to change my mind and there's no sense beating me over the head with it. I am also IN MY LAST 6 WEEKS OF SCHOOL. So after that, I will be living with my boyfriend. Regardless of that, I will not be home 24/7 to play with our pup. If I was able to do that, then I would have bought that $2200 puppy at the pet store, put him in my Louis Vuitton bag, and then have my chauffeur take me home. Because apparently, in some of your very realistic worlds, you can spend every living minute of every living day with your pet. I'm sorry, but I don't live off of mommy and daddy's trust funds and can't afford to stay home with our pup all of the time. I'm sure plenty of people on YT have to leave their pup for work ... and they shouldn't have to feel bad for having to work to pay the bills.

Like I said, you are entitled to your opinion, but why don't you ask for clarification before you start bad mouthing people's relationships and families? You don't know the situation so don't start "GUESSING" things you don't know. If you really cared about the well being of our Yorkie, then you would GIVE HELPFUL TIPS AND ADVICE rather than sit there and say things that are irrelevant and just flat out mean. No s**t the dog is going to pee and bark. But just because I'm the one posting on this forum doesn't mean that my boyfriend isn't a co-owner or that we are going to break up or ruin a family. Come on now, that's just unnecessary. If I were you, I'd knock on wood. Would you really rather be right about this than wrong about it?

As for you and your kids, maybe you shouldn't get them everything they see on TV. Maybe the reason you're assuming things is because you have 50 million toys lying around the house as constant reminders of all the times your own kids didn't have any restraint. But don't go comparing us to your kids because I did my research and I thought this through.

ytsirk27 · 10-19-2005, 02:05 PM

I just want to say that we have worked it all out...

Me and your boyfriend did anyways!

Good luck in what your doing. Were just concerned yorkie lovers. thats all....i didnt mean to offend anybody just stating my opinion. I do however want to say that i am not rich and i dont have any trust fund( wish i did) to live off of. I go to school full time at night and run a daycare all day, have a husband and 2 kids so i have plenty also on my plate. It seems were ALL judging and coming to conclusions........we all just need to stop..it was taken care of alittle while ago!!

Good Luck and post some pics!!

_jenn · 10-19-2005, 02:05 PM

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Originally Posted by ytsirk27

I guess i dont understand why youd get a dog that you only see partime!

or cant have at your house..kinda dumb too me!!

I hope you dont do that to any of your human babies!!

Kristy and Mason

Again, another irrelevant and flat out CRUEL comment. Please refer to my post to Yorkieangel about the living situation and the fact that me and my boyfriend have to work.

About the baby thing, you have NO right to assume anything regarding my "human babies." First of all, what would you say if I had a child and had him or her in child care? Would you say I was a bad parent because I had to go to school and work and had to place my child in an alternative care situation? If you really want to debate about child care, then please let me know because I'm SURE I know more than you about this topic. I am finishing up my degree in Psychology with a specification in Child Development and Early Care & Education. I have worked with all sorts of kids. I do research on infants and children. I volunteer at a clinic that serves infants of substance abusing mothers. I shouldn't have to sit here and give you my "future mommy" credentials because you made a stupid assumption that "not being with my pup 24/7" is equivalent to being a poor and part time mom to "human babies."

ytsirk27 · 10-19-2005, 02:07 PM

Please read last post......

and hate to say it but I RUN a daycare and also going to school so you shouldnt judge ppl when you dont like to be!!

drop it!!

_jenn · 10-19-2005, 02:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Bella Bear

Oh!!! You are so close to me! I actually work in Westwood but I live in West LA. on Barrington and Santa Monica. I just saw that you joined the meetup today, how exciting! You are going to meet some really wonderful people. If you want, we can meet up prior to you getting the pup so we can chat about vets and groomers and stuff and I can tell you how what I went through the first few weeks/months so you can be prepared and you can meet Bella!

Do you have any names in mind for him yet? Oh...the joys of a new puppy! You are going to be so in love, its GREAT!

Hey Bella ... sorry your post got lost amongst all the madness. I used to live on Wilshire & Barry (between Barrington and Federal) so I know exactly where you are. I'd love to meet up sometime. We should get together for coffee. Send me a PM!

_jenn · 10-19-2005, 02:14 PM

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Originally Posted by ytsirk27

Please read last post......

and hate to say it but I RUN a daycare and also going to school so you shouldnt judge ppl when you dont like to be!!

drop it!!

I know you're trying to be nice with the smilies and all ... but its hard not to judge when you made a comment about the type of mother I am and about the pup being a part time pet. It's cool that you and my boyfriend resolved things, but that doesn't mean I'm not going to stand up for myself when it's warranted.

ytsirk27 · 10-19-2005, 02:15 PM

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Originally Posted by _jenn

I know you're trying to be nice with the smilies and all ... but its hard not to judge when you made a comment about the type of mother I am and about the pup being a part time pet. It's cool that you and my boyfriend resolved things, but that doesn't mean I'm not going to stand up for myself when it's warranted.

AGAIN...I will APOLOGIZE for the comment!! What do you want?????I apologized!!!

_jenn · 10-19-2005, 02:18 PM

I just got your PM. I hadn't gotten it before, so it's cool. My computer doesn't load that fast, so I was still catching up on the old posts and replies, but things are fine now!

yorkieangel · 10-19-2005, 02:47 PM

LOLOLOLOLOL....
Like I said quiet a few times now.. Good luck to you ALL. I'm not going for anymore of your baiting tactics so say whatever you want. I'm not responding. I'm sure you both need the last word like always so go ahead fire away....LOLOLOLOLOL

Goodbye

luvmydogs · 10-19-2005, 02:54 PM

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Originally Posted by _jenn

Thank you for all your comments, advice, personal stories, and suggestions. After thinking it over and talking to my boyfriend ... we decided to get the pup. He won't be left alone all day long ... my boyfriend lives with his family, so I'm sure my boyfriend's mom will be anxious to play with him. My boyfriend comes home around 8pm and can take care of him then. I will talk to my roommate at my apartment and see if I can keep him with me for the first few weeks so he can get used to me. We will bend over backwards to make sure he has taken care of.

As for the cats, this is a legitimate concern, but we are trying to keep him with us in a few rooms (with no cat access) so he doesn't get hurt by them!

I also spoke with Kathy of Yorkie Pals and she provided me with so much information. I would definitely recommend her as a knowledgeable and caring breeder in CA. I would have bought a pup from her myself but the money was a huge issue.

Again, thank you for all the advice. I will post pictures and stories when I get him in 2 weeks!

Congrats and post pics as soon as you can, cant wait to see them

Do you have a name picked out yet?

_jenn · 10-19-2005, 02:58 PM

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Originally Posted by luvmydogs

Congrats and post pics as soon as you can, cant wait to see them

Do you have a name picked out yet?

Thank you! His first picture is up at Dogster (http://www.dogster.com/pet_page.php?j=t&i=208532). We wanted to get to know him a little bit and give him a name that really fit him ... so in a few weeks, we'll have him and a name.

10-19-2005, 01:00 PM	#31
yorkieangel Rescue Angel Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: md Posts: 1,530	[QUOTE=dl0v3sj]well first off to answer yorkieangel......im not hear to only hear to only hear what i want to hear, i just dont appreciate getting compared to a child or your children for that matter.... Then don't ask opinions and then stomp your feet when you don't like what you hear Once again .. I will say our opinions are based on the first post! Why don't you re-read it!!!!!!! Once again I will say.. Best of luck to you ALL! __________________ Yorkieangel

10-19-2005, 01:48 PM	#33
ytsirk27 BANNED FOR SCAMMING MEMBERS! Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 2,811	Good luck too you too! Last edited by ytsirk27; 10-19-2005 at 01:52 PM.

10-19-2005, 02:07 PM	#38
ytsirk27 BANNED FOR SCAMMING MEMBERS! Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 2,811	Please read last post...... and hate to say it but I RUN a daycare and also going to school so you shouldnt judge ppl when you dont like to be!! drop it!! Last edited by ytsirk27; 10-19-2005 at 02:11 PM.

10-19-2005, 02:47 PM	#43
yorkieangel Rescue Angel Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: md Posts: 1,530	LOLOLOLOLOL.... Like I said quiet a few times now.. Good luck to you ALL. I'm not going for anymore of your baiting tactics so say whatever you want. I'm not responding. I'm sure you both need the last word like always so go ahead fire away....LOLOLOLOLOL Goodbye __________________ Yorkieangel

10-19-2005, 01:35 PM	#32
dl0v3sj YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: california Posts: 4	honestly its not about being sensitive, the dog is going to be at my house a majority of the time and my gf was not sure if he would be able to be cared for all the time, and i am letting everyone know that it would be. But it is hard to sit here and read these posts, when you are thinking we are going to be irresponsible and to top it off, anyways in conclusion i have taken your opinions into consideration and put an end to talking to the both of you(yorkieangel and ytsirk27) about it. We are both of different pages and i think we should just put an end to it... and all go on our ways with rasing our puppies... good luck to the both of you

10-19-2005, 01:49 PM	#34
dl0v3sj YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: california Posts: 4	thank you no hard feelings....

10-19-2005, 02:05 PM	#36
ytsirk27 BANNED FOR SCAMMING MEMBERS! Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 2,811	I just want to say that we have worked it all out... Me and your boyfriend did anyways! Good luck in what your doing. Were just concerned yorkie lovers. thats all....i didnt mean to offend anybody just stating my opinion. I do however want to say that i am not rich and i dont have any trust fund( wish i did) to live off of. I go to school full time at night and run a daycare all day, have a husband and 2 kids so i have plenty also on my plate. It seems were ALL judging and coming to conclusions........we all just need to stop..it was taken care of alittle while ago!! Good Luck and post some pics!!

10-19-2005, 02:18 PM	#42
_jenn Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 45	I just got your PM. I hadn't gotten it before, so it's cool. My computer doesn't load that fast, so I was still catching up on the old posts and replies, but things are fine now!