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browniesmom622 · 10-16-2005, 03:16 PM

petsitter is not an option brownie would not eat without me he would be very depressed and i dont trust anyone and noone would be able to handle kayko

i couldnt even tell her about belly bands and stuff cause she doesnt even like the dogs slighty near her and i cant afford a hotel or motel and that means they would still be left alone while i was there i couldnt leave them in a stange place by themselves they would freak out
and my dogs are use to laying in our beds and there allowed on the couches and stuff going there would not be fair to them

simon&haille -she lives in albany also ! if brownie likes other dogs i would come visit you!

hugs · 10-16-2005, 03:32 PM

I guess you'd have to tell her that you appreciate her offer, but can't make it. I guess you coulds make it a yorkie weekend at home and snuggle with your pups and watch a movie on the sofa, take them to a dog park and cook up a great yorkie friendly treat!

Latuya · 10-16-2005, 03:51 PM

wow this is a hard one. I take Gus everywhere with me. Just yesterday we went to Boomers for my nieces b-day. It was an all day thing. It's one of those parks that have the arcade, min. golf, Batting Cages, Carnival rides. Gus is the type that is just happy being with momma. I can't say how he is when nobody's home but if I have to leave him here with the kids or husband, he is one sad pup. He wont play, or eat. He just lays on the sofa watching the door waiting for me. So in knowing this, it kills me to leave him behind. Even if it's only to go out to dinner and/or a movie. I don't like leaving him home any longer then I have to.

Now if someone had a problem with me taking my Gus to their house and offered to keep him in the garage,,,,, there is no way! He really is no problem. He stays either on my lap or in his doggy bag. I know it a new home and how people can be about that. I wouldn't want some one to bring their dog to my new home and mess things up. But not everyone know's nor do they understands how close we are to our furbabies. I don't go anywhere my dog is not welcomed. I tell everyone ahead of time and if they have a problem with me having Gus in his bag,,, or on my lap,,, and never on the floor then we just don't go there!

susansmom · 10-16-2005, 06:38 PM

I think your aunt has a perfect right to invite or not invite any guests -- human or canine -- that she chooses into her own home. People have lots of different feelings about things and some of their feelings are based on good reasons, even though we may not see their validity at the time. I would hate to make the trip without my baby, also, but I think it would honor your aunt and your family in general to pay the visit and to make other arrangements for the furbaby. I know, I know -- it seems a shame and it seems like if your aunt just knew your sweety, she'd change her mind. But she is well within her rights. You wouldn't like it if someone decided to bring a huge dog that intimidated your baby or a giant boa constrictor or something that could eat it. We all have our limits.

Olivier · 10-16-2005, 06:51 PM

Yes , one time . This person never had the chance to see me again .

luv4yorkies · 10-16-2005, 06:55 PM

I do not go anywhere without Albert. But most of my family has dogs also. My mom is afraid of dogs even tiny little Albert and he is still welcome at her house maybe because she bought him for me.

txshopper73 · 10-16-2005, 07:13 PM

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Originally Posted by schatzie

I would have to respect your Aunt's wishes. This is her house and respect the fact that she requests no dogs in the house. I felt it was very accomodating that your Aunt offered the dogs to stay in the garagte in the kennel. Those are NOT horrible conditions.

Maybe there is a hotel/motel close by that welcome dogs, this way you can still visit your Aunt.

Or you can possibly find a trusted friend/family member to "doggie sit" while you visit.

I have personally learned it isn't fair of me to expect the world to love my pets as much as I do.

You could also invite her to come visit you.

medusa512 · 10-16-2005, 07:17 PM

wow, that's a toughie.

i recently had somewhat of the same experience. my aunt and uncle live 1h away (in good Houston traffic) and we were being evacuated.
When i called and asked if we could come, she of course said yes.
I didn't think to mention the dogs thinking of them like a part of me. When i mentioned the dogs, she said she needed to talk to my uncle about it.
then they said they didnt' want the dogs too b/c they had just moved in and got new carpet and furniture!!

i was crushed! i wish she had offered the garage!
btw, if you are staying and the weather is good, they should be ok out there for the night. does she have a yard you can watch your kids play in all day?

and i can't remember who said "You can bring them to my place in Albany," but that is so selfless and awesome!

taje · 10-17-2005, 06:07 AM

When we moved into our house, it was brand new, my brother has a yellow lab, I also have a bunch of wild cats that hang out in my barn. My brother would bring his dog when he came over and all hell would break loose, the dog would scare the cats , then come in all sandy and shake all over my new furniture!

I had to impose a "no dog" rule. I did say if he stayed outside and didn't totally terrify the cats he could come. My brother was upset about this for awhile and I hated doing it but I had no choice.

Sherman(the dog) has since mellowed quite a bit and we have compromised, he stays on a long rope so as not to terrify the cats and he comes into the screened area of the pool and can sit by the sliders. Everyone's good with this arrangement.

I know it isn't the same scenario with your dogs but there are circumstances in which you just can't take the dogs. Is there a compromise maybe with your aunt? Some crates in the bedroom at least? maybe a gate on the door of the bedroom you are staying in to keep them out of the rest of the house.

It is your aunt's house and she does have the rights to her rules but maybe there's a compromise somewhere in there...

Julz · 10-17-2005, 06:19 AM

There has been a lot of good advice here. I hope that you can go and enjoy yourself. It seems so rare to do things like that anymore. I think your Aunt was trying her best to be accomadating and really wants to see you and spend time with you. We tend to think of them as "our babies", but others think of them as our pets. That you are all grown up and your Aunt wants you to spend the weekend tells me that she loves you very much. Go and have fun, who knows when the opportunity will arise again.

Wolftrap · 10-17-2005, 06:45 AM

YUP!! My mom is this way. Coco is not welcomed in her home. Her husband doesn't like dogs. So I just choose not to go there. I have my own home and other peoples homes where we are welcome so doesn't matter to me. And this is exactly what I told my mom. No Coco then no me. She has to come to my house and visit. I told her its not like I have a Rotweiller. Its a 5 pound dog. u barely know that she is there.

But you have two dogs. To me thats pushing it a little in someone elses home.

browniesmom622 · 10-17-2005, 06:48 AM

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Originally Posted by txshopper73

You could also invite her to come visit you.

she was here yesterday this is what brought this up but she can only stay about an hour or so cause its such a long drive back

and she wouldnt stay the night cause of the dogs

i know what some of you are saying but no matter how nice the weather is or the garage i could never leave them in there ther use to being with me they would get very depressed
and she doesnt have a closed yard i would have to walk them every 10 mins there use to going out when ever they want

Yorkie24U · 10-17-2005, 07:23 AM

I agree with txshopper73, you invite her to visit you and she could stay over and drive home the next day and maybe get acquainted with your babies gradually. Just inform her that you'd be more comfortable if she came to your house overnight, as you have your babies to care for.

I wouldn't stick my babies out in anybodys garage in a crate, whether heated or not. They are part of the family.

I'm sure you two can come to some sort of compromise, good luck !

shelbysmom · 10-17-2005, 10:25 AM

I love dogs but I don't welcome ALL of them into my home. It's her home and I know how she feels if everything is new AND clean. Not all dogs or their owners are the same. Shelby is welcome most places but I wouldn't ever let her have free run in someone's house. She is on my lap, in a purse, on a leash or in her pen the entire time.

My niece wanted to bring her big dog over the other day and I told her he was welcome as long as she confined him. She did and we were fine.

whispersmom2 · 10-17-2005, 11:36 AM

I thought of this post the past 2 day. One of my moms is in heat and my Biewer and choc males had to be crated in our basement. My hubby is an orchid grower and his greenhouses are down there so they were not alone. They had just worked themselves into a snit trying to get to Skylar. Remi was the sire of choice..LOL.. Anyhow, I felt like a piece of, well, dirt. They are back up today as she is out of heat and they are fine but I still feel guilty. I keep apologizing and giving extra attention.
I cannot imagine putting them in a crate in our own garage as being in the basement was so traumatic----for me, not them..LOL

10-16-2005, 03:16 PM	#16
browniesmom622 Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: ny Posts: 11,253 Blog Entries: 5	petsitter is not an option brownie would not eat without me he would be very depressed and i dont trust anyone and noone would be able to handle kayko i couldnt even tell her about belly bands and stuff cause she doesnt even like the dogs slighty near her and i cant afford a hotel or motel and that means they would still be left alone while i was there i couldnt leave them in a stange place by themselves they would freak out and my dogs are use to laying in our beds and there allowed on the couches and stuff going there would not be fair to them simon&haille -she lives in albany also ! if brownie likes other dogs i would come visit you! __________________ We Love our Yt Angel! My Website< > FB page

10-16-2005, 03:51 PM	#18
Latuya YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Rialto CA Posts: 3,243	wow this is a hard one. I take Gus everywhere with me. Just yesterday we went to Boomers for my nieces b-day. It was an all day thing. It's one of those parks that have the arcade, min. golf, Batting Cages, Carnival rides. Gus is the type that is just happy being with momma. I can't say how he is when nobody's home but if I have to leave him here with the kids or husband, he is one sad pup. He wont play, or eat. He just lays on the sofa watching the door waiting for me. So in knowing this, it kills me to leave him behind. Even if it's only to go out to dinner and/or a movie. I don't like leaving him home any longer then I have to. Now if someone had a problem with me taking my Gus to their house and offered to keep him in the garage,,,,, there is no way! He really is no problem. He stays either on my lap or in his doggy bag. I know it a new home and how people can be about that. I wouldn't want some one to bring their dog to my new home and mess things up. But not everyone know's nor do they understands how close we are to our furbabies. I don't go anywhere my dog is not welcomed. I tell everyone ahead of time and if they have a problem with me having Gus in his bag,,, or on my lap,,, and never on the floor then we just don't go there! __________________ Monica, Proud mom of Gus who is forever missed! And new mom to Leiloni Gus's Dogster page

10-16-2005, 03:32 PM	#17
hugs Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: California Posts: 40	I guess you'd have to tell her that you appreciate her offer, but can't make it. I guess you coulds make it a yorkie weekend at home and snuggle with your pups and watch a movie on the sofa, take them to a dog park and cook up a great yorkie friendly treat!

10-16-2005, 06:38 PM	#19
susansmom YT Addict Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Harrison, AR Posts: 347	I think your aunt has a perfect right to invite or not invite any guests -- human or canine -- that she chooses into her own home. People have lots of different feelings about things and some of their feelings are based on good reasons, even though we may not see their validity at the time. I would hate to make the trip without my baby, also, but I think it would honor your aunt and your family in general to pay the visit and to make other arrangements for the furbaby. I know, I know -- it seems a shame and it seems like if your aunt just knew your sweety, she'd change her mind. But she is well within her rights. You wouldn't like it if someone decided to bring a huge dog that intimidated your baby or a giant boa constrictor or something that could eat it. We all have our limits.

10-16-2005, 06:51 PM	#20
Olivier Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Canada Posts: 2,999	Yes , one time . This person never had the chance to see me again .

10-16-2005, 06:55 PM	#21
luv4yorkies YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 1,611	I do not go anywhere without Albert. But most of my family has dogs also. My mom is afraid of dogs even tiny little Albert and he is still welcome at her house maybe because she bought him for me.

10-16-2005, 07:17 PM	#23
medusa512 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Texas Posts: 530	wow, that's a toughie. i recently had somewhat of the same experience. my aunt and uncle live 1h away (in good Houston traffic) and we were being evacuated. When i called and asked if we could come, she of course said yes. I didn't think to mention the dogs thinking of them like a part of me. When i mentioned the dogs, she said she needed to talk to my uncle about it. then they said they didnt' want the dogs too b/c they had just moved in and got new carpet and furniture!! i was crushed! i wish she had offered the garage! btw, if you are staying and the weather is good, they should be ok out there for the night. does she have a yard you can watch your kids play in all day? and i can't remember who said "You can bring them to my place in Albany," but that is so selfless and awesome!

10-17-2005, 06:07 AM	#24
taje Pita Power!! Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Port St Lucie, FL Posts: 982	When we moved into our house, it was brand new, my brother has a yellow lab, I also have a bunch of wild cats that hang out in my barn. My brother would bring his dog when he came over and all hell would break loose, the dog would scare the cats , then come in all sandy and shake all over my new furniture! I had to impose a "no dog" rule. I did say if he stayed outside and didn't totally terrify the cats he could come. My brother was upset about this for awhile and I hated doing it but I had no choice. Sherman(the dog) has since mellowed quite a bit and we have compromised, he stays on a long rope so as not to terrify the cats and he comes into the screened area of the pool and can sit by the sliders. Everyone's good with this arrangement. I know it isn't the same scenario with your dogs but there are circumstances in which you just can't take the dogs. Is there a compromise maybe with your aunt? Some crates in the bedroom at least? maybe a gate on the door of the bedroom you are staying in to keep them out of the rest of the house. It is your aunt's house and she does have the rights to her rules but maybe there's a compromise somewhere in there...

10-17-2005, 06:19 AM	#25
Julz Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 4,347	There has been a lot of good advice here. I hope that you can go and enjoy yourself. It seems so rare to do things like that anymore. I think your Aunt was trying her best to be accomadating and really wants to see you and spend time with you. We tend to think of them as "our babies", but others think of them as our pets. That you are all grown up and your Aunt wants you to spend the weekend tells me that she loves you very much. Go and have fun, who knows when the opportunity will arise again.

10-17-2005, 06:45 AM	#26
Wolftrap Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: New York Posts: 238	YUP!! My mom is this way. Coco is not welcomed in her home. Her husband doesn't like dogs. So I just choose not to go there. I have my own home and other peoples homes where we are welcome so doesn't matter to me. And this is exactly what I told my mom. No Coco then no me. She has to come to my house and visit. I told her its not like I have a Rotweiller. Its a 5 pound dog. u barely know that she is there. But you have two dogs. To me thats pushing it a little in someone elses home.

10-17-2005, 07:23 AM	#28
Yorkie24U YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: USA Posts: 659	I agree with txshopper73, you invite her to visit you and she could stay over and drive home the next day and maybe get acquainted with your babies gradually. Just inform her that you'd be more comfortable if she came to your house overnight, as you have your babies to care for. I wouldn't stick my babies out in anybodys garage in a crate, whether heated or not. They are part of the family. I'm sure you two can come to some sort of compromise, good luck !

10-17-2005, 10:25 AM	#29
shelbysmom YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 1,394	I love dogs but I don't welcome ALL of them into my home. It's her home and I know how she feels if everything is new AND clean. Not all dogs or their owners are the same. Shelby is welcome most places but I wouldn't ever let her have free run in someone's house. She is on my lap, in a purse, on a leash or in her pen the entire time. My niece wanted to bring her big dog over the other day and I told her he was welcome as long as she confined him. She did and we were fine.

10-17-2005, 11:36 AM	#30
whispersmom2 Inactive Account Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: MD Posts: 2,985	I thought of this post the past 2 day. One of my moms is in heat and my Biewer and choc males had to be crated in our basement. My hubby is an orchid grower and his greenhouses are down there so they were not alone. They had just worked themselves into a snit trying to get to Skylar. Remi was the sire of choice..LOL.. Anyhow, I felt like a piece of, well, dirt. They are back up today as she is out of heat and they are fine but I still feel guilty. I keep apologizing and giving extra attention. I cannot imagine putting them in a crate in our own garage as being in the basement was so traumatic----for me, not them..LOL