1st human baby....will I have 3 very upset furbabies?? - YorkieTalk.com Forums

Mommyof3 · 10-13-2009, 02:09 PM

So I am due Jan 3rd and right now my furbabies are my life, happiness, pride and joy!

This won't change when baby Hayden comes, but I am reallly worried with how they are going to react when they don't get all of the attention and when they see that someone else is coming before them. Has anyone gone through this and can suggest ANYTHING to help prepare them to the big change coming?? What are some of the things you guys have gone through with your pups so I can possibly prepare myself (emotionally) and hopefully prevent for when all these changes come? ppppleasse help. I am having nightmares when this should be such an exciting time!

luvfla · 10-13-2009, 02:15 PM

YES...send them to me!!!!!

But really...remember the new baby is another member of your "pack". Introductions & patience...honey...don't stress you'll do just fine.

I know, y'all will think I'm nuts but...talk to your babiez about their skin brother. let them sniff you, if possible, let them feel him kick & move...they'll get it.

Mommyof3 · 10-13-2009, 02:28 PM

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Originally Posted by luvfla

YES...send them to me!!!!!

But really...remember the new baby is another member of your "pack". Introductions & patience...honey...don't stress you'll do just fine.

I know, y'all will think I'm nuts but...talk to your babiez about their skin brother. let them sniff you, if possible, let them feel him kick & move...they'll get it.

HAHAHA! never! j/k

I hope so...I'm so worried my babies are going to hate me and ignore me and I'm going to loose my bond with them.

The girls always sit on my belly and at first when Hayden (who is actually a girl! LOL!!) would move they would look at my belly and then me like I was crazy LOL but they never moved...now it doesnt even phase them. I'm just going to be so protective over our skin baby that I dont want to be too harsh with our furbabies. I'll have to make sure my DH gives them extra attention when I'm feeding hayden and stuff so they feel special still.

ahhhh so nerve racking!!!

Mommyof3 · 10-13-2009, 02:34 PM

There has to be other suggestions!! Come on people! I am desperate!!!

yorkie_mama22 · 10-13-2009, 02:41 PM

I was still living at home when I was pregnant with my daughter and we had a boxer.When my daughter was first born she was a little confused over who she was and would often go look if she heard her crying or something. After a few weeks and she noticed that the baby wasn't going no where she just kind of "ignored" her. I moved out when my daughter was two months old. But we came to visit very often, as my daughter grew up my moms dog kind of didn't want anything to do with her and would rather not be around her. Now she can tolerate her more but it took time for her to come around and realize the baby wasn't going any where! LOL My daughter is 3 now and our boxer is a senior so I know they tend to not like children much.

Mommyof3 · 10-13-2009, 05:43 PM

OH NO! i would hate for them to ignore my baby!!

I would be so sad

kwaymon · 10-13-2009, 06:33 PM

Actually, I think nightmares are a completely normal part of pregnancy. I had the most worries before my daughter was born, oddly enough. I owned a silky at the time. During pregnancy, he bacame really aggressive toward anyone that came near me. I didn't realize it at the time, but I think he somehow knew I was pregnant and was overprotective of me. Anyway, he was that way after she was born. He eventually decided she didn't need protecting and calmed down

But I always let him sit with us on the couch when I was feeding her, let him sniff her and all that. Things will be fine. try to stop stessing and welcome to the great balancing act of motherhood!!

Mommyof3 · 10-13-2009, 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by kwaymon

Actually, I think nightmares are a completely normal part of pregnancy. I had the most worries before my daughter was born, oddly enough. I owned a silky at the time. During pregnancy, he bacame really aggressive toward anyone that came near me. I didn't realize it at the time, but I think he somehow knew I was pregnant and was overprotective of me. Anyway, he was that way after she was born. He eventually decided she didn't need protecting and calmed down

But I always let him sit with us on the couch when I was feeding her, let him sniff her and all that. Things will be fine. try to stop stessing and welcome to the great balancing act of motherhood!!

AW that is adorable!! I hope they are protective over her!! I'm not sure they notice anything different right now...haha just a nice platform to sit on now to be closer to my face hahah! Thats a good idea though, to have them on the couch while I am feeding her. And thank you for all your advice!! it really helps!

The dreams are sooooo funny though, well I mean more scary than funny but when I wake up i can usually laugh at the dream.

joeyandtanksmom · 10-13-2009, 08:26 PM

I am not a mom to human babies yet, but I think you should be fine! Just introduce (or have your husband do it) something to the dogs with the baby's scent on it, so they can smell the baby before it actually shows up at home. Make interaction with the baby a positive thing, and let your furbabies know that you still love them, and that the baby is a good thing! This is what I plan on doing when my husband and I are eventually able to have children (we have been having issues conceiving for 11 months - I have PCOS), and I've heard that those things will help make the transition for both you and your furbabies much smoother. Good luck to you!

DreamsComeTrue · 10-13-2009, 08:42 PM

I bought Harley when my 2nd skinbaby, Carter was just 3 months old. Harley just tried licking him constantly. I had my 3rd skinbaby 6 months ago. Harley is 2 now. He gets a little jealous sometimes, but he likes to lay next to me or stands on my shoulder and the back of the couch when I feed the baby (Parker). He likes to sniff him and of course, tries licking him like crazy. Just be careful, cause the babies love their hair and try to get a hold of it. Sometimes they pull it. Harley just knows he's part of the family and loves him. They learn pretty quickly that sitting right next to or underneath the highchair or booster seat is the best place to sit...ever! They love the yummy messes they make. Just try to remain calm, cause the'll respond to your mood. Give them the attention they need when Hayden is sleeping, but make sure they know their place and everything should be fine. Good luck!

Misti1 · 10-14-2009, 02:54 AM

I might be able to offer a ray of sunshine with my personal story. Brandi was our baby for years, and then I got pregnant with my skin baby Amber. I can tell you that BRandi HATED her invitro. From the moment that I got pregnant Brandi would no longer come to me or let me hold her. IF I treid to put her on my lap she would jump clean across the room.

True to form when Amber came BRandi hated her and never changed her mind. She never harmed her, she just would NEVER let Amber near her nor touch her.

I said all of this to say that if you babys still are having something to do with you, they have already accepted the new one, if they hadn't you would know already.

As a result of all of this, we later got Rocky for Amber when she was old enough.

Mommyof3 · 10-14-2009, 04:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Misti1

I might be able to offer a ray of sunshine with my personal story. Brandi was our baby for years, and then I got pregnant with my skin baby Amber. I can tell you that BRandi HATED her invitro. From the moment that I got pregnant Brandi would no longer come to me or let me hold her. IF I treid to put her on my lap she would jump clean across the room.

True to form when Amber came BRandi hated her and never changed her mind. She never harmed her, she just would NEVER let Amber near her nor touch her.

I said all of this to say that if you babys still are having something to do with you, they have already accepted the new one, if they hadn't you would know already.

As a result of all of this, we later got Rocky for Amber when she was old enough.

I'm sorry to hear that BRandi didnt except amber!

But what a cute story! My girls have no problem with being near me since being pregnant. If anything I would say they want to be closer...and I think thats what worried me more, cause I was like wow, they are getting even more attatched...haha WHAT AM I GOING TO DOOOO!?!?! LOL but your story definately makes me feel a bit of reassurance that everything will be fine

I'm glad BRandi never hurt her though, that would be a horrible situation. I dont think my DH would put up with nipping out skin baby.

Erin · 10-14-2009, 06:10 AM

It will be OK

If anything, work on training them so that you can give them verbal commands when you are otherwise busy. Mine practically understand complete sentences because I talk to them so much, in "their" language (words they know) Practice POLITELY taking treats, NOT stealing food, not begging, being quiet, etc. My husband works from home and Loki knows he is NOT allowed to bark downstairs. He does it, but usually first his eyes will bulge out and he will huff and puff under his breath like "I NEEEEED TO BARK!!" and he will bark if like, someone rings the doorbell and he can't contain himself but he knows he can't bark at every person that walks by on the sidewalk. Trust me, that took his entire life to teach him.

Sam loves kids so I'm not worried about her except that she will demand more attention, LOL. Loki I was worried about until recently. Loki is afraid of other dogs. Our neighbor's dog got out while they weren't home recently and he came over here and hung out with us all day. A different day he came over for the evening because they were at a wedding. Just after those two times, Loki no longer barks at Bear and when they meet on the street they actually sniff and greet each other like they are friends. You could just see in his body language, that he realized Bear was here to stay and he couldn't do anything about it. He did the same thing when we got Sam. At first he was like "WHAT? You got another dog? And she's going to LIVE HERE???" and after like 3 days he was like, OK FINE! And a few days later they were sharing a bully stick (his prized possession LOL)

So the moral of the story is, you know your dogs. If they go to a new place, do they adjust after a few hours? Mine only freak out if they think we are going to leave them. They do great when people come to OUR house (especially their favorite people!) so I'm really not concerned. Loki is sitting next to me right now. The only thing that might change is he might go sleep under a crib instead of next to me

TatumsMom · 10-14-2009, 06:30 AM

We had a five year old toy poodle when our first daughter was born. He was my everything and I was his.

When we brought the baby home, we laid her down on a blanket and let Dax sniff and lick her all over. Once he did that, he was good. I think the more you try to keep them away from the baby, the more problems you'll have. Where you get into problems is when you stop giving the dogs the attention they are used to - that could cause more jealousy. Of course you won't have AS MUCH time for them but be generous with the time you can give them and that should help.

I've also heard that if you'll bring a blanket home that the baby has been swaddled in at the hospital maybe the day before you actually bring the baby home, then the dogs can sniff it and get used to the baby's scent. Didn't try that but I hear it helps.

Blessed · 10-14-2009, 07:03 AM

First off, you're furbabies already know what's happening and that a new addition is comming soon. They have a greater advantage than us with not only instinct, but with heightened smell.

It's like this, you come home with a nice juicy burger w/the works, they go wild because they are overwhelmed by ALL the individual smells. They don't smell the burger as a whole like we do, they smell each and every different component to that burger, meat, each spice, onions, tomato, baccon, cheese, catsup, mayo, pickles, and bun! That is why they get so excited,

they are bombarded with all these wonderful smells...LOL

So you have an advantage, you're furbabies already know

you're preggy and have accepted that fact. You can involve them by teaching them how to be caregivers too, like fetching diapers, wipes, burp rags, blankies, and so on.

You have so many little helpers that are more than willing to help out, it's never too late to teach a new duty to our babies.

My friend even taught her babies to "find the binkie" which came in handy as those are always getting lost...LOL

on you're new addidion, keep us updated!

10-13-2009, 02:09 PM	#1
Mommyof3 Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Yucaipa, CA, US Posts: 167	1st human baby....will I have 3 very upset furbabies?? So I am due Jan 3rd and right now my furbabies are my life, happiness, pride and joy! This won't change when baby Hayden comes, but I am reallly worried with how they are going to react when they don't get all of the attention and when they see that someone else is coming before them. Has anyone gone through this and can suggest ANYTHING to help prepare them to the big change coming?? What are some of the things you guys have gone through with your pups so I can possibly prepare myself (emotionally) and hopefully prevent for when all these changes come? ppppleasse help. I am having nightmares when this should be such an exciting time! __________________ Dalilah Dewie Lorelai Duke Happy Day and Happy Holidays!!!

10-13-2009, 02:15 PM	#2
luvfla YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Satellite Beach, FL Posts: 3,691	YES...send them to me!!!!! But really...remember the new baby is another member of your "pack". Introductions & patience...honey...don't stress you'll do just fine. I know, y'all will think I'm nuts but...talk to your babiez about their skin brother. let them sniff you, if possible, let them feel him kick & move...they'll get it. Last edited by luvfla; 10-13-2009 at 02:17 PM.

10-13-2009, 02:34 PM	#4
Mommyof3 Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Yucaipa, CA, US Posts: 167	There has to be other suggestions!! Come on people! I am desperate!!! __________________ Dalilah Dewie Lorelai Duke Happy Day and Happy Holidays!!!

10-13-2009, 05:43 PM	#6
Mommyof3 Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Yucaipa, CA, US Posts: 167	OH NO! i would hate for them to ignore my baby!! I would be so sad __________________ Dalilah Dewie Lorelai Duke Happy Day and Happy Holidays!!!

10-13-2009, 08:26 PM	#9
joeyandtanksmom YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Kuna,ID,USA Posts: 557	I am not a mom to human babies yet, but I think you should be fine! Just introduce (or have your husband do it) something to the dogs with the baby's scent on it, so they can smell the baby before it actually shows up at home. Make interaction with the baby a positive thing, and let your furbabies know that you still love them, and that the baby is a good thing! This is what I plan on doing when my husband and I are eventually able to have children (we have been having issues conceiving for 11 months - I have PCOS), and I've heard that those things will help make the transition for both you and your furbabies much smoother. Good luck to you! __________________ Sandy: Joey & Tank's Mom Jackson Ryan

10-13-2009, 02:41 PM	#5
yorkie_mama22 Currently Suspended! Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 2,275	I was still living at home when I was pregnant with my daughter and we had a boxer.When my daughter was first born she was a little confused over who she was and would often go look if she heard her crying or something. After a few weeks and she noticed that the baby wasn't going no where she just kind of "ignored" her. I moved out when my daughter was two months old. But we came to visit very often, as my daughter grew up my moms dog kind of didn't want anything to do with her and would rather not be around her. Now she can tolerate her more but it took time for her to come around and realize the baby wasn't going any where! LOL My daughter is 3 now and our boxer is a senior so I know they tend to not like children much.

10-13-2009, 06:33 PM	#7
kwaymon YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: USA Posts: 699	Actually, I think nightmares are a completely normal part of pregnancy. I had the most worries before my daughter was born, oddly enough. I owned a silky at the time. During pregnancy, he bacame really aggressive toward anyone that came near me. I didn't realize it at the time, but I think he somehow knew I was pregnant and was overprotective of me. Anyway, he was that way after she was born. He eventually decided she didn't need protecting and calmed down But I always let him sit with us on the couch when I was feeding her, let him sniff her and all that. Things will be fine. try to stop stessing and welcome to the great balancing act of motherhood!!

10-13-2009, 08:42 PM	#10
DreamsComeTrue Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Boise Posts: 219	I bought Harley when my 2nd skinbaby, Carter was just 3 months old. Harley just tried licking him constantly. I had my 3rd skinbaby 6 months ago. Harley is 2 now. He gets a little jealous sometimes, but he likes to lay next to me or stands on my shoulder and the back of the couch when I feed the baby (Parker). He likes to sniff him and of course, tries licking him like crazy. Just be careful, cause the babies love their hair and try to get a hold of it. Sometimes they pull it. Harley just knows he's part of the family and loves him. They learn pretty quickly that sitting right next to or underneath the highchair or booster seat is the best place to sit...ever! They love the yummy messes they make. Just try to remain calm, cause the'll respond to your mood. Give them the attention they need when Hayden is sleeping, but make sure they know their place and everything should be fine. Good luck! __________________ Lisa loves Harley and Bella

10-14-2009, 02:54 AM	#11
Misti1 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Memphis, TN Posts: 3,051	I might be able to offer a ray of sunshine with my personal story. Brandi was our baby for years, and then I got pregnant with my skin baby Amber. I can tell you that BRandi HATED her invitro. From the moment that I got pregnant Brandi would no longer come to me or let me hold her. IF I treid to put her on my lap she would jump clean across the room. True to form when Amber came BRandi hated her and never changed her mind. She never harmed her, she just would NEVER let Amber near her nor touch her. I said all of this to say that if you babys still are having something to do with you, they have already accepted the new one, if they hadn't you would know already. As a result of all of this, we later got Rocky for Amber when she was old enough. __________________ Member of the Spoiled Rotten Club Last edited by Misti1; 10-14-2009 at 02:56 AM.

10-14-2009, 06:10 AM	#13
Erin Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Chicago Suburbs Posts: 3,306	It will be OK If anything, work on training them so that you can give them verbal commands when you are otherwise busy. Mine practically understand complete sentences because I talk to them so much, in "their" language (words they know) Practice POLITELY taking treats, NOT stealing food, not begging, being quiet, etc. My husband works from home and Loki knows he is NOT allowed to bark downstairs. He does it, but usually first his eyes will bulge out and he will huff and puff under his breath like "I NEEEEED TO BARK!!" and he will bark if like, someone rings the doorbell and he can't contain himself but he knows he can't bark at every person that walks by on the sidewalk. Trust me, that took his entire life to teach him. Sam loves kids so I'm not worried about her except that she will demand more attention, LOL. Loki I was worried about until recently. Loki is afraid of other dogs. Our neighbor's dog got out while they weren't home recently and he came over here and hung out with us all day. A different day he came over for the evening because they were at a wedding. Just after those two times, Loki no longer barks at Bear and when they meet on the street they actually sniff and greet each other like they are friends. You could just see in his body language, that he realized Bear was here to stay and he couldn't do anything about it. He did the same thing when we got Sam. At first he was like "WHAT? You got another dog? And she's going to LIVE HERE???" and after like 3 days he was like, OK FINE! And a few days later they were sharing a bully stick (his prized possession LOL) So the moral of the story is, you know your dogs. If they go to a new place, do they adjust after a few hours? Mine only freak out if they think we are going to leave them. They do great when people come to OUR house (especially their favorite people!) so I'm really not concerned. Loki is sitting next to me right now. The only thing that might change is he might go sleep under a crib instead of next to me

10-14-2009, 06:30 AM	#14
TatumsMom Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: TX Posts: 2,799	We had a five year old toy poodle when our first daughter was born. He was my everything and I was his. When we brought the baby home, we laid her down on a blanket and let Dax sniff and lick her all over. Once he did that, he was good. I think the more you try to keep them away from the baby, the more problems you'll have. Where you get into problems is when you stop giving the dogs the attention they are used to - that could cause more jealousy. Of course you won't have AS MUCH time for them but be generous with the time you can give them and that should help. I've also heard that if you'll bring a blanket home that the baby has been swaddled in at the hospital maybe the day before you actually bring the baby home, then the dogs can sniff it and get used to the baby's scent. Didn't try that but I hear it helps. __________________ ~ Angie

10-14-2009, 07:03 AM	#15
Blessed Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Posts: 136	Everything will be fine First off, you're furbabies already know what's happening and that a new addition is comming soon. They have a greater advantage than us with not only instinct, but with heightened smell. It's like this, you come home with a nice juicy burger w/the works, they go wild because they are overwhelmed by ALL the individual smells. They don't smell the burger as a whole like we do, they smell each and every different component to that burger, meat, each spice, onions, tomato, baccon, cheese, catsup, mayo, pickles, and bun! That is why they get so excited, they are bombarded with all these wonderful smells...LOL So you have an advantage, you're furbabies already know you're preggy and have accepted that fact. You can involve them by teaching them how to be caregivers too, like fetching diapers, wipes, burp rags, blankies, and so on. You have so many little helpers that are more than willing to help out, it's never too late to teach a new duty to our babies. My friend even taught her babies to "find the binkie" which came in handy as those are always getting lost...LOL on you're new addidion, keep us updated! __________________ Happy Thanksgiving Cathleen, Shy'la & GiGi