How to muster the strength to let go???

[Gennies]

I agree with what others have shared. It's very compassionate and selfless of you to put his needs first. It's the hardest thing you'll ever do, but it brings a feeling of relief to know that he's not in anymore pain and he still knew you were there with and for him. I lost my dobbie to wobblers last October and for the longest time I couldn't be around my friend's dobbies as it hurt too much. Now I can see the beautiful memories of her running and playing. I never seen a dog love to run like my Faith did. She looked like she was smiling ear to ear as she ran her goofy dobbie run )

Please, know that we are all here for you and will help you in anyway we can. Tons of (((((((Hugs))))))))))

Gen

[salshine]

I've been reading your posts and I now finally have the strength to respond w/o bawling. I also finally have the strength to do what's best for my Chewy. Thanks to your stories, advice and prayers (and I've felt the prayers) - I made an appointment for this Thursday (9/10) to send my Chewy home to my mom & dad in Heaven. I also made the arrangement to have him cremated right after the euth (see I can't even say the whole word). Anyway, I wanted you all to know that you have played a giant roll in my having the courage to do what's right and I firmly believe this is the best thing for my baby. He is just hanging on by a thread now...so skinny and weak. Doesn't have a clue where he is anymore. On the flip side, my husband and I got a new pup and named him "Patch" (after Patch Adams) as he has been such an encouragement to us since we got him 2 weeks ago...he is such a comedian - always bringing smiles to our faces and making us laugh...he has been a prayer answered for sure. I sincerely thank you all again from the bottom of my heart... your stories have been a true blessing to me and I'm forever grateful. PS- If you haven't seen the movie "Patch Adams" ...you gotta...it's a wonderful movie! God bless.

[MauiGirl]

Good luck as you prepare to say goodbye to Chewy. It is going to be hard, but surely is the best thing for him. I'm glad you have a new pup to bring some joy into your lives, and hope to see pics of Patch one of these days. Prayers of comfort are going your way.

[salshine]

Originally Posted by MauiGirl

Good luck as you prepare to say goodbye to Chewy. It is going to be hard, but surely is the best thing for him. I'm glad you have a new pup to bring some joy into your lives, and hope to see pics of Patch one of these days. Prayers of comfort are going your way.

Thank you MauiGirl. I really appreciate the prayers and we'll be needing them this week. I saw that you have a Schnauzer. Well, my new pup is a Schnorkie and boy does the Schnauzer dominate over the Yorkie in him! He has the Schnauzer build (strong legs), he's pretty independent, he's so different from Chewy as the Yorkie side of him doesn't show at all. By the way, I'm jealous of where you live...my husband and I were married there on Wailea Beach on 04/04/04...been thinking of it ever since. Thanks so much again and take care.

[York-a-lator]

Originally Posted by alaskayorkie

No one knows when it's time but you, the one who has loved him through good times and bad for his entire life. You'll know by looking in his eyes when the pain of living has become too much. In the wild, nature makes that decision. But we took them out of nature, so we inherit the responsibility of stopping the suffering when there's nothing else we can do for them. It is not an easy decision, but you'll know when it's time. My heart aches for you. Just know that he will never really leave you. You'll have memories to last a lifetime.

I have been weepy tonight because of the loss of my dogs. Mopsy was a shih tsu, and she was perfect. No one could have asked for a better dog. She had liver cancer, and I had to put her to sleep when seeing her in constant pain got too much for ME to bear.

Before she died, we got our first yorkie, Roxy, who was also a perfect dog. After Mopsy died, we got Scooter to keep Roxy company, and they hit it off. Scooter adored Roxy.

Roxy was stung by a bee and died. I still cry over Roxy, because it was such a sad thing to see such a young, healthy, adorable, fun dog die so unnecessarily. Scooter has never been the same. She is lonely and sad. I don't know what to do for her. We got Jilly, another Yorkie to keep her company two years ago, but they don't like each other.

No one can replace Roxy as far as Scooter is concerned. Not us, and not another dog. She sleeps in the closet most of the time and only comes out to eat and take a pottie break. Sometimes she'll sit on her daddie's lap, but not for very long. When our friend, Jean, comes over for dinner, she is excited to see her. Jean is her BFF. But after a short time, she goes back in the closet and hides out.

Jilly is a "people person," but she is not very kind to Scooter. She's the alpha type, and Scooter is very subdued. I make a fuss over Scooter as much as I can, and I hug her and kiss her and tell her how much I love her. But she's unhappy. All she cares about is food. She has no interest in anything else. I don't think she's in any kind of pain; she's just lonely for Roxy.

It's hard on everyone in the family when a dog either dies or has to be put down. I feel for anyone who has to go through it. But, I will say this; if my tears are any indication, you are right; we never forget our little four-footed babies. In some ways they are with us forever.

[kval07]

Originally Posted by salshine

I've been reading your posts and I now finally have the strength to respond w/o bawling. I also finally have the strength to do what's best for my Chewy. Thanks to your stories, advice and prayers (and I've felt the prayers) - I made an appointment for this Thursday (9/10) to send my Chewy home to my mom & dad in Heaven. I also made the arrangement to have him cremated right after the euth (see I can't even say the whole word). Anyway, I wanted you all to know that you have played a giant roll in my having the courage to do what's right and I firmly believe this is the best thing for my baby. He is just hanging on by a thread now...so skinny and weak. Doesn't have a clue where he is anymore. On the flip side, my husband and I got a new pup and named him "Patch" (after Patch Adams) as he has been such an encouragement to us since we got him 2 weeks ago...he is such a comedian - always bringing smiles to our faces and making us laugh...he has been a prayer answered for sure. I sincerely thank you all again from the bottom of my heart... your stories have been a true blessing to me and I'm forever grateful. PS- If you haven't seen the movie "Patch Adams" ...you gotta...it's a wonderful movie! God bless.

My goodness. I just read this whole thread and you all have me crying right now. I don't ever want to have to think about this with Chester.

Salshine, my heart goes out to you during this difficult time.

[lil fu fu girl]

I have faith that you will do what is best for your best friend.
You will know when. Trust in yourself, and realize he is trusting in you too.
My thoughts, and prayers, and love are with you .

[littlewhip]

Im so sorry you are going thru this diffucult time, I went thru the same thing last november with my beloved jasp, Its a very hard emotional heart felt decision, I had my daughter take me as i knew i could never do this alone
i dont even remember the ride home, I just kept reminding my self i was doing what was best for him, though we grief and suffer our loss, There are at peace and no longer suffering, My thougts and prayers are with you

[twalla]

Originally Posted by alaskayorkie

No one knows when it's time but you, the one who has loved him through good times and bad for his entire life. You'll know by looking in his eyes when the pain of living has become too much. In the wild, nature makes that decision. But we took them out of nature, so we inherit the responsibility of stopping the suffering when there's nothing else we can do for them. It is not an easy decision, but you'll know when it's time. My heart aches for you. Just know that he will never really leave you. You'll have memories to last a lifetime.

This is exactly what I did for my Charlie. When I looked into his eyes, I knew.

Thanks Mike for a great post.

[MauiGirl]

Originally Posted by salshine

Thank you MauiGirl. I really appreciate the prayers and we'll be needing them this week. I saw that you have a Schnauzer. Well, my new pup is a Schnorkie and boy does the Schnauzer dominate over the Yorkie in him! He has the Schnauzer build (strong legs), he's pretty independent, he's so different from Chewy as the Yorkie side of him doesn't show at all. By the way, I'm jealous of where you live...my husband and I were married there on Wailea Beach on 04/04/04...been thinking of it ever since. Thanks so much again and take care.

I'd love to see a pic of your Schnorkie, Patch. Schnauzers are sure wonderful, loyal, low maintenance dogs (I've had 4) before getting my Yorkie & Morkies. My Niko at 14 is deaf, losing his sight, and hips a little rusty, but not bad for his age. Reading this thread has reinforced my commitment to help him pass over when it is his time.

Nice that you started your marriage in paradise Aloha,

[4doggiemama]

May the Lord wrap His comforting arms around you as you go through this difficult time. I have a little one that has a disease that eventually will take her life if it progresses. I was struggling with it the other day. Later that evening I read in my devotionals that nothing we have is ours, but it belongs to God. I looked at my little Cocoa and realized that she was only on loan from God to make my life here on earth a little more bearable. I still struggle with the thought, but I am much more a peace with it. Blessings. ~Joanne~

[salshine]

Originally Posted by 4doggiemama

May the Lord wrap His comforting arms around you as you go through this difficult time. I have a little one that has a disease that eventually will take her life if it progresses. I was struggling with it the other day. Later that evening I read in my devotionals that nothing we have is ours, but it belongs to God. I looked at my little Cocoa and realized that she was only on loan from God to make my life here on earth a little more bearable. I still struggle with the thought, but I am much more a peace with it. Blessings. ~Joanne~

Joanne: I must say, what you wrote here really hit home and so true. May I ask what disease your little one has? Thanks so much for your encouraging words and God bless you. ~Shelby

[salshine]

Originally Posted by MauiGirl

I'd love to see a pic of your Schnorkie, Patch. Schnauzers are sure wonderful, loyal, low maintenance dogs (I've had 4) before getting my Yorkie & Morkies. My Niko at 14 is deaf, losing his sight, and hips a little rusty, but not bad for his age. Reading this thread has reinforced my commitment to help him pass over when it is his time.

Nice that you started your marriage in paradise Aloha,

Aloha! I'll try to attach a pic of my babies to this post...we'll see if it works. Yep, my hubby wanted a Schnauzer and I wanted another Yorkie...low and behold we found a Schnorkie! Yeah, Chewy was blind and deaf too - so I feel ya (with your Niko). I'll keep you posted on how everything goes Thursday. Thanks again for your support.

[salshine]

Originally Posted by littlewhip

Im so sorry you are going thru this diffucult time, I went thru the same thing last november with my beloved jasp, Its a very hard emotional heart felt decision, I had my daughter take me as i knew i could never do this alone
i dont even remember the ride home, I just kept reminding my self i was doing what was best for him, though we grief and suffer our loss, There are at peace and no longer suffering, My thougts and prayers are with you

I'm so sorry for your loss too. Keep telling yourself that (you did the right thing)....thanks for the advice and I'll do the same. Amen...they're no longer suffering and at peace. Thanks so much for caring and for your prayers...I'm very grateful.

[AprilLove]

I'm so sorry, I know how hard this decision is. Blessings to you and your furbaby. You will know when it is right time to let your baby go.