My heart broke this morning

[charly]

Thats such a sad story. lts was really nice of you to assist her. With you being who you are is the reason you feel so upset. You did as much as you
could for the pup and her. You can feel good about your fast reaction and compassion.

[capt_noonie]

Originally Posted by MizMaRLeysMoM86

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I know , I know. I might be being a big baby about this or overreacting but I can not get that image of him or the "feeling" of touching his body out of my mind. It is making me nauseous. Like I said I have never really felt death before, like the rigormortis part of death, and I think I have really scarred myself mentally. I know it is something that I am going to have to face eventually in life, but I was definitely not prepared. I had expected to go in and start giving CPR or unlodge something that he was choking on. I cannot for the life of me figure out why she did not feel him first Maybe she isn't too bright? Maybe she was too scared or freaked out? Maybe it didn't even occur to her to check him first before getting help. I don't know. What I do know is this will be with me for the rest of my life I think.

Wow just seeing this now. You are a good neighbor. Soo sad about the pug. I agree she probably was not the best owner. I remember your post about the balcony. Pugs need a lot of attention just like yorkies, they are not the healthiest breed out there.

What really bothers me is how she was worried about him starting to smell, when you said the whole house reeked anyway.

[HERBS]

Sad... VERY sad! I know the "stiff feeling" you are talking about! I bought my son a puppy (10 years ago) and brought the puppy home. My husband and I both worked. When we arrived home the next day, the puppy was laying in a rolled up sleeping position. I noticed vomit and diareha all over the large area we had him gated off in. I called the puppy's name but he did not wake up. My son was excited to play with him and said "Mommy why doesn't (I forget the name) wake up? I went over to gently poke the puppy and OMG I pulled my hand back so quick. I said "Let the puppy sleep... he is very tired". I know my voice quivered! When my husband got home, I told him the puppy had passed away and was hard". He removed the puppy and I had to go to the bathroom and cry cry cry I could not get over the "feeling". The sad part is the puppy had a vet check up scheduled the very next day. I called the breeder and she diidn't care! I had my hubby take the puppy to the vet and he said the puppy had Parvo. He also told me that if I ever get another pet that he/she would end up with Parvo too more than likely because even clorox would not kill the disease on my floor!!! I do not live in that house and refused to get another dog unil we moved! The vet said it had to come from the breeder since we had never had a dog in that house before and the house was new when we bought it.

[Fancy_Pants]

I am sorry you had to deal with that. Big hugs to you for being a nice person though.

[capt_noonie]

Originally Posted by HERBS

Sad... VERY sad! I know the "stiff feeling" you are talking about! I bought my son a puppy (10 years ago) and brought the puppy home. My husband and I both worked. When we arrived home the next day, the puppy was laying in a rolled up sleeping position. I noticed vomit and diareha all over the large area we had him gated off in. I called the puppy's name but he did not wake up. My son was excited to play with him and said "Mommy why doesn't (I forget the name) wake up? I went over to gently poke the puppy and OMG I pulled my hand back so quick. I said "Let the puppy sleep... he is very tired". I know my voice quivered! When my husband got home, I told him the puppy had passed away and was hard". He removed the puppy and I had to go to the bathroom and cry cry cry I could not get over the "feeling". The sad part is the puppy had a vet check up scheduled the very next day. I called the breeder and she diidn't care! I had my hubby take the puppy to the vet and he said the puppy had Parvo. He also told me that if I ever get another pet that he/she would end up with Parvo too more than likely because even clorox would not kill the disease on my floor!!! I do not live in that house and refused to get another dog unil we moved! The vet said it had to come from the breeder since we had never had a dog in that house before and the house was new when we bought it.

OMG that is so sad. You are a good mommy to be able to be strong and say that to your child. Shame on that breeder!

[tinyterriers]

It takes them longer than 15 or 20 minutes,we stayed with ours at least 45 min. after having to put them down,we didn't want to leave them so I know it's longer than that.You did a good job,but it is hard to see that. You are a good person to stay with her.

[Rerun201]

Originally Posted by tinyterriers

It takes them longer than 15 or 20 minutes,we stayed with ours at least 45 min. after having to put them down,we didn't want to leave them so I know it's longer than that.You did a good job,but it is hard to see that. You are a good person to stay with her.

I agree. We did the same when we had one of our dogs put down, stayed for close to an hour and she was still feeling just the same.

[MizMaRLeysMoM86]

I really appreciate all your kind words. Even though this wasn't my dog I still am so heartbroken. I have such a love for animals of every kind. And I think the fact that I deal so horribly with death in itself is not helping. I still keep getting teared up throughout the day when I think about it. Bless his little heart. He was such a sweet heart. I would laugh when I saw him potty outside because after he was done he would kick with his back legs like crazy and grass and dirt would go flying I will try to think happy thoughts but it is really hard. I've never lost a cat or dog, and the death of a pet is so new to me, even if it isn't mine, to have known the animal and interacted with it, breaks my heart to know hes not here anymore.

[FlDebra]

Poor little pug. So nice of you to not only be there to comfort your neighbor but to care so much for her little dog. As sad as this is to read, it is also reassuring in a way to know that there are such good hearted people as yourself out there. Sometimes we read so much of people who do not care, people who maybe shouldn't even have pets, if gets a person down. Then a long comes a post like yours so full of compassion and genuine caring about a living creature not even your own. Says maybe the human race has still got a chance!

[MizMaRLeysMoM86]

Originally Posted by FlDebra

Poor little pug. So nice of you to not only be there to comfort your neighbor but to care so much for her little dog. As sad as this is to read, it is also reassuring in a way to know that there are such good hearted people as yourself out there. Sometimes we read so much of people who do not care, people who maybe shouldn't even have pets, if gets a person down. Then a long comes a post like yours so full of compassion and genuine caring about a living creature not even your own. Says maybe the human race has still got a chance!

You just brought on the waterfalls Thank you so much for your kind words. I am too much of a soft hearted person at times, but animals is what does it for me. They are so innocent to me. And dogs, where they seem to want to only please you and be there for you no matter what. And listen to you and sulk with you at your darkest moments and jump up and down and celebrate with you at your happiest moments. They are emotional creatures. I' m sorry I have to stop, I am getting the biggest knot in my throat. Thank you again.

[IWAY]

Don't beat yourself up,you did what any caring person would have done! In fact you should be proud...after all you're doing something for that baby that his owners didn't bother doing...you're mourning him. Big ((HUGS))!!

Just my .02...

[nesha]

I had chills just reading it. its so sad i had to pick Denzel up (which he was sleeping) I don't know what i would ever do if something would happen to my little man. I hope this lady didn't do anything to cause this i don't want to blame anybody.

[kjc]

Just as there are stages throughout life, also there are stages in death. It is very shocking to be thinking you will be able to help an animal, only to discover you have arrived much too late to be of any assistance in sustaining it's life. Or even to be expecting something warm and vibrant with life, only to be found cold and unmoving in death. I firmly believe that when an animal dies, it's spirit moves on. So the last breath it takes, the last sight it sees, the last words it hears, the last beat of it's heart, and the last thing it can do is to move on and go with God. What you found in the cage was not the pug you saw on the balcony that day, but the body he lived in. His physical body failed him and his spiritual body had moved on by the time you got there. He is okay with God, and has many friends there. He no longer feels pain, nor neglect, and can breathe freely. Thank God you kept your presence of mind to hide the fact of his passing from the couple's young child. As for the woman's husband, I believe men feel things, but are not keen on showing their softer side. And some people who own pets never have a rewarding relationship (like we know is possible) with their pets, and I too feel bad for those pets, because their full potential is never known. I think you were chosen more to protect the child, than to help the dog, in this instance, by fate or destiny. You need to find a way to think about it so it is no longer an insult to your psyche, but an experience you can learn and benefit from, and maybe add the skills and strength of this knowledge to be available to you in the future, should the need arise. God never gives us more than we can handle.

[capt_noonie]

Originally Posted by kjc

Just as there are stages throughout life, also there are stages in death. It is very shocking to be thinking you will be able to help an animal, only to discover you have arrived much too late to be of any assistance in sustaining it's life. Or even to be expecting something warm and vibrant with life, only to be found cold and unmoving in death. I firmly believe that when an animal dies, it's spirit moves on. So the last breath it takes, the last sight it sees, the last words it hears, the last beat of it's heart, and the last thing it can do is to move on and go with God. What you found in the cage was not the pug you saw on the balcony that day, but the body he lived in. His physical body failed him and his spiritual body had moved on by the time you got there. He is okay with God, and has many friends there. He no longer feels pain, nor neglect, and can breathe freely. Thank God you kept your presence of mind to hide the fact of his passing from the couple's young child. As for the woman's husband, I believe men feel things, but are not keen on showing their softer side. And some people who own pets never have a rewarding relationship (like we know is possible) with their pets, and I too feel bad for those pets, because their full potential is never known. I think you were chosen more to protect the child, than to help the dog, in this instance, by fate or destiny. You need to find a way to think about it so it is no longer an insult to your psyche, but an experience you can learn and benefit from, and maybe add the skills and strength of this knowledge to be available to you in the future, should the need arise. God never gives us more than we can handle.

Great post.

[LilMissy]

Originally Posted by Rerun201

I agree. We did the same when we had one of our dogs put down, stayed for close to an hour and she was still feeling just the same.

I stayed with my last dog for 1hr and 45mins after she was put down. She felt the same to me as when she was sleeping. It makes me wonder how long that poor pug was in that crate.

To the OP - I'm so sorry that you've had this experience. I know that I would be equally as traumatized as you are. You are a good person going out of your way for that neighbour. I hope that she appreciates it.