Kids Ruin *Some* Things

[shecass]

[QUOTE=Olivier]

Originally Posted by shecass

No you didn't make me mad because I consider the opinions of the others . We are civilized peoples and able to talk to each others . I understand the point of view of parents .

I feel the same way. Very well said. I feel the same way.

[shecass]

Originally Posted by kelley

People can attract allergies at any time.

What if the pet was first, they you had a baby who is VERY allergic? Sometimes allergies are sooo bad, that only shots can help just a little bit. My uncle died of an asthma attack in his sleep. He was allergic to everything. So, I guess this is a very touchy subject for me. I'm sorry, but my human kids come first. (But, they've been here for 11 and 7 years).

I completely agree with you. There are a lot of valid points and a lot of different options on a thread like this. What is boils down to is that everyone has to do what they feel is right for them and their family.

[ukeka]

Well, As Much as I LOVE MY SILK .. If any one of my 3 children were to become so badly allergic & my child is suffering .. Than I would give silk up .. Lucky I dont think this will happen to me .. & if that does happen I have a secondary home (with my sister) should for any reason silk or tabby (my cat) have to be re-homed Silk is a frequent vistory to my sisters home and she has agreed if anything were to happen to me or my situation change she's more than happy to take BOTH my pets to ensure a happy health home for them ... I would seriously consider meds before any such thing as giving him up came into the picture .

As a reponsible PARENT I owe it to my children to look out for the best interest & health. And take the time to expose my child to the type and breed of animal I wish to aquire BEFORE I bring it home to stay

As a responsible PET owner I owe It to my pet to Do research BEFORE I bring the dog,cat,gold fish,ferret or what have into my home and make such a serious commitment and think for the future if I have children what happens to my pet ??? , proper planning before you get a pet can go a long way for all family members involved .

I am sorry for cody , but as a parent I dont think I could watch my newborn baby suffer , if I have done all I can do .I would invest time and effort to make sure cody got a wonderful forever home .

[wd6474]

every reply made had valid points and honestly we dont know what we would do until we have to make those kinds of choices. i hope my post wasn't mean and i would never want to offend anyone. but i do have a soft spot for kids...... this was a very good thread. people voiced their opinion all diff and valid and nobody was rude or attacking. i posted a thread a few weeks ago asking if it was ok for little dogs to play with big dogs and lets just say it got a little ugly... almost made me not want to ask any more questions....glad this outcome was diff.....

[Junebug]

I'm sorry if I offended anyone by the title of the post. As you can tell, I don't have human kids, no kidding!
I don't know the parents at all. I only know the people who are temporarily watching Cody, and even they seemed sad and upset about Cody's parents' decision. And you guessed it! We're all childless!
Meeting Cody last night just struck a chord in me. His temporary owner who was watching him said it was sad, because they drove by Cody's old neighborhood on the way somewhere, and Cody started wagging his tail, getting all excited, because he thought he was going home. It was sad. I imagined Otis doing the same thing and never seeing him again, and I got all weepy.
<--------------Look at that cute face.

Interesting to see the childless posters' views are so different from the people who have kids.

Anyway, I've always been more partial to dogs than kids. Maybe that will change some day.

[Shanatink]

Originally Posted by Junebug

I met a dog last night named Cody. His parents owned him for three years. In between that time, they decided to have a human baby. Well, the baby was born, but was allergic to Cody. The baby was developing a rash, so the parents decided to give Cody away. Now Cody (German Shepard) is homeless and up for adoption. He's extremely gentle, smart, and he totally loved Otis. We met him last night. No, I am not going to adopt him so don't even suggest that.

Now, I don't have kids so I don't really don't know how much of an impact they have on a person as a parent, but I do know I love Otis so much that if I ever had a kid that had a rash because of him, I don't care. I would never give Otis up. That kid would have to take Benedryl for the rest of his life before I give up Otis.

What do you guys think about this behavior? Acceptable or unacceptable behavior? Would you give up your Yorkie so your human kid could be rash-free?

Its is funny that you said this. I love dogs so much I am not sure I ever want to have a kid because I am afraid something like that might happen. I agree that I would try to see if the kid can be on some sort of medicine for the allergy. I really hope this never happens to me because I plan on having one kid one day.

[Diego]

Originally Posted by Junebug

I'm sorry if I offended anyone by the title of the post. As you can tell, I don't have human kids, no kidding!
I don't know the parents at all. I only know the people who are temporarily watching Cody, and even they seemed sad and upset about Cody's parents' decision. And you guessed it! We're all childless!
Meeting Cody last night just struck a chord in me. His temporary owner who was watching him said it was sad, because they drove by Cody's old neighborhood on the way somewhere, and Cody started wagging his tail, getting all excited, because he thought he was going home. It was sad. I imagined Otis doing the same thing and never seeing him again, and I got all weepy.
<--------------Look at that cute face.

Interesting to see the childless posters' views are so different from the people who have kids.

Anyway, I've always been more partial to dogs than kids. Maybe that will change some day.

It was really interesting to read people's reactions to this one .

[fasteddie]

Let's all hope all us Yorkie parents will NEVER have to face that decision. And as some have said, allergies can develop at ANY TIME. I can't even eat lobster anymore, out of the blue.

It is very hard to say what one will do until you are at that point. Poor Cody, I hope that he finds a new home where his former parents will still visit.

[judyb]

When my son was 6 we found a stray cat and my son became allergic everytime he was near it. His eyes would swell up , face turn red nose was stuffy. We decided to try and find another family for the cat.My son loved this cat and would never put it down even though he looked miserable. I knew the cat was not going to stay so I let my son continue to hold the cat that week. Well, my son had a terrible cough by day five and I took him to the doctor. It turns out my son had developed pnemonia from this constant contact from the cat. It was a very scarey week with high fevers and trouble getting a breath. I will never let my son around animals that are obviously making him sick. There is just no comparison to your child and your animal. Luckily my son is not allergic to our dogs!

[txshopper73]

Ouch! This is a touchy subject. While I love my yorkies, dearly, my children come first in my life. It is a responsibility as a parent to first look after and take care of their children. Sure, there are medications to control allergies but is it fair to keep a child medicated until:

A) The dog goes to rainbow bridge due to old age

or

B) My child moves out on his/her own

Sorry, but I can't justify keeping my child on medications for a dog allergy just so that I could keep my yorkies. Luckily, my children are allergy free and I really feel for those families that have children that aren't so lucky. You're children's safety and well being are more important...JMHO.

Besides, what are the long term affects from being on medication all of the time? It could take years and years but I'm sure that something would come out of all of it.

I hope that no one ever has to make that decision. It is a hard one to have to decide. No one wins in that situation.

[kindness_001]

Boy am I glaD MY KIDS ARE ALL GROWN. One of my son-in-laWS is allergic to dogs. It's the dogs dander that people are allgeric to not the shedding. Get rid of my dogs? I should say not... lol. Kids are always telling me i treat my furbabies better than them . they are all spoiled rotten every babie i have.

[ldenise]

wow so many different views here. i got to tell ya, i had a very small dog before i had my first born. that dog was a one person dog. me and him. well the day i brought my baby home from the hospital that dog wanted to attack the bassinette. i was afraid he would get in there in the middle of the night. so the dog went. it was either the baby or the dog. that was nearly 35 yrs ago.
now???? the situation has changed.
if my son were visiting and couldn't get along with my dog i would have to kick the son out. LOL

I only wish my ex-mother-in-law were allergic to my dogs. I would have owned a kennel of dogs. ONLY JOKING!

[txshopper73]

Originally Posted by ldenise

wow so many different views here. i got to tell ya, i had a very small dog before i had my first born. that dog was a one person dog. me and him. well the day i brought my baby home from the hospital that dog wanted to attack the bassinette. i was afraid he would get in there in the middle of the night. so the dog went. it was either the baby or the dog. that was nearly 35 yrs ago.
now???? the situation has changed.
if my son were visiting and couldn't get along with my dog i would have to kick the son out. LOL

I only wish my ex-mother-in-law were allergic to my dogs. I would have owned a kennel of dogs. ONLY JOKING!

yeah, I'll probably change my mind someday too!!!!!

[kara]

I don't have children, I like children and would like to have some in the future.
I am allergic to animals and just about everything else too. I have always had pets and my parents had pets(a cat & 2 dogs & bird all in the house) when I was born- cats, dogs, birds, horses, rabbit, etc..with the cats, rabbit, guinea pig, hamster, gerbil, dogs(sometimes as many as 6 in the house full time with me), ferret, bird, etc in the house... My eyes get all red and itchy, I sneeze alot, sometimes I get a rash or hives but you know what I chuck it up and most of the time don't even think about it, I have had it my whole life. I have never once in my whole life been able to breath clearly with a clear nose. Taken medicine regularly and also given up taking medicine. As I got older I tried allergy shots-no help. I also have allergy indused asthma and have to use a puffer. Most of my friends are like your allergies are bad, and I am like-you know I never really thought about it, because I have never known a time in my life without them. I don't think my life was impaired or even really all that different. I am pretty sure that my children will be born with allergies, but you know what there are worst things than a little rash or a sniffly nose, a life without knowing the amazing, unconditional love of a pet. So NO I would not give up my pet. I ended up just fine-no harm done!

[Francie]

Originally Posted by Olivier

Amazing how a dog can be a disposable thing when !!!

As someone who has Asthma...I can tell you from first hand experience...that "drugs" do not always work...and I have had several hospital bills to prove it. Unfortunately, some people are under the impression that "being allergic"...only refers to topical symtoms, i.e., sneezing or watery eyes. In actuality....severe allergies that lead to "Asthma", or narrowing of the brochial tubes, and can cause someone to actually die. Nothing is worse than gasping for breath and not being able to breathe. Long term exposure to the allergen also permanently damages the lining of the brochial tubes, making them less and less efficient. It's like drowning...very slowly...

. I would NEVER wish that on an another human being...much less an innocent child. If I even heard of someone keeping a pet in a household with a severely allergic child...I would call DCFS...and report them for Child Abuse.

We all cherish our pets...but I think any reasonable, logical person would concede that they do NOT replace humans beings. And I wonder just how fast the word "disposable" would be redefined, were you lying in your bed struggling to breathe and wondering if you would die that day.


Francie