thats really not fair. if they turned you down for your fiance's allergy, thats understandable, but for that, honestly the reason she turned you down for is really not a reason at all.

there are good and bad resues out there. we've had a very positive experience years ago when my mom adopted Simba for me, the rescue workers worked with us in every way we needed, and Simba is the sweetest boy ever!

but there are also bad ones I've heard and experienced. they turn you down for reasons they believe that are valid. for example, my mom's neighbor wanted to adopted a small breed dog, they are a really good candidate IMO, recently retired, financially stable, loving personalities, etc, but they got turned down for not having a fenced in yard, and I know lots of people got turned down for that reason. but honestly I don't think its a big deal. I have a fenced in yard, but my girls have used it no more than three times during the close to fours years that I've had them, because they don't want to go in the grass by themselves, I ended up going in the grass with them, so I figure I would rather just walk them on leash instead, and I've been doing it for four years and have nothing to complain about.
I would really hope rescue groups would work with candidates' specific living situation/have candidates working with them as well, rather than setting standard rules. that way there will be less good matches missed, and more homeless animals placed.

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are you guys my fiance's rights advocates? :p how much is he paying you guys? :rolleyes:

i am just kidding. i am glad to hear you guys bring up these points. it is true. it is important for one's health to be able to breath in one's own home...

i guess i never tried to personalize his pain before since he was supportive of me getting a cat. (not two though! :p )

i guess i would not be too thrilled about kitties either if i had to choose between air or cute fluff balls...cute fluff balls quickly becomes not-so-cute when i am deprived of oxygen...

It is up to you, but I would recommend that you tell the rescue about what happened. Not to get the foster woman "in trouble" per se, but maybe someone needs to work with her to improve her screening / interpersonal skills. You might not have been the only person who has had this experience.

You could always write a letter if you don't want to work with them in person.

Aww, I didn't want to make you feel bad! I really love cute little fluff balls but I know after a week of staying with my family who has kitties I want to get out of there so badly and not because I don't love them!!! It is just super frustrating to everyone involved to listed to me sniffle all day and then for my poor hubby how has to listen to more snoring in his ear at night!!

GET ANOTHER YORKIE :D:D:D:D

yes, that would be the right thing to do, but at the moment, i just feel like i want nothing to do with that rescue!

another thing i am worried about is that they are a pretty big organization(they are in more than just CA, they are in many states i believe), i am worried that they would ignore me, and then it would make me angry...

You know I agree with you to. Most will not adopt because of the allergies but you were treated unfairly. I have tried to rescue before to and they make it so difficult..Hope you find the kitties you are looking for, :D

lol!

sure, twist my arms into getting another yorkie!

i like having different species of animals in my house though! :p i think it's just so cute! lol

Yorkiepuppie I rescued a yorkie from a breeder and loved her the minute I saw her.. it as my sassie...while there she had a darling boy my husband and I fell in love with.. we were willing to write a cheque for him but we were told he was not going anywhere and she could not give him up!!!!! She groomed sassie before we left so the next time she needed grooming I called her and she said to come down..
First thing I noticed was that precious doll was not there.. so I asked about him.. she said oh a couple came by to look at a yorkie baby and had to have him so I sold him.. I dam near died right on the spot.. I was good enough to take a rescue that had been mistreated but not good enough to write a cheque for a little male yorkie we fell in love with.. she was adamant to us that he was not leaving her...

So this makes me remember the hurt I felt... and I am sorry you were treated this way... totally wrong for people to behave like this.. does it make them feel superior I wonder...

May I ask what kind of kitten this was you cannot find????

that is how i felt. i would have been ok if they had turn me down due to the allergy issue, because that one i can understand. but what happened is something i didn't expect...

You know you are probably better off that they wouldn't adopt to you. Something is fishy about the way it was handled anyways. ;)

yes, i don't understand why they would do this. and that is why i wish they could give a better answer for not placing the animal with us. like what the breeder told you. it doesn't make any sense. and it would have been nice if she could tell you an answer that actually makes sense!

i was very hurt, i didn't expect to be so hurt. i was completely caught off guard when she sent me the email to let me know that she doesn't think i was crazy enough about the cats! what!?

the breed that i am....was... looking for is ragdoll. :)

I would not give up.. research and see who had ragdoll kittens for sale.. there is got to be a breeder out there.. maybe it was not meant to be.. hard to think of ... but I bet you find what you want and end up very happy... here is hoping you do... anne

thank you. :) well, there are definitely breeders that breed ragdolls. i have found a couple in my area. not many, but i have found them.

i just believe in adopting animals from shelters, so i had been looking for a long time. but it's hard to find ragdolls in shelters, i am not sure why.

yea...rescues are a little different i think. they expect a lot more from everyone, and they certainly can make you feel very "judged" i am guessing that they are trying to do their best, but maybe they are just overwhelmed? they can certainly improve some of the procedures to make it a more pleasant experience for everyone that's part of the process.

i don't think everyone's going to be like that either. i would like to try to find a kitty from shelter/rescue to adopt. because i think it's nice to be able to provide for an animal who needs a home as oppose to purchasing one. but i think that i will not be able to get the breed that i really wanted if i go with adopting from the shelter/rescue.

i hope the best for the kittens as well. they are very lovable, and i think they will find a good home. i just wish it was me!!!

I agree w/ this. I can understand denying the app for allergy reasons. But the rest of it? Wow. They were really jerking you around there and changing their minds and being totally flaky. I find that kind of suspicious actually...:thumbdown

suspicious? do you have a theory? :rolleyes: nancy came up with something...

actually, just writing about this experience helped me feel better. i am glad to hear ppl's thoughts. i was kind of hoping to hear from some rescue workers who might be able to explain why it happened like that. since i don't think it makes much sense what happened.

I'm sorry this happened to you when you has your heart set on these kittens. It seems very odd to me that they would insist that you take a pair. Kittens are not shoes :rolleyes: Ususally, a rescue will adopted bonded pairs but I've never heard of a ruscue having a rule that you must adopt a pair.

When I first started reading your story I thought you were going to say that you were turned down because of your BF's allergies. But what happened to you just does not seem very fair at all. I can't imagine a rescue that only adopted in pairs.

I was probably meant to be and you will see something else that is perfect will come along.

lol!!! kittens are not shoes! nope they are not! :rolleyes:
i think that rule is to make sure the kittens have a pal to grow up together with and to play with.

I absolutely love kitties too ;) and had a couple of them when my son was a baby. He was always sick, and I never knew why.. 15 years later I had a referral to have him get allergy tested. It was discovered that he has severe allergies especially to cats :( I felt soooo guilty about exposing my child to that, even though I never once thought or knew that was making him ill. I did not even have cats when the truth finally came out.
Now he has to take allergy shots once a week.... I still feel so badly :eek:
If your finance is only mildly affected and wants to have a cat too, then I would still keep trying ! a cat is a great compainion !
the rescue lady did screw you over, and I would be quite pissed off it it was me! She did not need to do that, but did not care that it would cause you great heartache in the end. I hate people who are dishonest ! You had every right to question her motivations , and ethics. Shame of her! I hope this does not discourage you from looking , and you will find the perfect kitty to bring home!
Best wishes to you, and I am sorry that that "rescue" did not work out, and for her to play mind games with you! That is totally wrong !:thumbdown

I don't understand the reasoning unless they were afraid your boyfriends allergy would get in the way, and you'd have to give them up. They have tons of cute kittys at the ASPCA shelters that could really use a good home.

i am sorry that your son is so allergic to kitties. :( don't feel too bad! you didn't know! i think a lot of people didn't know the cause of their allergies until they either get tested specifically for it, or if they move out of the house with the pets. so i think it's actually kind of common for people to not know about it.

is the allergy shot helping him? is he ok with his allergy problems? i know people's body chemistry really changes. i didn't use to get bad allergies in the summer, but now i get REALLY bad allergies, and it is JUST AWFUL!

the rescue thingy, thank you for your support! :)
i was really hoping more people that work at rescues could read my post and give me some insight to better understand what happened...

the allergy issue was already addressed during the interview process and even with the knowledge that he is allergic, they still approved the application. so it is 'possible' that's the reasoning, but probably not likely.

yes, i know there are a lot of kitties in need to a good home. i hope i will find 'my' kittie :)

I have been allergic to cats for as long as i can remember. But my family was always big cat lovers. So we always had cats. As long as i didnt have to mess with them or right after i made sure i washed my hands. Now we have a cat my dad rescued. he is soo sweet and i like to love on him but you to have to take the necessary precautions to help to treat the allergies.

So it is possible to have a cat even though you have allergies

what do you have to do to play/pet the kitties? do you just have to make sure you wash your hands and face afterwards or do you need to take medication? :)

basically what you stated. no medication. i try not to hold him just pet and scratch. i also dont rub my face against him. My face and eyes will swell

yorkiepuppie, who did this?? Let me go get my boxing gloves:D Kidding aside, do you think they maybe didn't know what a 'ragdoll' looked like or how expensive they are (I love them too) and that made the difference. Did it say'ragdoll' in the ad or did you just know by looking at it?

With people losing their homes and all the dogs and cats in shelters, I think they should lossen up a bit. I don't want to bad mouth shelters either but I saw a little yorkie at a shelter and filled the application out a couple months after I lost Crystal. I loaded them down with information and pictures, great recommendations but they said 'no' because she died at 14 yrs old in an accident. I said doesn't it count that she had the best care for all those years and was treated like a queen. That little yorkie needed a home so badly but that was that. I really didn't want another for much longer than a couple months but when I saw this sad situation it changed my mind. It may have just been that rescue but I was much more sad for the yorkie than me.

Update
 

i have been looking for a couple of other cats within the rescue and have requested info. from the foster moms. and at this point i am really annoyed with the way people at rescues act.

they started bringing up issues that had already been addressed. now one foster mom is having issue with my dog, saying that the cat would do well with the bunnies, but she thinks the dog is too much. even though i have already explained that the dog is more friendly than the bunnies, and even though it might be hard to believe but it's the truth.

I have been honest with them all this time, and they are really making me angry.

i do work with another rescue and adopt bunnies from them, and even though they really like me, i also feel that they are kind of snobby the way they treat potential adopters.

is it because people LIE to them way too often!? they don't trust what people tell them.

i have been honest with them, but have come to the realization that maybe these people do not deserve honesty. they definitely make me feel like i am being punished for telling the truth about everything!

even the rescue that i adopt bunnies from, a lot of times the way they talk to people seems pushy and condescending.

WHAT IS THE DEAL!?!?

my best guess is that they've had too many people lie to them about things, and now they trust no one? so when i tell them i have a friendly dog, they think i am lying or WAY exaggerating!?

That is AWFUL! :( I've never heard of that!!! and I don't understand it!

It's one thing to just flat out tell you they didn't want to place the cats with you. OR they could have said "We think you're a likeable person but the home situation isn't ideal." or "There are other candidates who we think would suit the kittens better." but there is absolutely NO reason to string you along like that and lead you to believe you are getting one of the cats.

This was just hurtful. :( I don't understand it at all and I hope you are able to find your kitten really soon.

Big hugs!

I surprised that they haven't met your dog? I would think the rescue would want your family to meet a prospective pet. I don't like the sound of this shelter. Is there another one in the area you can work with?

Come to SF and take a look at the shelter I volunteer at! :)

Maybe at the end of it all, they were worried that you might adopt the kittens, find out that your fiance couldnt live with them, and then have to rehome them.? The rescue kennels near me are very strict, almost as if they are trying to talk you out of rehoming. I think their hearts are in the right place, although they sometimes dont quite go about things the right way. I guess the animals in rescue kennels have nearly always been through heartache, and everyone is trying to make sure they find their forever home next time.