Am I a bad person....

[Patti]

Sorry you are having such a hard time. I have 4 dogs and it can get overwhelming, it seems like I have been potty training for a long time. I can't imagine having a 4 year old too. I'm sure they wil all settle in and get trained but it can take awhile and if the stress is getting to much then you would be making the right decision to rehome. Whatever you decide will be the right decision for you and the puppy. Good luck

[xxmxaxrxyxx]

Originally Posted by grandmatoall

You are not a bad person. You are just overwhelmed. Trying to keep up with a 4 year old.. two new puppies, and two older dogs (one which is jealous) and you are wondering if you are stressed? You are not superwoman. Very few people could do all of that and still give the little puppies the attention they need. Is there someone who could take one of the little puppies for awhile to help you out? Then you would know for sure.
If your husband is noticing it, too.. then sweetie... you need someone to help you out for a bit.

If I was closer.. I would gladly take one of them for awhile.. to give you a break and to help you decide what to do.

You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

i totally agree...i will have you in my thoughts...

[Mom to Hot Rod]

sent you a pm.

[DukesMommy]

I only have 2, one is 8 and the other is 4 months and they give me a run for my money. I'm in pee hell with the little one! Some days she has no accidents, others she pees everywhere and anywhere, including ON us! I can't imagine having anymore plus a kid.
I found that having more of a routine seems to help though. I have them eating at certain times, which definitely helps with going potty, Lucie has her time where she is able to run freely and play with the other one (if he lets her haha) and the older one gets his alone cuddle time to help keep him from getting jealous. He has taken better to her too since I have been giving him his own "special" time where she is napping in her x pen away from him.

[Sarah515]

I can only imagine how stressed you must be. I say give it a couple weeks before making a decision that you might regret. Do you have an xpen for the puppies? I think it would be a good idea because it will keep them safe, less area to have accidents in, etc. This will also give the other dogs a chance to adjust before letting the pups in "their" space".

Lucy is almost 3 and I just reserved another pup this week. I have had the same thoughts about if I've done the right thing or not. I keep telling myself everything will be fine! I plan on getting an xpen for the new puppy and hope it works out.

Good luck to you!

[chachi]

Your not a bad person you are just overwhelmed. I would probably be in a similar situation if I tried to bring another one in because I have one that gets jealous to. I would give it a couple of weeksthen decide from there. Maybe if you list her on here another YTer can give her a home and you could keep up with her. Best of luck

[Katylou]

I wouldn't presume to tell you what to do but I think if it were me, I would give it a least another 2 weeks or so before I made a decision. Also, I know you are feeling guilty for not giving both pups more attention but remember they were used to sharing attention with their litter mates not too long ago. So they have each other to play with in and out of the X-pen. Maybe your other dogs will come around in time and accept both puppies. It took one of my older dogs over a month to accept the new member into the pack. Some things just take time to resolve. You have helped me make up my mind to wait a while longer before I get another baby. I have two other dogs and my new baby. One of my dogs is very old so I made the decision to wait until he passes before I get another yorkie puppy. It always seems I never have two dogs near the same age and I said this time that I wanted two at least within a year of age to grow up together. My dogs are 15, 9 and 4 months currently.

[HillbillyBelle]

I know we all wish we had some magic words of wisdom to help out but unfortunately we don't . We do however all feel for you and your family.
I will say that if you are stressed and overwhelmed, your whole family, especially the 4-legged ones, will feel it. We humans cannot hide that.
If you feel that your toddler and hubby are affected negatively by the situation, you might have to rehome one puppy. I try to remember that I can always start over when I am more able to handle things with a little less stress.
I am sure you will do the right thing with the puppies and your family even though it might not be the easiest decision. Good Luck to you and all of those you are loving..Do not beat yourself up..we all get in over our heads sometimes and need a hand up to get thru it. Bless you!

[Sloan]

I agree that if it is at all possible, try to give it more time. The first month with new puppies is the hardest, I think. You absolutely have a lot going on in your house and their is no doubt that anyone in your situation would feel overwhelmed. If you allow it another few weeks, I think your decision will become more clear....puppies grow and learn so fast. It may end up that it is the best thing for the two little pups to have each other in the long run. Good Luck, it will all work out the way it is supposed to and if you must rehome one of them, I'm sure there is someone on YT that will give him/her a very loving home.

[Doodlebug]

I would suggest that you give it more time and a lot of thought before you decide to give up one or both of the puppies.

I once gave up my dog Misty because a new landlord bought my apartment and told me the dog has to go. Misty was a toy poodle mix and very well behaved and I was so upset but I had to give her away (my sister's mother-in-law took her). I missed her so much I was a basket case without her. I cried every day. I prayed that Misty would be returned to me somehow and miraculously my sister's mother-in-law called me a couple of months later and asked me to take Misty back because she didn't feel she was devoting enough time to her. I ran and got my baby and moved out of that apartment. I hardly ever let her out of my sight after that.

I just wanted to share my experience and ask you to give it a lot of thought before you decide to rehome them. Good luck with whatever you decide.

[Jeri Cunningham]

I hope thing get better. BUT if you find you need to rehome her I'm sure a Yorkietalker will take her. It is great that you are so caring to even think about giving her up for her sake. It shows your a good mom!

[PANAMA69]

I heard you, I have three girls and two senior cats, is hard when they are little and not potty train but after it gets easy, Phoebe was very jealous at first but now she is no more, my friend also got a yorkie puppy and was thinking of selling her again because her older yorkie having a hard time with the puppy well after several weeks I got a e-mail back yesterday saying that they getting along so well. I would suggest though to let your spaniel know that you are the pack leader not her

[Yorkiedaze]

Having just one puppy to train, play with and house train is very demanding work that first year and having two would be very stressful I'm sure. If you re-home her I would not blame you a bit. Just don't feel guilty if you do.
She deserves to have a lot of attention. I have some friends who are retired, no other pets and had their dog put down over a year ago due to cancer. They would be the perfect parents since she would be the center of attention, love and travel. PM me if your interested.

[Sarah515]

Originally Posted by PANAMA69

I heard you, I have three girls and two senior cats, is hard when they are little and not potty train but after it gets easy, Phoebe was very jealous at first but now she is no more, my friend also got a yorkie puppy and was thinking of selling her again because her older yorkie having a hard time with the puppy well after several weeks I got a e-mail back yesterday saying that they getting along so well. I would suggest though to let your spaniel know that you are the pack leader not her

I am so relieved to hear this! I have had anxiety about Lucy getting along with her new sister, but I am going to follow what the breeder says about introducing them slowly and I hope this will work! I want them to love eachother..

[luvnmymax]

Thank You so much to everyone who has posted and/or pm'd me. I am not any closer to making a decision, but you guys have really helped with my guilt over even considering rehoming her. This is truly a wonderful website. Everyone here is great. When I told my husband that I was going to post asking for advice, he cautioned me. He has seen (as i'm sure some of you have) on other websites, where people were pretty much ripped a new one for even suggesting that they may have to rehome their pet. He knows how much I enjoy this website and didn't want to see me disappointed. I am truly touched by how everyone has reached out to me. You are all wonderful!
Jessica