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torn between family and puppy. please help. =( Hello everyone, I stumbled upon this great forum site this morning while in a state of much sadness and confusion. I currently have a baby boy yorkie named Benny, he's now 4 months old and I've had him for 2 months and he's already my whole life. I'm completely in love with him. The problem is...my family had told me they would help me with the dog through my last year of school and now their opinions are changing...I'm going into my last year of college and will need help feeding and walking him at night because I will not be getting home until 7 or 8. I don't know what to do and am completely stressed about the situation. My puppy Benny loves attention and loves to be with people and I feel even though he's happy with me, I want him to have the world and more...The near thought of me reselling him makes me filled with guilt and sadness. I just want him to have the best life he can... Any suggestions from yorkie lovers would be so greatly appreciated! Thank you... Christina :confused: |
welcome to YT :) Im so sorry that your family has decided they can no longer help you, maybe there is a friend or neighbor that can come over and walk him and feed him for you? of course you have to be able to trust this person. I know in my local paper people sometimes put out an ad for dog walkers/sitters, Craigs list also has these posts. another option would be to find a doggy daycare where he will be watched and have companionship (these places can get expensive) I think if you decide to leave him alone for a few hours he will do just fine, only thing is does he need to be walked or does he go on a wee wee pad also? |
I feel so sorry for you that you are having troubles now that you have your dog. Its sad that family tell you one thing and then they let you down. Maybe you can find a friend that will help you our for awhile. Its hard we don't always know our neighbors but maybe you could find someone. I'm sure if you are going to school you don't have the money to hire someone that will come in and walk him and feed him. People like that have referances and you would feel better about that. |
So sorry you are going through this. Please let us know how everything works out for you. |
Hello and welcome to YT! I'm so sorry to hear about your dilemma. I would just try to get through this year and I'm sure everything will be fine. Best of Luck to You! |
That's such a shame you are now put into such a predicument. Yes, your right. This breed requires lot's of attention in fact they demand it or can easily get depressed. Your wise to understand that. Look around and ask neighbor's. Perhaps someone can take him out one or twice during the day and play with him for a couple of minutes during the day. Buddy was fine while I worked for 8hrs during the day but I did give the rest of my time to him. I spent and still do 1/2 hr every morning playing with him and at night I go directly home and spend it with him. If you can't make these commitments then it really would be wise to re-home him. I know that is going to be hard but you have to do what's best for him. Good luck and I hope it works out for both of you. |
I would put a peepee pad down & get a timer Feeder. |
I am sorry to hear of this.. maybe you could post another thread asking if other yt members live close to you.. that maybe are willing to help you out.. like if some one is close enough maybe keeping him during the week for you and then you have him for your bonding on the week ends.. this is a thought. but I would not give up until all is exhauted.. oh by the way.. welcome to yt...hope this gives you some new hope.. anne |
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Well ,I do not know if this is an option for you or not! There are doggy day cares- and maybe on your longer days - take him for 1/2 a day! also- pet walkers/sitters! Or do you know any teenagers- they might walk him for a litte pocket change- but make sure they are old enough to take proper care! goos luck! |
I wasn't allowed to have a dog when I was a kid so in HS I watched the neighbor's dog all the time. You just need to find a HS kid who would love to play with little Benny after school. Actually there is a middle school aged girl in my neighborhood who loves Sammy so much and can't get a dog. She posted a flier about her dog walking services - $2 for a walk - so cute! I know she wants a dog so bad so I pay her once in a while to walk Sam. Her mom says it gets her out of the house and away from the TV. You must have a kid like that nearby??? This girl is young but she is destined to become a vet or something because she is just a natural with dogs. I'd trust her to take care of Sammy. |
I like the idea of having a neighbor kid help out. Good luck! |
thank you for all your kind words and trying to help me! i greatly appreciate it! the only problem is...we just recently moved- and i now live about 30 minutes from any one i know...and i feel weird asking a neighbor to put such commitment into my dog... i'm struggling with this...i think it might be best to rehome him so he can get the most attention, maybe with someone who stays home all day like a stay at home mom...but i just know no one can give him the love i give him, even if i don't see him until 5:30 at night. it's so hard to imagine him not around. he's truly made my life better. i just know i have to make this decision soon...i'll just grow more and more attached to him as the days go by. i feel awful. |
i also really don't have the money to get him a sitter or take him to a daycare 5 days a week... |
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Go ahead and ask your neighbors. It is ok. If they are home maye they would be happy to help :thumbup: Please try everything you can before deciding to rehome your little guy. Place an ad in the paper, looking for a puppy sitter, and check references. There has got to be a solution to help you and your Yorkie pup. Keep looking, and trying . I am very sorry you have to go through this. It has to be just heartbreaking. :aimeeyork |
Hi sweetie. I am so sorry you have to make such hard decision. I hate leaving Izzy at home for five hours but she understands that mommy has things she has to do (like make money to buy me toys :)) Izzy is trained to a pee pee pad and I also leave food out in the morning for a couple hours, come home for lunch, play with her & feed her, then put her food up until I get home in the evenings. I understand being a full time student because I am one and a full time employee. Put an ad in the local newspaper! I know you don't have alot of money but in the town I live in their are actually ppl who will take your dog for the whole day to different parks and such just because they love animals that much! Good luck sweetie & welcome to yt!:aimeeyork |
Well if you're unable to care for him, and pay someone to walk him or whatever you need,then re-home would be best. If you can't pay for his needs then he needs to go to someone who can. |
I feel so bad for you and Benny... I can't imagine being put in that sort of scenario. If you could find someone to go by a couple times a day and play wiht him, walk him and feed him it would be ok for the year. Maybe a responsible teenager in town, or a friend would be willing to help you. Like another person said you should try talking to your vet, maybe the local highschool about getting a student who really loves animals and is looking to get into a related profession. (students may also be able to use it as volunteer time) The only other option is to lessen your load at school maybe stretch out your last year into two?? I know that's probably not what you want to do, but if you really want to keep him it might be the only way. Otherwise, you may have to re-home him... sad, but true if you can't be there with him. You just don't want him to slip into such a deep depression that he can't get out of or you don't want him to get used of not having anyone around either. Tough decision, good luck & keep us posted. :( |
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Good luck. Some time in the future you will be in a better position to have a puppy. Until then be happy that you have done the best for this little guy. |
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I sent you a PM. |
They adjust and are perfectly happy in whatever LOVING situation they find themselves. |
How long would you be gone from him at one time? If you can get home and let him out in between classes, it would probably be okay! I would get a nice big cage rather than a crate, as you can put water connected to the cage so it won't spill and put food in there. He is too young to let him have the run of the house with no one there to supervise. It won't be forever, so I hope you can come to a good conclusion! Pat |
Christina-I hope you sign back on soon! We live in Spotswood, the next town over from Monroe and want to see if we can help you out. Please pm either me or MeganS. (she's my daughter) |
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Lucky for you Yorkies don't need tons of exercise.. just some attention and to be taken out to potty.. or you can try to potty pad train him. This is similar to the past owner of my teddy. Only she was working long long hours and he was being kept in his crate for 8+ hours everyday and only like 30mins outside if that. I bought him for 400 and now he has friends to play with but he only goes outside to pee during the hot hours at after 7 or 8 is when I bring him out for an hour or more because it's cooler. He also has tons of toys to play with to keep him company. If all else fails look up a puppysitter place and maybe he can go there a few times a week or even a couple times. Maybe you have a friend who can drop by on him whenever she's not in class once a day or every so many days to work with the petsitter on days he isn't there(at the sitter). If you decide not to keep him I'm sure there are tons here that would take him in. or even if there's a member that lives near you maybe you two can work something out. |
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belinday- i don't appreciate your comment. first of all, i am not a "kid." second of all, benny is EXTREMELY well taken care of and gets all the love and nuturing a puppy could ever need or want. you don't even know me and i don't appreciate you passing that kind of judgement when all i'm asking is for some suggestions from other yorkie lovers and caregivers. as for everyone else- i completely appreciate all of your responses, i'm actually surprised and overwhelmed so many people are willing to lend some advice! i respect each and every one of you for your true loving ways with yorkies...it's so amazing to see that! i'm trying my best to work something out- either way, putting my own feelings aside- i will make sure the best thing happens to benny, because he deserves only that. |
Do you have any friends you trust him enough with to let him stay with them. Maybe a YT member that lives near you might take him in. |
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