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07-03-2008, 07:41 PM | #16 |
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| I totally understand what you're going through. I suffered severe anxiety and guilt by leaving Bailey at home while I was at work. I was also concerned about the added responsibility. It was a feeling that I didn't realize I would feel until after I got her. It was so bad that I asked the breeder to take her back so I could figure it out. The breeder did and after a couple days, I missed Bailey so much that I brought her back home. The breeder totaly understood my situation and has helped others before under the same circumstances. Not sure if your breeder, a friend or someone at the vets office can help you out for a week to give you time to rethink it over before a permanant arrangement is made? That two-day break made all the difference for me. And now Bailey and I are bff's. Good luck!
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07-03-2008, 07:49 PM | #17 |
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| You are in our prayers. I know you will make the right decision. Your love for her will help you decide.
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07-04-2008, 05:14 AM | #18 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Ohio
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| For all of you that disagree with me or thought what I said was mean, sorry, but for me it's all about the puppy. Please go back and read her post again. The pup is in the x-pen all day, there are times when she's too tired to play with her or walk her. She doesn't have time to potty train. They go to obedience class once a week but don't practice what they learned. Come on people!! Doesn't the puppy deserve better. I'm sure she is a great person, I'm not questioning that. I'm also sure she loves her puppy, otherwise, she wouldn't be asking for help here. I just could never understand why ALL YOU PEOPLE that work full time have puppies that you keep penned up all day just so YOU have something to entertain yourself with when you get home. Seems a little selfish and unfair to the pets... |
07-04-2008, 05:50 AM | #19 | |
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07-04-2008, 06:02 AM | #20 |
Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: May 2007 Location: Pittsburgh, PA
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| I think this girl is making a VERY hard decision. Trying to do the right thing for her puppy. I dont think calling her selfish is very helpful. I think she realized that this wasnt fair to her puppy and is trying to rectify the situation. Whether it be putting the dog into a rescue, rehoming, or just changing things in the home situation. I think we should be here to help and support her in the decision that she decides to make. I understand that you are all about the Puppy but I think she is Too.. even if maybe a little late. I am not sure anywhere she said she didnt potty train or even train her dog. I love my GiGi and sometime I am too tired to play with her but she still loves me. I usually dont get involved in the negativity but I think she put herself out there, admitted her mistakes and asked us for help and support.
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07-04-2008, 07:28 AM | #21 | |
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All digression aside, I have discussed this with my breeder and she has offered to take him back. I'm still debating this every minute because I would prefer to choose the family myself if rehoming is what I decide. The adoption fee has nothing to do with wanting money for HIM, just that I would give the new owner all of his toys, crate, x-pen, food, treats, hygiene products, leashes, collar, etc etc etc. There are also foster programs I am looking into that can take the puppies until my situation changes and have more time to devote. A rescue program isn't something I'm interested in for my own reasons, but I'm glad most of you are supportive and I really really thank you for that. Thank you for respecting how hard this decision is and how much I do love my baby. I doubt I will come back to this thread because negativity from those who are offering it is only upsetting me further, but if you can help at all I appreciate the PMs. Happy 4th.
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07-04-2008, 08:13 AM | #22 | |
Ben's Mommy Donating Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: New York
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Well ALL OF US PEOPLE here just arent lucky enough to not have to work to survive I like you I guess! HELLO people have to work to live, if you didnt work then how could you afford to even take care of the puppy, (vet visits, toys, food, etc) That just dosent make sense. People that have full time jobs deserve to have a puppy like anyone else. I think you may need to re-think your logic.
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07-04-2008, 11:18 AM | #23 | |
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Having said that, my heart goes out to you, I see how much you love your baby, and I am praying there is something you can work out to keep him. He is a beautiful boy!! I know it's another cost, but could you maybe hire a pet sitter to come in once a day for playtime, walk ect? Probably wouldn't be too expensive... My pet sitter charges $15 a day and it's well worth it in my opinion... Because I have to work too!!!! Like most of us!!! Good luck to you, and I personally think your a great mom...
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07-04-2008, 11:24 AM | #24 |
I ♥ Joey & Ralphie! Donating Member | I just hate all these "rehoming" threads that turn one member against another. She asked for advice; people gave the best advice they had, and are allowed to use words that some people think are harsh, but harsh and rude are not the same thing. Then it becomes an attack on the "words" people have chosen to respond with, one person defending their position, and others blowing up the words out of proportion. To the OP, I'm sure the advice given to you were only intended with the best interest of the puppy in mind. This is an emotional issue, and people always have strong feelings on the subject of rehoming. Best of luck to you, in making this very difficult decision.
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07-04-2008, 11:50 AM | #25 | |
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07-04-2008, 12:09 PM | #26 |
Yorkie Yakker | I have a almost 5 month old female and would absolutely love to have a friend for her, but I believe it would get too expensive with 2 of them. I hope that you find the perfect person to take him. Be sure to screen people well as there are alot of mills and backyard breeders that would love to get their hands on him. |
07-04-2008, 12:12 PM | #27 |
Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: North Carolina
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| I don't think anyone should criticize you for trying to do what's best for your Yorkie. IMO, you are being very unselfish putting what's best for him over your love for him. A dog is a huge responsibility, one that you freely admit you didn't think about when you got him. I give you credit for realizing you may have made a mistake and trying to place him in a home with someone who has more time for him. From what you describe, it does seem like you have too much going on to give him the time and attention he needs. A dog is a fifteen year commitment if you are lucky and a substantial financial commitment, too. As these guys age, they can rack up some serious vet bills. If you don't feel you can make the necessary commitment to him, finding him a wonderful home with someone who can is a very brave decision. My Lady is a rescue who was basically neglected for the first four years of her life. She was also an impulse buy and the novelty wore off quickly. Her former owner was a nurse who worked 12 hour shifts and had no time for Lady. She was locked in a crate all day and penned in the kitchen all night. When her former owner moved, she left Lady behind. It would have been much kinder to have rehomed Lady than to make her live like that for so many years. Good luck with your decision. |
07-04-2008, 03:10 PM | #28 |
Our Blessings R Many Donating Member | I think you have a heart that is full of compassion for your yorkie and I wish so much that you lived close by so I and my husband could help you get through this difficult time. Is there not someone in your family or friends that could kinda give you a hand and help you by being like an adoptive part time family Please don't feel that love is ever measured, it is something that can't be measured and you certainly show the love in your heart for your yorkie. If you decide to rehome him you may be sorry later and then it will be too late. These precious ones give so much joy into each of ones day as you do to his, even though at this time you are being quite busy, things change and so that may happen soon. Maybe you might want to look into finding someone there that has a yorkie too and would want a play mate during the day for theirs and be more than happy to help with the training. The ole saying what goes around comes around and there is still many people that live by the good deeds of helping others out. Praying some one will help you out so that you can keep him. Best to you and sending a hug, you are a caring and wonderful young lady. Patti and Jack |
07-04-2008, 03:15 PM | #29 |
YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: New Jersey
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| wow!!!! i think some people shud just keep their negative comments to themselves. as for the op, im glad that u are actually coming forward and admitting that might not be giving your dog as much attention as possible. just because u work all day doesn't mean ur puppy isn't used to ur schedule already. i work full time myself and that doesn't mean that im being mean or selfish. i don't have my Abby for "toy". i think that's too harsh. some people actually have to work to make money. the fact that i work doesn't mean that i love my baby any less than if i wud be home all day. i also don't think its necessary to post here with curses and negative words. i'm guessing things could have been written in a different way but i dont think it's fair to put this girl against the corner. she's trying to do better for her baby and i think all the support given is great. honey, u just do wat u think is better for yourself and the baby. forget about what anybody else has to say. good luck with ur decision and if u decide to give him away and get him back later... then u do just that. good luck |
07-05-2008, 10:51 AM | #30 | |
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